 All right guys welcome back up next we have our unannounced speaker sock He's been involved for a couple years now, and actually before he comes on stage Anthony would like to have a word. So here you go Okay Next guy haven't promoted him at all nobody here or very few of you do you know who he is most you don't The and I'm gonna put pressure on him because I think he I think he can do it I think this is gonna be the most unexpected and surprised speech at the event He's gonna be right off the bat hitting home run and I think potentially one of the best speeches ever given at the event. I am very I have very high expectations Not to necessarily put that on him maybe but just because I know him at this point And I know his ideas really well from talking to him in person over the past year and a half and from reading What he has to say on various forms we post on His topics gonna be relationships and then a few other things branching off from that And that sounds so generic, but this is like so contrary To what you see elsewhere in in anything and in say general dating advice or even like hardcore PWA stuff It's totally Either not mentioned at all or it's complete opposite of what you see on the mainstream So sock short for Socrates is I think very has very contrary ideas to What we accept on a very broad scale in society today no matter where you go The ideas are essentially right by my judgment I think they are Outstanding and if you apply them to your life and the context he gives you it's it's me badass So that said welcome sock the stage. Thanks, man. I appreciate it coming Hi guys, I'm actually really pleased to be here particularly proud from a number of reasons You know my my personal path has been kind of one in which I've stumbled tried failed But it's one in which I was not satisfied with by maintaining the current patterns of behavior And what I did is I decided to find other men find friends and To kind of put myself back together to look at where I wanted my life to go and to basically self-educate And when I say self-educate, I mean steal. I took anything Everything transferred information from one realm and put it into another and that has been a evolving process Some stuff that I started when I was very young to to the current date and it's it's been very insightful for me And it's been successful. My name is sock short for Socrates It's one of many names and identities that I go by and identify with and that's really less important than who I am Who I am is quite literally as I stand here before you. I could be your father More likely I could be your older brother without a doubt I could be your friend, but the bottom line is and most importantly to me is the fact that I can be you in many many ways I've I'm not an expert in my field. I'm not a commercial operator I'm a ranked amateur. I've gotten good at what I do Particularly proud of that, but the the issue is that I tried I stumble I make mistakes and I evaluate those aspects and I apply Reasoning to what I do and some insight to what I've done and why and today What I'm going to try to convince you guys of is that it's going to be a contrarian point of view And for a lot of the men's men's organizations men's community is that there's some very very strong Positive aspects to interpersonal relationships with women. I'm going to use some really vulgar language I'm going to talk about commitment. I'm going to talk about monogamy All right, and I'm going to say them in positive aspects. All right, I will try to not use that so much I'll use other terms. You're probably more frank with but it's it's an aspect of the community I think fails in a number of ways So a large portion of my speech today is literally going to be about the positive aspects on being in Relationships with women and that means a committed one I'm going to be looking at several technical skills on relationship development Skills you're going to need in having relationships and primarily those are going to be filtering screening abilities your ability to create boundaries And then the the other interesting one is I'm going to talk about your brand identity your social Relationship brand. What are you offering to other women? What do you offer a offering to those relationships with people? You do have then I'm going to actually look on a very critical skill I think it's the essential and that is the aspect of critical confrontations the ability to actually have a Confrontation that has positive results. There's ways in which to do that. There's ways not to do that. Trust me I've made a lot of foul ones. Okay, and so there's a lot of this is from experience then I'm going to move on from that is that the aspect of Being able to have relationships at times You're going to need to know how to end them and then why to end them And so we're going to cover that and then for a little bonus that are really kind of out there I'm going to actually give a kind of a small brief talk and some very basic ideas on that very notion That's tap very taboo on getting your ex-girlfriend back Don't want to do it in every case There are some positive aspects to do it and some things you're going to want to take into account on Why and when to do certain aspects when you evaluate it? All right Getting back to the main purpose of the talk is is literally about the positive roles of Interpersonal relationships and intimate relationships with women particularly in committed relationships now a lot of you are going to be younger You can practice these skills without being in a relationship You can actually practice having relationships without being in the committed one you do it with your friends You do it with your family you do it with your co-workers your bosses Anybody you have a relationship with these these skills pertain their transferable skills And if ultimately you want to have a relationship you want to have a wife you want to have a better quality life Having these skills in your pocket is vastly better than trying to learn it on the job under fire Trust me you're going to make vastly different decisions different reactions And you're going to behave differently in the heat of a moment You don't want to be learning in that case because it's going to cost you dearly and it's going to be more than emotional It's going to be more than financial it can change your life and in many ways Behavioral patterns such as these affects greater society on a whole how we go through life interacting with people Reverberates through communities a reverberates through societies how we regard women how we regard ourselves in culture as Men as men and women those relationships spawn off and unfortunately when I bring up the term spawning We can also talk about children You know, what are your relationships with children? What type of man were you for for the mother of the child? What type of father were you to that child and these are relationships that will then get projected so a lot of times I'm going to be kind of flipping. I'm going to be derogatory in cases, but it does not mean I'm not being serious The other aspect is this is a serious aspect, but this should also be fun It's probably one of the most important investments. You're going to make in your life. All right One of the most important aspects of being in a relationship is that you have to be in one to really understand them Knowing can tell you what it's going to be like. You can't kind of project accurately What being in a relationship is truly like and tell you're in it and on the community side to be very much like a keyboard Jockiest telling you what's you going to do when he approaches a girl? What lines he's going to use and how it's going to be scripted out. That's great for practice It's good to have that idea and fall back It's good to have a plan, but I'm telling you the shit's going to hit the fan as soon as you get out there You're going to make decisions situations are going to change Context they're going to change anxieties are going to perform and Context is in ways in which you're not going to be able to fathom or imagine are going to come up And you're going to have to make decisions and react to certain aspects Judgment calls so forth that you're not going to be able to anticipate and you're going to make errors and The issue is you're going to want to have some practice in doing is maintaining these the better skill proper skills You have the better you're going to be able to perform and they're fairly basic in many aspects The other aspect to being in relationships. I think is one of the biggest failures of the men's community We focused in on getting the girl, but not what to do once you get her other than fucking her And I think that there's a terrible terrible letdown because I don't think that's what most people want And it's why with the men's population tip of good community groups tend to actually lose its members Because one of the aspect is I don't think guys go out with the intent of actually going out and getting a girlfriend They end up with one worse yet They end up with a wife, you know and then you find out not only do they end up with a wife But they end up with a child mortgage payments everything else and that doesn't work and then you have catastrophic loss You have you know people are getting hurt another aspect on Interpersonal relationships is it's going to be probably the second most important investment you make in your life The first is what you're doing right now. You're investing in yourself You're investing in your education You're investing in your life and developing those skills getting exposed to different ideas Making connections with other people other members of the community. These are very very Essential elements to your development and these things are you you control Relationships you can also control and there are gonna be skills in which you're gonna be able to filter out people Look for certain aspects, but you ultimately you need to treat it like an investment because ultimately it is your time Resources energy their commodities how you spend them Connotates value and I hate to have you sit down and not value yourself to the point that you just take what's handed to you Take what's what you're able to get? I think we should be able to look for certain things enjoy our lives enjoy Is other people's company and actually look to get the best that we can for our value and our work And I think too many times men are sold short by not only themselves Culture and society are teaching you to sell yourself short and I'll cover a little bit that later on