 السم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم вہد'llہ سبحانہ و حواتیعالات کے نام میں جو ہوں کا سلطانہ جاتا ہے کہ یہ سبہلہ axle پر حکم سے حقیت کے ساتھ آج ہی ہے ہمہارے انہوں کے لئے جانتے ہیں کہ اللہ سبحانہ و حواتیعالات کی عقبة دیکھیں ہم نے کچھ کھونے دورنا تعلق ہوں جانتی ہے پر اللہ سبحانہ و حواتیعالات کے بارت이트 ہمارے ہمہارے ہی ہمارے ہی چاہتے ہیں جانتے ہیں جانتے ہیں جانتے ہیں جانتے ہیں ہی مجھر مسحولہ وجه ہوتی ہے سبحانہaineبہ و تعالی ہمارے بات ہے سرب کارٹی gele کرس کہتے ہیں کہ ہمah flowers greatest ب résultوس کے والدہ ہیں لہذا پائے ہمی candid fact expressed باکٹنا Write انہ � آپ کو سنوچ Guatemala anymore اگل nadeano prime سب했습니다 that we are sitting in the house of Allah سبحانہ RAW繉الہ with this见 may we appreciate their effort by sending blessings upon them an may we be from among those who fulfill the right of this dean to learn it preserve it take it seriously put it into practice and convey it to others so that the maker ساکتی باتتی flowers و ہے تو سوہلی ، جو کنگا صرف کو ساکتے ہیں۔ اللہ سبحانہ و تعالی آبین ، ہمارے مضیل ہرصلہ مجھے ، ہمین ، ایسا بیلوٹ ، براثیر اور بیلوٹی ساری ، سرے ہی کلکتا ہے ، پر چلی پیدوں میں کہتا ہے ، سوچنے کا فرمضان مرات کے لے ، ہمارے سوچنے کا سافنے کیا ہے ، اس کا سرحی خیلات کے خوشی کی اندزالت میں کارمز کرنے کے لئے سوچنے کے دشرہ حالت ہوجائی دے لطفہ ہم نے انگیز اوڈ میں کسی ساتھ کیا انکہ آپ اللہ سبحانہ وتعالی کیا کہ اگر ہم آپ کے اوڈ کا معلوم کریں تو اسی راہ کردے ساتھ انگیز کیا جانتا ہے کہ اسی راہ کیا آپ سے کامپلسری ہوتا ہے۔ کے جو اسی راہ کے اللہ سبحانہ وتعالی کے بات ہوتا ہے۔ جو کلی پاہنے کے جو پندیے کے تعالیات دے لاتھا ہے اُن کو بہت کرنا چاہتے تھے۔ نراتار ہم نیسا کو صورت رہنا ہوں انہوں کے درمی نامہ کیا کہا۔ اللہ سبحانہ یہاںarentی عالہ بہت بہت many گی probation میں فرمہ کیا پہلی انفتار ہوتا ہے سووچکتے گا ایک جانا ہر بسیارہ کیا لگتے ہیں، میں معاہ انفتار کرا پر کسی you سے سبرا کیا ہے لیکن انہوں کا سیوڈ اس لے جانتا ہے ہے اس نے سیوڈ بھی بہت سیوڈ سیوڈ نبی ، وَلَا تَقْتُلُواأنْفُصَکُمْ اِنَّ اللہَ كَانَ بِکُمْ رَحِيمًا ، کمت سور ساید اللہ سے دونتِ اوکلائی ہے۔ وَلَا تَقْتُلُواأنْفُصَکُمْ دُوْناتْ کل آپ کو رہن்ے کیا گا لہئے وہ اللہ اللہ کی خوانے والی ادنہ ہے۔ اسی لے کے لئے وجہ سے وہ ایکا جو کچھ بھی جو بھی کیوں میں ، وہ خواہِ وی جانے کے لئے۔ اللہ الصراحیہ سلام ہتے ہیں۔ قرآن ہمہارے ت Jul محطقتیات ہمارے رہنا ہے۔ لہذا محطقتیات ہمارے ت Fußball محطقتیات ہمارے رہنا ہے اللہ کا دباری دوسکنٹنٹ ہمارے گھونے ہیں۔ واقعہ ہمارے بہت ہمارے گھونے ہیں لہذا محطقتیات ہمارے گھونے ہیں۔ کیونکہ انہوں کو حپورت گھونے چاہتے ہیں۔ ہمارے ارد اجات ان کا مو�ک کے درعانے و ایٹمی کے ایک روز کے تقرار ہیں۔ ہنے کیا لیسٹ حسان سے ہمارے گا ہوا جانو اسے انٹوکسکنس کیا ساتھ جو اینکھو جو ہمارے گا جاننے کے درستے ہمارے گا ہی جو ایسی بڑی جو ایسی بہا جاننے کے اقاف کردوک کرتا ہے جو ایسی بیارے گا اور آپ نے رب حضیت و الجلال میں وضع کیا کیا مجھے جو سلمہ جھو آپ کو حق ہے۔ جو ان کے پیشی دائی سکتا ہے ہی جو اللہ سے ڈس بلیوہ کہو اوکا سہنش جو ع Movie ب非 happiness option though دو ہی با باんです یہ قال lot再 ند مرسوس qualitiesisten بے سلن آپ وپسبے бы ک расскشا لی موکر جس طرحوا برAK انج或ئی ثی Harran back طورر being in پین بھ والا سQueen سوہالہ صل وی want you to know و entscheiden لے س Whis رو建 مین اللہ معomermon عب � ان شب مس理iggers  calling انہوں بر کی تظaر گو know واتر جو نمی آی مالہ جو ایمان some a رجون the difference is you have help in اللہ dangerous ا They don't have  اللہ No More One is your Believe Gi تیانی سووان بہت بڑا بھیٹا تک جانتا ہے تک آپ کو اللہ کے اور پریخلی میں باہر اور کسی ذات کے بادر آئی لئے ہیں جو ایک بادر ہیں ایک بادر ہیں جو اللہ کے بادر ہیں اور کبچی دلتے ہیں کہ جبumanہوں واتعالہ کے لئے جمہتے ہیں وی языک سوچ جانتا ہے اور كلنے ہم جانتے ہیں اور ہموں کو ایک ب UH مط承ے جو ہماری جب وجہ مرسل سے ہماری کرتا ہے اور ہماری ہی باتہ ہے۔ ہماری مرسل سے ہی ص طرح ہے۔ ہاں آنے کی نظر کتی ہے۔ ہماری بات یہاں جو ہےکل میں یہ ہی بات ہے۔ اگر جب معاہل میں لیکنیιοیں کور کسئے گا Tae如یکی فاربارنی ہے تو یہ بات ہے اور ہماری ہماری کو حقیبت ہے۔ بہتوں، آپ ملک ہماری کرتا ہے۔ آپ ایک دونایا کی ابھی بہتوں کے ساتھ مجھے لگی ہے۔ اور آپ تعیب ہوں کہ میں معلومت ہوں کا جو اللہوں اکبر اور یہ اللہی کی ماہسی تھا تو اللہ کہا ہم ہم کودی مجھے نمی مجھے ہے اور masih ہمی اتنے اکنے میں حکم ہم order ہر ہی ہم کے جانیا کے ساتھ میں الزوان will مدئے ہماریصلتا ہوں کہ ام اور سبھلیکیٹنconfidence ہمی مجھے ہی کرے ہیں جب دعائیوں ہمیadas Avengers کی جننی مجھے ہماریصلتا ہatter جب ڈو آئےہ آج another own own own own own own own اہن کا جو ایک اٹنےamaس انگی دور کرو گا own کیا جانتی ہے کہ کو اللہ کو بھی جانتی ہے ۔ کہ اگر آپ کو اللہ کو بھی جانتی ہے لیکن آپ یہاں ہوں کہ آپ یہاں بات کہا ات کرتے ہیں لیکن آپ ایک رو میں سقوصہ آن سکتے ہیں جائی دہ سکی will آپ کیا آپ کو کیا چاہتے ہیں ، یا اللہ اللہ will کیا آپ کیا چاہتے ہیں کسی بہتان جو ہمین نخوب فلی سے رکھے ہیں اور جب آپ کو یہاں بہت بات سکتے ہیں جو آپ کے آپ کو جو بہت سے کسی چیزوں کے لئے اللہ حراری کرنا تبدیلے کیا ہے۔ لیکن اگر آپ کو آپ کو کے لئے کیا کوئی چیزوں کیا ہے کیونکہ آپ ائرسال کے لئے جانتے ہیں جو کبی ہوتا ہے۔ کوئی اللہ کے دورتے ہیں تو کسی چیزوں کے لئے مالے سے اگر آپ یہ ہے۔ آپ کیا سال کسی چیز میں مالے سے کم سے پہلے ہے؟ کسی چیز میں ایک جو لکھی ہے؟ کہا کہا کہ بوننس سبھی 100 عیسی اللہ بہت سے ایک بہت مال ہے۔ فرقہ علیہ اللہ وی حال تک عذر کرنے کے لئے کیا؟ لیکن پھر اپنے اپنے معاویات another نظر کبھی destination کے لئے یہ ساتھ ، اگر آپ جو کبھی تو میں یہ الحلہ میں گمش کرتا ہے کہ یہ جو لگتے ہیں کہ یہ عبقہ کے لئے جو برسیتی ہے جو امام سلاتل وطر میں اپنے مجھے ہوتی ہے۔ وَال آخِرَ تُو خیرُون وَأَبَقَا اللہ سیسے کہ آپ جسی یہ کمامایوں میں بناتا ہے کہ اس لہذا ہے کہ آپ یہ مطلب کیا جانا ہوتا ہے۔ ناقف دوسرہ جانتے ہیں کہ یہ سوات پر میرے والا ہے اور یہ دوسرہ ہے۔ جانتے ہیں کہ آپ یہ بہت بہت بہت بہت بہت بہت بہت بہت بہت بہت بہت جانتے ہیں۔ جس کووش کیا著ہ چاہتی ہے لہذا آپ بہت یہی دور ہے جو آپ جو آپ کو سب نہیں کیا ہوتا کنیتا ہے کہ آپ دین کیا آپ بھی کسی پر بچوں کو بھی سلی سے کی민ٹ کرتی ہے جو آپ اللہ سمجھے اللہ کی خیالا ہوتا ہے اور ہمدول اللہ裡面 ہی باتی ہے آپ پیم and خجار باری کے لئے دوریں جیانتی ہے اس لیکن آپ ساری کم آرتی ہے اور اوک کہا ہوتا ہے والله لے ہیں but not at the expense of the here after ہمارے پر حرام کی نہیں ہے. کیا جقشتا ہر جب ہمارے پر حرام کیا ہے یہ بات میں مرے ہمہیں سوسائیڈل کے گارے گا۔ میں بہت آج سنہ ، ب حقید اس بہار کی حقیدہ ، کیا کہ ہم جیسے ایک دیکھنے کی حابت ہے؟ لہذا اللہ سبحانہ وطالہ الشہ سے ڈھو بہت ہے جس کا حóفت سے کیا رہے ہیں ، کہاں اللہ کے کیا کیا کیا ہے ، کیا آپ کے نظر کرے دیتے ہیں ، اللہ کی حقید ، کوئی دیتے ہیں ، یہ ایک بہت کچی دنیا ہوں جانیا ہے ایسا جو دنیا پر مجھےeau دنیا ہم پر ہم جو اگر کچی پر فکر کرنے کے لئے ڈاوش ہے۔ سرے دنہاتی ، سرے دنہاتی ، کامتا رہے ہیں تاقیم ہوتا ہے ، یہ سبھا ہے کہ ہمارے کو سارے ہوگا ہے۔ بہتر امام اللہ کے قرارے کے لئے عقیت کو دنہاتی ہے ، اللہ کنی سرے دنہاتی نہیں ہوتا ہے۔ سبحان اللہ ، آپ کو ایساا تردنے کیا چاہتے ہیں ، اللہ ساق تردنے کیا چاہتے ہیں۔ از جانا رہا ہے کہ یہ سورتون نیسا ہے۔ کنے کو اِسا لیے کیا اسی مذہب ہے؟ some come up in the same Surah. We have a difficulty all of us here are brothers and sisters those who are outside who are not even Muslim our brothers and sisters in humanity. We tend to forget this at times. We tend to think they are our enemies. No they are not. They are our brothers and sisters in humanity. Many of us have family members who are not Muslim. They are still your family members. Many of us have parents who are not Muslim. They are still your حدانے کے خاتحان پرانا you ہم کہتے ہیں کہ ارتفعہ کے لئے حیاتہ کے لئے اندار کرو ہے کے لئے ہمے اطاق کے اللہ سے اگر درسیط جو اگر جانتا ہے لہذا اللہ سبحانہ واتالہ ڈرست ہے جو دیخلی رہا ہے۔ اگر اس بارا どئی مفت اللہ سورہ سے بیٹی نور expensive بارے تغیب اور بہنCare تھا۔ بارا لے کے جو سوچ ہیں اور بہنے لوگوں کے ہمارے پر ایسا ہمارے پر ایسا ہمارے پر کسی جانتے ہیں کہ سلام علییکم کو بھی جانتے ہیں۔ انہوں نے اپنے حارت کو دوٹنے کیا ہے؟ کیوں کہ یہ جو لوگوں کو بھی گا؟ وہ نہیں مسلم ہے۔ اللہ کہا ہے۔ اویو ہو بلید when you go out in the cause of the almighty on earth and you are traveling then you must authenticate تھارلی and don't ever say to someone who greets you with سلام that you're not a مؤمن you're not a مؤمن brothers and sisters don't we have that disease today small thing a person never mind سلام they are reading the شہادہ we are taught that if there is one sign what is the sign they are saying السلام علیکم to you there is nothing to negate it openly you cannot say this person is not a Muslim they've greeted you with سلام you take it at that face value may Allah سبحانہ وتعالہ grant us an understanding the disease we face today people are saying the شہادہ لا الہ اللہ محمد الرسول اللہ سلالہ الرسلم we say this one is a kafir this one is a فاسق this one is a فاجر this one is a مشریق this one is a ملحید and all of the people are going to جہنم but then why did Allah make جنہ who's going to be there just you it is something to think about you hear these people say those ones are going to the fire those ones are saying these ones are going to the fire a third party says both of you are going to go to the fire and a fourth one says no no no all of you are going to go to the fire well سبحانہ اللہ مئے اللہ سبحانہ وتعالہ forgive us who's going to be in جنہ we will be surprised we will be surprised when we enter جنہ brothers and sisters work towards جنہ work towards love it's a religion of love and goodness سورة النساء speaks about the family unit and how important it is to work with one another when we have problems Allah says in سورت النساء وصلح خیر no matter what to work your matters out and solve your problem is way better for you than to break a relationship that's in سورت النساء many of us are quick to break a relationship even it's without if it's with our own spouses with our family members with our community members with people in the same مسجد i recall a brother telling me i no longer drive in this direction i go to a مسجد that's two kilometers away i say why he says there's one uncle there that i have a problem with i said brother in the other مسجد soon you'll have a problem with two uncles because it's two miles away سبحانہ اللہ that's not how we operate greet each other جنوان لی you have a problem make an effort to resolve with سورت النساء says there is no goodness in the private meetings that we have in order to strive to achieve something unless it is encouraging something charitable you know it's not easy to give many of us have the more we get the less we give can i prove it to you can i prove it to you سبحانہ اللہ those who earn a thousand rands when they give they give 100 rands 20 rands 50 rands work out the percentage and those who have 100 million how much do they give it's become a small figure percentage wise why their excuses my money is tied up well we don't want to tie be tied up in our graves one day and in the here after you see all the palaces of everyone what's going on here well your palaces are all tied up isn't it سبحانہ اللہ you need to do something about it my brothers and sisters you cannot keep on thinking that i'm going to amass and amass you're going to go to Allah the winners are those who have spent in the cause that's why the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says those who have the greatest reward for their charities are those who give while they are fearing that they might lose out themselves or get into poverty but they have hope that Allah will never do that for them that's the best charity so learn to give this is a month of ramadan isn't it a month of charity wallahi my brothers and sisters don't hesitate don't just give out the zaka you know when we have salah we have the farad and on top of that we have sunnah and nafil when we have charities we have the zaka and on top of that we have sadakat and that which is voluntary we need to give out more more than what just Allah has asked us for i can't just work out two and a half percent of my savings etc and say like this is farad that's it and i'm i'm not going to give more we have to give more because when you give more you are now proving that you are the one who has a feeling for others the minute you have this compassion towards others you're a true mu'min do you know why because continue to assist worship for as long as that worshipper continues to assist another comprar divorce Parte sister get the help of Allah you have a problem quickest way of solving the problem go and help others in a bigger problem you realize how small your matter is سواصائدلوںہ دننا نے بہت سامنی نتاری ، آپ کو آپ جمعہ کرتے ہیں کے لیکن کہ میں ہم سواصائدلہ couldn'tکس کی ourselvesoshکلیوں کی حق нравится Zhi تھی بہت بہت کل لئے اور ہم ہم ہم کے ہی پر ایک کبھی اور سبحان اللہ ہم اس پر ایک کبھی پر ایک کبھی ایک کبھی۔ Today we took رہنا رہنا رہنا رہنا رہنا رہنا رہنا رہنا بہت کبھی جنگی کے محلچ کے ساتھ جانتے ہیں ، تو اپنے بہت سے لگی جائے اور اپنے دوعا کے لئے اپنے بہت سے بہت مخصورت ہے۔ اپنے بہت سے بہت بہت سے جانتے ہیں ، لیکن اپنے بہت پر کھوڈ اور کھوڈنگ اور خوانیت ہے۔ لیکن ہم ایسا تکک کبھی کی طرف امریکت ہے۔ اللہ سبحانہ و تعالی کے لئے مھنکتا ہے کہ اللہ کہتے ہیں کہ اپنے بھی دینا ہے جب جانتے ہیں ، کیا ہے؟ کیا ہے ان آپ کو مجھے ہوتا ہے؟ جب ملیانے سے دیکھا ہے ، ن attic مضردہ maximum ، ودن ہے کچھ ملیانے کے لئے اِس کانے کے پاس کرنا چاہتے ہیں۔ شاہiden ساتھ عنہ کے لئے جانتی ہے ، جانتا ہے کہ سنہوں کو تعرض کردے ہیں ، جو خداہ و تو شاہிت نہیں ہے۔ اگر کذب X آنے کے لئے خداہ تشانم ہی کانے کے لئے فانہ ملیانے کے برارے ہیں کرنے والے ہواقی سے کون ہواقی سے کے لئے فانہ ملیانے کے لئے ملیانے کے لئے خداہ And and then معروف يعbab means goodness some form of goodness that we are doing being are encouraging something really good amongst each other so we have a meeting to encourage goodness not for myself a not for my self in either each other remember you want to do good a lot of the times another person has to be involved because you're going to be doing good to someone by doing good to someone your actually doing good to yourself if I want to earn جنہ تل فردوس دی are two primary ways of achieving it and many other ways but two primary ways what are they ڈاقو اللہ و حسن الخلقی I develop my relation with اللہ and I develop my relationship with the rest of the creatures of the same اللہ. One is known as consciousness of اللہ the other one is known as the height of goodness in character and conduct which would include include being charitable being kind being respectful uttering words that are beautiful that's how I get جنہ in this month of ramadan I want every one of us to make a promise starting with myself all the vulgar hurtful and abusive words we utter we will cut them we promise allah that is that a good enough promise are we promising allah that is not لوڈ enough I think some of them are still thinking hey all those f's and b's that I utter and that's a reality we pepper our speech with dirty words and we are مؤمنین and it's the month of ramadan and we cannot promise allah to cut it out you will achieve so much of respect as a human being when you speak respectfully that's all Allah promises that to you you'd cut it out so much so the hadith actually warns us about something that a lot of us are guilty of including myself and that is slang to stay away from slang slang speak proper language no matter what language you speak but speak a proper language you know I thought about it very hard when I learnt this hadith at the end of riyadu صالحین and I thought about it I said how come the prophet ﷺ is speaking about slang to avoid slang and I came to a conclusion some years later that those who speak with good words they are respected so islam is telling you when you use kind good respectful words automatically you're going to lead a life where everyone looks at you with respect they're not going to talk to you with cheap language they know this person respects himself so we must respect him too the sister respects herself we must respect her too but when your language is cheap what happens you drop yourself down the value of your own person becomes lower because cheap language so then I thank Allah and I still thank Allah and I've always thanked Allah and I've always said oh Allah strengthen us to use beautiful language when we speak so that people can respect us and we respect them as well so that is a point that I would like everyone to promise we become more conscious of what we take out of our mouths our wives our husbands they deserve the most beautiful language our parents no matter how much you disagree with them even your in-laws deserve kind speech can you believe it سبحان اللہ میں اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ فرقیبا سا I was just checking if you guys were awake you know after a long ڈراویح ما شاہ اللہ even your in-laws deserve kind speech والله ہی and it will solve a lot of matters let's learn to respect one another trust one another now we get to the crux of سورة نیسا I've spoken about it in this masjid many times سبحان اللہ اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ کمنسز the سورة with a warning for all of us to say fear Allah be conscious of Allah when Allah says fear Allah he doesn't want you to become scared that's not the meaning of the term fear what he means is become conscious of the fact that there is heaven and hell and work in a direction that you protect yourself from hell fire that's the true meaning of ڈاقوہ انتج علا بین اک و بین عذاب اللہ ہی وقایہ to create between you and the punishment of the almighty a barrier so in short we say fear Allah but it's actually fear the punishment of Allah because Allah is the most beloved we should be loving Allah we should be close to Allah we should have hope in Allah all the names he uses when we read the Quran الرحمن الرحیم الرہوف الرحیم اٹسٹر اٹسٹر all the time we hear most gracious most merciful most forgiving beneficent اٹسٹر اٹسٹر these are the lovely names of Allah so i love Allah and i want my children my family members the umma to love Allah so i'm not scared but i am concerned because i fear the punishment of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ there is a subtle difference there may Allah protect us from his wrath his anger and punishment so Allah says at the beginning of the surah and this verse is repeated when people are getting married he will hear what comes after that can we say a lot of you know it many of you have forgotten the day you were married سبحان اللہ forgotten there was a verse read oh people be conscious of your rub who created you from a single soul a single soul and from it its partner and from the two of them caused the multitude of male and female to spread across the entire globe and earth so fear he اللہ whose name you use to swear an oath and be conscious of your family members your relatives those whom you are connected to through the wombs because Allah is the one who chose those wombs i didn't choose the womb that i was going to be in Allah chose him so Allah warns us that verse is asking us to respect women 1438 39 years back the hijra happened these verses revealed at a time when people used to abuse their women i'd like to think that today we are getting back to a new type of abuse may Allah make us conscious of the fact that we have rights to fulfill people ask well who is higher isn't a man supposed to be higher than a woman it's a question a lot of people ask you haven't understood you haven't understood we are equal in terms of closeness to the almighty as human being we are equal in terms of spirituality Allah has physically created us different so we honor that difference of the physical nature by taking into consideration and understanding the values that Allah has asked us to instill within us regarding the opposite sex both ways so a man has a role to play a woman has a role to play certain things are overlapping certain things one cannot do the other one can and vice versa such as baring a child and so on so many things i don't even need to mention them you would know but we cannot say she's lower how can you say she's lower in what way to Allah she might be higher how many of us have heard of ummahat المؤمنین عائش رضی الله عنها i ask you who is higher you or her she's a woman سبحان اللہ way beyond so it's your relationship with the almighty that makes you higher than the other don't ever think that one is lower than the other in terms of their access to the almighty and their closeness the closeness they could achieve perhaps they may be even closer than you and i may Allah make it easy for us but indeed men are supposed to look after their family members they're supposed to look after their women they're supposed to take care of a lot of what is required within the family it's something Allah placed on your shoulders may Allah make it easy for us that was a loud amen mashallah may Allah make really make it easy for us then mashallah mashallah so my brothers and sisters the surah to nisa commences in this way it continues where Allah says don't cheat your women don't cheat your women in what way so Allah tells you you know when someone passes away there's wealth the wealth needs to be distributed in a specific way don't cheat them don't undervalue the buildings and don't hide the estate they might be vulnerable at times because of orphans because of them being orphaned or whatever other reason they may not be directly involved in that business but you need to know fulfill that right don't cheat them i'd rather give them something that they are happy with that they know is correct than to cheat them and face the wrath of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ that's why Allah says those who have cheated in inheritance and they have short changed their women Allah says it's very severe Allah says that person will be entering hellfire for a long long time you know خالیدن فیہہ actually means forever but the مفصیرین say that it it's either because you have turned away from Allah completely by oppressing them or by cheating in inheritance or it's it means you will be there for a very long time may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ not make that happen to us my brothers and sisters everyone loves wealth everyone loves nice things but i repeat not at the expense of your link with your maker you will never enjoy look at those who have won and i actually went in to do a study you can actually google it it's quite easy those who've won lotteries of millions 90% of them suicidal go and read i promise you not a joke 90% of them suicidal many of them did commit that suicide read about it but they won 90 million 100 million 500 million 20 million 2 million 5 million figures that if we were to hear them we would just think they are zimbabwean dollars my brothers and sisters may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ grant us the ability to respect one another and Allah says clearly in the quran you will fulfill each other's rights like i said mention is made of the values of the family unit and Allah says when you have a problem don't seek divorce no your first step is to solve the problem and to try again and again and if really there is nothing that will be done about it then you can consider divorce as a blessing and when divorce happens Allah says don't become ugly don't start your mud slinging imagine all these verses are in suratun nisa وائیت فرق يغن اللہ كل من ساعت ای اللہ says ultimately at the end when you've tried to solve your matters more than once and you haven't managed at the end if you were then to divorce Allah will bless both parties with goodness for as long as they're both good someone asks you you you know what i want to marry your ex-wife how was she what the Sahaba رضی اللہ عنوم were asked that question in fact the Sahaba رضی اللہ عنوم used to go and said you know what i was married to her we were two different people but i think she'll get along with you try saying that to someone here today i don't know may Allah forgive us شایاتین are tied up they might break the shackles and decide to return no that won't happen ان شاء اللہ that won't happen may Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ protect us but i'm showing you how they respected each other they were married اللہ says how could you talk bad about each other when you undressed in front of each other which means they knew everything about you it's your duty amana trust to look after that you can say you know what we didn't get along good person we didn't get along you really have something to say look i'd be a bit careful but anyway سبحان اللہ may Allah make it easy for us may Allah make it easy if there was something really nasty like drugs like something really bad it's your duty to respectfully say look we had this problem but i hope that it is resolved and inshallah if it's working with you let it happen because you're not allowed to lie either but we are talking about unnecessary mudslinging people come in and throw as much as they want and another very big disaster Allah makes mention about this as well when you are separating اللہ will provide for you on condition that you are good and Allah says if you want to solve the problem both parties want to resolve a matter it will be resolved we have a disease today small thing happens divorce i want out make an effort one year two year what one year are you mad one week is more than enough سبحان اللہ we're becoming so fragile that we don't even want to make an effort regarding our relationships that's why the world is in chaos because when the family unit is chaotic the children they are doubting their own identity i met a child saying i don't know if i'm male or female i said how come he says you know i really don't understand we got to the bottom of it the mother and father fighting like cats and dogs in front of the children and everything was happening vulgar immoral abusive x rated all in front of the kids the child is it's they too young to know all about this your your duty is to protect that child why did you bring the child into this may Allah forgive us why did you get married if you don't have time for your spouse my friends where my friends football what football bring the ball home سبحان اللہ سبحان اللہ سبحان اللہ قرant us goodness might score a few goals my brothers and sisters it's a fact happiness in the home is something we should openly discuss because we are facing a problem a challenge we should not be ashamed of addressing this matter so the winners the champions from amongst us the prophet سلام says خیرکم خیرکم لئے اہلی ہی و انا خیرکم لئے اہلی the best from amongst you are those who are best to their wives and i'm the best from amongst you to mine that's what he says when i said this حدیث to some young people who were married you know what point they picked up people pick up what they want what did i say the best from amongst you are those who are best to their wives they say i'm waiting for the s at the end then we'll see what happens may Allah forgive us you can't even manage one and you're busy thinking of the s plural today when i was coming through my friends were telling me what are you going to talk about i said while we're reading surah to nisa i've been given 29 minutes and 60 seconds in other words 30 minutes but subhanallah they said why don't you talk about polygamy why don't you talk about polygamy my brothers and sisters sought your life out you know it's like talking about building a huge building but you don't have five dollars in your pocket first get the five dollars subhanallah first understand there are so many things it's a topic that really it is there in the شریع we know how it is discussed in the quran nothing's going to ever change from the quranic teaching it's not from me or from you it's there no one can deny what is there but how can you decide to promote things in a way that the marriages or the houses will be destroyed and children will be lost because people don't know that we need to work on something we have to start off with i can't open five branches when i haven't yet opened one properly subhanallah i can't have my business expand when the first one is running on a loss i hope you've understood what i've said may Allah help us concentrate on our families remember the winner is not he or she who the whole world looks at and says wow what a lovely person but the one whom your spouse looks at and appreciates and in order to get that appreciation you are going to have to work very very hard you are going to have to work very very hard so suratun nisa you and i know it's very long you know when you sit and open the chapter of women you'll read it you'll read it takes more than 30 minutes so my time is clocked my brothers and sisters may Allah bless you all i really hope and pray that the dose we have had today really it will help us to become better people more conscious of how we treat our women and insha Allah more conscious the women become of how to treat the men too