 Hi, I'm Chris and in case you didn't notice I'm a little on the hefty side. So I wanted to make a video discussing Test Holiday being on the cover of Cosmopolitan and in this video we're going to be discussing amazing topics such as fat shaming, body positivity, mental health and all sorts of good stuff so stay tuned. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about helping you improve your mental and emotional well-being so if you're into that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos so how does being obese tie in with mental health like do I even need to ask that like it's obvious okay um I've made plenty of videos about this in the past and I will link some of them up in the info card make sure you go check them out so there's a lot of debate going on around Test Holiday being on the cover of Cosmopolitan so uh I I've talked about this in other videos I've talked about body positivity so if you want to go check out the full video that I made about it but like uh a lot of this stuff like I I'm a person of logic and a lot of self-awareness too and in no universe or reality am I ever going to tell you that with my weight that I am in prime physical condition like that's just not the truth that's not the truth at all um I have lost about 50 pounds in the last year or so and I'm continuing on that journey especially now that I got laid off I've been getting to the gym as much as possible I've been really trying to watch what I eat trying to not go to certain places I'm also vegetarian I might make a video about that at some time like I'm I'm actively working on this so it's difficult the debate is difficult it's a it's a hard one to look at okay because there's body body positivity there's fact shaming and you know a good point that I saw you know some people bring up is you know one of the issues that we had was you know like putting these beauty standards on women or even men like guys too like oh this is what you need to look like to be you know somebody at you know who is attractive right and like you know especially when it came to traditional modeling these were these stick thin women and you know a lot of them struggle with eating disorders and things like that and they weren't eating healthy so they were not physically healthy and the beauty standards kind of screw things up but the the argument is is with you know saying it's okay to be this size is that promoting an unhealthy lifestyle when we have an epidemic you know in the united states as well as other countries where people are overweight and obese like there's this balance right so so much of this comes down to loving yourself and being okay with yourself like me personally it's taken so so so long to love myself like I spent years years of my life over 20 years of my life just sitting there just think about how it's not fair that other people who eat far worse than I do who exercise far less than I do have these amazing bodies right and this would make me go back and forth in these you know different phases of screw everything I'm just gonna eat whatever I want because whatever like I just don't care but it was also bumming me out you know and it was affecting my physical health and like the thing is I have to take responsibility for me and my own actions right I don't I don't need people to you know accept me just the way I am like I need to work on accepting myself you know I am the my actions my decisions are the result of this body you know what I'm saying so it has to come from the inside of whether or not I want to change that I have a son he's nine years old nine and a half gotta be 10 I want to be around for him I need to be around for him but you know with weight issues come heart issues and heart disease and things like that I need to make sure that I'm around for this kid and that's kind of one of my main motivations for this but something that test holiday talks about is her mental health and how it's affected her weight it's affected her efforts to lose weight and things like that and here's here's actually a clip of her talking about it then we'll come back and discuss it while focus lies on her exterior appearance holiday opens up about an internal battle telling Cosmo UK about her struggle with mental health now that I'm on the other side and feeling better about my mental health I'm able to actually say okay I want to like work out more do this like you know it's you have to take care of of your mental state before you can worry about anything else bingo so this is something that a lot of people don't understand like when Nicole Arbor made her fat shaming video like she does everything else like shaming people in any aspect whether it's mental health or whether it's uh their physique or anything like that it's been proven time and time and time again through various studies that this is not effective okay and the the opposite side of this argument as they try to find these like fringe examples are well it worked for this person like no like for for the majority of people this stuff doesn't work so when it comes to eating habits and being healthy and stuff like that like we we get more depressed when people are shaming us for our weight when people are being terrible towards us for our weight see a lot of people and i made a video on this i'm actually going to link this they they did a study okay this is where the adverse childhood experiences test actually got created they found that most people with obesity issues suffered from some kind of childhood trauma whether it was physical physical or emotional or sexual whatever it was they suffered from that and that's what led to their their eating behaviors you know what i mean so mental health and obesity are very closely tied in together and what happens is if you're eating because you're depressed and then you're getting shamed constantly from it you're getting more depressed and if depression is your trigger to eat unhealthy foods then there's an issue and this is why we need to really work on compassion kindness empathy and things like that i can tell you something that i've noticed about my personal eating habits i eat very unhealthy foods when i get angry when i get angry like i i i haven't made nearly enough videos about anger management and stuff like that but i used to be a very angry person one of the reasons i abused substances for so long was to you know tranquilize my anger if you will and it was very unhealthy but now you know my anger is mostly at bay but when when something becomes really frustrating maybe i'm just dealing with like computer issues or editing issues with my videos or something like that like i am like i need to go get a milkshake screw everything i just i just don't care i need something unhealthy right and that's not healthy right so the more that we improve our mental health the more likely we are to start doing things proactively to improve our physical health as well there's so many ties between mental and physical health and i've had a few of you request me do videos on that i'm actually working on a collaboration with my buddy from the channel trade jones go check his channel out he collabed with me a few weeks ago um his channel is all about anxiety if you're into that stuff talks a lot about health and nutrition and the benefits when it comes to treating your mental health make sure you check that out and i personally need to do some more videos on it but there's so many ways that this ties in so a lot of this and what test holiday is talking about in that clip i showed you is she even learned how to love herself fully before she was willing to lose the weight and something that's really interesting and i might make a video about that is there's so many people and whether it's weight issues or other aspects of somebody's life like we we eventually adopt these as part of our identity so like for example with test holiday what i'm getting at is my fear for her would be so much of her identity is tied around her weight that she might fear losing that weight because it would be losing a part of her and she might justify that like oh well how can i be a plus size model if i'm no longer plus size and there might be fear would i be able to be a normal size model you know what i'm saying so this happens too with mental illness some people are afraid of treating their anxiety or treating their depression because it's become so ingrained with their identity and that's really fascinating to me and i want some of you to really look at yourself and see if that might be something that's holding you back from getting help um i'm going to write a note as soon as i finish this video this is something that actually held me back from getting clean and sober because it was part of my identity like as somebody who never knew who i was or where i fit in like i found an identity as being the addict or being the alcoholic being the guy who drinks all the time being the part of your and some of those things that we latch on to are actually hurting us immensely and we don't realize it but anyways i wanted to make this video since it's been such a topic of conversation about test holiday and body positivity and fat shaming and stuff like that but i would love to know your comments down below and i don't know why this popped into my head because i have one of the most amazing audiences out there and i know so many of you are very kind but please try to be kind in the comments and don't be rude if you disagree with test holidays lifestyle or if you don't like the fact that i'm fat like try to be kind um i don't know i just want this to be a loving compassionate empathetic community i know i have these crazy dreams of this you know trial and law beautiful world but hey maybe someday all right anyways that's all i got for you for now if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new here make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because i make so many videos to help you out with your mental health and a huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon helping me spread this message of hope for anybody struggling with their mental health if you want to check out uh the rewired stole shop boom click or tap right there all right i love you all thanks for watching i'll see you next time