 the greatest gift you can give your kids is not going to every single t-ball game the greatest gift you can give your kids is to be a non-anxious presence in that living room so if it means skipping a soccer game once a week to go help your neighbor fix his fence and y'all laugh like crazy and he's got cheap beer and and pizza and y'all laugh and figure it out and the fence is kind of wonky in certain places and you come home with a smile on your face and that nuclear reactor right here is down a little bit and your kid comes home how'd it go dad i crushed it it's not an excuse to abandon your kids that's not what i'm saying we are so obsessed with what are they gonna think what are they gonna think the greatest gift you can give your kids is you go have friends