 You know, I think we need to work some things out, and once we do, but I don't know. Do we get married today? If this is what your relationship looks like between Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash, run. Run for the hills as fast as you can. What is up, everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. I missed it. I just started a Twitch channel, and I've been doing a lot of editing of my videos over there so I can talk to you while I edit. So today, I'm gonna actually be editing this video, and I'm gonna be talking to all of the viewers about toxic relationships, borderline personality disorder, and all sorts of stuff. So, make sure you go follow me on Twitch, alright? But anyways, before I get started, I'm gonna say this. I'm not a therapist. I'm not a psychologist. Obviously, I don't treat Trisha Paytas either. So, I cannot give her a diagnosis of BPD. So, borderline personality disorder is a disorder that many people struggle with who had a rough childhood, whether it was emotional abuse or just any kind of trauma in their life. They can struggle with borderline personality disorder, and they have this kind of, like, I love you. I hate your relationship with a lot of people. So, like, just watching Trisha and Jason Nash, like, I sit there, and I'm like, oh my God, like, Trisha shows some of these signs. So, we're gonna talk about this, and what it's like dating somebody with BPD. And I guess I'll start this video out, too, by saying, like, this is a very unpopular opinion, but if you are struggling with your mental health, like, in a severe way, do not date. Like, go fix yourself, then go back to dating. Like, it is unfair to the other person to bring them into that mess. I say that as somebody who had to stay single for over a year and a half while I worked on myself. I realize that it was selfish to bring somebody into this while I am still a complete mess. But as I started to work on myself, then I was able to go out and date and not be so selfish, self-centered, and pretty much emotionally abuse the other person. And stay tuned to this video, because I'm going to use Jason Nash and Trisha Paytas' relationship and talk about some of my own personal experiences with this stuff. Alright? So anyways, Jason Nash just released a video, like, why Trisha hasn't been in my videos lately, right? It's like a 20-minute video, and I'm sitting here with my girlfriend this morning. I'm like, I don't even know if I want to watch this. You know, whatever. And oh my God, I will link this down in the description below. But like, whether you are single or in a relationship, like, save this video, put it in a playlist somewhere. Like, watch this video. This is the definition of a toxic relationship. Like, I am blown away that this whole thing was recorded. I'm wondering how much was edited out. But that's one of the reasons I enjoy YouTube is because we can take these very real situations and then discuss them, and hopefully, like, my purpose of this channel is to help you with your mental health. And relationships can be oh so toxic. It's not a big deal. I'm like letting it go. I just definitely can't come to that house. So one of the things that will point out from that clip that I just showed you is like, Trisha is very emotionally abusive. Now, I will say this, and throughout this video, because I'm probably only going to say it once, like, let me just make this very clear. Like, I don't look at people with mental illnesses like BPD or anything like that, as bad people. They're just struggling with their mental health, and they need to go get help. So, like, emotional abuse isn't always just the person that's purely evil. They have some stuff that they need to work on. I used to be a terrible person until I started working on my mental health. But anyways, going back to that clip, like, Trisha is emotionally abusive. Like, you can see how she says, like, I'm not upset. I'm not mad. I'm not angry. I love you, da-da-da-da-da. But then she just goes in and berates him. Throughout this video, too, like, I'm focusing on Trisha. But if you watch this video, like, Jason is just broken. He is broken. And I don't think that Jason should be dating either. I talked about this in my previous video about them breaking up and getting back together. But Jason is not put together either. And by the way, this is one of the biggest misconceptions about dating. And I used to tell this to my clients in early recovery all the time. Like, when in the philosophy of mankind has this ever worked? You take two glasses, two glass cups, right? And you shatter them on the ground. And then you scoop them together. And then you say, okay, this can work. That doesn't happen. So if you have one broken person and another broken person, it doesn't go together. Both these things have to be whole before they come together. You know, I think we need to work some things out. And once we do... What? I don't know. Do we get married today? Do we ever really house courthouses open for marriages? Do we get married? Yeah. That's some sort of commitment at least. I don't know. That'd be fun. So this is complete bananas. If you don't want to watch the whole video, just watch the part where they're at this restaurant. Because there's so much to dissect from this. All right? So Trisha was just berating Jason, talking all this stuff. And then she just goes, let's get married. And I'm like, oh my God, oh my God. I'm going to share with you some of my experience with that pretty soon here. But like, this is a typical sign of borderline personality disorder, especially when you're dating somebody. They can rapid fire through these emotions, right? Where they hate you or they don't like you or you're upsetting them or whatever. And then they're just like, let's get married. Let's get married. Because part of it is just they're used to the toxicity, right? Like that is their comfort zone. Like being comfortable in the chaos. And she throws out, let's get married, right? But immediately it is followed up by this clip. It's not a big deal. I'm like letting it go. I just definitely can't come to that house. So now I have to, you know, do all the driving. And it's like, stupid. You don't have to. I haven't been. Once a week is fine. I'm getting used to it. But if you're just going to be so staunch, then it's going to put even more stress on everything. It's not. I'm happy with that. I'm happy with you. And you got to do what you had to do. It just sucks. It sucks. It just hurts. I'm not mad. I'm not like upset. Nothing. I just get, I just, it's really like, really hurtful. Please reconsider that. That's one thing I can't do. I want to be with you and I want to stay with you. I can't come over to your house. I maybe is better. We live far apart. Like when we do see each other, we miss each other. All right. All right. All right. So right after she says, let's get married, she throws out this idea. Okay. She starts talking about, about him getting his own house. And this is another example of emotional abuse. Okay. Everybody like, I hope you are with me here. Okay. Like she's saying like, oh, I'm, I'm not upset about it. I'm not hurt. And then she starts saying, Oh, but you just want to spend more time with your friends. Oh, you just don't like seeing me. Oh, you know what? It's fine. It's fine. And it's like, what? Like watching it, it's, it's like watching. It's like watching children who are in one of their first relationships. But that's one of the things when it comes to certain types of mental illness. Like for me, for example, when I got sober at 27 years old, I was pretty much just a grown baby. Okay. I still had a lot of childish behaviors, childish emotions. I did a lot of childish things. And I need to do a video sometime because there's this worksheet that my mom, who's a psychologist, actually showed me. And it's amazing where you can see like why you date the people you date and also why you behave the way that you do in arguments. And a lot of it reverts back to your childhood. It's a lot of childish behaviors. And that's why a lot of relationships, people don't have these adult conversations, especially if you're dating somebody who's not mentally well. Do we get married today? Remember when the Hills Four House was open for marriages? Do we get married? Yeah. That's some sort of commitment at least. I don't know. That would be fine. I think we need to work some things out. We do have to get married. All right. I had to bring it back to that last clip because this is something that goes on throughout the rest of the video. Jason, Jason actually has some clarity and he's holding her off. Like, okay, no, we're not getting married. He's like, we need to work on some stuff, right? But she says we need to get married and then we can work on stuff. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. No. Okay. This is a very big problem that people have, especially when they struggle with mental illness. They keep procrastinating the things that will make them well. Right. Like I was talking about with my girlfriend earlier, like I, I judge people based on who they're a fan of, right? Who they're a fan of, who they look up to and stuff. Like if you're a fan, for example, of Tana Mojo, I'm like, something's got to be going on with you. Right. There's a lot of people who are a fan of Trisha Paytas. I'm like, there's something that's got to be going on with you too. But this is also why people have so many enablers. Like people need to look at Trisha and like, like Trisha acknowledges that she has a lot of psychological issues, but she doesn't get help for them. Right. And she keeps trying to procrastinate them and push them off and things like that. Like absolutely not. So I'm very glad that Jason stuck to his guns. And he's like, no, we need to see a relationship therapist. And then we'll talk about marriage. Here's the problem for the rest of this video. She keeps saying, let's get married. Let's get married. Let's get married. And she's trying to manipulate him into doing this. All right. And, and just throughout the video, like, like I said, they cut a lot of this stuff out. How many times throughout this day they spent together, do you think she said, let's get married. Let's get married. Like it is absolutely bananas. Do we get married today? So do you want to go take dance classes at Arthur Murray across the street? Or do you want to go get married? Should I get my beard shaved? Or should we get married? Work on our relationship before we talk about marriage. I think we're good. I think we're in a good spot. I don't think so. I think we need to go see a therapist. Okay. So we get married and then we go see a therapist. No. Let's work on our relationship. Please. We are working on it. I haven't been crazy for a whole week. I want to get married. I thought you'd get off that. Okay, but can we get married? I'll give you one thing. You are a dogged. You are. So I was actually telling my girlfriend about this. My girlfriend and I, we don't talk a lot about our exes, but sometimes it like comes up and things like that. But I was telling her about the woman I was dating. She was a single mom before. It was like a year before. Yeah, probably about a year before my girlfriend and I started talking or at least almost a year, right? And like, I could relate to this experience, right? Like I was still mentally unwell. Like after that relationship is when I found meditation. So if you need a reason to meditate, go for it. Like I did it because of a bad relationship. And I realized how emotionally unstable I was. But anyways, her and I had a very, very, very bad relationship. And she got on this kick where she's like, let's get married. Let's get married. Like we're fighting every five seconds. And then she's like, let's get married. Let's get married. And like she was obsessed with this show. My girlfriend just told me the name and I forgot it's like 30 day fiance or something like that. It's like they do it. They do it. And then they figure stuff out. And I'm like, I'm like, no, that is bananas because part of me knew like this wasn't going to work out. And she kept saying it over and over and over. And like this is something that some of us do. And this is a big relationship issue as well. Like I almost got to a point. I was this close to getting to a point where I was just going to be like, if it will shut you up, let's go get married. Like think about that. Think about that. Like you guys relationships are part of mental health. And we got to figure this stuff out. Like, can you imagine? Can you imagine if I would have married her? Like, why do you think divorce rates are so high in this country? Because stuff like this happens. But again, Jason stuck to his guns. He's like, we need to seek therapy before we get into a marriage, right? And it's crazy because they need to split up. They need to get away from each other. Like I made a whole video about this two months ago. I was just looking. It was only two months ago about how their relationship isn't going to work. I'm not a psychic, right? I just know people who are mentally unstable. I just get it. I've seen this happen so many times. I talked to my clients in the rehab center about this all the time. Like you are in no position to do this. You're in absolutely no position to do this until you get well. Now, there's going to be a certain number of people down in the comments or who will never even see this video who defend Trisha. And they say things like, oh, she's just joking. Or, oh, this is just part of the videos. And no, no, no, no, no. What this is is leaving a back door to excuse poor behavior. I mentioned it in the Tana Mojo video I just did the other day where she talks about, I'm only human. I'm only human. I'm not going to be a perfect person. By saying that, Tana is leaving herself a back door to keep screwing up. Now, Trisha is using this as an excuse to keep behaving the way she is and not seeking help in the way that she should seek help is because she's constantly making these other videos. Like, oh, that was just an act. Oh, that was just for YouTube. No, no, no, no, no, no. I just finished a book on body language and stuff. And watching the body language between those two, actors can't even have that type of precision body language. You know what I mean? Like, Trisha really, really, really needs to seek some type of therapy. And if they want their relationship to work, and here's the advice I'll give to any of you who are stuck in a relationship like this right now. Go to therapy. Both need to do individual therapy. Me, I'm not a huge fan of couples therapy. I prefer individual therapy for a while, and then couples therapy. Like, both people need to work on their individual issues, because a lot of them stem from childhood and past relationships and things like that. They need to work on these things individually, and then once they get, like, I don't know, even 20% better, then they need to see, like, a couple's therapist. You know what I'm saying? But as far as, like, leaving that back door open, I talk to addicts and alcoholics about this all the time, because they try to leave themselves back doors to drink again or to use again. For example, some people who came into my rehab with a prescription drug addiction, they then wouldn't go back and tell their doctor that they were just in rehab, because what they're doing is they're leaving a back door so they can go get high again. Or maybe alcoholics, they don't tell their friends that they just went to rehab and they're in sobriety now because they're leaving themselves a back door so they don't get questioned if they drink again. Like, you need to cut this stuff out if you want to improve your mental health. So, to end this video, the last point I'll make is I was second guessing making this video, and this is just a complete side point. I talk about how, like, I always get worried about making these videos about different YouTubers and things like that, because I'm not a drama channel, and my goal is to help people take these real-life situations and relate it to themselves and improve their mental health. And there was one comment on my last video about H3H3, and it's like, oh, this is a drama channel now. And that almost prevented me from making this video. But then my girlfriend, she said something and it sparked my emotions again. I'm like, screw it, I'm making this video. But I just want to throw that side point in there. Like, don't focus on the one negative comment or don't focus on one thing that makes you second guess yourself, you know? Do your thing, boo, do your thing, all right? But let's do this down in the comments below. Maybe share your experiences. Like, what can you relate to? Like, have you been in a past relationship where it looks similar to Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash? Or are you currently in a relationship and your significant other isn't going to read my comment section? But anyways, let's share our experience down below, okay? I did, so you need to as well, all right? And don't forget, I'm going to be editing this video on Twitch, so by the time you see this, I already edited it, but go follow me on Twitch, okay? twitch.tv slash the rewired soul. Come hang out with me. We've been having some amazing conversations and I love the personal time I get with all of you. All right? But that's all I got for this video. If you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up. And if you're new, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos. And a huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon. You are all amazing. And if you want to pick up yourself some sweet rewired soul merch, boom, click or tap on that little icon right there. All right? Thanks so much for watching. 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