 So the number one thing that you need to avoid here is there's three things actually that you need to avoid. The first one is trying to throw other men in his face or trying to make him jealous, right? I've talked about this in some of the other videos before. Most women who try to do this really end up screwing it up and end up like hurting themselves instead of helping themselves because they try to throw other men into a guy's face or they do these things that are blatantly and explicitly trying to make a guy jealous and it just all it does is make him either want to fight back against this and make you jealous or what did I end up doing is making him want to leave. And the second thing that you want to avoid is trying to hurt him or shame him or saying things to him in order to get responses and you know this just makes him feel like being with you is really really painful and it might help and might work short term it might make you feel better but long term it really destroys the relationship from the inside out so you don't want to do that. And number three is complaining nagging or attacking him for not giving you what you want and this just makes him feel like he wants to rebel against you what you and what you want instead of choosing to give you what you want.