 to get to the source of any pain you have to get still and you have to get honest and vulnerable and what I mean by that is once you once you are open to leaning into the pain the moment you start saying you're welcome here that's the back of it broken the moment you say you're welcome here next thing will happen often is this you'll be reading a book listen to podcast watching a tv show something happens on what you're reading listening to our seeing and it's exactly the pain you're dealing with now you're so aware of it more than you've ever been because now you're not avoiding it and shoving it down you're leaning into it so when you say you're welcome here that pain will now start manifesting all around you but you're not afraid of it anymore so the way you begin to dismantle and dissolve it as I said is leaning into it once you lean into it it will start cropping up and now you are curious you're not defensive you're not running now you are curious the energy of curiosity is how you begin to dismantle and disarm your pain not with fear and running from it