 The narcissist doesn't want you to see their struggle following the discard phase Whether they have discarded you or you have discarded them The narcissist is going through pain and distress They are experiencing a sense of instability and insecurity Some of them are even experiencing financial difficulties They are struggling without their grade A source of supply You were there for them to unload all of their emotional baggage To use as their emotional punching bag To let out all of their frustration and resentment And they may have used you for financial purposes as well following the discard phase The narcissist can often end up struggling They can end up in a worse situation than when they were with you It's not so easy for them to find another grade A source of supply It's not so easy for them to find another person who is willing to do the things that you are willing to do Who is willing to put up with everything that they do But the narcissist is so audacious and arrogant They have an exaggerated sense of their own abilities and importance So they believe that they can leave you and Find someone better Well, then they show them out of time Of course It doesn't take long Until they realize that it is not that simple They find themselves in a situation that is far worse than when they were with you But they can't let you see it They can't let you know about it because they want you to see them as though they are superior to you Even though they know that you are superior to them They have to create the illusion that they are doing better without you They have such weak fragile egos They have low self-esteem And they have far too much pride To ever let you see or hear about what they are going through But the reality is That they are struggling Many of them are having to work extra hard Just to make a fraction of what they were making when they were with you They feel very uncomfortable in their new environment It's not stable or secure They don't feel comfortable They don't know if they can trust their new source of supply Yet what they're displaying to you Is probably far different to the reality of what they are going through They are probably posting pictures on social media Making you believe that they have the perfect life for the new supply And everything is so much better They really like to exaggerate it In an attempt to hurt you But it's that exaggeration that should really reveal to you that it's all a lie When the narcissist first met you They gave you a false appearance or impression They showed you what you wanted to see They told you what you wanted to hear Knowing that they weren't really about any of that It was just to appeal to you And to secure you as their source of supply And when you had an argument or disagreement with the narcissist And you stopped talking to them for a short period of time They would go on social media Or talk to you on the phone About how everything is going great When in reality They were struggling to cope without you Without having the opportunity to unload their emotional baggage onto you Or use you as their emotional punching bag But they acted as though everything was going great They pretend They live a lie They do whatever they can to avoid reality Reality is too painful for them to deal with Because they have avoided it for too long If they tried to deal with it now It would just be too overwhelming for them So even after the relationship is over They are still living a lie Still trying to make you buy into their false appearance or impression If they can get you to believe it It makes it more believable for them And then they can live in their little fancy world Denying the truth Denying reality But the reality is that they are struggling They just don't want you to see or hear about it Because they're ashamed They're embarrassed And as we know Narcissists do everything they can to dodge their shame Any time that you try to confront them On something that might trigger them to reflect on their shame It causes a narcissistic injury Then they have to make you feel as though something is wrong with you Or as though your life is not going right They wish that they could come back to you Things were so much easier then Especially if you've made use of the time apart to heal yourself And create a better life Believe me They would love to come back But if you've seen through them They know that they can't come back They know that you're no longer going to be susceptible to them revelation Many of them when they leave They end up in situations where they get married or they get pregnant And I know that's a deal breaker for many of you They know that you're not going to want to deal with them after that It's not going to be the same So they stay hidden They do what they have to do To make you believe that everything is going okay When in reality they are struggling Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like comment share 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