 How to make the narcissist suffer forever So you want to get revenge? You want to hurt the narcissist and to do that? It all starts by first understanding the reason Why you want to do that? Why do you want to hurt them and I think the reason most often is that You want to hurt them because They hurt you they did something that you didn't like it was unfair It was unwarranted and you're not happy about it. It's in a way at you every day and you want it to stop You want to get back at them because then Maybe it will relieve your pain at least a little bit okay, so That's it. That's the reason Why you want them to suffer? It's because you believe that you have suffered at their hands and Why did you suffer at their hands? Why did they do that to you and the reason why? As many of you may already know is because they want attention and validation They want supply They want to get a reaction out of you They want to feel powerful and Significant and those are the two main keywords right there powerful and Significant that's why they do everything that they do it's because they crave that power and significance and Yeah, if you want to make them suffer You need to take away their power You need to take away their sense of significance And how do you do that? Well, you do the opposite of what you did which made them feel powerful and significant and what you did was react So don't react Instead ignore them go no contact But don't make a big deal out of it Don't waste your time Blocking them deleting them Don't post about it on social media. Don't make a big thing out of it Because then you're still feeding them You're still telling them that they have the power to affect you the power to Choose how you react because those are still reactions so instead of reacting Act take action in your own life forget about them Focus on your life again Do things that you enjoy Because nothing will make them suffer more than that. I know many of them Pretend to be these Good people They always want to seem like they're good people, but actually there's there's nothing Worse for them to see than you doing better Without them that is honestly the last thing they want to see It wouldn't make any sense for a narcissist to want to see you doing better Just look back and think about everything they did to you. Why would they do all of that stuff? If they wanted things to be better for you if they wanted things to be better for you You would have seen a completely different person They wouldn't have done all of those things So you can see that they take pleasure in your pain All these things they did it made them feel good so of course The opposite of everything they did or everything they tried to do to you That is what is going to make them suffer You being healthy and happy You moving on with your life and forgetting about them. That's really it and when you look at it like that You don't even need to get revenge Because remember revenge Again, that's still a reaction. That's still feeding them That's still giving them a sense of power and significance so That may not make them suffer at all You may think that it is But you'd be surprised. I mean narcissists you could spend your entire life trying to get to them and Even though it could be working things could be going wrong in their life their life could be falling apart and They would still be laughing and joking in the midst of the destruction because they really don't care about anything As long as they're still getting attention even if you're going after them even if someone was Chasing after them trying to kill them a lot of them would probably enjoy it They would get a kick out of it Because to them that tells them that they're powerful they're significant and I know how crazy that must sound But for someone who has spent the last Four and a half years studying narcissism I can tell you that that is what goes on in their minds So even to the extreme where someone dedicates their life to trying to destroy them in Many ways that actually makes the narcissist feel good So if you're trying to do that you are wasting your time. The best thing to do is just Ignore them. There's nothing worse worse for a narcissist than to feel irrelevant Like they don't matter and as long as you're reacting to them. They do feel relevant So yeah, that's it. It's maybe not the answer You wanted to hear but if you really want to make them a suffer That's what you do You just focus on your own life again Focus on doing things that you enjoy Becoming happier and healthier Living your best life That's how you do it and that's exactly What I'm doing right now Back in this apartment again With Nala Just chilling on the rug here. See hello Nala 65 live viewers Let's get the thumbs up Only 22 there. Let's get this message out there. Share the video Click the subscribe button What I want on coaching sessions or Now available you can book from my website. 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