 Okay, so doing this video and knowing that the answers or the questions that I was asked, I'd never seen before, came straight from the dome. I created my responses with honesty. However, the responses to the video were all kind of all over the place, but mostly they were good engaging responses that is what we want on the spot point. We want people to dialogue and we want healthy dialogue and we do want the good and the bad, so we'll be able to decipher where the mindset is of Black people. So we are going to go through the comments of the Black feminism video and I'm going to kind of give my reaction on the comments as it pertains to the video and kind of maybe re-explain where it is that I was coming from because when you say things off the dome sometimes it might go left a little bit and you're like, okay, where did I just go with this? So to be able to explain kind of where I was coming from in the truth of what I felt because these questions were very, they were good questions and they were important questions when having the conversation between Black men and Black women. So we're going to go through the comments really quickly and kind of pick out ones that I feel are important. It's a lot of comments. Some good, some bad. It's a humbling experience for sure to see some of these comments. Let's kind of go through it. There's one that I noticed when I was kind of going through the comments that I thought was important when I was talking about Lil Kim and I was talking about how she looked up to Biggie or she looked up to Tupac and kind of trying to emulate them and how it was okay for them to talk about those things, but it wasn't okay for her to talk about those things. Here's the comment here. Let's all pretend as if men weren't buying into all the bull-ish. That was the comment. And I think that was a very interesting comment because although Lil Kim was talking about what she was talking about, I wasn't so much saying that what Biggie was talking about wasn't just as disruptive to the Black community because it is. And I think that is something that we really do need to talk about when we talk about the conversation between feminism or we talk about the conversation with Black women. It isn't one-sided. I think that coming from a woman's perspective, I am harder on women because I feel as though I have to be and I feel as though I will want someone to keep me accountable. But that's kind of the perspective that was coming from. Lil Kim is a woman. Let me keep Lil Kim accountable for her actions because her actions in the past, I've never met her, but I know that her presentation to the world was not a great representation of Black women. Now Black men do have a lot of responsibility. Some Black men, let me not say all Black men, but some Black men do have a lot of responsibility in perpetuating the behaviors, certain behaviors of Black women. I think that Tupac, Biggie, I'm young, so I don't really 100% have a grasp of that era. But I can tie it into a lot of the men in our generation, futures and the money bag yos of our generation that do have a lot of responsibility in perpetuating the stripper culture. They perpetuate the girls getting naked on Instagram, big booty bees or whatever, shaking ass in front of the camera, this and that. They perpetuate it. So I don't want this to come from a place of I'm only bashing Black women because men do have and they are buying into the culture. And I think that when we talk about that space because that culture of getting in front of a camera and having your ass out and stripper culture and rapper culture, that culture is very minute and very particular. I think it's blown up because of social media, but I do not think that most people are living that life. However, because it does have such a huge impact on us and it has such a huge impact on our children, I think that it is definitely worth the conversation. It's time for Black people to start to audit the actions of the people that we look up to. When I say Black people, I don't mean it in general because like for me, I don't look up to a little camera. I don't look up to a Cardi B or a Nicki Minaj, but I know that a lot of my peers do and I am only as good morally right to society as my peers are. So it's time for us to audit and to keep those people who play in those spaces very frivolously accountable because it's not serving us to emulate a future or a Cardi B or a Nicki Minaj. It's fun. I can understand it's fun. It's fun to dance to their music. It's fun to post them on Instagram and more so for women to say, get your bag, sis, and listen, it's fun to do that, but is it productive? That's my thing. And I know I've gone off on a little bit of a tangent, but when we talk about that culture, I just want to make it very clear that although in the video, I was harping on city girls and I was harping on Cardi B and Nicki Minaj, I do see that Black men, two pox and the biggies should be held just as accountable, 100%. And I think that Black people sometimes, especially with maybe like a two pop because he was a conscious individual, he was very conscious and he was very much aware of his Blackness. He was very much aware of politics. Still the stuff that he talked about calling women bitches and and hoes and this and that, I think that Biggie might have been a little bit more into that space that still, they still need to be held accountable as well. So where do we draw the line? Because we have to stay consistent. We have to stay consistent. We can't say because I like this artist, they get a pass, but that that artist might say one or two things that are like woke or whatever, but the premise of their brand is still a degradation to the Black community. So that's kind of what I wanted to say about that comment. I think it was important. I'm a woman and I will always keep women accountable. Call me pick me if you want. I don't, I don't really mind that word. I have a lot of respect for Black men and whatever I have to do to keep Black women accountable and aware. I think accountable is not for us to maybe retire that word because it's become such a cliche. I want to keep Black women aware of their actions as it pertains to how they communicate with Black men because it's important and Black women want to be in relationship with Black men. I don't care what anybody says. We do. We do. We can talk about how it, you know, niggaz ain't shit and, and fuck that nigga or whatever. We love Black men to the core. We do. There's a lot of hurt and there's a lot of healing that needs to go behind mending the relationship, but I will always hold, I will always hold Black women to an awareness of their actions because it's going to affect the way that we communicate and treat our Black men. Inevitably, it'll be, it'll be an awareness of how we treat ourselves because a Black man is a reflection of us. When we look at a Black man, we're looking in the mirror whether we want to admit it or not and it also is a reflection of how we're going to treat our children and that's the most important thing is how we're going to treat our children because as much as a Black woman might say in words aren't shit or whatever, whatever, if you have a son then what? Does your narrative change then? How does it change? If your narrative does it change, what exactly does that look like? So those are just kind of some things that we need to talk about and that I'm willing to talk about and I will play the martyr for it and I have high hopes that it'll pay off in the future. So okay, let's find another comment that I kind of liked. These comments are awesome, a lot of them were kind of crazy, but most of them were really, really good. There's, here's another one that said, even men shouldn't have been talking about the shit that they were talking about. It's all very toxic. That's so true. That's so true. Okay, here's a good one talking about feminism. Modern feminism is very different than the first couple of ways. It's two separate entities within our community. So I don't think, I think that we can take what our grandparents might have told us about feminism and we can read, we can research what it was, but none of us were there. My age, people my age were there to see the advent of feminism and how it's evolved. Only thing we see now is modern day feminism and I think it's called modern day feminism because the crux of what feminism is to me, not to everyone, but to me is the empowerment of women, which sounds really wonderful and it is wonderful. I think that women should be in power because I think that women are very powerful and they should know, they should be aware of that power and they should know when to use it. I think that, I think that what we see in modern day feminism has turned into, and this is not an uncommon theme, we're all talking about it, has turned into the bashing of black men. I'm not going to talk about any other race but black men. Feminism is pretty consistent as far as the bashing of men. We'll talk about specifically the bashing of black men. The first couple of ways of feminism might have looked like in speculation. I've been in the house for so long. I have other skill sets that I think that could be productive to society. Previously I was not allowed the opportunity to flex those skill sets. Let me get out here and have the power to have a voice. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I really don't. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Black men and their families and their communities were very different than white men and their families in their communities. Now, where do we go missing when we started to equate our relationship with our man and Sister Shahar Zahali talks about this all the time? Where do we start to equate the relationship between our men and the relationship that white women might have had with white men? I'm not going to really talk much about white women, but when did it become a burden to be under the leadership of a man? Where are men, what's the word? Where are men unsupportive of us having a voice? This is what we do. This is what we need to talk to our elders and really have this discussion with them. Were they unsupportive of having a voice? Were we even gung ho and excited to get out in the workforce? Is that something that was a thing? And if we were, I'm not going to say why, because I can understand why, but where did we come up with the idea that our excitement to get to the workforce was more important than us being loyal to our husbands and us being submissive to our husbands? This is a hierarchy there in a family unit. I will ride with this to the day I die. There is a hierarchy when it comes to the family unit. A woman is under the protection of a man. Biologically, it makes sense. It does. And it was a very hard concept for us to wrap our minds around, but it makes sense biologically why we would be under the protection of a man. If we were threatened, why a man would be the ones to protect us? The guidance in the leadership, because we can be very emotional, very chaotic in our nature. We have to start asking ourselves, why would a man that's logical, reasonable, decisive, disagreeable in making certain decisions disagreeable is not a bad word. We need to get out of the fact that disagree is not a bad word. It can be in a bad context, but it's not a bad word. Why will we think that? At what point do we take our desire to be working? And in the workforce, we took that as truth and as something that's more favorable over the submission to our men and inevitably having that submission to our men tripled down into the ease of raising our children. That's my thing when it comes to feminism. And where we are now is that we have these women who are very educated, which I think is amazing. I'll be the first to talk about, yes, sis, you go. That's amazing. I love that. I love seeing educated women. I'm an educated woman. Is my education more important than my community and my loyalty to my family and the duty that I have as a woman? No, it's not. It's not. It's not more important. So there are differences between the first wave of feminism and modern feminism, and we do need to do more research because at this point there's no really comparing the two. But we are in the modern day, and we have to, thinking about the past has to be a point of education because we're not living in the past anymore. We are living in the present. So how do we decipher and how do we maneuver with where feminism is going in the present? So that's kind of my rant on that question. Yeah, let's see. I see a lot of comments about my honesty, and I think it's important to be honest. Such honest answers. I think it's important to be honest. When discussing these topics, I don't tiptoe around the topic whatsoever, and that gets me into a lot of heat with a lot of people in my life because I don't attract at all the type of women or the type of men that I talk about when it comes to my friends. So my friends are like, you know, why are you talking about this, Sid? Like, what does this have to do with you? Can we talk about something else? This is getting very frustrating for you to be talking about this all the time. But like I said at the beginning, I'm only as good as the sister that really needs help, and he really needs to be pulled up. And Black people have this individualistic view of things, and I am 100% guilty of thinking about myself before I think about my community. I think that that's a human thing, but it's time for us to re-engineer our perspective of the collective. And if we're really, if we're going to be willing to have this conversation, we have to be willing to speak on the collective because if we're just going to speak on an individual base, it's a waste of time to me. So honesty is the only way that's going to get me there. And if it ruffles some feathers, that's a risk I'm willing to take, and I'm always down to sit down and have a conversation with anyone, because I am speaking my truth. And when there comes truth, with good plus good communication, you can get you can get through to to a lot of people. And it's time for my Black women to have a conversation. Let's just say that. Okay, kind of going through these comments. There was a lot of comments that were like this one, I just don't have time to convince or negotiate with Black women anymore. I've discovered foreign Black women, and it's just as good, if not better. I didn't settle for an American Black woman into a lot of women that will be triggering. But to me, it's just sad. It's heartbreaking to see that. It's very heartbreaking to see that. Because I love not only because I love Black men, but because I think that I think that the Black community is in a crisis. I think we're not only are we under attack from external forces, we also are under attack from by from ourselves. And if we don't get it together in 10 years, in a general, let me not say 10 years, in a generation's time, the Black family will be no more. And I hope that people can wrap their minds around that. That in a generation's time, if we don't get a grasp on the relationship between Black men and Black women, Black fathers and Black mothers, that the Black family, as we know it, is done. And, you know, all the music that we loved, all the old school music that we loved to dance to that talked about family and community and unity will be very triggering to us because it'll be a thing of the past for real. Not in the context of that it was made in the past, in the context that we have no way to get back to that. And if Black people are willing to take that risk, all right, cool. I don't think Black people are willing to take that risk. So Black men saying that they're done with Black women, American Black women. Let's break it down, that's what they're talking about, Black American women. And they're happy that they discovered foreign Black women. It's interesting because there's still Black women at the end of the day. They're just not in the confines of the West. That's heartbreaking. That's very heartbreaking. And it's not, it's not something where I'm like, well, what do foreign Black women have on American Black women? Because I get it. I get it. Now, if you go to, there's a lot of foreign Black women, they're very Americanized and they still live in their countries. You go to some West African countries, Caribbean countries, I'm not going to name them, but they are on the same tip as us because, as you know, European culture has infiltrated a lot of different places. But the point is, what do Black women need to do to cater more to our Black men? That's the biggest thing. If you don't care, you don't care. If you want to go date a white man and divest and do it all, you know, all that, I guess go ahead and do it. There's really no talking. And I was talking to a friend yesterday and I think that when Black women, as a collective, because Black women are impressionable on one another, very, very much more than Black men are. Black women will catch a fad and they will, everyone will be on that. We see that with the Megan Thee Stallion culture. It's like these Black women are catching on to something and everyone's emulating the same thing like their sheep. But if this divest culture and this pink pill, if it becomes a mainstream thing within the Black female American community, it's over with. If they say that they're going to go out and date white men and it works and it sticks because there's this narrative that just because you go out and date white men, that they want to date you, no, might just be still another Black person to them, but whatever. It's a whole different conversation. But if Black women, they go out and they have a collective view that we're going to go date Black white men, that can be very damaging. All right, let's go to another video. That was a great video. Let's go to another video though. Let's see. All right, let's do the submission video. This was a great video too. We got a really a lot of good, good comments on this one that I'm excited to see. I've kind of gone through the comments and I kind of have not because they can be kind of mean. Y'all are some savages out there. Let's put men out there. Y'all are some straight up savages in these comments. You have to be humble out here. All right, let's see. This is a good one. The deeper question, oh my gosh, she's bad. Okay, so this is a good one. The deeper question still comes. So why is it that women feel the need to defend their independence to their man yet not to anyone else? Why does your boyfriend need to or husband need to deserve your humility and cooperation? So the women that really are against submission are very disagreeable. I think they're disagreeable with everyone. I don't think they're disagreeable in the court. I don't think they're disagreeable just to their husbands. I think that because their husbands and their boyfriends are the closest to them in proximity, that's where their disagreeableness comes out the most. But if you're a disagreeable person, you're a disagreeable person. Now there are those women that go out of their way to be disagreeable towards men because they feel like they have something to prove or they feel as though that man is not deserving or they're being mean or they're being degrading because there are a lot of women out here. And I'm not speaking for all women, but just from the premise of the conversations that I've had or that I've seen, a lot of women I think wholeheartedly think that black men are subhuman. Similar to how white men think that black men are subhuman. Let me see how that works. Yeah, I think that they think that they're genuinely beneath them. I think that those women are far very minimal and people might disagree with me. But for you to treat someone as subhuman or that that they're not in equality to you, that's very telling. Do you think that your co-worker is subhuman or not equal or at least worthy of a conversation or of respect? Think your boss is not worthy of respect? You think your son's football coach or the, I don't know, the soccer mom who's the, you know, brings the snacks or whatever. I think that they're not worthy of respect. Of course you do. You're not going to talk to them crazy. You're not going to be combative for no reason. But for some reason, women are just so combative when it comes to the masculinity that black men have. And there's nothing wrong with masculinity. Ladies that are watching to the 12 women that watch this channel, there's nothing wrong with that. And I really, really need, and I know I'm young and I don't know everything and I don't want to come off like I know everything. But I know what I've experienced and I know that in the presence of honest and genuine masculinity, I'm not even going to use good or bad. I'm not going to use toxic or talking about genuine masculinity where that man knows where he stands as a man. Baby that comes. That brings ease. That brings comfort. That's not having to worry about anything. And a lot of us have been raised by single mothers and we've seen that struggle. And we should learn from that and be like, I don't want to have to do everything. We've seen, we've seen our parent or at least I was raised by a single mom. I saw my mom do everything until this day. She's like, I wish I had help. I just need some help. Something wrong with needing help. Masculine men are useful. I'm not saying use them. It's very different. But men, men are useful. They want to be useful. They use their hands. That's why men are good at using their hands. They like to build stuff. They like to fix things. They like to solve problems. Who the hell likes to solve their own problems? We all took math. We didn't like doing that shit to use my language. We didn't like solving the math problem. We want someone that in the comfort of their presence, we feel like, yes, solve this problem for me, baby. And it doesn't always come in the form of finances or I need my nails done so send me some money for my nails or send me money for that. It doesn't always come like that. Sometimes it's like, well, my car, my tire's busted. If you're a little younger, maybe your father will step in if God bless you with that. But when you're older, if my tire's busted or my window's busted or I need something fixed at the crib or this and that, that's calling on a man. That can be platonic, man. That can be a man in a relationship with, but you know, let me call hit him up and you know, he'll be there. That is ease. I don't want to fix my own plumbing situation. I don't even want to pay nobody to do that. I don't even want to get on Yelp and look up a plumber. I don't want to do none of that. I want a man to do it. That's when we talk about independence. Why are we so gung-ho about being completely independent? I don't think there's anything wrong with being independent, honestly. Let me take that back. I don't think there's anything wrong with having independent characteristics within you. I don't think there's anything wrong because when we talk about survival, if something were to happen, a woman can be under the protection of a man and that man might pass away and what are we going to do with me and these kids? We've got to figure out what's going on. That is survival. We're talking about the overwhelming characteristic of myself as a black woman. It's just I'm independent and this and that. You see how everyone always does the snap in the neck roll because it's not cute because it's humorous. It's not cute to be independent and not want a man around. I want men around. I like men and be fine too. Nice to look at the same. So yes, that's my response to that question as far as why do they feel like they need to defend their man to anyone else. I don't think that's just defending their independence to their man thing. I think that you're just inherently disagreeable and you need to go to counseling. You need to get some healing going. Meditate and figure out what's going on within yourself as to why you are so negative. That's just my point. Let's see. All right. This is a good one. I was talking about how the heartbreak is perpetual. And I guess this kind of ties into a little bit of what I was just talking about as far as single mothers being the ones that have to run the households. And it's honestly very not admirable, respectable for a lot of single moms out here that we're talking about single moms that are single because I think that we we've gotten into this space where it's like, are you a single mom by choice? Or are you a single mom because you don't know how to act? That might make some people mad. Well, we got to define what single motherhood is. I'm talking about single moms that somebody might have walked out of them. They tried their best and the man's just not there. I think the single motherhood looked differently maybe in the 80s and the 90s and the dozen, the 2000s. But yeah, they taught their children because mental health and healing, it's kind of like a new thing with our generation. But it wasn't a thing really, especially not with my parents. So a lot of the things that my mom learned from her mother has been passed down. And you know, it's like now it's like me having the light bulb go off. But the heartbreak, when I say the heartbreak is perpetual is it's a cycle that has continued. And somebody has to take accountability for it at some point. And I think that our generation finally is taking having to be the ones to take that accountability if we're willing. It's deep. It really is really, really deep. And when the manosphere talks about single mothers are the ones raising these boys, that's not cute. And that's not anything to joke and play with and to throw around as a means to hurt a woman. That's a deep rooted black people's shit right there. Like, that's something that we have got to get a hold of. We are mothers are very important. We need to protect motherhood. Because we're the ones that raise these kids in the context of the single mothers that they're the only ones raising them. And also in the context of even if it's a two-parent household, the woman is the one that has their hands on these kids. When it comes to education, when it comes to hygiene, when it comes to spirituality, when it comes to so many things. The mama's boy Mantra isn't, you know, just because he's, you know, simping for his mom, I guess, it's just because as your mother, you came out, you, she developed you in her womb and she birthed you. And it's very important that we get a grasp on the way that we heal ourselves because it does have a deep rooted effect on it has a deep rooted effect on the outcome of our children. Not saying that the fathers are not important because they are. They're very important. Mothers just play a different role than fathers do. So yeah. Okay, I'm just going through these questions. Let's see. She keeps saying loyalty while describing responsibility. Oh, that's actually really good. I would say that they were one in the same because if you have a loyalty to your community, you also have a sense of responsibility to your community. But I do see why he would compare the two. Loyalty versus responsibility. You could have a loyalty to your football team, but you don't have a responsibility to make sure you go to practice and have a hand in them winning a game. I'm a metaphor girl. I don't know if that made much sense. But I think you have both. And I think that a lot of us don't have a loyalty to our community. That's why we are willing to date outside of our race because my Black counterpart made me angry here. We're willing to not have the conversation of the plights of Black people or we're willing to not talk about where we came from in our ancestry because we don't have a loyalty and we don't care. A lot of us are very highly educated. We have some money in our pockets. We're a part of the bourgeois and living that cushy, middle-class lifestyle, so we don't have a loyalty. And that's dangerous. That's dangerous, right? And that's dangerous because it makes us think that we're just... We're talking about the context of America. It makes us think that we're just American. We should be loyal to them. We're American first. Or I'm a woman first. No. You're Black first. You can't change that skin color, baby. The society might allow you to change that gender, honey, but you ain't changing that skin tone, okay? So, yeah, the loyalty to your community is... It's extremely important. The responsibility, I think, is something that we might have issues with because where there's responsibility, there's action going out and actually going into your community and doing things. I have an issue with this. I know a lot of us have an issue with this. We do need to start volunteering a lot more in our communities for real. And I know we work nine to fives. A lot of us were entrepreneurs. You worked higher. We got kids. It's hard to think about other people within our community, but we really do need to get on that. So, okay, I'm rambling, we guess. Loyalty responsibility, I take that as going hand in hand personally. All right, let's see here. Okay, this is a good one because I talked about in this video, the chunk of the video about how women will... They'll do everything to make their space cozy for their friends and they'll cater to their friends and they'll take them out to dinners and do all those things. But when it comes to their man, I think that maybe it depends on the friend group. But I have seen in the past where some people might be kind of nervous to talk about catering to their man. And that usually is because their friends don't have men. So, it's like, I don't want to brag or whatever. But he said, honestly, or she said, honestly, for a woman to keep her friends closer to her than her man is crazy. That is crazy, especially when you talk about commitment. When you're a little younger and you're playing around, which I don't advise, whatever, you're not as mature. That man just might be another tip. It's like, whatever, these are my girls. But as you get older, it's time for women to take into consideration the loyalty they need to have towards their man as the head of the relationship. Your friends ain't got nothing to do with it. Doesn't mean you don't have a friendship with them, of course. But it's time to put your friends in a certain place and it's time to put your man at a certain place. He said, this is why a lot of black women aren't married. I don't know. I think there's a lot of different reasons why black women aren't married. But it sounds like he might be speaking from experience. Now, this is interesting. He said, black men, we don't put our friends over our women, especially our wife. In the context of boyfriend, girlfriend, I don't know about that. I know a lot of men out here that love hanging out with their homeboys. But I think that maybe just might just come with maturity. He did say his wife. So I do know some husbands who would never put their friends over their wife. So it just depends. I don't know if that's a comparison thing because I know a lot of women that would never put their friends over their husbands. So I don't know if that's a comparison thing. But I do think that when you are younger, and I think that young people are having children earlier. So it's important to focus on younger people. A lot of women might be a little scared to talk about submitting to their man. And they're like, Oh, no, like I'm not doing that. But if I'm closed doors girl, you submit to him. So yeah, let's see. Okay, this is a good one. It's one thing I did not talk about in the video. And I got a lot of flack from this from people in my in my life. And they were like, you talk so much about submission, but you forgot to mention that the black man's not worth submitting to them. Why does it even matter? So the person said the truth is black women are very much in support of submission, as long as a black man, as long as it's the right black men. As long as it's the black men submitting to them, okay, maybe I misread this comment. The truth is black women are very much in support of submission. As long as it's the black, okay, okay, I read this wrong. Okay, I read this wrong. So there so this person is saying that if you I'll submit to you if you submit to me, that don't even make no sense. Two CEOs in the room together, they're just going to murder each other that doesn't that don't make no sense. Ladies, if that's the way you think, which I don't think a lot of black women think like that. But we'll go to my first point about black men, a lot of black men not being worthy of submitting to. And I think that this is two things. I think first, submission can't be conditional, whether you get your heart broken tomorrow. And then the next day you can't you can't or unless you you get your heart broken yesterday. And today, you are saying I'm not going to submit. What I'm saying is it has to be a consistent thing. You have to be, I think that submission for me. And I know a lot of people don't think like this. But for me, I think that women of black women should submit to a black man. That's just my viewpoint. So if we're going with that, that has to be something that's instilled and ingrained in you. And it can't be conditional, whether you get your heart broken, or whether you have a bad conversation with the black man on the street or whatever, it can't be conditional. And I think a lot of that comes from the home. When it comes from respect, when I think about submission, I think about respect, you know, there's no woman on this earth and this, I mean, this biology, I, I have a certain level of respect. I might get some flak for this. I have a certain level of respect and a little bit of fear, a little bit, a little bit of fear. I'm going to go with this. Okay. I have a certain, a little bit of fear for a black man that's bigger than me, because I know that if anything were to go awry, not saying it will because of his personality or not the conditions of the situation. But I know biologically, if things were to go awry, he can punch me in the face and I'd be out of here. I'd be out of here. So it's a, it's a natural respect that you have for just the physical, biological makeup of men. Women don't have that anymore. They don't care. Women have access to guns like they don't care anymore about, they think they can take on in their mind men. They do. Which is, which is wild. And I think those, those two things do coincide because if I don't respect the biology of a man in practicality, I'm not going to respect him either in submission or respect. Like I said, go hand in hand to me. If you don't want to submit to your man, see how it works out. That's all I have to say. If you don't submit to your man and he's a type of man that allows that, I also will say see how that works out because you might be the type of woman that like passive men and they don't mind submitting to their woman, you know, and if that works for you, that's fine. I just don't think that that's a natural inclination for women to be, for women to be, to gravitate towards men that they can't submit to. And it's so interesting because the men, the men that they can submit to are usually or the men that they will submit to are usually not the men that they should submit to because we have this warped view of masculinity that if he's not a hood nigga or a rough and abrasive that he's not worthy of submission, that's not true. I don't think that, I think that a man that is quiet and shy should be just as worthy of submission as a man that's domineering. That's just me. So yeah. Alright, I think I'm done with this one. Let's do one more. I want to, I want to talk about the LGBTQ community. There's one I did on LGBTQ. That one was kind of, if he wasn't my best work, then I'll tell you why. That's a touchy subject for me and a lot of people and I won't get into it today, but I will kind of explain the question that was asked. And I think the point that I'm just going to try to make, because a lot of these comments were, well, she didn't really answer the question. And there was one person that answered it. He was a gay male and he answered it. And he said that pretty much a premise was that a lot of black women don't, you know, don't really rock with him either. And the question was, why do black women go so hard for gay black men? And I think that a better question is, well, first off, I will say, I don't think that, I don't think a large majority of women, we're not talking about women in New York or leftist women or women in Cali or Atlanta or whatever, just general women over the scope of the country, black women. I don't think that they ride as hard for gay and trans as people think they do. But the point that I want to make, he said, you skated around this convo. I did. I did skate around. I deflected. I'm not going to lie to y'all. I think the question, if we're going to talk about, we need to talk in the relationship between black men and black women is why are black women so quick to call a man gay that doesn't fit their narrative or their, their stereotype of what a masculine black man is. And I think that's where defining masculinity becomes very important in femininity as well. Those are very hard things to define. I don't know if you have a conversation with someone about what it is. You'll get a gazillion different definitions of it. But I think that black women do find it easy to all this make a gay because he didn't do something that catered to your, what you wanted. You didn't get the outcome that you might have wanted from him or because he didn't, he did something that you might have found infeminate. And I think that this is something that we need to start to unlearn because people are multifaceted. And there's a, there's a black man out there that likes to draw and paint. And there's a black man out there that likes to play football and basketball and all the sports, you know, so there's, there's a range of black men. And in those ranges of black men, there's good ones that could be just as good of a husband. They just have different, they just have different hobbies or they have different personality types. But for you to just say, Oh, you gay, first of all, that's a kind of an insult to gay men, honestly, because, you know, as much as we might talk about the LGBTQ community and maybe like the detriment that I might have, there's people that have that narrative black gay gay men are still gay men. And there's gay men that are out there that are in their truth gay. So for you to in their men in their black, they're black men. So it's like for you to use that in it as an insult, I think it's very lonely. And it's easy to use that it's like get out of that because that's not cute. Use your brain and come up with a better insult. But but yeah, that's kind of the that's kind of what I was kind of hoping I was going towards. I think that I was just focusing on not hurting people's feelings in the video that I didn't go into that. But it's the truth. So this person said LGBT is African Americans women favorite alliance. I don't know if I agree with that either. Hi, I'm done. At least you got some heat, baby.