 but the sun is just going down in the back there just being chilling here watching the sunset do you know how i do okay so in this video we are going to be talking about why is the narcissist so obsessed with us i'm sure that is a question that a lot of you have because right now they may be flooding your inbox sending you a whole lot of text messages blowing up your phone all day every day and you clicked on this video maybe because you just want to know why you want to know what is triggered it you know you want to know what is causing them to keep coming back to you and the answer to that question is really very simple the reason why they're obsessed with you is because you have what they want and they have to be around you to get that out of you that's why they always have to be engaged with you that's why they constantly texting you that's why they constantly blowing up your phone the reason why is because you have what they want and what do they want they want supply they want their narcissistic supply that comes in the form of attention, validation, admiration maybe even money or place to stay just your acknowledgement of them they want to be seen they want to be heard so they need to be constantly in contact with you and it will seem like they are obsessed with you and i know it's not fun when you have this unwanted attention when they keep coming after you especially when you don't know why and that is why i had to make this video to make you aware of it so that maybe it can comfort you with that understanding of why they do what they do but yeah it really is that simple that's why they stalk and harass you that's why they won't leave you alone even after everything they've done to you and they still have the audacity to come back again the reason why is because you have what they want they don't care about what you're going through they don't care about how you feel remember they're self-absorbed that they lack empathy they only care about what they want they only care about their own self-interest and needs and that is why they keep coming back that is why they are obsessed with you because they are using you to fulfill those interests and needs and as i've said in past videos to make the narcissist obsessed with you all you have to do is have what they want but keep it at a distance away from them and then they will come chasing after it because like i said the reason why is because you have what they want remember they are self-absorbed that they lack empathy trust me if you did not have what a narcissist wants you would probably never hear from them again there would be no reason for them to contact you and you may think that you don't have anything but even just your attention that's something to them so in some ways you've always got what a narcissist wants even if it is just your attention attention is the most valuable currency in the world today it's more valuable than money that's why large businesses will pay large sums of money put your attention through advertising and promotion so value your time value your energy value your attention don't put your attention in the wrong place remember your attention is a form of currency so invest it in things that will happen with you except the trade go pass invest it in things that will be good for you invest it in things that will help you you know there's a lot of things these days that people invest their time energy and intention into and it's really not serving you and that's why you have to take some time to really examine where is your attention going what are you doing with your day what kind of conversations are you have with people what kind of things are you talking about and is that really productive is it building you up is it making you into a better person or is it breaking you down you really need to take some time to examine that just for some examples maybe you are watching certain tv shows maybe it's the cadashians i think i've mentioned that in a past video already so again maybe you're watching the cadashians and as we know it's all just drama shouting it's arguing is that serving you is that helping you is that making you feel more positive about your life probably not so you know what you've got to do you've got to switch it off or if you don't switch it off at least limit the time you spend consuming that type of content because you may not think it but it is having an effect in you it's changing your energy it's changing the way you go about things it's changing the way that you interact with the words so be aware of it sometimes whatever you're participating in whatever activity you're interested in maybe you need to just take some time take a step back take a deep breath in breathe out i think to yourself is this good for me is this serving me is this productive is this helpful need to ask yourself those questions and yeah the answer will be no for some things and you don't have to cut it off completely if you enjoy it i mean just limit your time but then some things you will find are good you will find that they are serving you they're helping you and yes of course spend more time doing those things if it's building you up if it's making you a better person and why not so yeah i mean and you know this relates to this so much because it's really about you know what what are you doing with your time you know are you having these meaningless conversations that are not benefiting you you're not talking about life money relationships these things are important but even just what you're doing right now you know you're watching me live on youtube and you know i'm hoping that this is helping you i'm hoping that this is benefiting you it's lifting you up it's making you feel good it's making you feel positive about yourself at least that's what i hope and i'd like to believe that it is because i think that these types of conversations are very important a lot of people don't talk about these things but i think it's important to have these conversations in life remember train going by i don't know if you can hear it again just out here at the beach the sun is now going down it's time for me to get something to eat maybe some italian food tonight and that's another thing as well examine what foods you are consuming it's the food that you are eating saving you is it making you healthier stronger happier more energy very important food sleep exercise these are very important things that you need to make sure that you are getting enough of it but remember the first step is the awareness if you have awareness of it you have awareness of what is serving you and what is not serving you you're already ahead of 99 percent of people in this world just by having that of course that is why i make these videos so that i can i can instill that awareness in you it's very important so yeah that's really it but today still haven't got nala with me yet she's still in malaysia i had some issues with the pet transfer company hopefully i will be able to sort that out soon and she will feature in one of my videos very soon i'm sure many of you are missing the nala right now and yeah i'm just hoping to bring her back it's been some time since you know as well and i do miss her a lot but yeah it's an important message and i would say it's one of my most important messages because it really all comes back to that awareness i mean that is everything in our lives it all starts with the awareness if you're not aware of something how can you change it and not just talking about things that may not be serving you but also things that are serving you if something is serving you you may want to spend more time doing it more time consuming it but of course there shall be a balance to everything everything should be in moderation you don't need to have that excessive anything because then that means you're missing out on something else that could be serving you as well so yeah some things to keep in mind awareness is everything it really is okay back to the car got the Audi now good car i've actually never never had this one before a6 it's quite fast fun car to drive yeah remember that awareness awareness is everything you need to have awareness of things that are serving you and especially things that are not serving you so then you can examine where you put your time and the effects that it is having on you that will improve your life more than anything it will improve your relationships it will improve everything in your life so yeah thank you all for joining me on another NARC survivor live video please give this video a thumbs up down below if you enjoyed it share your thoughts in the comment section share the video and for coaching you can book from my website it's NARC survivor the cody okay check out my instagram as well it's NARC survivor youtube and instagram i have new pictures and videos every day on there thank you all and i will talk to you in another one very soon