 Hey, what's up? Welcome back to my channel now. This is the first video you've ever seen on my channel I've uploaded over 500 videos at this point and Make sure you subscribe if you are a coach that's within sports of looking to grow your business This channel is for you. All right. I am dedicating. I've dedicated my life a lot of my life to help coaches and One thing that I wanted to share with you on today's video. This is a Little different than what I talk about but at this point like I have spent so much time so many hours talking to coaches from every Corner on the planet. I've talked to coaches that live in big cities I've coached taught the coaches that live in tiny towns in the middle of nowhere in Europe or in Africa or in Like the middle of America like I have talked to so many different coaches and Something that I've seen and what I do is I keep track of this sort of stuff something. I've seen is a lot of coaches have self-limiting beliefs about themselves about money about how far they can go with their business about You know all sorts of stuff about sales about marketing and and What I want to do here Right is I want to break down why you have self-limiting beliefs and How you can move through this because personally I've had many self-limiting beliefs And I still have some like I mean, I'm just gonna be perfectly honest with you There's there's still some things that I put over my head It's like a ceiling and I'm actively working to break out of those. So I'm not just showing you From different conversations. I've had with coaches I'm also talking about myself personally when I when I share this with you in this video and Really, there's three things that I look at About why you have self-limiting beliefs first all right top left It's gonna be based around How you were raised when you were a kid Right, that's the first thing a lot of times when I talk to coaches They'll they'll just come out and say yeah, like my family didn't grow up with money You know My dad never wanted me to start my own business. My mom think things that's a bad idea that I branch off on my own There's all there's all of these like childhood extensions Of how it was when you were younger things that you were told when you were younger things that you were told even when you're an adult and This is kind of my approach with with that, you know At the end of the day your family cares about you they want what's best for you, but I Really believe I can't get business advice from someone who doesn't have a business If someone is not willing to take the risk that I'm willing to take I should not listen to what they have to say No matter how much they love me All right, and that that's a very blunt way of looking at it, but I'm gonna give you another example if I want to just get absolutely jacked and yoked at the gym When I go do my search for a personal trainer Am I gonna pick the guy who's eating dominoes every night or am I gonna go pick the guy who's absolutely shredded the guy that I Want to look like Of course, I'm gonna look I want to get the guy who who I want to look like I'm gonna trust that person knows what they're talking about and when they tell me to eat XYZ during the week If I want to look like them. I'm gonna do it right, I Hope that makes sense. It's the exact same with business though You you have to get advice from people who've done it get advice from people who? Like can back up what they say That's very different than you know attaching yourself to this belief that oh, well, you know My family doesn't think I should do this or this is how they think about money like you are your own person right you are your own person you like yes, you should have values and Beliefs that you know your family has whether those are you know, right or wrong I'm not gonna say or judge you but when it comes to business You are your own person you get to make decisions however you want and your success is really your responsibility that that's just flat out It's not gonna be based around What you were told when you're nine years old and here's the thing I am guilty of this If you look like deep back into my videos on you on this YouTube channel, I talk about how Like a lot of people did hold me back at the beginning and I use that for fuel and motivation to drive my business forward and The thing is I attached myself too much to that and it wasn't till recently where I was like You know, I don't need to think about that anymore I don't need to think about the haters or the people who told me I was wrong when I started like that that doesn't serve me at all all right and What I want you to do is be able to look at your current situation Right and write down all the things that you're like man Like I can't believe I think that this way I can't believe I think this way or like why do I I think it's bad to make more money in my business Why do I think it's bad to charge more for my service? Why do I think it's bad to sell and market myself like that probably most of it comes from How you're raised right? I'm not gonna be your daddy or your papa. So I can't convince you to think a certain way Like it that's gonna come down to you and you have to be willing to change and that's the thing That I really want to hammer here before we talk about the next two is You have to be willing to change how you think how you operate if you want to have different results Otherwise, you're gonna be in that same comfort zone stuck forever And no one can get you out of that. There's there can't there's not a conference You can go to or watch some webinar that's gonna make you change how you believe Even if you buy someone's program, that's not gonna change how you believe like that's gonna come down to you You have to take action steps All right, and it's hard to take those action steps if you don't know what you're identifying Right, that's the first how you were raised second and You know, this is straight up like social media is unbelievably toxic for self-limiting beliefs and Here's why I'll give you two examples. So example number one is You might spend an hour or two hours a day on Facebook or Instagram. Everyone's posting their highlights. How cool they are You know what vacation they just went on How cool their kids are? It's all like positive in your face. Here's how much better I am than you right and Oftentimes what people do is they'll they'll see that and it'll be like well, I can never do that and So what they do is they automatically compare themselves to that current situation right and then you stay quiet and then you become envious and Then you place this cap on your head thinking well I can never do that like and you just start to get jealous all the time when you see others succeed right the second type of person what they do is They start to Follow certain people on social media right and These people on social media. They just try to show this lifestyle of big ball in big pimping Going on the yachts looking at the clear water and Fiji whatever it is and You you think that that success and That's not Right and for that person it might be right but for you watching that's that's ultimately Not what success looks like so it's this big mirage and you don't know it and You'll never know it Unless you just turn it off Right and this is why like I've been very intentional if you know me on a personal level you know this about me I have had zero Facebook post zero Instagram zero Twitter. I Only focus my intention on making these videos. I don't care who likes my videos. I don't care who comments Like I only care if coaches reach out to me and end up talking to me That's only how I can help right and at this point of over 500 videos and I spent a couple years on Instagram trying to like I Don't know I was I wasn't trying to impress people But I spent time trying to get a lot of people to watch what I was doing trying to get a lot of attention That just doesn't work and at the end of the day. That's not me like that's not me I don't I don't value attention and I got sucked into that though I was like, oh these people that I really admire are doing this So I'm gonna do it too and I got sucked into the trap and then it hit me in the face one day And I was like, why am I doing this? I need to stop doing this and then I completely stopped That's why I am like a ghost on the internet outside of these YouTube videos and the emails that I write and That to me is something you should turn completely off Right and the thing is is like if you can't match up to what someone else's lifestyle is You're always gonna have these self-limiting beliefs and those end up hurting you Because if you're like, oh, I can't get to that level then you feel like you'll never get to that level and that's on you All right, that's on you and instead what you should do is you should just try to Ultimately you should just try to have next year should be a little bit better than this year The year after that should be a little bit better because it's a game against yourself It's not against these social media gurus that try to show you the life Right, so turn off that stuff. It doesn't work. It does not help Right and it could motivate you for five minutes That person's not gonna be with you at six o'clock in the morning when you need to write your newsletter Right, so that is something if I am in your shoes, I would turn off I can tell you my business has done better since I haven't had social media. All right Lastly is your current environment now it's hard to like grow and succeed and Get to the next level in your business when your environment holds you back and Here's the thing like I know when you're watching this video. It's in November And what I'll tell you is like the picker you are with who you hang out with and who you spend time with the better your businesses and The less self-limiting beliefs you have So for example, if I hang out with five people who don't have businesses that doesn't mean they're bad people But like if I have something going on How am I going to be able to relate with that person? I can't like they won't know What it's like to have a business they won't know what it's like to have clients They won't know what it's like to Like market and sell so it's like it's an uncomfortable and weird conversation If the people I spend time with don't get it They don't understand me now if I spend time with five other people That have businesses they are in a position where like I know I can ask them questions and get quality advice And they come to me with the same thing. They're asking me questions. I Feel really good About going to that person and to ask the right questions And I know that there's there's really no self-limiting beliefs in those conversations Because I can see what they are doing in their business and they are raising the bar and they're showing me. Wow, that is possible right For example, I spoke with recently and it like and I know when I say this most coaches won't believe it when I say it But it's real a Couple of weeks ago. I spoke with someone who does a hundred thousand dollars a month they're not in the sports industry and They literally like they work like three hours a week Right. This person is a lot older. All right. They have a team. They have pieces in place and Like Going into that conversation and hearing that I Wasn't like oh man, like what did this person do wrong to get that like I wasn't even at all I was like, wow, that that is possible. This this guy is doing like that's that's something to strive for that's amazing Good for him. Like what can I learn from this guy versus? Oh, that's impossible There's no way I could do that and this is why I like your environment is so important and again Like I control my own environment as weird as that sounds that I know it sounds like I'm a huge control freak But it's like I'm not gonna go hang out with people who don't think I don't want to say don't think the same way I do but when it comes to self-limiting beliefs if they're not on the same level as me Then every time I spend time with them my self-limiting beliefs are going to get bigger and bigger Right. My comfort zone is going to get smaller and smaller Right and when you spend time with people who are like, no, no, no, this is possible or no, Ben. You can do that Right. Those are the people you want to spend time with right and this is why like I mean I've said this at nauseam on this channel for the last five six years You're really only as good as who you spend your time with and I think it's physically impossible. Seriously. I think it's physically impossible to Have a really successful business if you hang out with losers all the time and I also on the flip side I think it's really really difficult To have a business that fails if you hang out with five lions and winners and champs Like it's hard to fail if you spend time with those types of people Right and the cool thing is you get to decide who you spend your time with Hey, that's why for me. I mean I have a small circle of people I spend time with and Everybody else. I'm sorry Like I don't I don't spend a lot of quality time with those types of people and that's that's not me being arrogant It's it's me protecting my life and protecting my time Right. So I hope this helps you and I would tell you like I know it's one of my longer videos here I promise you if you start changing how you know what you believe in how you like Start to scrap the little things you heard when you're younger you start to eliminate social media and you change your environment Like there's no limit to what you can do Right and that that's what I'm here to tell you it's like I there's no limit on me with what I can achieve and What I can end up doing the next 20 30 40 50 years from now and it's the same with you Right, and I'm not gonna sit here and do it give a hurrah speech about why you need to be motivated, right? I'm not that guy, but I am telling you like You are putting those self-beliefs on yourself now if you're an adult Right, you can take you can remove those you can change your current circumstance. 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