 YouTube Tony Gaskins here let me make sure my internet is working a little slow on my end you know hold on real quick let me get this together didn't know if I was gonna come on here tonight just because um you know wasn't feeling all that little tired let my wife work me out yesterday and today and that was a mistake cuz she you know she thinks she a personal trainer she used to actually be a little trainer but um let her work my early the day and I'm still tired so I wasn't gonna make it on here but I need to do a bonus live cuz I didn't do one yesterday I normally do some on Wednesdays so won't do a bonus live hey everybody thank y'all for making it in Mama Tish one of the moderators okay y'all okay I'm glad you made it you've been missing okay somebody say tester what is that Mama Tish in there all right we got our first question we finna get going hey thank you for getting the woman's influence I appreciate that I'm often told I'm too independent is there such a thing and can it push a man away yeah there is such a thing and yes it can push a man away and what I mean by that is in the sense of I had a client years ago tell me a story about going with a man of her dreams and they went to a store and she bought a vacuum cleaner and she bought a CD you know that you put in the play music and she checked out she paid for it after she paid for it she grabbed the vacuum cleaner I mean she grabbed the CD no she grabbed the vacuum cleaner and gave the man the CD and it just upset him he was so hurt so upset about that hey Tony how long do you think it will take to become a successful life coach it took me about four years but it was a different day we didn't have all the social media that we have now coaches at the level that I'm at I've been doing in 13 years so coaches at the level that I'm at just coaching alone may make anywhere from 15 to 30,000 a month it ranges so it is a full-time living if you stick with it and you continue to build some coaches what make way more just because they charge a whole lot more and they do a lot more sessions me I only do two sessions a day two to four sessions a day and my fee my fee is half of what my market value is so I could earn more but I rather do do it the way I'm doing it a cool God bless you thank you Tony God bless thank you bless you bless you Ashley Beverly God bless you thank you do you think it would be a good idea to possibly move to a new location to have a better dating pool I am 26 years old you young enough to move you young enough to move it don't necessarily guarantee relationship success so I wouldn't make that the only reason you move if it's other if it's better job opportunities better city that make more sense I wouldn't move just to meet have a better dating pool but you young enough to move could say God bless you why do some men leave their child's mother after they have a baby together only for them to try to be with the child mother while they have a girlfriend what it really means is that he really doesn't want the responsibility the day-to-day responsibility of being a father and really doesn't want that woman as his main woman he really wasn't ready to settle down but he was doing the things that a settled down person does and you know it it backfire and then he want to go and find the woman that he really wants but want to keep the baby mom on the roster so that she maybe won't put him on child support so it's kind of just you know a game some men play now y'all make sure y'all put that hashtag Q in front of your question how do you politely turn down friends and associates when they ask for free coaching sessions to be honest with you if you're a new coach I wouldn't turn them down you know I would coach I would have one or two people that you coaching for free just so that you can you know be building Latoya God bless you thank you for that blessing Latoya just so that you could be ill it'll it'll help you actually so it's people that I get on the phone still today you know and I've been coaching professionally since 2007 so 13 years in it's people that I still coach for free today you know just get on for I just know more I met up some kind of way you know and so it keep you sharp and it's also like paying your ties it's like giving back so for the coaches that you coach for the people you coach for free that may end up blessing you with five clients you know hey Tony is touch your relationships a coaching niche um you could just put relationships and it's kind of understood that a person coming to you because something is off in their relationship so you could just select relationships on on my mentor dot life when you sign up you could just let relationships or love you know but yes it is a lane but you don't have to necessarily call it that Veronica God bless you during this quarantine I've decided to cut out my soul tie time to let God restore my soul and not go back thank you Tony hey bless you bless you bless you can you add college students as a topic on my mentor if it's not like send an email in to info at my mentor dot life and I'll let the developer know and and he'll shoot me an email and I'll let him know that's cool because I probably forget black diamond God bless you what Tony what does it mean when a man that you have been avoiding text your phone says he's reaching out because he has a peace offering it could mean anything but it sound like to me he just saying he wants to have closure and he wants to just kind of say his last piece speak his last piece and maybe offer just to be friends it more so sound like he won't be friends with benefits but you never know Sarah God bless your thoughts on age differences I'm talking to a man 12 years older I'm 26 he's 38 I'm a single mom and he has no kids I don't recommend it that's definitely a bit gamble I don't recommend anything over 10 years older than you really five years is the sweet spot so with 12 years what you run into is a man who think he your daddy and think he want he could re-raise you and think you don't know nothing because you so young you like a baby to him and then also gonna want to be daddy to your child and want to do things his way key Sean God bless you Tony what does it really mean when a man says if I can't have you no one will it really mean what it sound like how can no one else have you what the what do that mean okay that's what it means so what that means when you hear that you need to be leaving five minutes later you need to be gone cuz you stay there and you play with that he gonna make that that that'll be a self-fulfilling prophecy that'll be the last thing he say to me follows you hey Tony I have a guy friend he has stated he is not ready for a relationship I realized he shot his shot but I didn't take debate should I stop talking to him all together yes you should start talking to him all together if you want a relationship if you want a relationship never deal with a guy who says he's not ready for a relationship because what's gonna happen is you're gonna end up friends with benefits so I wouldn't I wouldn't deal with that does a man have to be financially stable before marriage that seems to be a thing in today's time excuse men who are 35 and older um it's an excuse that beyond which is excuse it's something men say to buy time because truthfully a man who wants marriage he wants to really build his financial life with a woman he wants to know that you're gonna be there on why he's on the grind while he's building he he's pursuing so if he already got it then you really don't he really don't need you and that should you get a LLC before you coach or get the course before well you definitely ought to take the course first now definitely ought to take the course now the last day is the day of the last day to get the course with the coupon code at the rate that it's at it's still gonna be available next month but it just gonna be worthless so and um it's a surprise what is worth so don't y'all tell nobody for those y'all who already signed up because it might be the change so don't tell nobody was worth but make sure you enter the coupon code my mentor what's the difference between dating gathering data and courtship well dating like what you say you just kind of talking y'all just friends you're just going on a date when when you start courting it's very similar but now it's really the man saying I'm interested in you I want to be with you and he starts leading with love my friend is separated from his wife he's 37 and the wife is 21 she wants to get back together but move to Georgia he left because she's immature and bad with money do you think he should try again nope that's exactly the problem right there that's what happened a lot of time when you dealing with somebody who in a whole another generation you know he old enough to be her daddy literally he 16 years older than her a lot of men start having had a first child at 16 so he is married to a daughter and that's what he get you know she a millennial she out here on there she on tiktok doing the revenge or the savage or the ravage or whatever they doing she out here Instagram stories and twerking it's like that you know he dating his daughter or married his daughter Sierra God bless you do you feel that women should be open with men about how many men they're dating opposed to making a man feel like he's the only one you're dating no don't ever tell a man how many men you date don't ever tell a man how many men you think when you tell him that it's all like it's all like war because now it's going to be a competition he let you thank you the only woman you let him think he's the only man because again y'all just dating y'all not in a relationship so when y'all become exclusive and he say will you be my girlfriend and you cut off all other men at that point anyways I watch a video about making a man earn you is there hope to start the relationship over again if you realize that too much happened too soon and we broke up due to it I don't want to chase no let it go let it go go about your business Tony my daughter's boyfriend got her on the bike got her on the bike okay maybe you mean her her back now see now I talk proper alien but I don't know if you mean real bike cuz you spelt like a bike okay alienating her from me what do I do he's making her think I'm not good for her life you're gonna have to step in there strong you're gonna have to step in there strong you're gonna have to let her know show my videos now when you say got her on the bike okay now one of you one of the people that think when I say stay off your bike that think I'll be talking about a bicycle versus stand off your bike when I say stay off your bike I'm saying back BACK but if you say about like he riding off somewhere you know I get what you're saying but um yeah remember I told you I heard a path to say alienation before or isolation before annihilation or isolation is annihilation um that's what he trying to do he getting them way out there so that she can't hear in it so nobody could hear her screams and you gotta let her know that and be very real with her Lorenzo God bless you the Hicko Lorenzo hot brother Tony where's your Chicago PD friend from cuz I'm feeling like he may live in my city but by way of somewhere else the guys here are savage and only want a woman to run and get on her back this guy live in Florida I'll talk to him today I'll talk to him today ask him some questions what we was talking about is the way women portray they self online and we was talking about like a woman you know twerking to one of them nasty songs and I was asking him does that remove her from being wife material if you see a woman twerking on her page to one of these nasty songs and he was he said he laughed about it he was like but he said let's put it like this that's not an example I would want my daughter to see and I said mm-hmm that's why I was trying to tell my client today Kiara God bless you part in her life why when I was dealing with nonsense from this guy everyone was cheering me on to work it out I moved on God is blessing me with much better and now the friends left who was encouraging the nonsense why I'm hurt well that show you that everybody don't want to see you happy everybody don't want to see you win and it's also God removing people out your life that need to be gone don't question that just thank God for that what's the coupon code the coupon code is my mentor and we have more people today that did not know how to apply the coupon code now y'all listen go on YouTube and YouTube how to apply a coupon code oh my lord is it that hard I mean one lady went to the site went to the life coach certification page you got to hit buy okay when you hit buy be you why then it goes to another page your final checkout page where you either log into your PayPal or you in a credit card information right there is where you click view account summary or you click have a coupon code the woman click buy again and then email in and say I didn't want the course I just was click I just was clicking buy cuz I wanted to see what the coupon was worth so we say you want to refund the difference no refund all of it I ain't mean to do that I retire today I retired I'm finna take the course down I say what and this other thing all these videos I do if you don't put the coupon code in you need to be right then and say hey miss gas that's a blessing you know all the videos you doing that's a blessing just keep I made a mistake then put coupon code in a so some people will say look we'll add more courses to your account but I guess I said Lord come on now y'all ain't ever checked out on line Darnel God bless you now I'm a new my mentor that life coach and I'm thankful for the opportunity this platform is awesome tone a God bless you Darnel a God bless you now y'all go look up Darnel that's a Darnel y'all go look up Darnel now on my mentor somebody book a session with Darnel it sounds like a brother but I don't know if that's a woman because sometimes a woman ain't gonna be Darnel too now y'all go find Darnel Coco God bless you why do men good and bad swear by the bro code even when it's toxic like turning their heads when their friends are wrong example cheating dead beat ism okay new what new word that dead beat ism etc they never hold each other accountable that's a question right there are the ages you hear me Coco that's a question right there if we could get the answer to that question if we could get the answer to that question we will that's one answer will create world peace you hear me but I honest I don't get it you know I don't get it I don't get I feel like at some point a man get tired of seeing your own kind like this another human this a woman this a part of the human race like these women are valuable to the reproduction of the world to the stability of the world to the growth and you know the health of the world of society you would think that you'll get to a point where you say we need these women and we need them to be healthy whole confident nurtured and blessed so that they could help us raise these children you would thank me and I think about that but for some reason it just it just don't click I don't know what it is now I miss somebody here on Britney Moses I love your videos thank you Britain God bless I learn a lot and get lots of laughs thank you for all the advice to us ladies a God bless you black diamond Tony I've come to the realization that we are making it too easy for me and we really have to apply pressure a you ain't telling no lie you said you said a mouthful listen to me Natasha Stalk I bless you Natasha I'll be seeing your name God bless you just want the drop of blessing Jacqueline God bless you now put on a lie hi Tony I'm 25 years old and a pastor's daughter okay I read a little excerpt from a woman's influence to my dad and he said you better listen to that man he knows what he's talking about I read the book twice a God bless you and tell rev I said what's up now tell rev I said thank you for that a real them stamp me tell rev I said thank you Sheila mill God bless you now put on a lie thank you for your last few videos on X's they were confirmation to what God dropped in my spirit be blessed and say thank you thank you Tony my friend has a boyfriend my friend has a boyfriend has a male friend who contacts her and always talks down to her but is really interested in her love life tried to date it didn't work out what is his problem everything under the sun everything under the sun he just you know a mess he's just how he's still hurting from childhood that's all she need to run your friend ought to be smarter than that your friend ought to be smart in that by a bottle of baby powder and just enjoy what to do with it she need to slap herself in the face with a handful of baby powder so and every birthday say love I'm gonna keep give you a thing of baby powder till you leave this sorry friend alone on somebody said I miss Candice question I don't know what can this hat now wave black Queen God bless you could you possibly do a video on men who have mommy issues who have been their mother emotional husbands let me see if I can remember that one I need my little little card for write down these video topics especially when y'all send a blessing with it but y'all see the lady who sent a blessing the other day I did her video the next day so that when y'all send that blessing with it that let me know y'all serious about that thing now somebody said I miss somebody question hey Ty Jones God bless you Ty Jones God bless you now hold on now I wonder was that a paid question I missed because if it feels fired all they probably let it disappear I see Natasha right now Ty Jones God blessing Brittany Cocoa yes somebody said I missed somebody question but I don't see nobody Candice okay I see Candice right here now I told y'all when y'all come in with them amounts right there you too get your own up out of there I don't know why they do y'all like that God bless you Candice is it a rare flag if a guy keeps buying you things earlier in the courting phase like shoes and clothes we have been dating for a month you know what he might think a woman could be bought and to be honest with you a lot of women can't be bought so you know I'll tell you that down so it ain't necessarily a rare flag but you just got to make sure he don't start expecting something in return for what he's doing you need God bless you how do you how do men feel about ghosting he cheated she's pregnant I just disappeared we were together for one year I feel like damage was done no need to talk yeah he probably don't like it but he expected probably don't like it but he expected you you did the right thing nothing to talk about go about your business me Parker God bless you now what in their life at what stage in a relationship do you make major changes example moving to a different state around a year mark around that after after you don't went 12 12 months it's time to really start talking about that thing if y'all or if you get engaged and it feels strong now if you get engaged and you in a struggle engagement you got a struggle fiance stay where you at but if you got a blessed and bountiful and abundant and you happy fiance then that's when y'all can see who can up and move and it should be the person with the least to lose who ain't really leaving that much behind in the city they in it only got it necessarily be the woman moved to the man the man who moved to you if the man got less to leave behind a one figures already married but separated one year I refuse to settle I feel a lot of his issues in our marriage stem from verbal damage from mother and father being absent consistent trying to get back home what to do well see that's marriage so it's not dating so if it's only a second chance marriage is worth a second chance as long as it's not you know too serious of that that you dealing with a b u s e as long as it's not too serious then marriage is worth a second chance after I walk the way he texts for not responding to your text you ignore my existence wanted to work something out but since we haven't been able to make it happen let's not stress it why I don't belong fully understand that what doesn't know but just sound like an ego hurt sound like his feelings hurt but you know that's not too deep how does a woman prevent a Jesuit William situation how can a woman tell if she's the whole me down wife or supportive to her husband that that's a good situation now now who she asking about is the brother who got up at the BT Awards I think it was and gave a speech and he is a light-skinned brother for those you can't really picture him sometimes you remember a person face and I think he engraves anatomy see somebody say who just when I think he engraves anatomy or somebody TV show and now his wife you know strong woman they went through a divorce and then he got in a new relationship with a new woman who you know looked totally different than his wife so it ain't like he had that was his type so we can't really understand why he left his wife we don't know the behind the scenes okay but it's hard to tell when you that type of woman and a lot of time which I'll have to realize you kind of got to ask yourself you know is this your type like the this man like you and then you got to ask yourself what is he bringing to the table what you bring into the table so if you pay and bill so he could chase his fantasy chase his dream you could very well be a hold me down and then when he get on his feet then he gonna leave you so you should never be bringing the table to the table and the man bringing a fork and an appetite if he worked he should be working just like you he should be making what you're making or more or very close to it and he should be just as ambitious you shouldn't have to carry him so he could pursue his dreams and he living off your hard-earned income that's typically when you'll hold me down fitness mom queens and curls question God bless you when a man that you are interested in likes a lot of your pics on IG should I DM him away him wait on him don't ever approach a man wait on him don't ever approach a man he liking you so that you could see him and so that you know he's watching and that mean he just getting you ready and that he coming he gonna come in the DM or he may want to see if you gonna DM him but if you DM him then that mean you is loose booty 901 and he's gonna see you differently so he trying to see if you loose but if you wait he gonna DM you if he's available or he might DM you and be taken out so you got to be careful black diamond God bless you why do men continue to date knowing they aren't healed from their past and end up hurting the future woman vice versa men and women you know a lot of things don't make sense black down a lot of things don't make sense okay a lot of things don't make sense but a man doing that the reason why men date when it hurt is because he using the next woman as his band-aid same thing with a woman I don't coach women who they break up with a man in the next week they're like Tony I need a boyfriend I'm like you ain't gonna give yourself time to heal you know you just got punched in the eye last week yeah I still got color around it like give yourself some time to heal like have you read a book have you gone to a seminar like I need a man I need a man and then men they're on this show to talk about it like that but they just go get the next woman and the next person is the band-aid now do you notice me my wife was just talking about this on our date now we had our date earlier today so I was able to do this at nine got home 850 and let y'all know what 852 I was coming on live okay me and wife went on the date riding around the city you know in this hill lockdown but we were just talking about I said ain't it something how these women get pregnant on the rebound you know how like Cassie left did it the next thing you know boom pregnant and then somebody up praying right now that we just seen somebody up praying and just left a relationship not too long ago oh Iggazalea Iggazalea was with the basketball player Nick young and then now she having somebody baby I'm like boy y'all don't take no time door y'all get right to the next and get hopped right on the pole and get inseminated and ready to go so that's what happens a lot of people use the next situation as a rebound as a band-aid and end up getting caught up Tina Carson God bless your high Tony I'm a coach on my mentor I haven't booked my first client yet but I look forward to it I purchase your book a woman's influence thanks for being a blessing to me now somebody find Tina on my mentor dot life now and book Tina session and God bless your Tina thank you for getting the book and make sure you got a good headshot on there Tina gotta have a good headshot I see some people on there got pictures and they taking a selfie in their car you know some people picture blur you can't see the face so it's like anybody gonna spend a hard-earned money if they can't look at you so make sure you got a good headshot and write three blog posts write three blog posts I'm special God bless you thank you boy I didn't like met a guy today on my walk we talked about the Bible it was a good conversation we exchanged numbers should I wait for him to contact me first is it okay to send him a link to a pastor I think he would like now that's an interesting night y'all using the Lord as a icebreaker now that's that's it now that's a little new to me okay I'm not you really used to people using the Lord as a icebreaker that's a little new to me but I would wait on the man to contact you wait on him to contact you because he could have been out there on the run and got a girlfriend at the house you know so you contacted him and she looking at the phone like what's going on he got you in the phone as Bobby so wait on him to contact you and see if he's still talking about the Lord or if he's talking about you getting on your bike so wait on him now wait on him and don't get too gung-ho about this hill talk about the Lord now because a lot of men talk about the Lord talk about the Bible just to drop your guards so don't get caught up trying to exchange Bible notes from Bible study and sending links about pastors that many trying to hear about that that man trying to hear about that so don't don't don't get your feelings going like oh yes I was on walking met and met the God sent man let him bring up the Lord next time and then what you do is show him that you really walk with the Lord by keeping your legs closed um DD God bless you dated for eight months then got engaged had history of drinking problem he's willing to take counseling for drinking how long after improvement should we get married you won't have to think on that one now you won't have to take your time on that one do not rush that one you hear me do not rush that one because one thing when somebody got a vice like that is you verse that vice and that vice do some for him that you can't do for him so you got to be very careful with that make sure he get that counseling and then make sure he could go a good long period of time you know six months to 12 months clean sober and what I've been noticing what I've been hearing a lot of lately is a lot of these men getting women married they marry you and in that first week or second week they showing they behind they showing they behind and the woman is feeling stuck because she just sent out all the invitations and right now in the midst of this year 19 you have to send out invitations for them to watch your own zoom but women sent out invitation you didn't pay all this food you don't have all these dances so you did all of this everybody happy for you clapping for you you laughing at your haters who ain't married yet and then as soon as they demand marry you he got you in the lock this hill and then you feeling stuck because you like wow I just told all my friends and family about this you know man how amazing he was and that's what me and doing today now so be careful Jack on God bless are you thinking of hosting a seminar in Houston Texas when this here is anytime in the future I would love to go God bless your family no Jack I don't know if I'm gonna be going back out live contrary to what y'all president saying that the people saying this thing gonna be round and it's gonna pop back up in the fall so I'm being small groups my relationship seminars sometimes those have 300 400 700 people in them so with all this shaking hands and all that coughing somebody coughing out and then cough that 19 in the air and I'm up there on the stage inhaling I'm gonna be virtual I'm gonna be right here doing these right here so what I may do is do some live teachings to where I'm talking to where I'm teaching a lesson versus answering questions but it just so many questions as y'all can see I really don't be wanting to just get on here and just talk I rather talk about what you want to hear about instead of me just talking on the topic like I do every day on my video J Bella God bless you my fiance leaves the house without telling me where he's going he'll say he's going to the car real quick and going to the store but he's gone for hours he always has an answer until after he gets home or if I text him J Bella you heard that you heard what I said to you just sit there in silence for a little bit J Bella and get your answer come on now come on now come on now J Bella come on come on now come on now that need to be your ex fiance your fiance your fiance cheat on you you hear me your fiance cheating on you with everything up the screen around the corner you hit me hey you need to come up with some new plan if y'all got a date you need to be canceling that date ain't no way in the world a man gonna leave and not tell you where he going to be gone for hours what are you doing working on his car what is he doing Cassinia God bless you now now where's PLN PLN where is that at hello Tony I found this channel by accident and I just want to thank you you speak to every culture reading from Poland okay Poland okay God bless you now Cassinia God bless you and our geography class where I went in school was not the best so I couldn't tell you well pulling that but I so thank you for where you at and for the blessing that you sin God bless you see panacea hi Tony just moved and a man I used to talk to live here I have a nonprofit and want to have a toy giveaway he is involved in the community do I contact him now you that's between you and God's sister you gonna have to really ask yourself do you really want his help because he involved in the community or do you want to rekindle what y'all used to have and use your nonprofit as the way in so that's something you got to be honest with yourself about okay but it's other people active in the community you can reach out to if you don't want to rekindle or start a soul time why see God bless you baby that it got me thinking I'm ungrateful he bought me food Victoria's Secret Shoes nice dinner for my b-day won't commit commit I told him I just want him to commit and love me am I wrong feeling guilty and sad you wrong for wasting your time and waiting waiting around on him that's what you wrong for you know don't don't be begging a man to commit to you if he don't want you if a man don't want you you shouldn't want him you can't want somebody that don't want you sister so you got to go on about your business T apple God bless you somebody say is the self love retreat and still on yeah cuz that's not till August and that's a small group that's that's under 50 people that's a small group neat good evening Tony watch you all the time God bless you thank you for that though thank you Jocelyn God bless you thank you Tony bless you now I feel like I miss somebody up down who was up there in the VIP line feel like I miss somebody yeah but you got to let that man go when a man don't want you go on about your business go on about your business you cannot want somebody that does not want you Beverly bless you bless you I see you're blessing right there I have missed that man this thing going fast on me now y'all got to forgive me Sheila Johnson I see it say you retracted your message I don't know what that means did a charge bite and did a charge back on me already can you speak on how men view abuse of women my friend thinks she can hit her husband and he shouldn't retaliate and should forgive her because women are emotional all right now coach Chris you need to talk to your friend because one day she's gonna be the hit that man the wrong way because it's something when you can hit somebody they expected it's coming one day she's gonna be done caught them see how I caught myself in that net one day she gonna catch in the wrong way and before he know it she gonna be flying through the aisle so you need to talk to her and let her know you know I remember my daddy taught my sister that when we were growing up she hit my head up back and she wouldn't tell on me and my daddy say listen daughter don't ever hit nobody and get mad if they hit you back harder so you got you better talk to her bevel okay I see your question here I left my husband because he has an attachment to his ex but he still keeps asking me for help you left your husband cuz he was attached to his ass wow he got married and still was attached to it okay you got it norm you got it normal belly let them ask you for help and that's the thing what a lot of time y'all don't realize is that sometimes a lot of time y'all don't realize what the thing is is sometimes a man will see you as a helper you know a man to see you is you know somebody who he just can go to for help so you play that role but then he may want her as his woman and so a lot of time the man will try to fill out a roster he got the woman that's the care person he got the woman that's the money person he got the woman that's the nurture got the woman that's the cook and a lot of time women let all them roles be there and they'll play in them roles Stephanie Lopez God bless your height Tony caught my sister's man cheating in 2015 they're still together with three kids not married she's awake on military orders I watched the kids sometimes lost his job gets high am I wrong to question his motives went away you're not wrong to question the motive but you just wasting your brain energy you could be reading a book why you question his motives is she with him and she know what she got she knows she got a dog she know he get high she knows she out there working paying the bill he didn't lose his job he quit his job and said he lost his job so so he could live off her military money she knows she got and it's like if you tell her the truth about him she'll be them cut you off and now she don't have no ally so that's sometimes you kind of got to speak to people you know but let them go through what they going through and and support them through it and let them know and ask some questions do you really think this is what you want do you really think this is the best thing for you you know you just ask questions to see what their answers are sometimes they may let you know that they won't out and they need help and don't know how to get out and then that's when you know it's your time to really help her Carmelita God bless you hello brother Tony I bought a few of your books what daddy never told his little girl was one of them is it appropriate for my ten year old dog no it's not appropriate for your ten-year-old daughter see what daddy them told a little girl is not talking about a little girl is talking about a grown woman who her daddy didn't tell her what he should have told her while he was raising her so that's what they're talking about but new your ten-year-old to be she'll be a mommy what is this you'll be enough she'll be at the school talking to the teacher yeah my mom gave me a book and it said it was talking about 69 and I was wondering what is that I just learned math you know not that that's in there but it's really it's grown folks information in there and so definitely read that read that that she probably not ready for that till 16 and that'll be you put it in your words kai God bless you hi a guy I was seeing didn't contact me for three weeks okay he sent a text apologizing he then texts this morning asking how I was doing I text if you really cared you would be calling me and not texting he never called was I wrong no you weren't wrong but you need to let that be your last text see don't jump bad and then be back talking to him tomorrow you see what I mean so you didn't jump bad now now let that be your last text gone about your business if a man trying to call himself courting you and don't reach out to you for three weeks he don't want you he don't want you he in a whole another situation he got a whole nother woman so gone about your business now you didn't text that right there don't go to feeling sorry for him tomorrow and say hey I apologize for the way I responded I shouldn't have did that and that's what y'all be doing and then the man lose all respect for you right now he respect you he like whoa okay the woman here strong the Phoenix God bless you now the Phoenix on Cartel Turner to dog a fitness mom glad you saw that on that $2 question cuz even to dog what they put them in in the chat so I don't see that cuz y'all see the moderators checking people and keeping them in order so all them everything filling up in there should a woman pursue a man if she likes him now we don't answer this question three times tonight okay we didn't answer this question three times tonight okay y'all trying to be unemotionally intelligent absolutely not never pursue a man a woman pursuing a man is like a gazelle walking up to a lion that's what I need y'all to understand I don't care who's who out here telling y'all that I remember when I was watching me now matchmaker I say hi she a matchmaker ain't got no husband she told a woman to go in the bar walk up to the man and put your hand on his shoulder I said Lord this is wrong what reality TV right here these people on TV and don't know what they talking about the woman told the woman to go in the bar walk up to the man and put her hand on the man's shoulder that's like a gazelle walking up to a lion you know what a lion eat for lunch gazelles a woman should never approach a man because the man is the one who got to get on one knee and propose so if he the one got to get on one knee and propose he need to be one doing the pursuing so that you know he sees you as a wife when you pursue a man you don't know how he see you he could see you like a meal ticket he could see you like lunch but you think you going up there cuz you like him guess what he don't like you because he already saw you he know you exist and he didn't approach you cuz he don't want you or because he taken but when you walk up there to him he said oh okay since you coming over here all right I'm finna gonna knock you right on off since you want to come over here then I'm gonna go about my business so he will take what you giving him and then go get who he won't because a man always pursues what he wants that's why you see me and becoming being now me and now worry now because a man gonna pursue what he won't you ain't got to approach a man if he want you understand me now listen to me now Kaili God bless you my child father sister called me family and invited me over to stay would I go still called me family if you got no new man if you ain't got no new man and you know ain't nothing wrong with going over there but if you got you if you got a little situation you working on you know because she could be put up by her brother the call you over there they keep you stuck to keep you in a family situation going on so that you can't have nobody else knew so when you cut off the man you got to cut off his family too because it's not gonna be a man that want to be with you that if you still cool with your ex family and you hanging out with them so it just depends on if you happy being single and you cool you looking for nobody you ready for nothing and you and her gonna kick it in you know it's a personal choice but it's gonna eventually cost you something you gonna have to come to a fork in the road to make a God bless you I missed the part about not dating with a child under five I have a three-year-old should I stop dating if so why okay just sort of the video um it's not necessarily that you shouldn't be dating but you shouldn't be introducing nobody to your child you shouldn't be having nobody in your house around your child they shouldn't be spending no night you shouldn't be in no relationship but you can have your child and your child with your mama you know why you out on the date that's different but you want to make sure that your child is fully confident and well-spoken before you bring somebody around them because a lot of people be doing stuff and if your child can't speak for their self articulately and understand the difference between good touch and bad touch then you don't need to have nobody around your child Kakra God bless you rekindled with a guy I was dating I realized day one of hanging out that he hasn't changed so I told him I won't be seeing him again and that he needs to grow up is it okay to say that to a man well you didn't say it nah you said nah it wasn't okay but yes okay you spoke your mind you call them out of name you can call them you know anything other than a child of God so you do nothing wrong you got to speak your mind let me know what you feel on rainbow leave more God bless you now rainbow on multiple occasions yeah I don't know what that rainbow means that's something new from tiktok or something I caught my ex cruising for opposite sex in public here's my ex for many reasons but he keeps my family and friends on his social media and refused to remove them in the past okay all right all right I don't know if that was a question but I tell you what you gonna have to tell your family to remove him all right and you gonna have to stop worrying about your ex I did a video yesterday or the day before about your ex you need to watch that video and sit with that video okay J Bella God bless you how can I get him to confess to cheating without no evidence it ain't it ain't gonna work it's not gonna work he ain't gonna confess to that and if he do confess to it that mean he done with you anyways he don't want to be with you he'll care about what you know so if he do confess you need to be gone anyways but if you know he cheated but you don't have evidence but you know he cheated why you still with him but you playing yourself because he already know you know so you playing yourself so you got to sit down with yourself on that one got talk to yourself on that one Tatum Swift God bless you hi Tony it's a guy that reconnected with me we never actually dated I told him I'm not ready to date due to a recent two month breakup he contacts daily is this okay being that I'm not ready to date if you not ready to date and he reconnected that mean you really like him the first time y'all connected now he done reconnected and the signal still weak because you saying you need time to heal from a recent two month breakup so what that means is he's not your husband because see when you meet your husband it don't matter what you them been through just looking him in his eyes gonna wipe away all the pain you're gonna see healing in his face in his eyes you gonna feel healing in his voice so when you meet a man and you able to tell that man I don't want to date you right now because I'm healing what that mean is that's not your husband so you need to keep going anyway because you'll be wasting your time to be dealing with Danny S. God bless your thoughts on a grown man getting high every day we like addicted blames it on his childhood slash anxiety when I address it almost three years of trying to help him with his lifestyle stay distant huh distant you need to be all the way gone Danny you need to be all the way gone like I say you cannot go up against a man vice you ain't gonna ever be the man vice whatever that man doing what his vice is you're gonna lose every day and twice on Sunday so if that's what he on and you're not on that if you don't smoke too you should have been gone you didn't waste it three years of your life soon as you find out that's what hit that's what his thing was and that's not your thing every day after that you don't waste it you can't help a man change because you staying what's gonna help him change is when you leave because when you stay you are reinforcing the behavior Jasmine God bless your point in your life why don't know life Lord let me get this one here because it 499 I'll be gone this question is for glam rocks she wants to know if being too blunt can affect her ability to be a life coach boss lady God bless you now God bless you um glam rock one of the moderators now glam rocks now you know I'm up here trying to get this VIP line together now but yes being too blunt can affect you until you get to a position where you could be blunt you know when I when I first started out being blunt you can't really do that you kind of got to ask questions get people to answer their own questions and people start to hear how stupid they sound when they answering their own questions so so in coaching what you got to do is you ask the next question that's gonna have them give the answer that you know or that you want them to hear so he's cheated on you three times and you've never cheated on him and you're wondering if you should stay is did I hear you correctly well yep well actually now that you just said it like that you know what I know I feel stupid I don't even know why I'm on this call you know what I know what I need to do I know what I need to do and so there you didn't even have to say nothing to them you just asked the next question that led them right to the answer that's how you life coach okay I'm trying to tell you now me at the position that I'm in in my life today because I don't built my brand when I get on the phone the client know what to expect they know when I finish talking to you you gonna cry in the car because I'm gonna get to your blood rock you hear me so they expecting that if they don't have a body of work from you on YouTube or what have you then you got to maneuver in a different way Alayna see God bless you God bless you poor little life in your dating correctly video you say when exclusive or engaged to continue living separately no sleeping together pay your own bills etc. till marriage but other women say for that they can stay single on the market not have said and have different men pay the bills okay Alayna I see you've been listening to a loose booty 901 on YouTube so if a woman tell you that if she not gonna live with a man and not gonna sleep with them she can stay single and on the market and have different men pay her bills that's loose booty 901 and so a lot of them on here on YouTube making video trying to teach women how to be thoughts and how to be flipped and tossed and passed around but you're not going to be having me and pay your bills and he ain't getting them from it if he paying your bills he gonna he gonna get some in return or that's gonna be the last bill he pay so to date correctly means you are independent you are independent until you're interdependent you interdependent in marriage you don't expect nothing from a man but love time and respect before marriage don't expect no money because that's not your husband don't you shouldn't be in a position where you need a man to help you pay bills if you need a man to help you pay bills before he your husband then you'll need to be dating you need to be working on your bag you need to be getting your grind up still to worry about a man see that's the thing like my grandma used to say give me what got you here what mean give me meaning have your hand out begging is what got you to the place you in and anything a man pay for he gonna feel like he own so you need to come with your own so that he don't feel like he own you but all these loose booty women out here running a mouth on line trying to make money off of some YouTube ads and giving out the bad advice because they've been thought of body all their life and they have not confronted their pain so they teaching women how to operate from a Jezebel spirit instead of teaching women how to have character and class and integrity and and how your own and then you come into a relationship and you end up interdependent and then that man your husband could say a you could sit down now so understand that right done and some of y'all question about this fire cuz I had to go on tell along on that one now yeah that Canadian 279 that ain't gonna last I know that couldn't disappear in the chat you too finna get you right on up out of the a forgive my seed down there but I got this one right here in my face on drill I just want to say you're very informative and honest I appreciate that also you're entertaining bless you your voice keep it coming a God bless it God bless you on drill pull out in the light now Lord Kimberly P can you explain and give an example of a grown man view on general privacy versus secrecy God bless now see privacy a grown man who's serious about you he ain't really worried about privacy privacy really mean when you not married don't be checking his phone secrecy is when he don't tell nobody that he with you so that's the difference but a grown man who's serious about marriage once he feel like you his wife that may be the six month mark maybe the 12 month mark he gonna start posting online cuz he's serious about you he gonna keep your secret oh three Clary God bless you now I've had several men tell me that I don't seem interested enough in them because I don't reach out to them first however you say women shouldn't reach out to a man first what are your thoughts well that's just cuz a man trying to get you he on here listen to the men on the movements on the midtown and in red pill all these movements he listen to these men and so he want you to flip you on your bike he want you to come in in a weak position he want you to be broke down he want you to need him he want you to pursue him cuz that mean you not thirsty that mean you dehydrated and you need a gatorade so that's the place he want you to be in so that you need him for life and you need him for oxygen so when he say that that's a grown boy they ain't no grown man that's a grown boy Nika Mac God bless is it possible to receive a copy of your life coaching certificate course from four years ago if so is it possible to certify as a life coach after completion email support at Tony gaskin.com Nika God bless you email support at Tony gas.com and so you can write your whole question I see what you're saying but if you took the course already if we could verify that you took it cuz four years ago we used to have to have a payment plan and some of y'all used to default on your payment plan and I just ain't feel like being a bill collector but if we could verify that you took the course and finish your payments then yeah we could issue a new certificate but if we can't do that then you probably gonna have to do it over but it's not expensive it's not that expensive Renee Flaggett God bless you I appreciate you a God now some of y'all questions I missed it now I'm gonna tell you that now it's all two of them so I'm gonna have to go through this chat and scroll up later Heat TV God bless you can a good man who did not have a good relationship with his father growing up did not see healthy love at home and who has little experience with women ever truly understand and appreciate the value of a quality woman yes it is possible but is it probable probably not but it is possible MJ Cooper God bless you thanks Tony you help me focus every day bless MJ Tara day so what you got to realize about that sometimes a man could want to be the opposite of what his dad was and he knows how to treat a woman cuz how you treat somebody in human decency that's common sense so a man know how to treat a woman he just chooses if he want to operate from his childhood pain and use that as an excuse or if he wants to create a new legacy and be better than his father was and so he make a choice Tara day God bless your hi Tony I just want to say thank you God bless you and your family you help me get out of a volatile relationship save me from a grown boy a God bless it up Renee flesh I saw you God bless you Renee Coco Chanel okay and take the woman whole name God bless you X always brought up how pricey something was when I wanted something he had or he referred me to something example don't think it's just $10 it's a little pricey though tease me about not having iPhone all the time just to break you down a man I do that to break you down to make you feel inadequate make you feel like you need him that's all that is just a mind trick y'all be knowing the answer y'all be asked about a I appreciate y'all asking I appreciate the blessing you know that you sent it winning now y'all know the answer now Chris did your own God bless you hello Tony when you first meet a guy met a guy and or you are dating and the guy asked what are you looking for some of y'all already know this answer y'all never heard me answer this what should be the response I'm looking for a relationship to be married nope you tell him I know it when I see it I don't I know it when I see it that's what you tell him because when a man asked you what you're looking for and you tell him that's when he finna go in he finna be Denzel Washington you hear me he finna play that role to a T King Kong ain't got nothing on me he finna be in that relationship just acting doing everything he could do and he gonna give you exactly what you say you're looking for and then when he give you that and you don't get him what he thought he was gonna get and he gonna say man are you doing it why you ain't doing I'm everything you said you wanted but that's why you were doing it um barbs God bless you just want to bless you you have been a true light and bless you and your family a God bless you a y'all hold on a second here and let me see if I could find them um for do give me to a God bless you and forgive me if I said your name wrong bless you for that blessing now but it looked like it said for do give me to God bless you now let me see Kakra God bless you can you speak on a woman with princess syndrome now that's somebody else turn okay so I got my terms but if it ain't my term I don't know what it mean so you would really have to ask the person who made that that up or what that mean because I've never heard of it then I tell you people make up terms I make up my own and people make up their own so I don't I've never heard of princess syndrome I can kind of guess what it mean but I don't want to lead you astray I only talk about what I know about for do give okay I did have your name right now I see God bless a guy watches all my moves but has yet to make a move he's in med school so I just watch him too been knowing him since I was 16 what to do don't do nothing don't do nothing and stop watching him start watching somebody else because he been knowing you since 16 he'll want you if you've been knowing since 10 he'll want you so so don't don't don't worry about stop watching share thank you for helping somebody get their question in here now from Christina what is the right time to have intercourse if a woman is not waiting for marriage what's the I'll tell you this right here if you're not waiting for marriage you're on the wrong page because I'm say sanctified and hold a go feel so I can't tell you when to sleep with a man before marriage because I don't condone that I made that mistake I got the soul tired to prove it you hear me but the Lord renewed me so I can't give you a time to sleep with a man because I'm say sanctified and hold a go feel okay so I can't give advice that's contrary to the word of God not but if you're going to do what you want to do then hey that's up to you but that ain't something you know I didn't try to coach people living in sin and then my Christians get on I cannot believe you man of God you should have not told her that she could be living with that man because I remember I got a question one time a lady said you know I'm living with my boyfriend or what have you and we sleeping together and I wanted to know if I'm wrong and I was trying to explain to her the sin is not living together people think shacking up mean living together shacking up mean you in fornication that's what shacking up is you could be you in fornication if y'all living together y'all ain't sleeping together that mean that y'all roommates so it ain't a sin to live together it's not smart because you put an undue temptation unnecessary temptation on yourself but the sin is not living together the sin is being in fornication you sleeping together before marriage so yeah I can't I can't give you no timeline on that one because I'll be honest with you anything before marriage it ain't safe even when people who don't wait until marriage is still sometimes don't work out so understand that doesn't it ain't safe so it ain't really about sleeping with somebody it's about evaluating their heart their character their integrity how they treat the waitress at at the restaurant how they talk to people okay reader I find your question right here from Canada God bless you broke up asked for my money back 1k was I wrong now you weren't wrong what but you were wrong to give it to him you should never never never listen to me now y'all listen to me now don't ever give a man money never money that you can't afford to lose so go on about your business because you ask for that 1k keep a connection and keep a tie just just say I paid 1k for a relationship lesson when I could have went to Tony guys in the academy dot com and for $47 took the whole school now you're gonna pay 1k from a for a lesson from a grown boy you could have took a life coach certification two times you see what I'm saying don't ever give a man money paradigm princess god bless you now your question disappeared so see I'm trying to get back to him just wanted to say thank you to Cherie for the example she is through your stories I thought I was weird but now know my standards are worth a god bless you keep them standards Tiffany or I found your question too see I'm finding all questions that disappeared now you too don't like them 499 questions they they they delete them hey Tony does birds of a feather flock together go for men as well example a laid back man having a wild boy as a best friend uh that's personalities see birds of a feather really mean what you do because see you're gonna have turkeys they got all the same feather but it's one wild turkey and it's one calm turkey but they still birds of a feather so it come down to what you do see a turkey ain't gonna hang with an eagle so the thing is is I can have a loud wild guy but he could be a faithful man and a Christian you see what I'm saying but he's just loud you feel me but then if I got a loud guy friend and he cheat on his wife now he a bird of a different feather and you're gonna be like what you be around goddess faithful god bless you now I tried to scroll up there I scrolled up long as I could scroll up and uh I also don't know if I got everybody if voice influence hi everyone please hit the like button we're being fed wisdom thanks Tony hey god bless you now yeah people will be on here and don't think twice about that like button you hit me but it don't matter to me honestly I know a lot of YouTube say that a hit smash the like button and hit the subscribe button I don't care what you do just get the message I don't care about all that algorithm stuff I'm gonna do what I do and god got me broke off the engagement with ministry partner but everyone thinks we're a couple he says don't worry what they think and persist coming to church and calling me listen if you broke it off then you need to make it known so tomorrow your morning post need to be this single life is such a blessing I thank the Lord for being single and at peace like Apostle Paul that need to be your post tomorrow and you need to cut him all the way off don't play with it when you cut somebody off don't play with it go on about your business Jennifer M. God bless you God said hey y'all I got about 17 more minutes now now God said he loves me okay you know I'm just talking about God I said God this say God God bless you not Jennifer God said he loves me but it's clear he doesn't know what love is most people don't if I meet another guy and doesn't know should I immediately check out mm-hmm go on about your business that's like going dealing with somebody who don't know love is like going to a surgeon who don't know how to do surgery going to somebody who don't know how to do surgery and you finna go under the night that's what it's like when you know that somebody don't know love but you putting your heart in their hand you don't ever let somebody play with your heart once you know better do better Miss T rock off bless you speaking of giving a man money my dad was never a true provider slash father minus child support he talked down on me now I'm doing well asked for money during the pandemic did give it to him am I wrong now I say I don't know if you meant did it or if you meant you did um but that's your daddy and if you got it to give uh if he talked down on you and all of that it's really because he a grown boy he lost he broke and he hurt him you don't know what your daddy that went through you know you don't know what your daddy that went through he cut it and you know put somebody could have did something to him when he was young and so a lot of time people act out from what they done been through so you can't really get caught up on that if you got it and you you got it to give then the blessing don't come from your daddy it come from God so that's what you got to understand so is it right for someone who's been married and divorced to the same person two times to wait for him to show his change before you decide to even entertain the idea of getting back together or marriage now you sound like a woman I've met on twitter a long time ago wrote a book time I married my ex-husband or something or I'm dating my ex-husband and I say okay you'd be a fool if you want to but listen to what you just said now you didn't been with you didn't been married this man two times and he still ain't right so you want to wait for a third time they give three strikes in baseball but that's a game you live to see another day you give a human three strikes you might not make it out so I'm out of there I'm out of there me personally me myself personally that's up you know God is faithful God bless is it wise for a woman to date a man who served 26 years in prison for a nonviolent crime that's a personal choice you know what I mean guys can rehabilitate I got an uncle in there doing 40 years for a nonviolent and seemed like a good guy you know I always knew him to be a good guy but you got a judge a person by the present by the character and integrity so don't let him move in your house don't be paying the bills okay if you can't get out and get you a job then hey we ain't gonna be able to both be independent so if he can't get out and get on his feet and be independent then go on about your business but if he could get out and live right and do the right thing and be independent and he's showing character integrity okay you may have something how do you handle having to continue to see someone every day at work if you're no longer talking to them anymore me personally I'm asking for a transfer I'm asking for a transfer y'all forgive me I don't know why in my country I'm asking for a transfer and I'm getting on out of there so me personally or I'm coming through the back door I'm coming through the back door I'm asking for my desk to be moved you know I'm doing something different if I was dealing with somebody and got a soul tie with them and keep seeing them so I'm trying to get out of there but that's that's a personal choice but some of y'all is you know I understand the word job scare a lot of people be job scared you know and don't want to ask for nothing don't want to move don't want to get a new job I get that not insecure thanks for the gems Tony God bless you hey God bless you I got about 13 minutes left Tony he flipped when I didn't say hi and kept it moving but he ghosted me plenty said he wanted to work something out but now he's saying don't stress it since we couldn't make it happen why um that's just uh that's a no answer question you can't you can't understand why a grown boy does what he does you'll never make sense to you just go on about your business go on about you but he don't mean anything it don't mean nothing it just mean he's just doing it he's just going in circles you see how this chair do you see how this chair do this all he's doing in his life it don't mean nothing you can't sit there and lose sleep trying to figure out a grown boy in his ways Natasha Jay God bless a guy's asking me out but just found out after him and his child's mother broke up he had to move back in with his parents do I communicate do I communicate that things cannot go forward until he gets his own place um yeah yeah yeah uh that's a tough one to communicate that's that's gonna hurt that's gonna hurt now he's gonna cry in the car but that's something that yeah you got to say it just try to say it you know as nice as you can but you got to just go tell him like listen you know why you live with your parents I just you know I just don't feel comfortable with that you know so I would I really think that being in a relationship is not really the focus right now it shouldn't be the focus you know I would rather you work on you know your goals and your job and just be able to get on your own two feet and then if things happen to work out if you're still single I'm still single okay we can revisit things but in the time being I just don't think it's wise I think you need time to heal you know and just work on you and I don't want to interfere with that Sharon God bless you Sharon poor I don't know life you know I I tell him something like that right there because remember you need to be independent before trying to be interdependent Nessa love God bless you what do you say to a man when he breaks up with you you don't say nothing talk to God crown your pillar talk to God you never let a man see your sweat you say you know what if you got to say anything say thank you because he just spared you he just say you some time Latoya bless you great for the grateful for the book of women's influence bless you now let me see now because some of y'all putting them blessings in his head chat and I caught those last two but I feel like I could have missed some mom I got 10 more minutes now I hear my wife behind me moving around she in the closet her closet behind her connected to my office wall right there all right I think I got all of them now let me see those next thoughts of dating someone in Freemason group I'm a Christian if he's not a Christian then go on about your business because your your religion what you believe your faith that's your foundation so if he don't believe what you believe I don't know you know I know of them but I don't know what they believe and how they believe but I ain't heard nothing good I mean at the low levels they do charity but the higher you go things get a little foggy so and some men never get that high so that all they know of it is community service and charity but as it go up things change a little bit so if he don't believe like you believe I'm out the door MJ Cooper God bless I got the audio book so I can listen every night a blessing now y'all make sure y'all get a woman's influence if you ain't got it make sure you get it now I ain't got no big following so it don't be a lot of people get the books but if you see it it's gonna bless you are men serious about relationship if girlfriend tells him to delete female Facebook friends he dealt with and he deletes them cheated on cheated on and off relationship pretty black I really don't fully understand but for one you don't know who all he dealt with so that's kind of a useless and baseless request you know you said it but it really don't mean nothing because he could have told you about some that he don't care about that could have been one night stands or what have you and he deleted them but then the one that he really got a soul type for he never said her name because he want to be able to watch her moves on Facebook so that's something you can't really check out can you make a video on how to set boundaries and how to convey them to a man when he starts to press an issue like intercourse I already got a video on that it might be in on how to date correctly maybe somebody else know the name but it's probably how to date correctly rebasing re and Greek life awesome idolatry I ain't gonna argue with him you a guy I'm dating told me why do you think you weren't chosen because something could be wrong with your package can you elaborate guy I'm dating told me why do you think you weren't chosen because something could be wrong with your package can you elaborate that need to be y'all last date because if a man come say that that's that's a shot right for your head he trying to take all yourself a steam all yourself worth all yourself love he wants you just in the mirror crying you hit me he wants you to just be questioning yourself so much that you just be begging him for a relationship what to do when the father of your teen is more focused on himself rather than pouring wisdom in his to his son you got to find other resources I got a course on tonigas academy called raising young men ages 13 to 18 somebody say pretty black I answered your question pretty black I don't know if you posted it that's old hi Tony what do you mean by a guy is looking for himself I have heard you use this terminology before maybe make a video clarifying this now Sabrina you need clarification on that you don't you ain't never heard somebody say somebody looking for themselves now come on now Sabrina y'all I'd be like hey this pen is black and y'all be like hey Tony you said a pen black can you clarify what do you mean by that is that the reflection of the light is that why the black listen okay a man looking for himself that mean that he lost you look for what's lost that mean he lost he's confused he heard he's a grown boy he's immature that's what that mean it means exactly what it sounds like but see sometimes y'all don't really y'all want the answer to be deeper than what it is and the reason why y'all want it to be deeper than what it is yeah it's a Mont Blanc pen no no no this ain't this ain't that's a knock off they're from a hotel now this hill it's the Mont Blanc pen my wife got me this here and you see it got my name in there my wife got me this got got my name in it bought me this hill planner I'll be in here right and I can't open it up because I got brand secrets in there the people be done stop the video pause it zoomed in read all my business Chanel Monique God bless you long distance relationship three years ago he had to move back to j8 I'm guessing that Jamaica forgive me if it's Japan we remain friends reconnected recently I've always saw him as a husband and still do advice I'm 23 him 27 safe to assume we don't want long distance again um you saw him as a husband but he has not saw you as a wife so that's the difference there so when a man got to move and he let things fall apart he moved on by this business that mean that he really don't see you as a wife for that he has a future which is in that way um Chelsea God bless a y'all I got two and a half minutes left now broke up with the ex because I was immature he loves me but why does he still hold on to the past I'm leaving everything in the hands of God now see that's one thing men don't do men rarely forgive men worse at that than women a man rarely gonna forgive now a man rarely gonna forgive so that you got to understand that now now let me see now see that what I was saying is sometimes y'all want these answers to be deeper than what they is but to be honest with you ain't rocket science it's sound it sound just like it is it mean what it sound like and y'all know the answer so what you have to do is you got to sit down and you're gonna have to ask that question to yourself three four times and I'm trying to you know get y'all to understand and once you start listening to your intuition and I always said this I said a woman's intuition has never been wrong about me if she's sane minded that's how a lot of y'all that's how a lot of y'all could could look at me and you know that I'm real and that I live what I preach because you could tell about amount of game I give away and so you could say oh I think he really live in that but then you know how you could hear somebody and you like something and not because he giving all his relationship advice but he never showed his wife I ain't never really heard his wife or he ain't never posted a picture of a woman he went so how he got all this relationship advice that's your intuition letting you know something the same thing happened in a relationship your intuition lets you know so what you got to do is you got to listen to your intuition longer you know you ain't smoking and drinking and you know you ain't got no history with your mind being off then listen to your intuition it's telling you what you need to do but the thing about it is the truth may hurt and see the truth requires change that's why we don't want to embrace the truth because when you hear the truth once you hear the truth it stretches your mind like Oliver Wendell Holmes says once the mind is stretched to a new dimension it never returns to its original form so a lot of times we try to run from the truth and ignore the truth because once you hear it now you've got to affect change in your life and that's why we don't want to listen to it it is my last question now somebody's sitting the blood hey don't sit no more money now don't sit no more money don't sit no more blessing now I got the goal I hit my time limit um Tony you said your wife doesn't are in front of you only like saying the word now I ain't say that word I say she don't pass gas well from we say pass gas is it okay to pass gas after a few years it's not good to hold it in sometimes right well me and my wife have been married 13 years she ain't died so she might be passing it somewhere but she don't pass it in front of me I don't tell her that she can't but that's just one of her ladylike rules now she do burp she do burp what some of y'all where you from may call belch so to me it's the same thing it's just coming out one way versus the other me I'm not no belcher okay or burpa but she drank a lot of hot tea so I don't know but that's just she got certain things that she just don't do I ain't never seen my wife ain't never passed gas around me she ain't never tried to pick her nose you thought she had a hang glider she never tried to pick her nose she just don't do certain stuff she never told me hey I got the gold number two she never said that to me and I ain't never heard of and they ain't never smelt it ain't never seen it I don't know how she do what she do you know it's a lot of men that we we a lot some men be about 21 for we know women got all the bodily functions that we got because it's just some women just kind of carried themselves a little different I don't know Sabrina God bless now I just said don't see no more blessing and then y'all gonna send y'all gonna God bless you not God bless you but when I tell you God say when you give it'll be given back to you press down shaking together and running over and y'all prove that scripture right to me over and over Sabrina there are God bless you there are sometimes caveats and nuances wanted to see if that was the circumstance with men who are looking for themselves I get what you're saying Sabrina I get what you're saying God bless you okay that's how y'all women be see what women could do y'all could ask a man the same question in 10 different ways 10 different languages and y'all really be expecting 10 different answers that's how the woman mind work so I get you Sabrina ain't mad at you now I ain't mad at you and hopefully I didn't hurt your feeling with my answer but y'all really be doing me like that now Tony you said when a man leave let him go now does that mean don't hold his shirt when he going out the door or does that mean let him go to the store and come back tomorrow but it's just y'all mind trying to get that understanding trying to see exactly what you could do a lady wrote me today and say Tony can you do a video that lists out the top 20 questions to ask a man on the day I say what the top 20 questions I ain't got 20 questions I don't I don't know like you see y'all want to go to a date and be like okay so do you have kids okay all right does your mom love you okay on a scale of 110 how much do you love your mom okay how often do you call her okay do you have a house okay what is your car note okay what is your credit score okay that's how y'all be wanting to do and I'd be like listen y'all just got to go with the flow just talk just build with the man like just ask a normal just have a normal conversation you're gonna hear everything you need to hear if you ask a question and you just listen and then you listen to the answer and the answer gonna tell you the next question ad you got to be like Oprah when she asking questions okay that's what y'all got to do now and I missed the question because somebody disappeared so let me get this and get this don't send them a question now please I got to go I just seem white walking to my son's room tuck him in yeah he get my oldest get stayed up late for this you know at the house working from the house Chanel Monay when we separated I was at fault but it was based on the situation out of both of our control do the same rules apply I can't remember your last question Chanel I can't remember your last question I'm answering so many questions I can't hold the questions in my mind or the person who asked it or the name I can't remember your last question Chanel but the same rules probably do apply when you let your ads go go about your business but I literally cannot I'm trying with everything I can't remember your last question and I can't remember that last question see what y'all got to realize I'm doing this off the top of my head so y'all ask a question I'm just leaning on the Lord to give me an answer right then MJ Cooper cute me too it's very uncomfortable I wonder if that was the other question that that I that was in there now it was another one at the top that was a 499 okay Brianna God bless you Brianna ain't want to miss you now I don't take nobody blessing lightly I know everybody you blessing me that come out your hard earned money and I just want to acknowledge it for that so God bless you my phone just a notified my 20 percent left so I got to get going thank you Tony for teaching us the game and not sugar coating it God bless you and your family hey God bless y'all I typically do a live on Friday night so I'll see how my body feeling tomorrow my wife you know she'm a trainer at nine while we on this situation and you know I'll just tell my wife I said man it's the one thing here that could cause us a divorce I said I try to go up here and work out with you trying to bond and then you trying to kill me for the life insurance I'm like can you take your workout and then cut it in half but she take me through this Navy Seal workout and I'm like baby you now you know I got to go coach why you up here doing me like this I'm finna cancel my life insurance but so I'm gonna see how I'm feeling tomorrow after I do her workout and if I'm feeling up to it I had to drink milk caramel macchiato today I had to go to Starbucks and get my ice tall caramel macchiato and I don't even drink coffee I don't even like coffee like that but I had to get that so I get on this live so God bless y'all thank you for your support hey bless you go up there and remember the day the last day on Tony Gaston's academy.com the link probably should be in the description Tony Gaston academy.com if you're ready to become a life coach make sure you use the coupon code my mentor take your time you're gonna go to the page you're gonna read the description you're gonna watch my video about what is a life coach when you hit buy it's then gonna take you to the checkout page on the checkout page you gotta click around everything you could click uh preview account summary or have a coupon click everything you could click if you're on your cell phone scroll the phone up and down left and right the final drop down menu and enter my mentor then you click apply then you're gonna see the price drop then you hit confirm purchase okay because y'all it's just it's stressing me with people not putting in the coupon code and then me and my wife got to be doing all this customer service and I'm like Lord I tried to create something that was simple and smooth and people and and it hit somebody hit me with it again today hurry up send the money back send the money back I gotta pay my rent tomorrow I gotta pay my rent tomorrow I'm like why is you on there hitting buy if you don't have any money you see what it calls wait till the Lord move in your life before you go clicking buy because now you mess it up my business because when you do that guess what I get a negative mark on my business credit with the with the processor because they like he got the issue too many refunds then on top of that when you call your bank line talk about it was fraudulent charge knowing you took your butt on there and hit purchase now the bank write the processor then the processor say we charge you $15 so not only are we sending the money back but we're finna charge you $15 for your person making a mistake I say come on huh don't do me like that because you messing up your own you're blocking your own blessings so y'all forgive me for going on that rant it's too late but I just had to spread that from a business owner that's trying to be a blessing to people like and I if I do customer service chronicles but that'll be a hit sit calm hey God bless you I got the gold