 Why is it the woman has to ask the man where the relationship going? Why is it his job to know where it's going? Because I found out he slept with someone else. No, no, no, that's not, no, no, no, no, that's not it. Why does he, why do women give that responsibility to a man? Right, why is it on his firm? Well, I know for one thing, for him, he just wants to keep sleeping around. That's not the point. Why, okay, let me reframe that. Why do you, Linda, give someone else your path, your destination? Why did you do that? Because I did not better. Now after I've listened to you, I'm going to try to change the way that I handle it. So what I've observed is women in particular, absolute, the minute you have to ask the question, where is the relationship going? That means he has all the power. See, this is the problem with this paradigm. You should know where you're going in the relationship.