 Hey, welcome back everybody. This is Geeks are sex. We've brought all our guests back for our panel discussion this month and Everyone here around this table at least you three ladies Are very successful and have the appearance of being very successful, but I know you're successful. I do okay. I Do okay, but we all know how hard it can be in business and then you have to grind things out And there are days that when you've got your own business Sometimes you want to quit sometimes you sometimes you want to go I wonder what it wouldn't wonder what it would take for me Do you get a job somewhere else right now? I don't know if I want to do this anymore And I think all of us have been through the The days like that and said at the end of the day I don't want to do anything else but this though, right? So so I know I've had those days But have you had experiences like that if you had days like that where you just felt like you did not want to be in Business for yourself or just didn't want to do what you're doing anymore Only a day Let's start with one Experience and then we'll go we'll go from there I feel like it just gets so overwhelming sometimes especially with like the rate that there are so many social media platforms where you're getting Messages on and trying to keep up with emails trying to keep up with phone calls and voicemails And I feel like there's just so many ways that people can get ahold of you And then you have to try to keep people engaged and get back to them in a timely manner and wearing all The hats in your business as a solopreneur like I don't have any employees. So I'm doing the marketing. I'm doing sales I'm doing the actual client experience. I'm doing all of the things. So wearing all the hats They get real heavy on your head And I think it just really some days are worse than others with the amount of overwhelm that it really Sets in so I think you're right with all the social media You can't get away from it, you know, I did work a nine-to-five corporate job And it's like when I left I went home when I had my home life And now it's like I take it with me everywhere I go all the time It's like I can't even lock myself in the bathroom, you know, because I've got my something with me my phone Or you know something I'm reviewing something. So it is difficult And it's so hard when you're setting your own schedule, too Because when you're in a nine-to-five somebody's telling you to clock in and when to leave and when to come I want to take a lunch but when you're setting up your own and you're also incorporating networking You're also incorporating meetings. You're also incorporating having your own life and you know relationships and Whatever religion that you practice and you're trying to incorporate all those things It's really easy to have a very woobly Life-work relationship religion balance, especially when you're trying to take the best care of yourself So I think that it's hard to kind of just schedule everything all at once and I think you hit on the key It's taking the best care of yourself because what ends up happening is you get so overwhelmed It's things start to fall apart and then you start feeling Awful about yourself and then that reflects into your business The thing that I have found is remember to take that time for yourself whether it's go to the gym or stop and get that latte or take a walk around the block or Lock yourself in the bathroom or whatever it is you have to do for those few minutes Even if it's a few minutes, you know, they always say take a vacation Well, you know running your own business You're not gonna be able to go take that vacation that you're dreaming about But it doesn't have to be a whole vacation. You know meditation is amazing Just stop breathe Focus and then all of a sudden you feel refreshed and give yourself grace to you and celebrate the little things like I really think that so So many of us put so much responsibility on ourselves to be the best and do everything on our task list We have to prove everybody. We're awesome. Of course all day long, right? Even if we didn't get out of the house wearing any makeup. We're like, it's okay. We got this It's fine, but we really have to break give ourselves grace because we are doing so much and back You know a hundred years ago like people were not doing this much every day. They didn't have as much input So give yourself grace and also celebrate all the wins like, you know, looking back I think journaling has really helped me with like every week just going back and saying like, you know What I'm really thankful for the coolest experience of the week like things that I want to really slow Down and remember Because it's really hard to or it's really easy to not do that It's all about time management is what I find time management and actually prioritizing what's important to you So if you're not writing it down like journalism Journalizing it if you're not writing it down You're not finding out what's priority to you and what you're wasting your time on or what you are wasting your time Well, what I find too is even when I have some priorities They just keep getting That's what I want to dive into next even though it wasn't on our list of prepared questions is a lot of what we've talked About is the self the self-care and the preparation and how we how we prepare ourselves physically mentally and emotionally for a tough day What I'd like to hear you guys talk about How do you do those pattern breaks when you're in the middle of being overwhelmed? How do you break the pattern and say I need to engage in some self-care some grace as you put it even just for a few minutes What do you what what? What makes you recognize you need to do that? How do you break that pattern when you're overwhelmed? Mine's food. I'm just gonna be honest my food. I have to break my pattern with food and It's for several reasons But one of the major ones is I need to stop to eat because I never prioritize eating in my schedule Let's just be honest. I love doing it. I enjoy it, but I have to prioritize eating So when I get into a stressful moment or a where I feel a little overwhelmed I'm like, hmm, it's probably due to me not eating and I need to go ahead and take a lunch break So I'm gonna be back and then we'll finish this discussion Well, you'll pick it up back up from there and that way it allows me to take a moment to do something for me That I do enjoy because I love food. I really do, but no you can't tell but I do But that helps me get away from the work environment and actually do something just for me So you actually have a physical break the pattern you build it in a room. I do and and it's something that's helpful anyway. I Need to eat. It's a good thing to do I'll grab something healthy and I tell myself that it's not only mentally nourishing. It's physically nourishing One of the things I do is I have to remember that the only thing I have control of is the present moment True because so many times I'll say, oh, I'll do this later or you know, or oh, I wish I would have done this So I always have to try to live in the present and say even if it's just an example of like taking my vitamins We were just talking about this offline Like if I remember right now if there's a drink around me I have to do it because the only thing I have control of is the present if I say I want to get back to doing my morning Routine, but then I don't wake up and actually do it I'm not living in authenticity to myself because I'm just letting that go by so especially with prioritizing and letting things go Like slip away on the calendar One I think it was Amber De La Garza who has a productivity specialist podcast on her podcast I heard a really good thing that if you make a Commitment to yourself You have to act like it's commitment with your best friend and you have to reschedule it So you can't let it just go by you have to act like because we treat ourselves poorly We do we never we don't treat each other as we would our best friend or a colleague or anything like that We wouldn't just no call no show we wouldn't just put it on the back burner and never let it happen So we need to reschedule that in there to make sure that we're prioritizing what's really important to us in that present moment That's great. Yeah So I'm gonna skip the question about you know the how do you set up your goals, right? You know and you want to watch this show clear measurable achievable framing time You know, I'll link to our goal-setting video you guys don't need that But what I do want to talk about because we all start setting goals and sometimes those goals and those priorities Drift from our purpose How do you especially when you're in the middle of that overwhelm on a bad day or a busy day? How do you make sure that the things you're setting your goals your priorities to do? How do you make sure they're still aligned with your purpose? Why you got into the business you're into the first place? Man, that's hard because a lot of times might are like time sensitive Whatever needs to get done quickest gets done and everything else gets put on the back burner Okay, I have not been the best in my professional world with keeping and maintaining goals and goal structure and reaching those goals Because yeah, it's a goal, but it's not like time-sensitive to where like I need to get a project done So I think that I've had a struggle with that So I would love to hear what you ladies have today to say on that I actually put in my planner that there's a day and time that I'm supposed to go back and review and My review is to find out where I am with my goals, whether they're financial whether they're What my my my business driven passion goals my life goals It's a day and time that I'm supposed to just sit there and go back through and make sure that I'm staying focused on those things and then I will revamp and Recreate whatever I need to restructure whatever I need to in order to make sure that I'm staying on that same path Do you have an accountability partner for that? Or is that just you because I feel like in my experience if I don't have Accountability then I'm not holding myself accountable. So like business coaches anything like that. That'll help me So I don't have one. Yeah, I have a bunch so I like today I create I got to do website and I told my title rep. Hey, do me a favor check my website tonight at like seven eight o'clock and let me know what you think Well, I haven't done it yet. I just got it today, but because I Made sure I told somebody to hold me accountable. I will do it. Yeah, it's almost three I know but I do this intentionally I do it intentionally and I do it with all kinds of things I do it whether it's a listing whether it's my personal life Whether it's my personal goals or my business goals That's what I do to make sure that other people are constantly holding me accountable So it's not just one person because I wouldn't want to put that responsibility on that one person I put it on everyone. I love you. So you get you get the last word before we sign off I would say that because I just started a new career I actually sat with Jason and he helped me learn figure out how to Set some structure and give myself milestones and then figure out how to meet those milestones And then I feel accountable that I have to meet those milestones and where am I at to get there So if I have to jump in and work extra hard to get to that one Then that's what I do and that's how I've been able to be successful these last eight months. Thanks to Jason's help helping me because I knew it it's just putting it down and seeing it and Learning how to analyze it so that you get there and learning what those baby steps need to be rather than jumping in That last minute and hurrying up and getting it done. It's gonna be done But is it exactly what you wanted it to be done? It's better than perfect True sometimes, yes, I will thank you so much for being here today ladies Let it's been a pleasure I've learned so much from all of you and especially in this this discussion About sticking with your goals and on bad days and hard days But before we go Teresa tell everybody how they can reach you and down syndrome organization Southern Nevada Absolutely down syndrome organization of Southern Nevada is here locally and our website is DSosn.org Down syndrome organization of Southern Nevada.org and the phone number 702-648-1990 We'll put all this in the show notes So you guys don't need to spell anything or people can read it on the on the YouTube page of the web page Go ahead Casey case jade photo on all social media platforms as well as calm And of course I can always be reached at pebbles at unique dash home dash solutions Or by phone at 702-845-4796 and you all can participate in the show and be pebbles accountability partner and go check that Website at seven o'clock tonight. So absolutely. That's right. Please do Speaking to me after today Thank you again all for being here. Thank all of you for watching I'm Jason Laduke from evil genius leadership consultants. This has been geeks are sexy We will see you on the fourth Thursday of next month