 The fight is not yours. You have to fight. When you hit the enemy, it should be death, not injury. You must be effective. Without inspiring the man, you can't do the type of activity that is expected of a soldier. Trying to be humble may make you very pretentious. It is better you have pride, accepting failure is a dangerous process. It's better you learn not to fail. You're in the forces. Failure may mean death. You can't learn after that. Namaskaram. Namaskaram to all of you. It's a great privilege and honor to be talking to the bravest men of Bharat. Namaskar, Sadhguru. On behalf of Air Vice Marshal Pawan Mohi, Vishal Seva Medal, Commandant College of Defense Management, I extend a very warm welcome to you for this interaction with officers and ladies of the College of Defense Management. It is indeed my honor to conduct this evening's session on the topic of engineering for combating adversities. Adverse circumstances and situations are an integral part of a life for a soldier and their families. As soldiers battle the enemy on our borders, our families hold the home front and face encounter, numerous challenges and with utmost courage and perseverance. However, we've been born into an unpredictable and imperfect world, as finite human beings who have shortcomings, who make mistakes, face decision dilemmas and carry our own set of worries. There is much to contend with and our ability to handle adversities is limited. While our unabated inquest to seek answer continues, we are indeed proud and privileged to have amongst us honorable and respected Sadhguru, a yogi, a visionary humanitarian and the most widely followed global spiritual leader. In 2017, Sadhguru was conferred the Padma Vibhushan, one of India's highest civil war accorded for exceptional and distinguished service. Sadhguru bridges the gap between known and the unknown, enabling all to explore and experience the deepest dimensions of life, which give us an insight into the finite energy and delight that makes up the universe. Without any further delay, I would now address the first question to respected Sadhguru. Sadhguru, as per the Karma theory, Karma is accumulated impression of past activity, either of thought, emotion or physical action. During operations, as a professional soldier, I am expected to obey the orders of my superior authority, as also resort to actions which may result in injury or death of another human being. Which Karma account will have to enter this transaction? Mine, my superior military authority, for the senior commanders and the upward list could go on. Would you please throw some light on it? Namaskaram. My… at most respects to all of you brave men and above all your families, who bear the brunt of your bravery in many ways of daily living and suspense and anxiety about your well-being. So I bow down to all of you for this. See, when it comes to a fighting force, well, you did not start the fight. When you hit the enemy, you are not hitting for personal pleasure. You are fulfilling a larger purpose. This is important that we do not mix up philosophies of life, which are manufactured in our heads, with the realities of our existence. We are still not in that kind of a world, or we have failed to create that kind of a world. The failure is mine and people like me. Because we have failed to create a world where the world will embrace each other, everybody will embrace each other and live in love and joy, such a thing we have failed to create. Men like you have to fight. It is still the reality. Anybody who is denying the reality for themselves will pay a huge price. I think we as a culture, as a land, we have paid this price already centuries before that because we thought we can deal with life with philosophies. A few hundred men who came from elsewhere managed to conquer us, rule us, do all kinds of things to us. Even a business company which comes ends up ruling us for over 250 years. So it's time to understand in free India a soldier should know the fight is not yours. You're fighting our fight. You're fighting because of my failure to be able to create a loving and joyful world. So you have to fight and when you fight and when you hit, you said that it may cause injury or death. I know this will be shocking for people that I say this, no, when you hit the enemy, it should be death, not injury. That's not a good thing because you're not a police force. You're a fighting force on the border. You will fight only with those forces which will threaten the nation. So you must be effective. You should not be fluffy with philosophy. Well, we have a famous teaching in the country. I'm not an expert in this. I have not even read it, you know, in its real sense. But you know, someone who is supposed to be godlike, divine entity is encouraging. Another person who happens to be a warrior whose head is fluffed up with philosophies. So all that the divine entity is trying to do in the form of Arjuna and Krishna is that he's trying to bring some practical sense. You're a warrior, you're on the battlefield and now your head is fluffed with philosophy. You have to work to put it very bluntly, this is all the teaching is because your actions have to be relevant for the situations in which you exist. If you go into the battlefield and you don't hit the enemy the way you should and you come back with your karmic stuff, your karma in a nice flowery way, this is a very bad karma because nation's resources are being wasted and the possibility of what it could bring to the country is another thing. So it's very, very important that we need to understand there is an existential situation, there is a psychological and emotional situation and there is a social situation. These are all not the same things. So a fighting force handles a certain existential reality that still human beings have cannot come to this point where they can hold hands and live joyfully with each other. We've still not come there. Hope we get there, it's an ideal but it is not something that we will see immediately it is going to... I don't know how long that we will take but we should not give up the ideal but till then we have to manage the practical as it should be. Next question, Sadhguru. As we grow up in armed forces, sometimes the circumstances around us compel us to take autocratic decisions. Over a period of time, these become rigid habits with some of us unknowingly display in form of arrogant behavior. While professional competence and ambition is necessary to climb up the ladder, one important quality of humility continues to be ignored as too many leaders think that they can't be humble and ambitious at the same time. Could you please highlight the importance of humility for any leader and how do we develop this essential skill? So... that means somebody is trying to be a commandant even at home with the family. I think by now you should have discovered it doesn't work. Well, this habit of giving orders should not become a habit. It is important. Once again, I stress in a fighting force which is not a normal kind of social situation where we can sit down and debate about everything. No. Once a leader says something, others whether it makes much sense to them or not, sometimes they just have to do it because there are moments in our life there are situations when we are in intense activity where there is no room for debate. Debate should happen elsewhere. There cannot be a debate on the battlefield. Again, I'll go back to Kurukshetra. This is a debate on the battlefield. If you take up the Bhagavad Gita and read, I don't know how long it will take to read the 18 chapters because I have not. But I believe it will take at least four-five hours. So if you stand with your enemy army standing there and for four-five hours if you're debating you know what is your fate. So that's exactly what Krishna is just trying to tell Arjuna. This is not a time to debate. So officers have to... even if that is not their natural way they have to be a certain level of command and force otherwise those situations won't work. But if you try the same method everywhere it won't work either. About humility. See, what a leader needs is he needs integrity, first of all. Integrity means in your thought and emotion everything that you do is not about yourself. It is about the larger well-being. If this becomes your way if this is your sense of integrity integrity is not just a bunch of models or values or ethics. Integrity means that your intentions have become larger than personal. Your intentions are not about your well-being. It's always about larger well-being. As long as this is fixed and you have this integrity you don't have to try to act like a humble pie. It's really not necessary. Integrity must be there and above all people will respect a leader because he has some insight. Because when you say a leader in some way either a society or an organization or a force like yours places you on a perch. If you sit on a perch you must see something more than what others are seeing. If you sit on a perch and still don't see any better than those who are down there then you will become an object of ridicule. So it's very important that an officer or a leader must develop insight. If there is no insight if you don't see things clearly then all that will happen is ridicule not really leadership. And another important aspect is as a leader it is not by words that you can inspire people. Inspiration is very, very needed especially in a force like yours. Without inspiring the men you can't do the type of activity that is expected of a soldier. If this inspiration has to happen it's not just about inspiring words nobody is going to listen to those words. The important thing is you live in such a way that you burn with such intensity that people cannot help catching fire and be intense along with you. So inspiration, insight and integrity if these three things if you have you don't have to be humble. What is humility let's understand this humility comes to you because not because you pretend a certain kind of behavior trying to be humble may make you very pretentious it is better you have pride in what you're doing when you have pride in what you're doing when you're very proud of what you do and how you do then it takes care of you stepping on other people and above all if we understand our position on this planet in this cosmos this this solar system is a tiny speck in that in this tiny speck of a solar system planet earth is a micro speck in that micro speck India is another speck in that micro super micro speck your battalion is a super super micro speck in that you're a big man this is lot of trouble if you just understand we are a speck of life nature has given us creation has given us so many privileges of experiencing our life individually but if you look at the life of the planet and who we are we are a small pop-up and we will pop out one way or the other if we understand the context of the time that we occupy here as human beings the space that we occupy here as human beings and who we are well we are just a tiny speck if you are just conscious about this there is no need for humility you will be fine you know I must tell you this as a rule when my daughter was growing up I made sure that nobody teaches her anything I said nobody should teach her anything she will grow up by herself nobody should teach her anything people said what about one two three what about ABC what about Mary had a little lamb I said I no need for ABC no need for one two three and I don't care whether Mary had a lamb or not you just leave her alone let her grow up so she grew up like this she did not understand that she's a child she always treated everybody as equal she called me by my first name she called all adults like that but she was just fine then I had to put her in school after some time because my travels went crazy then when she was about twelve thirteen years of age she something happened in the school and it disturbed her she came home and said you're teaching everybody so many things you're not teaching me anything I said see I am not given to teach anybody unsolicited and you did not enroll you just landed up here so now that you're asking okay sit down I said see this all you need to know about life never look up to anybody she looked at me like this what about you kind of thing I said especially me never look up to me because if you look up to me the maximum that you will do is you'll take my picture and nail it on the wall that's not going to do any good to you if you see me just the way I am it'll be of immense value if you look up to me you will miss it so never look up to anybody never look down on anybody you just see life just the way it is then you will navigate your way through life effortlessly and this all it takes we don't need humility nor do we need arrogance both are not needed why can't we just handle life as it is necessary In your book Death and Inside Story you mentioned that there is no use of using a body through medical interventions when doctors have left no hope but what I have been taught as a leader is to constantly struggle even when defeat is inevitable without bothering about results So as a military man are the principles of Karma Yoga not conflicting with what you have said while dealing with our dear ones? Sir, as a military officer you're dealing with young lives ninety-year-old men are not in your force so that's a different affair young men however badly they may be mauled in a battle still many times they're capable depending upon their grit and their constitution they may bounce back of course you have the famous story of Field Marshal Manik Shah of how he recovered from the machine gun fire and they're given up on him and how he came back so there are any number of stories like that because you are dealing with very fit, strong, determined young men that is a different story we're talking about trying to understand and come to terms that we are mortal this life is mortal in nature you cannot just think that you're going to live forever a time comes where you must be ready to ease your way through you must understand you come at a certain time and you go at a certain time we don't want an untimely death that is for everybody nobody should have an untimely death but when the time is up we must be willing to go if we are not willing to go we will definitely make it miserable for ourselves or if our children or their children are not willing to let us go that will also make it miserable so it's extremely important that we should have handle both life and death with a certain wisdom understanding the context we are not here for good that is fixed our time here is very limited and how we use this time is important it is not about life's quality is not going to be enhanced by simply stretching it by another few months or a year or two it's not going to happen in enormous pain and you know a new sense for yourself and for everybody it is not going to work like that if you are observant of the life forces within you you will see when life is not wanting to revive itself you don't have to ask a doctor if you just observe your own life forces you will know when they are winding up when they are winding up you pump yourself with this, that and simply stretch it for a few weeks or months or whatever is meaningless this is coming from a fundamental sense of ignorance which unfortunately has spread around the world but in this country always when people came to a certain sense that you know life is winding up they would simply sit in one place and go on water diet and slowly go quietly, peacefully not stuck up with so many tubes and needles that's not the way to go it's very important that we live well and we also die well and not only die well because death is the last act that we perform in our life it's important we die in style it's very very important for I know this may sound morbid to people there is nothing morbid about our mortality that is a fundamental reality of our existence only if we are conscious of this reality will we plan and enact our life in as beautiful a manner as possible sometimes life puts you in a situation where you can't help being a certain way leave aside being right or wrong the way I think and perceive is my way of doing things but it may not be right for others who decides then what is the right way and if there is one what is the right way say people who think in terms of right and wrong are too absolutist about life life is not about absolutism it is all one inside the other in the sense creation and creator are wrapped into the same thing here we sit here this very body has been created from within so this piece of creation and the source of creation are mixed up or let me come to a more mundane example right now if you look at it logically see this right and wrong is because we have a linear way of thinking looking at everything in terms of cutting it to pieces and say okay this and this black and white A and B like this so right and wrong let's say man and woman male and female see right now if I ask you a question are you a man or a woman well whichever one you are you will say that this is absolute I'm a man I'm a woman is very clear but how did you come here because a man and woman came together you're here so just because you're a woman does it mean to say your father has made no contribution for you or just because you're a man does it mean to say your mothers have made no contribution for you well you are a mix up of man and woman on the surface you are just a man or just a woman but deep down you're both because how can you say that your mother or your father doesn't exist within you they do so this what is right what is wrong people who think they are doing the right thing are always the cruelest and the most horrible people because a whole lot of people who think they are empowered by a divine authority they have done the cruelest possible things in the world so please do not think in terms of right and wrong our actions have to be appropriate to the situations in which we exist what we did a thousand years ago thinking it's right won't fit into today you're right now seeing in Afghanistan what they're doing right now might have been easily accepted five hundred years ago a thousand years ago though it's horrible anytime that's a different matter but in today's world it's horrific somehow the world is managing managing to look another way that's a different thing but it is not about right and wrong it is about appropriateness of our existence in a given situation when we act any action we perform we must know the consequence of this my actions will it bring well-being to myself and everybody around me if this one thing if you hold it within you you don't have to worry about what is right and wrong as long as your illusion is inclusive your intentions are inclusive everybody's well-being is included in your intention if you just fix this one thing you don't worry about right and wrong do what is appropriate to a given situation there is a... there is a wonderful you know like a parable kind of thing how Vishnu handled this so he had two wives one is Lakshmi another is Allakshmi Lakshmi means wealth and money Allakshmi means poverty and lack of wealth so between them a competition arose and then they encountered him one day together and they asked which one of us is more beautiful so Vishnu looked at it he knows whichever way it's trouble whatever he says is going to be trouble he looked at Lakshmi and said see when you are coming you are most beautiful to Allakshmi he said when you are going you are extremely beautiful this is appropriate action not right and wrong so what kind of... do not judge people by their actions because what is the intention what is the volition is important can I tell you a joke Karnu? Hello? No, because you guys are all so serious I'm just wondering if a joke is allowed so it happened one day Shankaran Pillai went to the post office and he had a huge heap of pink color envelopes and he bought a whole sheet of stamps and he was sticking the stamps on this pink envelope spring perfume and keeping it on one side to mail the postmaster saw this and said hey what are you doing what are all these letters he said it was... he said it's the Valentine's message I'm sending love messages to one thousand people one thousand men in the locality with signed guess who he said why would you do such a thing he said I'm a divorce lawyer so it is not about the action it's not about the pink envelope lovely words and perfume it is the intention which matters so you fix the volition of your life that it's always inclusive whatever you do you're always seeing how it includes everybody's well-being then you don't worry about what is right and wrong you just do what's appropriate Sadhguru, today's children are very smart aware and extremely competitive most of them are self-driven and are keen to deliver in an extremely competitive world the only issue I see is that they are so obsessed to achieve success that they are not able to accept failure in any situation failure they say is a greater teacher than success how do we teach our children to accept failure and learn from them I feel accepting failure is a dangerous process you may get used to it I know there's a whole lot of talk going on everywhere in all management schools you can learn from your failure I would say it's better you learn not to fail because it depends what you're doing you're in the forces failure may mean death you can't learn after that so it's extremely important that we should learn not to fail but our idea of success has to be little engineered properly because now our idea of success is about being better than somebody our idea of success is about a certain kind of lifestyle that is why there is so much anxiety about if some things don't work the way we planned the important thing is we must understand the most precious thing in our life is life itself there's nothing else we have we may think we have many things it's all psychological stuff that we think we have this and that right now somebody thinks he has a billion dollars somebody thinks he has wealth somebody thinks he has this and that if we just fade his memory a little bit everything disappears so the only and only thing that you have is life keeping this in its highest possible way most exuberant and effulgent way if you keep it that way this will not be a problem because success and failure is not about one or two events that happen in your life it is just that no matter what life threw at you you knew what to do out of it what life throws is not always our choice what we make out of it is one hundred percent our choice if you're exercising this choice always you are a successful human being because then you will know how to be this is the only creature which is being referred to as a being we are not referring to a tiger and saying a tiger being or an elephant being or something else only this one is a being because the success of this life is that you know how to be if you know how to be you will keep yourself in a most fantastic state of experience because profoundness of experience is the most important thing right now you may think your success will give whatever is your idea of success maybe it is money, maybe it's a position, maybe it's an award maybe it's something else whatever is your idea of success you think will bring profoundness of experience somebody thinks it's money, somebody thinks it's wealth somebody thinks it's alcohol somebody thinks it's a drug somebody thinks it's love somebody thinks it's knowledge somebody thinks it's pleasure but essentially you're seeking profoundness of experience once you know how to sit here with a very profound experience of life you are a successful human being what we do in the world is according to the times in which we exist this twenty-first century we are doing a certain kind of activity if you were here three centuries ago we would be doing something else if you were here ten centuries ago we'll be doing something totally different so what we do is not all ours it is a consequence of the times in which we exist but successful human being means this that you know how to be when I face an adverse situation whether at work or in a relationship I realize that I'm aware of what is right or should be done but I'm not able to do it at the same time I'm aware of what is wrong but cannot resist from doing it how do I overcome this constant challenge and how do I control my emotions and thoughts see whether you call somebody a lover or an enemy both in war and love there is an opponent how you deal with them is different but there is a bit of a you can call it a tango or a battle but there is a certain dynamic in both you need some skill and some capability otherwise it won't work so this aspect of life is being dragged into all kinds of things one fundamental reason is whether it's our career or our business or our relationships we are trying to milk happiness out of it the moment you attempt this you or those your loved ones will slowly turn into your enemies over a period of time because that's how it works we must understand human experience essentially comes from within us whether it's pain or pleasure it comes from within us joy and misery comes from within us agony and ecstasy comes from within us if we understand this if we take charge of this if we take charge of the seat of experience within ourselves what experience would we cause to ourselves definitely highest level of pleasantness so if you being joyful and loving is not enslaved to anybody you're joyful and loving by your own nature then every relationship will work well whatever sort of relationships you make everything will work well whatever is your career or your business or your activity in the world you will do it to the best because there is substantial medical and scientific evidence today to show you that only when you're in a pleasant state of experience your body and your mind will work at their best for you to succeed in this physical world this is all it takes that you must have a few brain cells working properly and therefore limbs to do the things that you have to do without getting your body and your brains to function according to your needs you will not be successful you will only be successful by sometimes by default or by accident that is not a good success because that success creates anxiety it's very important your success is rooted in your competence your success is figured out in your mind if this has to happen it's very very important that you're in a pleasant state of experience that is there may be many problems and issues outside but you are never the issue in your life this one thing you must take care especially because India's safety and well-being depends on you you should never be the issue I know there are many issues for everybody there are for you the issues are of a different nature which could threaten life and you know it could mean life and death but you should never be the issue but right now the problem is in most human beings' lives their own thoughts their own emotions are the greatest impediments that they are facing if you just cross this one thing you will see every human being will be able to perform to their fullest level find expression to their fullest level this is the whole science of inner engineering how to make sure that you are not the problem in your life never ever I am the problem in my life ah there are various situations we will do everything to the extent we can what works works what doesn't work work does not work but this one is never the problem this is something every human being must do this is our mission to make sure human beings are not tripping on their own feet back to karma theory with the progress in medical sciences the life expectancy of every individual is increasing but the pain diseases and medical sufferings are also increasing day by day do we call this karma that we have to suffer in the human life why do some small infants suffer from such dreaded diseases or is it punishment of my past karma why should one stay on even after completing one's responsibilities which usually ends when children find their jobs and settle down oh don't do that please these days children find jobs by 1820 ah well first of all karma is not a theory and it is not a punishment and reward system in the world karma is a self-recording process every experience that happens to you every perception that you have this system goes on recording so that a large part of your life need not be thought through every moment a large part of it which is motor functions and physical world can be handled automatically when I say automatically see for example you can walk but do you remember when you were probably 1820 months old when you tried to walk how difficult it was because on two legs walking on a round planet when the planet is spinning like this is not a easy thing to do if you look at the physical loss involved in walking a human being walking on two legs it is too complex if you try to understand it it's a enormous amount of physics it's crazy but today you can just get up and walk without thinking but if you start thinking okay I must put the right leg first then the left leg, right leg, left leg you will be confused you won't know how to walk so walking is not a simple thing it's a phenomena actually walking on two legs because as far as nature is concerned to put a four-legged animal on two legs it took millions of years of research and development you can call this evolution but essentially it's research and development creation is doing research and development on this planet to put a four-legged animal on two legs you know how long it took but today you can just do it effortlessly because all your life you've done it so karma this is all karma there is genetic memory there is evolutionary memory there is conscious and unconscious levels of memory articulate and inarticulate levels of memory so this whole body is memory all right see right now you may not remember how your great-great-great-grandfather looked like let's say ten generations ago but his nose may be sitting on your face right now exactly like that your skin color, the skin tone how your forefathers were a thousand years ago your epithelial cells still remember no way to confuse them so this what you call as myself this whole framework of a human being is a consequence of a certain amalgamation of memory so these memories are allowing you to function this is your karma without this memory you wouldn't know one thing from the other all right you just wouldn't know one thing from the other so karma is not a concept karma is not a punishment and reward the you know system it is just that you exist only because of your karma but it is like you build a karmic stage upon which you're supposed to do your drama but if your karmic stage is not firm if it is like quicksand now you try to dance on it you will sink into it this is all the problem is your karma is not conscious it is simply happening in a compulsive and instinctive manner this simply means your research and development that's gone into you you're wasting if you are any other creature you functioning instinctively and compulsively was all right once you become human you are supposed to function intelligently and consciously for any human being this is important in every aspect of life but particularly for a soldier it is super important because it's question of life and death that you are conscious and you function intelligently you don't do compulsive reactive things because then you will do what your enemy wants you to do very easily they can get you into a reaction so this is extremely important for all aspects of life karma is not a problem you exist because of your karma you don't suffer because of your karma you suffer because you react to the karma or you're reacting to your own karma or you're reacting to somebody else's karma it is in reaction that you suffer see there are only two kinds of suffering physical suffering and mental suffering as soldiers you might have witnessed even when there is grievous injuries certain men don't suffer they're still on not that there is no pain there is enormous pain because physical pain is one thing multiplying that in your mind is called suffering physical pain is very important for our survival if there was no physical pain we wouldn't protect our body we would rip it apart so physical pain is an essential part of our survival process but suffering is a psychological reaction to either physiological situation or social situations around us so karma is not the problem karma is vital for your existence you are an individual only because of your karmic matter karma does not mean good and bad it is just memory it is things that have already happened you is yesterday good or bad there is no such thing because it's not alive only if it's alive and it can bite you you can say it's good or bad but what is dead and gone if you react to it even today it seems to bite you and hurt you because what happened ten years ago people still suffer what may happen day after tomorrow they already suffer so what happened ten years ago is not alive right now what may happen day after tomorrow cannot be alive right now because it's not happened so you are essentially suffering that which does not exist this is why karma is important you understand your joy is also your karma your misery is also your karma your suffering is also your karma karma means you are doing it karma means action when you say my life is my karma you are admitting my life is my making this is the most dynamic way to exist this is the only culture on the planet who has looked life like this a whole lot of cultures believe that their life is managed from somewhere above but from up there somebody is managing but we are sitting on a round planet which is spinning all the time you don't even know which is up and which is down in this cosmos is it somewhere this side up and this side down there is no such thing you do not even know what is up and down how come you know who is up there or who is down there so these are childish you know solace that you create in your mind karma is a very dynamic adult way of looking at life this is my making right now I am joyful this is my making right now I am miserable this is my making right now I am the way I am this is entirely my making when you say my life is my karma you are saying my life is entirely my making this is the most dynamic way to exist do not make it fatalistic it is nothing fatalistic about it because if you see it's my making you can fix it if it is God's making moving to greener passes Sadhguru having read your thoughts about golf well green green is not a color it's a destination so can you please share your inner engineering tips for combating adversities on the golf course there are no adversities on the golf course because this is not an artillery thing nobody is trying to hit you with the ball see golf is a game unlike any other game because I played a lot of field hockey when I was young there was only one ball twenty of us are trying to grab that ball and it's moving at high speeds and you have to grab it and take it but everybody wants the same ball when I started golf when I was well over fifty years of age I suddenly realized this is a great game I have my own ball and nobody is trying to grab it and I have all the time to hit it and it's a sitting ball in every other game ball is coming at you at various angles, velocities spin speed all kinds of things here it is a sitting ball and everybody becomes quiet in respect for the goof up that you may do hahaha so to hit a sitting ball what is the big challenge I thought so I never took a lesson I never been on a driving range it's a sitting ball I never take a practice swing in the entire eighteen holes but it's a sitting ball if your faculties are okay if you are reasonably geometrically well balanced when you stand you can hit the ball you may not become a pro but reasonable level of golf every reasonably fit man or woman can play but unfortunately they have a mental problem in my understanding of the game seventy percent of the game is in the mind so I play only seventy percent the other thirty percent I never bothered because I don't want to be a professional or be in a competition or something so I only pay seventy percent of the golf so I finish you know five six seven over it's okay with me I am not planning to go under it's okay while we deal with difficult relationships where one cannot avoid the other person be it the boss or your wife more often than not I feel out of control and the whole environment seems to be conniving against me can I deal with the situation on my own is it okay to blame somebody else what do you suggest is the way to get back to life in a positive way see the best thing about this is you're only facing one of them either boss or the wife never two of them together so you can oscillate you know as a military man you can escape the wife for some time and you can escape the boss for some time unlike other jobs where every day they have to face I'm sorry I'm just joking like this anyway see you can neither live without your wife nor your boss both are important in your life you sought the career and you got into the job you got a boss you sought my relationship you got into marriage and you got a wife so these are things that you aspired for when things that you aspire for happen then you suffer this must be looked at this is not about the wife this is not about the boss this is something to do with yourself because human beings have gotten into this place wherever you place them they have found a way to suffer why are you guys so serious come on so I think we are wearing masks that's why probably... oh I'm not able to see you smile I'm sorry but I thought I will hear some laughter at least so let me tell you a joke this happened one day Shankaran Pillai had a mega fight with his wife then in a fit of fury he left the home and walked away in the evening he loitered here and there just outside the town he was moving around not knowing where to go what to do going back home immediately was not palatable then he saw a sadhu a sanyasi was settling down beneath the tree for the evening or the night he looked at him and he lo...she seemed to be very well organized and absolutely no issues under the tree he seems to be perfectly fine then he went to him and said Sadhu Maharaj wife is giving a lot of trouble if there is any solution tell me sadhu glared at him like this bev kuf if there is any solution why am I sitting here as Sadhu so see we say this life is like juggling a ball if you're alone just one ball easy to do you become two two balls little more difficult more attention then you become four, you have four balls to juggle then you have an Indian army on you you've got ten thousand balls to juggle all to you so how many balls can you juggle joyfully that's how many you should pick up if you aspire or enhance your activity without enhancing yourself activity will cause misery so people you know one top executive in the country of an international company a global CEO came to me some time ago a deep state of distress and said sadhu I can't take this they're putting so much stress on me I looked at him and said okay then may you be fired he said no no no sadhu what are you saying I said hey you're suffering your job so much I'm sure that many people are aspiring for your job if you get fired you can walk the beach happily no no no sadhu don't do that to me so if you're in the job you will suffer you will get fired if you suffer if you're married if you suffer married if you suffer if you're not married you suffer what is the problem the problem is this one not with the wife not with the boss not with the world whatever they may be I'm not trying to defend them they may be anything but whether I suffer or don't suffer is essentially with me as I said earlier life is not your choice what you make out of it is 100% your choice this is what karma means when I say my life is my karma wife is somehow boss is somehow the world around you is somehow all kinds of nuisance happening but I keep this one the way I want you may I know you face different kind of enemy we face all kinds of people every day people that I've never met that I do not know they have they're spooing venom on me on daily basis I don't know from where that venom comes maybe it's just extra protein in their body I don't know but they go on endlessly doing all kinds of things putting all kinds of obstacles to everything that we do everything that we do is inclusive for larger well-being but they don't like it there are people campaigning right now against me today that tree planting is dangerous okay your existence itself is dangerous so what people do to you what the world does to you this is how it is what do you want to do to yourself that is in your hands this is your karma this is what it means by saying my life which is my karma means the way I am is 100% mine nobody nobody can decide how I will be right now it's me who decides how I am right now if you decide how you are right now will you keep yourself blissful or miserable if you can answer this was one question all of you Satguru how do you relate the concept of Shiva and yoga well most people's understanding of Shiva is from the calendar images these days I see particularly hmm I think it's both north India and south India but I think it's more in the north they are making Shiva look like a chubby sweet-looking man okay no moustache no beard nothing sweet looking baby like man no if you look at the stories he is one of the most athletic gods that you can think of and above all wherever you see him he is sitting in yogic postures he is the yogi he is a yogi and he is the first yogi so the reason why we remember people for thousands of years is because of their contribution to us see we must understand we all of us are self-centered human beings yet now we will remember somebody with great affection love or devotion simply because of the contributions they have made to our lives along with Shiva many others might have lived on this planet but who cares whether they existed or not we don't think about them it's only a few human beings that we revere because of the contributions he has made to us what is his contribution are the yogi's contribution to us because he was a yogi and people had never seen one like that before they called him Adiyogi or the first yogi so what is his contribution his contribution is he explored the mechanics of life like it has never been done before nor has it been done after 112 ways in which a human being can attain to the highest ultimate level of liberation and well-being within oneself 112 different ways of exploration so these 112 ways were taught to the seven yogis who are today being referred to as the Saptarishis and also Devi Parvati these were the eight people who became beneficiaries of this knowledge from there it has come down with various distortions and various interpretations but fundamentally the science of yoga what the science of yoga means is see he is like over 15,000 years ago but probably only now for the first time the world is getting ready for him so Adiyogi is not of the past he is of the future why I am saying this is today you are here and many of you have children you clearly know that with your children unless you say something logically sensible they are not willing to take it from you if you happen to be a very loving doting parent still they don't take it from you is that so are you seeing this because for the first time in the history of humanity the human intellect is more cultivated in maximum number of people than ever before this is the first time that such a large percentage of humanity is beginning to think logically otherwise it all went by belief so only when people start thinking logically and looking at life logically a scientific approach to human well-being is a possibility otherwise the way we have handled our well-being is by looking up so you look up and think something will come from there and make you well when it doesn't work people will say don't worry you will go to heaven and there everything will be well now you ask the youth do they want to go to heaven it's a very sensible population for the first time we understand that this is the place to live not another place somewhere else the idea that there is a better place to live elsewhere than this itself is a crime this is the place to live and how do you know what proof do you have that this is not heaven this is heaven but you're messing it up so a time has come when everything has to be logically correct that means instead of handling our well-being through belief system through philosophy, through ideology through all kinds of cranky things now we have come to a time where we want to address our well-being in a scientific manner with tools and technologies for well-being this is what he gave over fifteen thousand years ago but all these years all we did was largely not everybody there has been a whole yogi culture in this country it is only in the last five hundred years it's kind of diminished but except for a segment of the population all others just worshipped him he did not ask for worship he did not behave in such a way that he demands worship is simply there giving these tools for transformation for those who used it it worked so a time has come where populations on the planet are more ready for a scientific scientific approach to human well-being and using technologies for well-being time has come so in many ways adi yogi or Shiva is not of the past he is of the future because it is not a philosophy it is not an ideology it's not a belief system these are technologies for well-being and this is definitely the way for the future generations everywhere in the world this fascinating evening to continue Sadhguru we are cognitive of the time constraints I now request Air Vice Marshal Pavan Mohi to kindly deliver the vote of thanks Namaskaram sir it's a honor to be with you I mean you are a you are a hugely decorated officer Namaskaram to you On behalf of the entire senior fraternity I wish to express the profound gratitude to Sadhguru for taking time out to speak to us it's indeed a rare honor and a proud privilege I have hosted you this evening though in the virtual vote great strength of this teaching it's the idea that we can train our minds to turn this unfavorable circumstances around and make them work to our advantage once again I thank you Sadhguru for having enlightened our minds we should cherish this interaction and look forward to hosting you again Namaskaram