 Seven signs you have defeated the narcissist the narcissist abandoned who they really are a long time ago They believed that who they were wasn't good enough So they created a false self they created this ideal image, which is meant to be perfect It's meant to be better than everyone It's always self-absorbed Because the false self isn't real It is dependent on other people's validation They don't have the capacity to care about anyone else They have nothing to give They're just trying to get as much as they can for themselves You have to treat them a certain way For their false self to continue its existence You have to keep propping it up Which is why it will seem like they are so dependent on you They always need your attention and admiration They always need your validation They always need your emotional support Because that keeps the false character alive If they can get you to believe that it's real It makes it more believable for them, but of course it isn't real It is a false character When you refuse to prop up this false character It will fall apart It has no foundation or structure It's built on lies It was built on the intention of manipulating people So that they could get what they want Which is why when they don't get what they want When you don't attend to them or admire them it destroys the illusion It defeats the false character and when that happens You will see another side of them A side of them that is very dangerous and likely to cause problems for you And when you see this You will know that you have defeated them One They can't get their way You have defeated the narcissist When they can't get their way When they can't do what they want They will try to deceive you by concealing or misrepresenting the truth They will do anything to manipulate and control you To get you to do what they want But if you say no If you refuse to do it It destroys their false self Because the false self is dependent on people doing whatever they need them to do In their minds when you say no It means they're not deserving or they're not good enough So it destroys their false self and makes them very angry They were acting in an offensive and bad mannered way Two When they're not the center of attention The narcissist always has to be the center of attention They expect the world to revolve around them They expect everything to be about them And they believe that no one else should be admired or praised except them But if you refuse to treat them as the center of attention If you refuse to cater to their every demand It will destroy their false self Free Criticism The narcissist cannot deal with criticism They expect everyone to see them as being perfect As being the ideal standard for what everyone else should be trying to attain When you express this approval of their false mistakes It defeats the false self They cannot deal with criticism Because they have an inflated ego They have an unrealistic standard and expectation of themselves And they would rather live in this fantasy Than to accept reality Whatever allows them to feel better about themselves And to get them the things they need But when you criticize them It will cause a narcissistic injury Which will be followed by narcissistic rage When they're caught doing something wrong When they're caught going against social norms When they're caught breaking the rules of disregarding someone's boundaries Narcissists are pathological liars They will do whatever it takes to avoid taking responsibility for their actions But when they're caught in the act They will behave in an offensive and a decent way They may become extremely annoying and insulting They may become violent and unrestrained At that point they will have no regard for morality 5. When you try to hold them accountable for their actions An easy way to defeat the narcissist Is to try to make them take responsibility for their actions They don't believe that they're ever wrong They think that everything they do is right Everything they do is justified They think there's a reasonable excuse for why they're doing it So you have no right to question or confront them But if you force them to take responsibility for their actions You have defeated the narcissist 6. When they're not granted privileges or special treatment The narcissist has a strong sense of entitlement They believe they are inherently deserving of privileges and special treatment They believe they should have whatever they want Whenever they want it And no one has the right to deny them But if you do say no to the narcissist They will become very angry They will behave in an unacceptable way They will insult you and put you down They will say you never do anything for them They will say that you're selfish Because the survival of their false self Is dependent on you doing whatever they want You have to let them get their way For them to feel like they're something significant or important 7. If you don't agree with their opinions or ideas The narcissist's false self depends on validation It depends on people agreeing with them If you don't agree with their opinions or ideas They will feel like their reality is under attack They will become anxious to prove their point to you They will try to get you to see things their way But if you continue to disagree with them They will feel invalidated and the illusion will fall apart They may become angry or they may give you the silent treatment When the narcissist begins to act in a manner that deviates from what is normal or usual It's because they've suffered a blow to their inflated egos And that is when you know you have defeated them Thank you for watching I hope this video wears out with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching queries You can email me at coach.narksurvivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon