 Thank you so much, Madame. You're just like Jack of all trades. What? And the other guest that we have is a wonderful Miss Brenda Nyambeke. She's an actress, an emcee, a curator. Wow! Blogger and founder of Trapped in My 20s. I think you'll tell us what that is. Thank you. And as well as running a blog that is called Raised by Him, her. Alright. So let's just start talking, you guys. Blogging, Baze. How does that go when it comes to... How did you decide that you want to do this on a daily basis? Because I know sometimes blog takes dedication. There are blogs where you're blogging every day. There are blogs where you're blogging maybe weekly or monthly. So share with us. Well, what I can say is what made me to blog is because of my desire to just show the world what I wear, how to wear tips, just small tips here and there. What to do, how to color blog, you know. So I started the blog as a fashion blogger. Okay. Yeah, mainly. So what I do is mainly fashion blogging. But recently I've started reviewing on phones and restaurants and offering lifestyle tips here and there. Wow. Yeah. So I can say I'm here there. Okay. Are you comfortable if I share your age? Yeah, it's okay. You are 22. Yes. You're doing a lot for 22-year-olds. I know we have to. In this world, we have to. Wow, that's really good. Are you guys, I hope, in last case, these are the people you should be emulating. Brenda, please tell us why. Do I see my age? I love your story. Are you needing it? They say my age as well. Oh, yes, you're comfortable if you're not. Yeah, I'm comfortable. Sure. Yeah. So my name is Brenda Nyambeki. Yes. As I said earlier, I'm 24 years old. 24, right? You're still young. You think so? Yes. So I wrote this blog called Raised by Her, Raised by Him. Okay. I was raised by a single mother. I lost my dad, I think when I was one year old. Sorry. And I lost my mom also in 2016. Okay. So I never knew I could write, apart from the compositions and issues we did back in school. So after I lost my mom, I had this urge of telling my story because it's power in telling a single story each and every time. That is true. So I had this urge of, and I kept pushing it. I kept telling myself, Brenda, no, you cannot put your story out there. No, they say, you know, but I just told myself, after some serious, I called myself to have stuff meeting and you called yourself to have something. Exactly. And I was like, Brenda, I think it's time we did this. Just put your story out there. Yes. Even if it's just one soul, you're good to go. So I still take my blog in 2016. I talk about my experiences as a girl raised by a single mother in this era, in this millennial era. I talk of the challenges that I have seen my mom go through. I talk of how my background has affected me as well in terms of my social life, economical life, and everything in general. But mostly I just talk about my experiences as a girl raised by her. And I try to offer tips as well. I really can't say much to single mothers just to tell them to keep on keeping on. But my story is mostly to reach out to these millenials who are raised by single parents. And I'm sure you've been able to reach out to someone. I have. You have? Because there's a time I really wanted to bring the blog down. But then I got some, I think four or five DMs, guys are like, Brenda, what's happened to the stories, the characters going on as like, I think it's time we keep going on in the blog. So I have a lot of friends who come from the same background as me. So I have managed to reach quite a number. You've managed to touch some people. I love that. That's amazing. And if we could go back to Miss Mary. Mary, your fourth year student at Kenyatta University. And you're pursuing mathematics and economics. Yes. And psychology. Yes. I still don't believe that you're able to do all this. I just refuse. You know what I was doing, I didn't have time to do anything extra. Like it took that much of my time. Yeah. So I'm seeing you're doing a lot and then plus on top of that, you're a fourth year student. How do you balance all this stuff? Well, first of all, it's very hard. Like you can start with something and you forget that you're doing the other. I can be in class, so I forget that I'm supposed to be blogging. I'm supposed to think of some new content to do. So it's very hard. But luckily, and can I say it's a good thing that we as women, I can say. You can say that. Being today is perfect. Bring it in. Bring it in. Yeah. We have the power of balancing. Yeah. That's one of the advantages that we have as women. So while I'm in class, I can also think of something new that I can do. Yeah. That's so true. Yeah. It's very hard, first of all. Yeah. So you learned how to multitask. Yes. Like women should. Yes. I think when it comes to women, it's time, that question, the answer just comes automatically. You also don't know how you do it, but you do it. But you just do it. You just do it. Because if you remember, either you're in business, you have to do some deliveries. You want to, if you have rehearsals, because I'm an actress, if I have rehearsals, if probably I have to do, you just, you don't know how it happens, but you just... But it happens. Exactly. Just plan your deal well and everything falls into place. True. I love women. Masa, this is just amazing. I think we're so gifted. We are so gifted. And we start at a young age. This is not to hate on our men, of course. We know that our men also do wonderful things with their lives and we encourage you to do so. Shout out to our brothers and fathers. Good. Shout out to... In fact, do you have any shout-outs you'd like to give out? Yes, to my brother. Please do. And we'll go next to you. Please do your shout-outs. Shout out to all my friends, fans, my brothers, my family. I love you so much. Where can they find you on social media? Brenda Nyabeki. Winstead. Pulled up your social media. Oh, you did? Yes. Oh, they're quick. I'm Brenda Nyabeki on all social media platforms, but my blog is raised by her, him, on all social media platforms as well. All right. Any shout-outs you'd like to do and what is your social media platform? First of all, I was given a very long list. Oh, this is a... Whoo! Let's see you in a bikini. You've got a body. Stop, stop. Okay. Yeah. So, I'd like to... First of all, say thank you to my family and friends because I can say I'm here because of them. First of all, because of God. Of course. Yeah, he's the mighty and, yeah, the... everything, everything to us. No one was given even the gift to do this. Yes, yes. Yes. Because I can't blog for nothing. Yeah, so to my mother and father, to my sister who is here with me, to my brother, to my friends, Gandhi, Brenda, Flavia... Brenda, me or which... No. I don't have a friend in Turkey. Your friends now? Yeah. I've never loved Mary. Oh, thank you. Everyone, John DeGos. Yeah, who is watching. Everyone, Bobby, Joshua. Everyone. Yeah, if I've left you out, it's okay. So, social media handle? Social media, IG, to Mary O'Bondy. Twitter, to Mary O'Bondy. Facebook, Mary Margaret O'Bondy. Mary Margaret O'Bondy. Yes. That's some of the stuff that's going on in the background. Yes. Is this your page still? Yes. My website. Your website? Yeah. This is something you did on Nokia 51 Plus? Yes. Wow. Can I write something about technology? Sure. It's not so easy and not so hard. You have to call yourself to a meeting. Yeah. Yeah. I have to do that. What's happening in this particular picture? I like it. Yeah, we went out. That's Gandhi, Brenda, Ian, Gary, and my other friend called Adrian. Yeah, we went out. And I just felt I need to talk about friends. I like how you guys dial up. Yes. Your dress code is very... It's like Afrofuturistic. Yeah. Yeah, and that's my thing. Yeah, they're my squad. I'm getting a stylist. You know? Even we will call you up. We are. True. The both of us. Please do. We need to look up your very age. Pinky and funky you. Yeah. In Bashakura. Oh, now it actually looks tasty. Yeah. It's very tasty. That's a Jukua lounge. Yeah. I need to pass by there. Very. So you do even... Wow. Yeah, you did mention that you do something about food. Yes. Oh my goodness. So you touch on everything. Everything. Is there any blog that you don't blog about? No. We're not a technology show. Yeah. Oh, no. We didn't take out. You just have to grab it. Yeah. Take it. Okay, okay. I'm so proud of you, ladies. Thank you. I'm so proud of you. Thank you. 15.2 thousand followers. Young lady. What is your secret? Man, maybe... It's a challenge. Yeah. A challenge. I am challenged as well. This is good. This is good. You guys are working really hard. You're balancing a lot. And that is wonderful. Now, I'd like to ask. Can you tell our people who are watching maybe about, sorry, your greatest failure when it came to... It doesn't have to be a personal one. The blogging or starting something off. You mentioned that it reached a place where I said, I don't think this thing is working. Did it ever happen again? And as for you, did it ever reach that point where you said, I just want to stop this? Yeah. Feel free, anyone. You can do first. Yeah. I can say yes. There are challenges every time they come and they go and we have to learn from them. So, I can say for me, first of all, yeah, there is also lack of capital, lack of income. You want to take bombast photos. Of course. Yes. With a nice camera. Yes. And use a nice computer with a nice program. Yes. And that's money. Yeah. Sometimes it's out there. Yeah. So you have to improvise. Like you can use your phone. I use my phone most of the time to take my pictures and put them up on my blog. So, I use anything and everything. So, one of them was lack of capital. Uh-huh. To inspiration. You know, sometimes, yeah, there's something called writer's blog. Yes, I find writer's blog. You don't have anything to write about. You know, you shout to me. Yeah, so you just have your pictures but you don't have anything to write about. So, you can stay for a while without writing on the blog. And people will be like, okay, so what is happening? Why not writing for us? We are here for you, but... Yeah, they are source of strength for some of you. Yeah. You don't even know. Yeah. But somehow you are not delivering. They are so inspiration and capital. Inspiration, having the writer's blog and capital. Are there any other challenges apart from the ones you have mentioned? Uh, for me, you know, when I decided to write about my stories, because mine are quite emotional. So, like, anytime I have to think of a story, I really have to, like, it gets emotional for me at times. And once I'm done with an article, I always have to go, do I really want this story to be out there? Yeah. You know? You have to ask yourself. Exactly, but what keeps me going is, once I do an article and just a random person tells me or comments, you have been through this and trust me, you will come out of this stronger than you thought. You have. Thank you so much. Yeah. So, for me, unlike her, because for her, you know, it's all about, I think yours is fun, fun, fun, fun. Yeah. For me, it's going to that vulnerable point. Yeah. You have to get to that vulnerable point to share my stories. Because for me, it's not been an easy journey. Of course. So anytime I have to, like, think of a story, anytime I have to think of my mom who I buried two years ago, it gets emotional for me. But, you know, I have to pull myself together and do it. And be strong. Yeah. And for me, the challenges I've experienced is when I started my blog, you know, when you want someone to help you on the website, guys are busy. Yeah. You know, when you start a project, no one wants to be involved. Yeah. But once it picks up, everyone says, oh, Brenda, can we hook up? I tell you about your blog. You know, I'm wondering, where were you when I needed you? Absolutely. So for me, it's been, I really haven't gotten some nice support technology, technologically wise, if there's a word like that, because I'm really not tech savvy. Sorry to say this though, I'm a millennial. But there's a time I really needed help on my blog. A few friends came through, but those I expected to help me did not come through. So to all our friends, please support us in our small projects. But sometimes that's the nature of life. Yeah. Be ready for people to not support you. Exactly, to not support you. That will happen all your life. But the thing is, when you want to come away, when I'm doing well, if you're expecting it will stop, it will not stop. There are people who will never support you, and they're still very close to you. Yeah, we learn to make peace with each other. You make peace with it. You have to make peace with it and just say, you know what, that person isn't that one journey, let me figure out myself. You never know. You never know. So for me, it's just getting to the vulnerable, the emotions, how they get aroused, how it gets so much for me. Yes. And I've heard you mention, and I'd like for us to go into inspiration now, because most of the time you ask, okay, so where do you get your inspiration from? And I've seen that you're getting your inspiration from, okay, from both of you, from life experiences, particularly, especially things that happen to you. Yes. What about some of the things that have happened in your life that have directed you to focus on those particular blogs, as opposed to maybe something more emotional? Why did, is it maybe just your personality or what is it that inspires you to do the blogs that you do? First of all, yeah, life experiences. We go through stuff and you hear what people say. Okay, that's something minor, but sometimes you can, what people say can really influence what you're, influence you, yeah, what you're going through. So, yeah, I can say friends, yeah, a friend can influence, can inspire you to write something, even if it's not directly, but can influence you to write maybe about wear, something to wear, something to, I can say, okay, let me just say life experiences, because yeah, and your interests too, because I think you're just interested in fashion as a whole. Yes, yeah, because the main thing was fashion. Yes, so when you feel like writing about this scarf, you can just play around with words and you'll come up with the content. Yeah, when you need to like, I'm going to an event, what should I do? So, I do some research and also pair them with my research and create a blog. Yeah, I can say life experiences. Sour, sour, sour, sour. We're going to go on a break very shortly, and then we're going to be playing a game, so you guys be ready for that. Don't worry, you don't even have to stand up or anything. It's a very simple game, it's just to changamish our viewers so that they don't feel that they can't maybe, I don't know how to explain. A lot of our viewers are young, so we need to include some games once in a while and we usually do that on social Friday, but before we do that, I'd like to ask one last question. A lot of people think that it's easy to make money online as blogger. What's your thought on that? Even I think that. My only problem is... You're also in that group. Yeah, my only problem is I'm not a writer, I'm a talker. Sour, sour. Is it true about the money? Is it a good source of income? Does it put bread on your table? Does it pay your rent? Or is it a hobby? I studied it as a hobby. Though I monetized my blog like I think two months ago. I wouldn't say because I'm still... For me, it's still growing because as I said earlier on that time, I literally went on a break. So yes, because I follow a lot of bloggers on Instagram where... And there are some who do it like full-time. So I'd say if you put in the effort, it really pays. It really pays. If you really put in the effort to be creative enough, be consistent. Because I think that's the major problem we have as anything that you start, you get opportunity like I can do this. So I think consistency plays a key role when it comes to does your blog pay. So blogging pays. Online thing is pay. First of all, you don't get to get that money immediately. Like I said it in 2016, but I'm starting to get my money right now. Three years. Yes, it was easy because you have to... You've taken all my motivation away. No. It depends on how much. It's just like when you start a project or when you start a business. You have it all figured out. You have a vision board. I'll do this. Exactly. But along the way you need to balance. Like she is in school. I do acting. I run a project called chapter 20. So by the time probably I get home, I feel so drained. I had planned to write an article today, post it, but by the time I get home, that energy of typing is not there. So it's really... I see. No, I'm not discouraged at all. But we do have to go on a short commercial break and then we'll be right back to continue. And I will start off with what you're going to say. So please hold your thought.