 Hello. Hello. Hi. Your first name is Faith. Yes. How old are you? I'm I'll be 30 next month. Okay. What do you got for me? Well, I'm a single mom and I don't I think that it's okay with one and had high dogs man. Like I think it's okay. You said you think it's what? It's okay for me to I'm about to start dating again and I think that that's what I would like to date and I think it's nothing wrong with that. Okay. Were you married? Yeah. How long? Four years. Okay. And was your husband a high value man? He was working as a way up to one but no. Okay. What does that mean? He was starting businesses. He was a military man and he was, you know, getting off his feet. So how many children do you have? Two. All right. So to the market, what you're basically saying is hey, the man I married and had two children was not high value. But now I'm coming to the market divorced older with two children wanting a man who was financially better than the one I had two kids for. Yeah. I know it sounds bad, but it sounds like it sounds it sounds it sounds exactly like what it is. I don't vouch you for wanting what you want but what the question always comes back facing. Why should a high value man pick you versus picking the okay, why should a high value man pick you versus picking a woman he can make his own children with? That's true. I agree because when I had kids, I didn't want a man with kids also. So I agree. However, I'm just saying I think that if a high I think that I could get a high value man possibly just because I have kids is not going to make it like, oh my gosh, he has kids. And I was going to ask you a question. What state are you in? Alabama. Oh, one of the poor states in the union, you just think you can get a high value man. Do you know any high value man? Yes, that's what I was going to ask you. I was going to ask you a question. Um, this guy, he's talking to me. He's a high value man. And I was just trying to figure out like, does he really like me or do is he just like probably wanting the booty calls because he's high value, but probably number two. I'm gonna tell you true. He has no kids and I'm just trying to figure out like he has children. No, he doesn't have any children. Right. Hey, man, I mean, all right. So let's listen, listen, listen, listen, listen. Do you have a son or a daughter? Do you have a son? I have two boys. Okay, so let's fast forward. Let's fast forward 35 years. And your and your oldest son is an accomplished attorney making $400,000 a year. And you've had to work with your ex to put your son through, you know, University of Alabama, through Harvard, through, you know, junior law, all that stuff. And he comes home and says, Mama, I'm getting married to a woman, a mom, a woman with two kids. You're gonna say, all right, son, I worked all my life for you to go do that. I wouldn't be happy at first. However, if he was, I don't know, see, now stop right there. See, stop right there. Why wouldn't you be happy at first? Because I'll be like, um, you can start your own family. However, let's not go down or however, let's keep on that path. You can start your own family because because it better be the right thing to do. That's what I write the right thing. The better thing because you didn't raise your son and go through all that for him to take over some other person's bills. Yeah, that's true. Welcome to you. All right. I'm sorry, man. But that's the truth. Are your children an asset? But it's like, but you still keep the but are your children like, oh, listen, listen, are your children an asset to another man? They can be. I didn't ask if they can't. How can they be? Some guys just want to be stepdaddy. No, no, tell me how they can be an asset. I can't tell you nothing right now. Okay. Thank you. So you got me. You're right. Bottom line, ma'am, you're you're you married a military guy. Why are y'all divorcing? He was cheating and we can't work it out because he's a narcissist. So okay. As he had a clinical designation of narcissists, are you just saying that? Oh, clinical medication, something's going on. Narcissus lack empathy. Okay. So so a narcissist is narcissistic. He's been around children. So he has no. Okay. All right. I'm say this, ma'am, this whole high value thing has a lot of you ladies in a bad position. Ma'am, you're in Alabama. You're a divorcee with two kids and you want one. Do you care if he's black? The man is black? I would prefer him to be black. Yes. And that means you want, you want 8% of black men. 8% 8% of black men earn over $100,000 and they don't really tend to live in Alabama. That's 8% regardless as to the age, 8% regardless as to the current marital status, 8% regardless as to sexual orientation. And you didn't make babies with an 8% man. You made babies with a guy in the middle. Please explain to me why you want a guy who's so high up now. That's why I really want to understand. I feel that it's nothing wrong with wanting to step daddy with high value. Like it's okay for me wanting my kids to go to private school. Like really? Tell me why. Tell me why it's okay. Because if I find a guy and he's high value and he's okay with, I just don't see how it's like, oh, she got kids. Oh, I understand it is like more options out there, but just like, it's possible. Really? So you don't see any problem, you don't see any issue. We want your kids to go to private school that you cannot afford to pay for and your husband can't afford to pay for. No, like if that's what you know, I'm going to tell you, and I'm going to tell you this, that's, and that's one of the, that's one of the issues in our community that a woman like yourself could honestly come up and say, I have, I don't see any problem getting somebody who had nothing to do with this to pay for the bill. That's that welfare state mentality. Listen, listen, not insulting you man, but listen. You can't afford it. Your husband can't afford it. That means you don't get it. The only way you could get your kids in private school is to find somebody else who's willing to put your kids in private school. You want your kids in private school, get a nanny, get a tutor, work with them to get them a scholarship. That's what you're supposed to do. Go get a second job. Go, go, go, don't, don't go get your hair done. Listen, listen. Okay. Ma'am, in this life, we get what we work, what we earn and work. You want somebody else to pay your bills. That is unfair. It is selfish. How? Because you don't have the money. I do have, I do have. You can't afford to put your kids, oh Jesus. Okay. Let me go ahead and grab this mute button because you said if somebody wants to come along and put your kids in private school, but you can't afford to put your kids in private school. That's what you said. I didn't say that I can't afford it. But you said if somebody wants to come along and put your kids in private school by implication, meaning they're going to be paying for it, not you. I'm not trying to play cement. That's true. Yes. That's what I'm saying is yes, they'll be paying for it if they're my husband. No, no, they're not your husband. They'll be your step. They were. All right. So in other words, guys, pay attention. These are the women you need to listen, pay attention to. These are the women that really don't care about you because you said it, ma'am, if it were your sons, you would want him to go start his own family. But I don't like how you, but I don't, I don't care. The words came out to what you said if they were your sons, you would want them to start their own families. Yes. But for you, but I also said if they do want to be stepdaddy, they can be. So that's not the point. I didn't ask. I didn't ask. No, again, again, pay attention to what's going on here. It's because of her. It's not because it's not because of what's right or what's best. No, you're trying to flip it. I'm not flipping shit. I'm saying exactly what you're saying. It's not because of what's right or what's best. It's because of it's you. That's what it is. It's because of it's her. Think about what you're saying. I would want my sons to get the best possible, but I want you to pay for it. And that's fine. But what is he going to get for that? Me? And this is the mentality that guys are listening to ladies and saying, do y'all give a damn about it? Talk about narcissists? That woman sound like she cared about a man? Let's get to the next one.