 On Wednesday, on one end of the morning, this is the day that we celebrate the Queens. As I mentioned earlier, my name is Byron Moses or it's Byron Mon, social media. So it's that time that you've been waiting for, the time for the moment, or the moment of truth is here with us right now. The topic of conversation on our Facebook page is going to be the topic of conversation on set. So we are going to be sharing your views, your comments, and the views of the panelists here. So, from right there, I have the funding for everything, political funding, social issues, and a sports beer night. All right, Mr. Xavier, Garibu Sana, Allah Fut Konal, the beautiful faith. Thank you. So I'll give you some time to introduce yourselves fully. So maybe ladies first, as your covering is that one. Introduce yourself, just in case I left anything I'd like to give everybody an opportunity. First of all, thank you for having me on this show. Faith Mussolly on social media, Facebook, Faith Mussolly, Twitter, Faith Mussolly, at faithmussolly.com, Instagram, Faith Mussolly. All right, Garibu Sana and Miss Faith Mussolly. Thank you. Social media is a result of the Faith Mussolly. Yes. All right, find faith as we have this conversation. Mr. Xavier. Thank you Bahari for having me. I'm Xavier Mulaku, social media, I'm a strong like Twitter, Facebook, Kilama Ali, and I'm a journalist. Garibu Sana, so you guys have seen the picture that we have on Facebook today, right? Yes. They have the CV, the certificate, the degree, and then you're told this is after the two American women's act. So just a quick yes or no answer I don't want to be in California Of course I don't want to be in California I don't want to be in California, I want to be in the state of mind You are not picking the sex, you are picking the state of mind Okay so we have seen a lot of ladies who are well educated A lot of men who are well educated do stupid things when it comes to love Why would you say that only ignorant people react like this when it comes to love? Love is always something complicated, no one can ever explain what love is But for me you are allowed to do anything when it comes to a breakup Because everybody reacts differently But when I am saying this person is not intelligent You are not going to school, he knows the struggle of the school life So you have to find someone who has a degree and you have to do a breakup So this person is not going to go to school I am not going to go to school, I am not going to go to school I am not going to go to school, that is so okay Yes exactly But you can't do somebody like this, you can't take them back to zero That one is destroying someone's life Now that person moving forward is just a zombie, has nothing to do now in life Please check our Facebook page to get to see this picture that we are talking about Why do you say it's a lady who did this obviously? Okay I say it's like it's obviously a lady who did this Because in the first place you find that it's always most cases Men who disappoint women In which cases? In most cases Okay We have one scenario first Don't tell us DJ you are more excited That is a reality I know of Veracidica and Or Tilibra Okay So We can't be resourceful You say this in most cases Men disappoint ladies So we have like a 70% chance that a man will disappoint a lady Yes Alright the reason number two why you say it's a lady obviously Because of emotional maturity You find that in some sense women are too emotional And so before they think they react Okay they react before they think Yes And then think after reacting Do you think after reacting? No This time too much hope You guys put a lot of hope in the relationship Expectance you have a lot of expectations Without hope Without how can you be without hope? But you cannot get into a relationship And there's nothing like too much hope And then you're not hoping it to get somewhere At the end of the day It is good to hope but it's your partner also hoping Your hope should also be a balance between two This is where I ask What not to ask we are honest with each other Exactly If I'm seeing okay faith I like you But Atchuta-Malisa Mouaka I just be honest with faith And tell faith Atchuta-Malisa Mouaka cause this and this and that Why not be honest with a lady Instead of Kumbhatiya false hope If I were to tell faith of the first week or the second week Yes I like faith but I think I can be like Faith saying to Kumbhatiya Mouaka I don't think faith is going to give me a chance Within that one week So I rather we roll with faith You roll with faith Kumbhatiya of the rolling I want faith to just picture naone Whom say is not the right person I don't want to say it I need to be so intelligent The kind of person We can appeal you are very good But when you want to break up You don't break up with a lady You just start acting Yeah I detach myself And that's why I say Dating needs intelligence I'm not intelligent in dating I'm not like Whom say when I'm going to go on a high note Taking me to dates Taking me where to where These days this person is calling Like don't force issues I don't want to be gangsy Answer some areada So ladies need to know Under the video I'm saying If I shoot I'm a decree So this is the reaction Of somebody who is giving false hope Save you Listen to an extent Let me say this To an extent You find that in most cases In most cases you find that A man comes to me And tells me I'm an independent person Then he comes to me And tells me faith I like you But I'm married And then I'm like Let us just try and see How it will go How it will go So he's honest enough to tell me But I'm building false hope I'm thinking like For yourself For myself I'm thinking like It will go somewhere Then at the end of the day If someone is blind You should already know That the chances are very low So sometimes ladies build false hope For themselves Sometimes it's instigated By boys and girls If someone has really dated a lot of people Just know It won't work with you You see If someone is from a lot of break ups It won't work with you I may work for an age It's been half a year There's somebody who Dropped a comment here I'd like to read it out Okay We should Her Her She's called Princess Kei About the topic I think it's all about mature thoughts Of where it could react to be But it's all part of The journey of finding your soulmate I'd like to focus on this part I'm not sure If you break up number two I'm a per-opportunity You could meet the next person Who could be your soulmate Exactly Because Anything you do It's hard Same way I say I'm going to break up Smiggy is a no-go zone Yeah, no-go zone But that is not the case That is not the case Yes, that is not the case That person could be your soulmate Yes If that person Is going to get married You're like I'm dating ten years I'm a PTA Break ups Another could date me What do you think is the future Of this generation When it comes to That family Organization Before I comment on that I just want to comment On one of our viewers And he said Like He told me maturity But at the same time The person I met Is on my degree papers Maybe he already He or she invested in the relationship He or she learned That I'm going to go to school So I don't know If I'm going to go to school I don't know If I'm going to go to school I don't know If I'm going to go to school I don't know I think The reaction part Is to handle Both gender But break ups Don't happen It's normal But do you know That you can Just tear those papers And immediately Apologizing And you're like I'm sorry I never meant it Yes That is it First of all The experience I have seen Your passport I don't know Ten years I've never seen it The next day I've seen it Ten K And they are good After one week So this break up I don't know The relationship I don't know Where He escalated I don't know So let me Men this My ways Are so healthy Break ups are so healthy By the way Sometimes you can Break up to make up Yes You can break up to make up Sometimes you can Break up Sometimes you can meet someone Who is so good Sometimes when you break up You know Your issues I don't know I don't know So that when I'm meeting Another person You are able to Maint your aides But I want to say When you break up Always take time Take time When you go to the next So you've given me An example Of passport I don't know Please the reactions You've seen after break ups When I'm going to TV I'm gonna Pass everything In the house When I'm at home I'm going to say I don't want to break up I'm going to break up I'm going to break up These guys were dating Modern in long distance I was in Bombasa I was in Nairobi I was in Nairobi I was in Bombasa In September I was in Nairobi I was in Nairobi I was in Nairobi I was in Nairobi You went to Nairobi You went to Bombasa You went to Bombasa They had to stay It's ok but sometimes we are not supposed to do extreme Extreme I've dated you maybe for few months Like where it's all here too So the longer the period of dating the more The more hard for you to do crazy things In escalation you like it Which is cool People say it's a bit dangerous They like some people who say it's dangerous They go to an extent of killing someone They are partisans It's a bit very dangerous As we wrap up What is the solution? Quite a few steps Should we be honest from the jump? And say I'm not attracted to you anymore Or ok this thing is just a fling It's not love Should we be honest? Is that the solution? Should we be honest from the beginning? Or should we just be mature? Which is almost impossible It really applies both ways Some people say by the way Some of us feel it Because it's not like we are wrong We are breakers and we can't do it So some people say it can't make with you It works But some people also have to understand emotions There's no way I'm just going to throw a break up on you I just have to like detach myself from the pole Start saying I'm busy Start saying I'm working on a gezeca I'm starting to go for trips Things can't work It's very important to understand the emotions Yeah the second part is not the one earlier Alright that's why you see in our need intelligence Intelligence School is your love that's not compendial or something School is are you able to read your partner's mind? Very key It's very important But for instance you're reading your partner's mind And then it tells you that indeed this guy Is not in love with you But in most cases you find you've invested so much Into the relationship that even the intelligence Agency is not working for you But you know what I'm saying I'm just so self-confident that I'm a Vivaldi You know what I'm saying A lot of people are not good So I'm not good at it I'm just a little bit of a nuisance But to my village bed there I'm not good at it And my father doesn't know So I'm not a good person Ma'am I'm not good at it I'm not good at it Yeah She's in love She's in love Yeah The village is really great I was thinking when the person was watching The kind of people with two I was thinking it's good And then you marry the village one And you dump them The village in Nairobi It's not real Okay let's get some more comments From the views that that But remember your Facebook at Y254 or you can at us at Y254 channel, I'm a baby So, back to you, Madam Faye Breakups You've been through breakups yourself? Of course Of course Alright, so Zingine was in perfect at all Some of them you feel like It's okay What is the difference between Zingine and perfect? Why didn't you have one certificate? There is a relationship in it Who can answer like for example I'm in love with someone I won't tell this person, send me a fare I'll just board a mart and come to your place But then if I don't love you I'll tell you, send me a fare Then I don't come So, such a relationship or I come So, such a relationship in it Send me a fare and then I come If you end it, I don't care I'm just there and I feel like it's okay Okay, so it's upon the man to also understand Yes Who can send me a fare? I'll send you a fare No, I can't say that Some of them are in love with me And some of them are in love with me Some of them are in love with me He wants to see also your way You have to keep trying for you to get this gold No, Xavier From the perspective that You've just known me to pay No I've seen when you're in love with me And then at the end of the day I'll send you a fare Because you've tried on the first So you really have to try You really have to show you can Some of them are in love with me Plainly He just likes you She just likes you And she falls for you So it's different It's different when he comes to you Then for guys it's really like Hey, I come and invest I'm investing I'm investing Like, hey, you're a gambler You're in love with me You're in love with me You're in love with me But when you're in love with me You're in love with me You're in love with me You're in love with me I'll be like defending myself Maybe I'll try But I'm in love with you Okay, okay, okay So another common thing with breakups They're influenced by third parties True, true, true, true Relationships here are true You're in love with me You're in love with me When breakups are influenced by third parties Is it the fault? Does it mean that this person is weak As a person and I listen to my best friend And these are just the realities of life Let me tell you Personally, I love a relationship Where I'm able to know your friends I don't want a relationship Where I'm able to pick you up As much as I want to pick you up Last time I was in love with my best friend I was in love with my best friend But I love a relationship where they're friends So that you see with friends There's always support There's always support So in case of trouble You always go to the one who supports you To talk to this one And there's always a story in the story All the time So it is so okay For a relationship to be influenced by friends But at the same time I ask you about your partner Does your partner understand you? If you're in love You can say I love you I love you All the time I can say I love you I love you I don't care Even if you love me I love you But I'll defend myself I don't care I love you I love you I love you But I can't understand you I love you I'll defend myself So it is okay for friends To influence a relationship But at the same time Your partner really has to get you I'm in the cheating process Wherever I'm in It seems that I'm in Wherever I'm in Even if I'm in evidence I'm in evidence But where I'm in But you're in But you're in You're toxic You're toxic You're toxic So what is the importance of friends In the relationship It means Our relationship is between two people And so Friends can either break it But they can't They can't not either They can't just break it Because At the end of the day When a friend comes to you And tells you Hey, Xavier is cheating on you You know I'll take it serious But do you know that tomorrow I blame you You made me break up with Xavier So So Relationship is between two people Marafiki, Aparna Marafiki, Aparna As we do a relationship Our journey is towards marriage You see I come from a family So I come from a family It's the uncle It's Majiran in Dua Town Always will come and make it happen So a relationship should always be treated Like a marriage Even if it's fake Because you're aiming When you date faith To get married, right? The finish line is marriage Yeah, so like There are four angles in that week But in Dua There are two angles So they are those people Who are just jealous So you think you're looking at this From a man's perspective Yes From a lady's Yes But the end game I came from a family I came from a family I came from a family It's between me and you But have you ever seen Having two same situations where A man is dating The girlfriend's best friend After Yes Then tomorrow Then tomorrow Yes That's why I'm always Believing in my punishment That's why it will never last It will never last It will never last So they told me Okay If your relationship was founded That's why it's here Man They found it Where do you come from? I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know It's true It's true Man It's true Maybe I'm okay dating someone's friend After I come to my channel And I faith in you You're your best friend If you vibe out We are going to date So what about your friends dating Your ex-girlfriend Your ex-girlfriend Opposite you I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know I think mostly I talk quite like If faith wants to date my best friend You come At a relationship To faith I don't know I don't know I don't know I'm like Maybe your best friend is just fine I'm like If I could see you You can maybe I'm like Alright Alright But before we stop Some comments Before we stop Some comments I'd like to get to the issue Of mental health Easy reaction Extremes Do you think we can blame them On some mental instability On mental illnesses Because we're saying We're going to touch touch on their mental health conditions? Yeah, at the start, some of those people, as I said before, they are going to break up with me. So, they are going to take care of me, and they are going to handle me. And they are going to tell me, like they are used to this thing. So, I go like, what are you going to do? What are you going to do? What are you going to do? What are you going to do? What are you going to do? So, when it comes to mental, I think, try to always talk to people. That's why I said, friends are very important in a relationship. When there's a time when he or she will have a job, he or she will cry out loud. You know, they will tell me what to do, Simone will be like that. Simone, it's cool to talk to that. So that you will be like, Hey, tell me me, you're going to ask women to tell you, you're such a stone. You're going to ask her to go to Evo. Like, say I'm coming to the channel today, but he has given you a booster. Like the way you're thinking is the way I'm also thinking. Thinking too. Better push. Yeah, those people will ask me, they will say, I have a certain Truwia. But I'm going to ask her, and then your girl will be like, That girl is so cool, that girl is ambitious, that girl is focused So that's why I say talk, talk in a relationship I have a conversation But I'm focused on this mental health issue They might be ill now Demiako is not mentally stable To know he doesn't want to die See, at the mental health issue Yes, exactly Like, that is who she is That is who she is as a person Yes, it's her character That's nothing to do with you as a person That's what I said when we want to break up And to come out and create something Maybe it's come from job 8 to 5 Now you say it's from job 8 to 8 You see? Like, if you feel like it's not true No, no, but don't throw it out and say It's not true If you come out and say it's not true If you say it's not true You say it's not true Yes, in such a person because even though she is you It's her character And I wanna like, it's nothing big So these reactions are a question of character Yeah, a question of character And also a question of understanding You have to really understand someone I'm asking them to I'm asking them to I'm asking them to I'm asking them to I'm asking them to I'm asking them to It's not like It's not like We don't have Let's get the Facebook Let's have some comments from the viewers Right here And they say That no one Should admit that They can't kill because remember this is a country where the people of Nairobi and the people of Loretaka are shocked So I am seeing this kind of comment and they say no one should admit that they can't kill Exactly Is this the kind of thinking that we should be looking at? Because the first thing in the thought of was MAD What kind of generation are we bringing up? And that's why I said you wanted to go first A very toxic generation You have had experience Yes You are in it Yes You can see it Yes Very toxic generation Because in most cases you find that young ladies They are not working hard to get what they deserve And so they are going into relationships to gain and not to give So they are called economic relationships For the guys, we reach a point where we feel like we are really investing and putting a lot of finance on each And when you are in a relationship with them, you don't know what to do So you now ask yourself They are shocked I don't know When you are in a relationship with them, you don't know what to do You don't know what to do So what does it take? But if you are communicating, your friends will tell you that you are not worth it When you are in a relationship with them, you don't know what to do So that is somebody who lacks friends Yes, lack friends Because your friends can't let you go to work They are like, hey, you need to buy a mzinga to chill out They can't let you go to work You need to buy a mzinga to chill out And if you buy a mzinga to chill out, you will forget who you are That brings back that point where friends are very important in relationships They will come you down now Because you cannot think when you are emotional and angry They can't let you go to work They can't let you go to work They can't let you go to work You can't say that you can't calm down someone who is invested in a lady You can't You can't say that you can't go to work But if you want to invest in someone, you can check If you check, your frustrations will get cooler There is a way men can relax With their fellow gentlemen But I get your point Let's get out of that point of murder To go to insults To insults To see To see That is how you get to know who is the woman and who is the man Because even guys need not to see Who is the woman and who is the man It's okay So what you see are allowed And calm down this situation And we can get to know how the other person thinks Because when someone is angry, they speak their truth So I see another one Let's help her Is this petty? No it's petty You want work? No it's not petty I love it I go to work and I say I want to be in a good company I say that I have my friends I want to be in a good company And at the end of the day I have to live in a good company She will be calm and she will be able to do whatever she wants Yes She will be able to do whatever she wants She will be able to do whatever she wants She will be able to do whatever she wants Okay, there is somebody who thinks like Xavier here And I say, I will be able to do whatever I want She will be able to do whatever she wants My door is not closed That's so arrogant That's an arrogant man You wouldn't like a man like this one No Okay But I will also advocate Like, come and stay and do let this to resort Don't be in a rush to stay together If you're dating As in to try to be a part of a character You just come on a Friday You just come to a Sunday You enjoy a haircut You'll be able to do whatever you want Through that you're able to know your pattern The first week You can do three weeks You can do one month and do work But don't rush it Since you're paying a bedsheeter You can sit down in the bedroom We're enjoying We stay together But I said to my brother He was talking to me And I told him He was talking to him That's all Don't say all the facts, don't push it You have a lot of experience Do you talk to your relationship counsel? What are you talking about? I am a life coach Okay, this one that really got my attention Konawengine Ujiyuwa after relationship Suicide Suicide is one of the highest causes of deaths Especially for teenagers What was called Katika Age 14 At the age of 25 They commit suicide a lot What was called Konawengine Ujiyuwa after breakups Is it worth it? It's not worth it Is any relationship worth your life? No, my any relationship is not worth anyone's life Because at the end of the day You'll pain But you'll move on You'll move on You'll find someone else But suicide Suicide is never the way to go It's never the way to go Alright, as a life coach Go through the mind of somebody who's committing suicide After a break up From number one I'm a invest summer This is the person I want to marry This is the person I want to be with Every time is Every time is tried And I put a break up Every time is tried and I put a break up And I do this I'm the only one who's been passing through this Sometimes I say I'm a loner It's always dangerous to approach a loner I say I don't have friends I'm a loner That's why I'm like I want you to come with my friends We have a party and you say No, I'm a loner I cut you off because I don't know how you really think I don't like mingling with loners Yes, they are there but I don't really like them Because you never know what they think And you never know how you're going to affect them Alright, so avoiding them is the best thing It's the best thing That's why I'm like I don't abuse your identity I'll just delete your number I'll just delete your status I'll just delete your status I'll just delete your status I'll just delete your status I'll just delete your status Because the more I see you The more I feel angry But if I don't see you If I keep off There's no way I'm going to get hurt When you're out of sight of this beauty I'll remain with my village babe Okay So let's find another comment Before we get summarized Let's find something Her Let me find something Mucha-logged But Faith You can date me I'm In TV to know Don't put in number I'm back I'm back Don't put in number I think we found something Here I'd like to keep a room from Eldoritz I'll break up with him Then I'll text Keshwa and Puliza And tell him Yes, I'll text Keshwa and Puliza I'll text Keshwa and Puliza I'll text Keshwa and Puliza But if you're going to issue After you're done Some shit will be lost So are you available today Now the lady comes with a lot of power Me Yes So When I see the guy come in back After he walked in He didn't care I'll text Keshwa Sometimes I'm okay I was confiding in you, so maybe I just want to come and talk to you So to the ladies, to faith, feel comfortable when I come back I can't feel comfortable when you come back Alright, as we wrap up, what is your last remarks to the ladies who are watching you right now? This is Gwyn's Wednesday, can you talk to the ladies? How do you think is the best way to handle breakups and how should they see breakups coming? First of all, let me start with relationships, then I go to breakups Ladies don't get, for the ladies who are watching us, don't get into a relationship expecting too much and giving too little into the relationship And then again, when you see that a relationship is not working, try to be intelligent, as Saviour said Try to use your mind and not... And ask questions, mapeh ma? Yes, do you listen ma suali mapeh ma? Why is he not behaving like yesterday? And then be quick to move and take the next step And then you have to be a quick thinker When you see that this man is not going your way, then don't force a relationship Because if you force a relationship, when you break up, you'll end up breaking the TVs in the house, the cups and everything Because it's more pain when you force things Be intelligent, don't force things Saviour to criminalize it I'm going to be the opposite of fate I will start to force the relationships Because there are those relationships that there are guys like us who need someone who is forcing the relationship If you want to break up, you can But when you are forcing the relationship, you are able to put me on the road So sometimes, but force it in a good way On the intelligent side You are supposed to be so okay, okay, okay, okay So that's why when you invest in a relationship, not the limit of investing I'm not going to pay it back, I'm not going to pay it back That's no document How am I going to pay it back? I'm not working So sometimes, if I say hey babe, I'm supposed to pay my rent of 10K and less 2K Support me Yeah, you are able to come in a good way That is possible, but it's possible But don't over invest So you invest a lot of money in your house I'm the one who invests a lot of money in your house See the way you approach yourself in the relationship Find your way Find your way A lot of the lastly, lastly, lastly If you want to break up, it's normal If you want to break up, it's okay So don't allow pressure See how much pressure If you want to break up, it's okay If you want to break up, it's okay Come on, let's go Yeah, yeah, yeah They want to say like the beautiful ones are here to be born They are too old for that Thank you very much guys for coming through My beautiful family is here I want to put it in your social media Quick one Find me on Facebook Twitter at Facebook Instagram at Facebook How much you miss me? Yeah, you can get me to say via my Stromula Also show me their platforms One as an EDM, single life coach I can help you and I can also love you Put it to a click Thank you very much guys for coming through This was the end of Quiz Once They live to my extent, you know who are the 10-20 So I hope you had a good time And I hope you picked what you need And what's necessary from this conversation On our Facebook page You can still add your comments to Tazichecky We always appreciate them But tomorrow Keshav needs to be a hip-hop And I'll be in there, so be sure to tune in If you're a lover of hip-hop And tell a friend, tell a friend, tell a friend Come on up in the hip-hop Keshav's 7 out of 10, this is that place to be On behalf of everybody who made this Possible, Mr. Joe Pali, Brenda And Zed Biawai, Bonaparte Shout out