 Okay, welcome back. The last class we looked at a couple of important points. We've started on understanding a Biblical perspective of marriage. We looked at how God is the designer of marriage. We've been looking at certain aspects of the principles of perspectives that the Bible talks about marriage. We looked at a couple of points. We spoke about how marriage is a good thing. Marriage is an institution that needs to be honored. Marriage is a covenant, a solemn covenant, and marriage is between one man and one woman only. Okay, we have, I think, another two more points before we end. Let's look at the next perspective that the Bible talks about, which is that a marriage is a union of two, marriage being a union of two. So for that, we've already read Genesis chapter 2 verse 24. Now, I would like someone to read Ephesians chapter 5 verses 31 and 32. So would someone unmute and read that? Ephesians 5, 31 to 32. Ephesians 5, Ephesians 6, okay, Ephesians 5, 30 to 31. For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they too shall be one flesh. Verse 32 to Anthony. Okay, 32. This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Thank you. So there is this phrase that has been bought about both in Genesis chapter 2 verse 24, which we looked at earlier, and Ephesians 5, 31. It talks about being one flesh, okay? So when we look at one flesh, what are we looking at? It is being one in spirit and to be united. So think of it this way. If you take two papers, you know, take two papers, when you glue them all together and you attempt to separate it, you would notice that they do not come out clean, right? So you do them together, keep it for a while. And then when you attempt to separate, they do not come clean to get a clean separated. There will be something stuck of the other on another, right? So that's what one flesh means. There is so much of unity. It's almost like there is one united person being one flesh is being one united person in all aspects of life. So it is two people who become united so much so that they appear as one. And the example that all talks about in Ephesians here is the union of Christ with his church. And that's a comparison that he's given. It's a parallel that he's showing. It's in the same way that the union between a man and a wife occurs. So Christ and the church are to be that united so much so when you look at in scripture that Christ is in us and we in him, when you look again at scripture 1st John 2-6 that we walk as he walked, or we live in this world that our lives here in this world are the same as Christ. And we imitate Christ in whatever we do. So it says imitate Christ, right? So it is to this point that Jesus said that those who receive Jesus also receives us. So there is that perfect oneness between Christ and his church in the spirit. And this is the same mystery. It's the same truth that is spoken about even in marriage. The way that a man and a woman come together, they're one in spirit and they're united in one person. So in marriage, even as they make that covenant, they are made one in God's presence. And then it continues on to establishing itself over and over out in everyday life. They live out of that oneness. So this place of becoming oneness is something that evolves day to day. That is an ongoing process of really growing together, discovering one another, so that every day they come to being in a place of oneness. So let's just look at what are some of the words that really describe this becoming one one. And what does it actually encompass? So what does it, what would this oneness mean? So this becoming one flesh and often I think it's just sometimes it's just interpreted as a physical oneness. Now that's just not it. There is a lot more in that oneness that we're looking at. So the first key word that describes this becoming one is what we look at is the relationship. Now when you build a relationship with one another, your goal or your outcome is to become one, to be in oneness, to be in agreement. And this relationship is established or you establish this relationship by trust, by love, by affection, by understanding, by knowing one another, by really knowing how they think or what they would want, what they would like, what really helps them to feel loved. Now this comes only in the midst of a relationship. It just doesn't come out of the blue. A relationship needs to be built. It needs to be encouraged. It needs to be built on little by little. And that comes when two people come together, spend time together, discuss, talk, share, work through certain activities are open to understand what the other one likes. So that's what building a relationship is. So this takes effort, this takes time, this takes intention as you build on a relationship. So you could probably think of in general, maybe in your lifetime, especially maybe for those who are not yet married, in the way that you have related, how did you build strong relationships with people? And you may say some of the characteristics of that is when you take time to spend with one another or even as you're spending time, you may have certain questions that you ask to really understand the thoughts and the perspectives of one another or when someone is emotionally down, you are there to support and encourage them. That in turn enhances the relationship. Or when there are conflicts with one another, you go back to sort that conflict because you value the relationship. So this establishing of become one must be built on a strong relationship and this relationship, like we said, is intentional, is something that you do consistently, is something that you put in effort and you establish it with love and with respect and with understanding. So that's what we look, one of the words that describes oneness is a relationship. The second word that described it is what we call as a companionship. Companionship is something that we call as a friendship where a friendship or a companionship is developed when you are actively in the process of building the relationship. So it's a process of building the relationship. And that happens maybe when you're communicating, when you're sharing of life's concerns with each other, when you care for one another, when you spend time with one another. That is the process of building the relationship of saying that, okay, this is my companion, this is the person that can walk with me or goes with me through life. So that's another word that we use to describe this becoming one, companionship. The next one is agreement. When we look at agreement, what is it that we sing? Agreement is coming to a place where we are willing to consider that our opinions or our ideas or would be very different from the opinions and ideas or viewpoints of the other person. So it is to come to a place to consider these ideas and come to a common place of understanding which will help and benefit the marriage or the family at large, rather than benefit an individual's needs or individual's ideas. So it is the ability to understand or to know that my opinions and the other's opinions may be different, but of how they come or arrive to a place of coming to some agreement or some goal or some outcome, that will largely benefit the purpose of the marriage or the family. So that's what agreement. So becoming one is being willing to agree to with one another. Now, even as we're talking about agreement, the very fact, so sometimes I think that the questions that come about is what if or maybe in marriage we shouldn't disagree on anything. That I think we will also be talking about when we look at resolving conflicts. The fact that we disagree on ideas or thoughts is because we are made differently. God has made each one of us different. Our experiences, our lives, our situations, our understanding, the way that we've been brought up have all been different. So we come with certain perspectives or certain ideas. So having disagreements is not a problem. It's all right to have a disagreement or to have another opinion, have a differing opinion from somebody else. The point is how do we arrive at a place of resolution, arrive at a place of coming together is what is a skill or is, is what something that in marriage we come together to. So disagreements or differing viewpoints or opinions is, is something that you can expect because that's what, that's how we all are. We are very different, but how we arrive at it, how we resolve something is what matters. So when we look at a larger purpose, the larger purpose of how God wants to benefit a marriage or family or how God sees a responsible role in decision making, all of that matters when we are looking at agreement. Okay. So keywords here are two, three words we spoke about is relationship. We spoke about companionship. We spoke about agreement. Okay. Let's look at the next word. The next word we look at is to is complimenting one another. So complimenting one another. Remember this complimenting is not spelled with an I, but it's spelled with an E. That is the compliment is someone where you support one another so that what you're doing benefits the other or maybe some of your own weaknesses, some of your own strengths complement the other person or some of your weakness complements the other. So even though we may be different people, we are individuals who are different, we can be put together or fitted together so that we can support and compliment one another. Maybe I think to be, let's look at an example. So let's say in a couple, you may have one person who is more very practical in the way that they make decisions. Whereas the other person is more emotional in the way that they make decisions. Now, these are just two different styles of making different decisions. But it is good when you have different styles, you work together to compliment a decision making process. Someone has a practical consideration whereas the other person may have an emotional consideration. So when either when both parties or when both individuals come together understanding that the background from where they're coming from is different. But it generally is for a similar outcome. It becomes a lot less cumbersome. It becomes a lot less difficult. So to acknowledge that maybe your spouse is more practical oriented and to acknowledge that you may be more emotionally oriented is a good thing but coming together to compliment so that one may be able to see, you know, may not really look at emotions and just may make a decision on something. Whereas the other partner may look at emotions. Okay, maybe we should go slow. Maybe we should do it in a slower process because of the kind of emotional impact it can make on the entire family, whatever the issue may be. So complimenting is another word that describes becoming one. Okay, we look at another word. It is unity. Unity is how we work together to collaborate with one another, to cooperate with one another. Even when there is a difference, the difference actually become a reason for building something together. Okay, so there is a lot more strength in the fact that there are differences and these differences are used as a benefit in order to make a decision more unified. So that's what we mean intimacy. Intimacy is, in other words, it's also called as closeness. Closeness where you come to where there is a freedom to be open, to be vulnerable, to bear out, to give out without holding back. That's what intimacy means. And closeness is the relation with one another. So the ability to be open, to not hold back, to not withdraw, but to be in a place of vulnerability, to be in a place of complete giving in, to share in every form, whether it be physical, it be emotional, intellectual, spiritual, financial, to be able to give without holding back. So these are some of the words that we use to describe this oneness. Now I just want to take a couple of minutes to bring about questions. And the classes are really quiet and I don't like the sound of it. So please bring about any questions if you don't want to unmute, please put your question down on the chat. Yes, yes, Nina. Go ahead. Sorry, that was by accident. Okay. Okay. Yes, Chira, go ahead. Ma'am, my question is like, not question, but when we read Genesis, there we see like, it's not good to be men, to be alone, no, ma'am. And then again, when we see like provost, it says like, he who finds the wives, finds the good things, it's talking about men. What, there is any reflections where it's talking about women? So we can apply this for both, Chira. We can apply this for both, whether it's a man or a woman, we can apply this. Okay, okay. Actually some people, yeah ma'am, but I asked because one of my friend, like he asked me before, it's written about only men, there is no mention of women. So women can like stay single till like end of the life like that. Okay. So about singlehood, we are going to be talking about that in chapter three, where we're looking at reasons for singlehood. But these verses that talks about, man finds a wife is a good thing, it is something that can be applied to both a man and a woman. Singleness is not just meant for woman or man, that's not what it is. Singleness needs to come out of godly reasons and purposes and that's something we will look at chapter three. So we speak about that when we come to chapter three. All right. Prince has asked, is there any particular age to get married? Okay. Now, when we look at marriage, if you look through the ages, through the culture, you have child marriages where children get married at age nine, 10, 12, 13. Okay. And then you have marriages of, as soon as the man and the woman reach adulthood that is 21 or 18 or that which is given by the law, then they do get married or there are people who get married much later in age. So there isn't a specific biblical answer to that. I mean, there is no commandment about what age you get married. However, we use our practical reasoning to understand that. So think of it this way. For a man or a woman to mature, when we're talking about maturity, we are looking at all aspects of maturity. There's physical maturity, there's emotional maturity, there's sexual maturity, there's financial maturity. Maturity comes not only by age, but also by experience. But definitely there is physical maturity that happens by age, which means physical maturity is generally complete between the years of 18 to 21. Right? And so we're just looking at a physical aspect. There are a lot, it's just not when someone is physically ready to get married, they can marry. They definitely need emotional maturity, they need financial maturity, they need spiritual maturity. Now that is a process of growth. So when we're looking at that, that's one way to understand it. That even as a person grows into maturity and they are in a position and a time and a place of preparedness, that's another big prerequisite. Are they prepared to enter into this institution of marriage is another way that we understand that people are mature enough to be married. So not just maturity physically, but also growing in emotional maturity, also having a preparedness of marriage. Now marriage is not something that you can, we just get in and figure out on the way. It's always good to be prepared, which means you establish yourself, you build yourself, you learn skills that are needed in marriage, you learn how to deal with one another's emotions, you learn how to work with, work in a team with your husband, learn spiritually what God desires of you. So when we're looking at an age, it may be difficult to say a certain age, but then it needs to come from a place of preparedness and a place of maturity. And definitely, I'd say if you're looking at an age, definitely not something before 18 to 21, not before that, because you're still building yourself up in maturity. So to grow in understanding of what marriage requires, both physically, emotionally, sexually, financially, spiritually, it requires things. So to be able to prepare oneself before they can get married. I hope I answered that question. Someone asked, how long should you date a girl before you get married? Okay. Now, there isn't any, if you look at the Bible, there isn't any concept of dating. Dating has come as a concept, and I think it came in as a concept in the 19th century is what I, if I remember right before that, there was no concept of dating. And I think in the Indian culture, for those of us who are in the Indian culture, it's a fairly, you know, recent practice, maybe in the last two decades or three decades or so. Now, like I said, it's not a principle in the Bible. However, when you look at it, it's a different concept in different cultures. In some cultures, they are encouraged to date before they get married. In some cultures, there isn't anything of dating. I'm sure some of us who are married here probably didn't even, you know, met your husband or your wife one time, maybe spoke to them the second time and probably got married the third time. I don't know. Do we have anyone here like that? You could just put a hands up or anyone like that here or you all did have time to get to know the person. Okay, there isn't anyone here. But if you look at general, there, Shivakumar said so, right? So it's not, it's not something that, you know, there isn't a specific statement to it. But then I think as, if you look at it as a biblical practice, so one of the things is important is you do not date for fun. Dating is not for a past time. Dating is not for peer pressure. Dating is not because everyone else is doing it. If you're seriously looking at dating, it should be with the outcome of marriage. Okay. And so if you're, when we look at the concept of dating, I personally recommend don't build relationships because you want to date. You know, build the relationships, make friends, have companions, work together in groups, understand how people work and how people engage with one another. And then out from that, if there is out of your observation of people, if there is someone that you may be interested in, then approach to ask if they would be willing to get to know one another, right? And so, so even working towards marriage can be done in a, in a very mature form. Rather than, you know, getting quickly into a relationship because you found someone attractive and then trying to figure out if this works towards marriage. But being observant, building larger relationships and out of that, trying to examine to see if there is someone who, who you find compatible and then trying to work together to see having conversations to see if this is something that needs to matter. So dating, in my opinion and understanding, shouldn't be done for fun, shouldn't be done as a pastime or shouldn't be done because everyone among the youth are doing it or it shouldn't be done because, you know, you don't have anything else and you want, you know, a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I think all those reasons are, are very, very superficial reasons and those reasons can get us into trouble. Dating should be with the purpose of marriage, okay? And there again, there are, I think it's also a personal preference. There may be some who do not want to date and want to get straight into marriage and I think that's perfectly okay as well. In my understanding dating also, it's cultural. So, you know, sometimes in maybe your own family or your, your own larger family like your parents, they may not have the concept of dating. So it's always important to have that open conversation with the family members, with your parents, have that open conversations about what they think about dating or what guidelines do they see because they're your family, they know your culture, they know where you're from. So discuss that with them and it's always better to do things within their knowledge than to do things outside of their knowledge. So these are some of the guidelines and I don't think I have a yes or no to your answer. I don't know how to answer the question. Sean, that may not be a yes or no to the answer. I think it is dependent on a lot of these factors. I hope I answered Sean. If not, you could give me a follow-up question. Yeah. So in conclusion, you should first be friends. Yes, and I mean by friends is, you know, one among probably many friends that you have and then if you have marriage in mind, bring about a discussion, open it up with your family to bring it in. Otherwise it just causes a lot of issues and conflicts and negativity and then, you know, discuss marriage going forward. Yeah, Sean, I hope that works. Okay. Friends, you have a question. Go ahead. A man like is a people get to marry after divorce. Is it biblical or like, is it right to marry a divorced divorce? Okay. Divorce. Divorce. Divorce. Okay. Divorce. In March chapter 10, Jesus tells like if a man divorce his wife and marries another woman, he was committing an adultery. But at the same time in Old Testament, if he God himself tells to Hosea to marry a woman who is a prostitute and even after she is unfaithful to him, God still tells him to bring her back to his home. And also there are many such as, in many such as they are encouraged, like if they are getting divorced, they will tell or they are encouraging to get another marriage. So is it right or is it wrong? Okay. So friends, we are going to be talking about this in the latter chapters. I think it's overcoming challenges and we are going to be taking this issue of divorce. Okay. And we will talk about that in context of that. So can I defer your question to when we are going to be doing that chapter so it will come in a lot more of context. Otherwise, I may not give you an entire picture. So I want to be careful that we bring it in the context and what about divorce, how God sees divorce and what happens after it. So is that possible that we can discuss this question when we look into the chapter? Yes. Great. Thank you. Thank you. Any other questions? Let's not read more on. Okay. All right. So going back to this place of becoming one, like we said, this, this, the marriage being a union of two to become one, your ability to do that, becoming one is something that can happen only through God and only because of God. Because that's something that was designed by God, this becoming one was designed by God. This is something only God can help us do. Okay. Because like we said, we're all different. We're all, we have our own individual ideas and thoughts and to do that, it really needs the power and the help of God. Now the process when we are becoming one, I also want to share that it does not mean that you lose who you are. It does not mean that you lose your own identity or your likes, your dislikes, the kind of ideas or thoughts or opinions you have. It doesn't mean that you need to lose it so that you become like the other person. But it is, it's almost like a parallel. It's something that perfectly fits together. It's mutual fitting of two people. So in what does that mean? It's that the differences that both of you come with, that the husband and wife comes with. It does not bring about a division but rather it draws the strength from both people so that there is a perfect balance in the way that you do things. Okay. So even though there is, even though there are differences, this differences is not that separates or divides people but it takes strength out of these differences and brings about strength so that there is a balance. Like I explained that earlier, you know, that example. Suppose a person, so maybe let's talk about let's talk about maybe a husband and wife trying to decide about let's say a school for their child. Okay. So one of the parents or one of the husband or wife may feel it's okay to shift them mid-year from one school into another. For example, shift them one into another. It doesn't matter because it makes more practical sense to do that. Maybe it's one term is over. They can start off with the second term and the next within one month they can start off with the second term. So that's a very practical way of looking at it. Maybe the other person, the other partner or the other spouse says no, you know, it may be emotionally too damaging for the child. So let's give it some time. We will prepare the child in it. We will take them to that new school, show the school around, help them to see what they can engage in. So these two, it's the strength we can use, the strength from both the people you use to come to a place of agreement. So maybe they decide that, you know, we will give it maybe two, three months time and then allow the child to go through a preparation but because it makes more sense to get them into a new semester, we should probably do them in two months, whatever. So it is to draw from the strength of two people so that, you know, they can come together and align and work for something for the good of the child, two people coming together. So that's what it doesn't mean that you lose your own self, you lose what God has put inside of you or the identity that you have. But take the strength out and work it together mutually coming, complimenting one another so the strength comes out. So when we looked at what marriage was, we saw that marriage was actually bought about or designed so that the things that would be that if a man would be alone, you know it would eliminate this feeling that man is alone or be isolated. So when we experience oneness in marriage, it eliminates that isolation, it eliminates that selfishness, it eliminates that loneliness and it brings about togetherness. So we need to see that when we're talking about oneness, if any of the partners stand and feel that, you know, I need to have my way done always, that is going to destroy this oneness and companionship in marriage. That is going to break that marriage. Now, even as we're talking about marriage in this context, we want to bring about another understanding of oneness and that we take from 2 Corinthians chapter 6 verses 14 to 18. So can somebody read that? 2 Corinthians chapter 6 verses 14 to 18. Would someone read that please? Prince, I will answer your question after I finish. I'll answer your question. Can someone read 2 Corinthians 6 verses 14 to 18? Do not be yoked together with unbelievers for what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? As God has said, I will live with them and walk among them and I will be their God and they will be my people. Okay. So when you could read 17 and 18 to Jackins. Yeah. Therefore come out from them and be separate says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing and I will receive you. I will be a father to you and you will be my sons and daughter says the Lord almighty. Okay. Thank you. So another context of oneness that we want to emphasize is what Paul has bought about here is to not be unequally yoked with another unbeliever in marriage, right? And he brings about many, you know, he's reiterating this fact of how being yoked with an unbeliever can, you know, the absurdity of it. He says, you know, what accord has Christ with Belial? What part has a believer with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? So that's another area of oneness, the spiritual oneness that comes from being one in Christ, being believers in Christ, being seeing Christ as the God and savior of their lives. All right. So that's another context of oneness. Now, although this entire scripture, these passages are not specifically speaking about marriage, we can take the truth of it from and bring it, present it in the context of marriage. Even when you look at Amos chapter three verse three, it says, you know, if two people don't walk hand in hand, they are not in the same place. Are they going to the same place? Or, you know, a house divided by itself will fall. So these are some things that that we also look about in marriage. So why do we say that is because why does Paul really refer to that? Because the differences that there are in the way and a believer and an unbeliever lives or what they believe in and that can become issues in conflict or issues that affect the marriage, you know, especially when it comes to things with regards to the faith, they can become issues in marriage. Okay. I think there are some questions not able to see those questions. I think, yeah, there's a question here of what does it mean to be yoked? Okay, Prince, I'll get your questions. Sorry. So what does the yok mean? Now yok is, the meaning of yok is Sean, okay. If you've seen you know, farmers telling a land, you may see there are two bulls that are there and then they put they put something across them and two of them are the ones that carry it together. Okay. And that's what you call a yok. Okay. You couple two animals together and attach with this thing called a yok. That means they go hand in hand together. That is coming together. That's what we is the meaning of yok. Somebody that you attach something, a device that you attach between the animals and it is to they make it together to work the land. Okay, so that you're holding those two animals together by this thing called the yok so that they walk together in oneness. They walk together so that they can till the land. That's that's what the word yok means. Okay. I'm just going back. I think there are a couple of questions here. Just go back. Prince asks, can we consider age when getting married? Is it okay to get married to a person who's five to six younger years younger or older than the age of the person? Now, it's important. Again, there is there's no biblical reference to it. But as I said, it's about maturity, understanding the maturity of the person that you're getting married to. When you look at science, science does say that women do mature faster and earlier than than men. Okay, so girls do mature faster and earlier than boys. And that's why as a result of that is when there is an age gap that is there. But like I said, it's important to understand the maturity level. Now, that's a generalization. That's a general principle that doesn't mean that you hold a 21 and 21 year old man and a 21 year old woman together that the woman may be more mature. It may not be that way. But that's a general principle. And that's why there is a recommendation that men should probably be older. But even if you're marrying someone your age or someone younger, the idea and the understanding is complementarity. Are you able to complement each other in marriage? Is their maturity in different areas, spiritual maturity, emotional maturity, physical maturity? Is there understanding of what marriage is? Is there a preparation? Age is something that can be, you know, it's not something that should be, it shouldn't be a major consideration if you're able to see this part of maturity. Okay. I hope that answered that question. I think Nina, you asked today there are different views about homosexuality even among Christians that some people are made that way or inclined in a particular way. What do we, what do we say to them? Is it perversion that starts it off that causes this inclination? Okay. So there are, now when we look at studies like this, if you look at these studies, there isn't an conclusive study that says that people are born or made that way. Okay. There isn't a conclusive study. If you look at all the studies, it's it's a, it's speculation that has been given. Now, the way that I understand it is the minute that we get into an argument of that people are made that way, you know, we are probably not going with a certain backing. We're not going with a real scientific backing because if we haven't read enough, we are actually, you know, we don't know enough. But I think what what do we, how do we engage people in a conversation when it comes is the minute that we state or we challenge people now, now this again, as I'm saying this, I want to share with you that what scripture says is absolutely what we are backed with, that it is not God's design. However, when you are in conversation with someone, the minute that you're going to bring it about with the person saying, hey, what you're doing is wrong. It's it's a perversion. It's something that you shouldn't be. That's where you've lost the person. Okay. Because in today's day and time you will hear a lot of understanding of, you know, you have, you are offended, you have offended me or, you know, you are intolerant, right? And this is when we bring about the judgment on people's condition or issue, we've immediately lost them. But the way that I see it is to help them to challenge their beliefs, challenging them in the way that they were created. So one of the biggest way that I attempt to challenge people is when God created or when we were created and they don't believe in God, when we were created we were created as man and woman. And even if you look at the differences the physical differences between a man and woman it is in a way to complement one another. But whereas a man and a man or a woman and a woman do not complement one another even in their physical reproductive structure, they are not complementing one another. And that becomes a challenging thought to people. A lot of times people are groomed to believe that they should go ahead and do things if they feel it the way that they are. So when you look back, you know, especially when young, young teens when they grow, when they are just developing their sexual identity, they have confusion about their identity, right? And it is it's common among teens to have a confusion about their identity because of a lot of earlier past issues or upbringing or media focus that's come, they have a confusion about their identity. But if we tend to you know, if we tend to build on that, if we tend to encourage that they should choose the identity that they think they have in mind you know, we are encouraging something but rather to challenge them and give them the support that you know, this is the way that God's made you. So the confusion that you may be having is real, right? The confusion you may be having is real and helping them to sort out that confusion in time. So that comes from a challenge in helping them see different aspects of their identity of their sexual identity, rather than you know, nipping a conversation in the bud by saying that you know, they may be in sin or they may be in a place of perversion but helping them to challenge and understand where they are at and why they've come to a place. Now these conversations are long. These conversations may be long-winded. It doesn't happen within a day it's something that you continue to engage them and that's what really demonstrates your love for the person that you have not condemned them as people but you don't condone their lifestyle and because you don't condone their lifestyle is why you challenge them to think differently within the physical aspect, the emotional aspect, the spiritual aspect. So how we deal with them is a challenge. I do see that it's not something it may not be easy as a two to three statement answer but it's something that really requires deeper thought, deeper discussion because the person you're talking to is a person is a person with a specific issue or with a specific challenge and so the way that we approach it is to be sensitive and is to be loving in the way that we challenge them rather than bringing it down as a sense of what you're doing is absolutely wrong but helping them challenge them to see that where you're coming from is with a place of love and what you're bringing to them is an issue that they need to consider in their mind. So engaging with that takes time, engaging with them, takes that patience, takes that love back from the need to bring about a quick judgment but by slowly helping them challenge and then showing them how it is so a way it's so absurd from the design that God has for them. So it's something that takes a lot of time. I've bought about a bit of an answer Nina on that but maybe at a later discussion we could probably discuss that a lot more. There's one more question speaking about not being yoked with unbelievers is it applied only to the spouse or to the whole family? It's applied to the spouse because you're becoming one with your spouse not with the entire family. So if you all are in agreement to one another you are becoming one. Yes the entire family can become a challenge and that's why it's important to discuss about these matters during marriage and some of it we will discuss about in our next chapter in preparation for marriage. I think I've answered all the questions. We'll go on to the last point and the last point is marriage being a journey of love till death do us part. So scripture again says what God has joined together let man not separate. So the principle of marriage is that marriage is for a lifetime and we continue to build and grow ourselves in our marriage till death do us part. Till God calls us. Till then we continue to experience and work through our marriages. So just a quick recap about the biblical perspectives of marriage. Marriage is a good thing. It's an institution to be honored it's a solemn covenant. It's between one man and one woman. It's a union of two and lastly it's till death do us part. Alright thank you so much for the wonderful discussion let's just close with a word of prayer and yeah then we can wind up. Let's just close with a word of prayer. Heavenly Father we just thank you for the richness of your word. God we see how much Lord your heart is towards marriage and how you wanted your children to live out this institution you've designed. Father we pray God that you will empower us equip us to live according to your plan and desire for marriage. Lord even as we come across people who don't follow this design give us a heart of love. Give us a heart of wisdom. Give us a heart of discernment to challenge people to think of marriage and relationship in the way that you have designed it to be Holy Spirit help us God even as we may encounter people like this help us Lord to build our own lives. I pray Lord for all those who are on this call those who of us who are married I pray that you will protect God enrich our marriages according to your word those who are yet to be married. I pray that you will prepare their hearts in a way to follow the design that you have for them. Thank you for being with us in Jesus name we pray Amen. Amen. Thank you all we'll meet next Thursday the same time on the on following this God bless thank you to the e-learning students as well God bless you all. Thank you.