 hi she was seven so i got another video request asking um does the silent treatment work on men for example if you're mad at your man and you stop talking to him for a few days and you won't answer phone calls or texts or talk to him at all does it work well that all depends what type of man is he what type of woman are you are you do you talk all the time do you talk too much is this a vacation for him um and does he give you the silent treatment thinking that it's going to work for him when he's upset at you um usually the silent treatment only works on those people who also give the silent treatment as a form of punishment because some people the silent treatment is nothing you know like for example i don't care if someone doesn't talk to me because i'm too busy anyway to even really notice or realize it unless i speak to them and they don't talk to me back and and i'm like okay well i guess you're you got an attitude today i don't really care though because i don't have time for that okay so it just depends on how emotional the person is how much they care to talk to you or not and also if they do the silent treatment themselves if they do the silent treatment themselves to you or other people that means to them it would hurt them if someone did it back to them so that's why they do it to you so if your man doesn't do the silent treatment to you then it's probably not going to work on him he probably doesn't really care he probably says well it'll only last a few days i don't really care it's a pattern i'm used to it she'll be mad she's not going to talk to me for two days that means i don't have to worry about what she says what she thinks i can do whatever i want and then she won't be able to hold back any longer and then then my vacation will be over so basically that's how guys think about the silent treatment there is an alternative though there is ignoring ignoring the issue it's reverse psychology and it works best for me i don't give the silent treatment because it's it's useless for me i will be nice i will smile be extra cool i would be like okay yes that right there sends a message like i know i messed up and why is she being so nice to me and i wonder what she's planning and what she's got going on and is she doing something behind my this starts him to think and then he'll come back and apologize and try to write because if you're not even mad at him and you're acting extra like extra nice smiling do you want something to eat you want some coffee um but just but it's the tone of your voice that lets her know you're still upset it's like for example if you're cooking or something or if you're making coffee or getting a snack for yourself and you ask do you want something to eat do you want a snack this is how you act ask you'd be like i'm making some coffee would you like a cup and he'll be like um i don't know uh no thanks and then just like okay and then just walk out and then uh you offer it you asked you're still being polite but it was your tone that lets her know you're still mad okay now it's what's more annoying is not being ignored but being talked to with a tone and silent treatment really doesn't work because they basically just have freedom to not hear your voice and hear your opinions and hear what you think about them so for me i would the the silent treatment is if he likes you more than you like him it might work but if it's the other way around if you like him or he likes you it doesn't matter the silent treatment is not going to work if you talk too much and he ignores half the stuff you say the silent treatment is probably a blessing to him um so yeah i just wanted to answer that quick question and also um i'm going to do like a part two um um video response in this video because someone else asked me another question so i'm just going to go ahead and put that in there in this video as well someone asked me um what do i think about um polygamy well as long as the man is rich and he can afford to have two wives i mean really afforded like to spoil each wife to have them their own separate homes or own separate whatever i i don't think if there's anything wrong with that but if you're poor and struggling and use a religion to justify having two women i think it's pretty stupid and dumb unless you can afford to have two women most men can't even afford one woman so when i when i hear certain people speak about polygamy i just laugh and just like oh my god are you serious can't even afford to take care of yourself and you're talking about polygamy but if you really think about it a lot of men already have polygamy in sort of a way because they have multiple children by multiple women so it's basically the same thing except they can't afford them so i don't really believe in it because there's not the financial backing um you know in society to maintain any type of polygamous household unless y'all like join some kind of community or commune or something i really don't see it happening and i i don't think i would want like personally if it was me i really wouldn't care if um like there's shows on tv about this but i don't i'm not the type of girl that gets jealous because the type of man i'm married anyway it's not going to uh the type of man that i would marry would be like someone who could take care of me and stuff like that i wouldn't i would not really care if he could take care of another woman as long as i'm still getting taken taking care of and i have to be the legal spouse okay because we all know polygamy is not legal in the united states but i have to be on paper as the spouse the other girl can just be the cocky bong i know whatever and she can't live in my house um um so i'm not saying i agree with it but i'm saying i'm gonna have to have that paper i'm gonna have to have the marriage license and y'all can fool and trick the other girl but i'm you know that's gonna work for me but yeah there's that that is actually a topic of discussion which is kind of stupid to me in this day and age when people can barely afford to take a girl out on a date and pay for it they talk about polygamy leave poly polyga please i don't think so um sorry y'all so it is the holiday season it's Thanksgiving next week i got in-laws coming in now how do you deal with these in-laws so you don't get along with your in-laws or your partners parents or family what do you do i don't i get along with mine because um like we barely know each other so everybody's still in that polite phase you know and when i think we barely know each other it's because his um his family didn't come around till a lot later and introduce themselves and stuff because they live far away and i don't know some kind of family drama well time ago but anyway so they're coming now they came last summer and so we really don't have anything to talk about so it's not that big of a deal they're like from the country and they cook and they do all this stuff so i just let them have the kitchen i don't care because let's work for me okay i'm not one of those women that say well i i i or try to show off my my skills and my house uh domestic skills and cooking skills and no i don't want another person in my kitchen i don't care as long as i don't have to wash dishes or cook i am good y'all do all the work thank you so thank you so much because you'll have a lot like you'll have a lot of women who are like competitive against each other and oh i can cook better than you or this is my way of doing things and like i don't care as long as i don't have to do them your way is good thank you ma'am okay so family drama is best to go you know go with the flow just if they want to take the kitchen take let them take the kitchen let them take it over it's let's work for you if they want to use their special recipe instead of yours let them do it it's let's work for you you have more time to go shop online go to black friday if you do shop black friday i don't um um watch your favorite movies you have all that time to do that instead of worrying about who cooks the best it's still going to get eaten people are still going to eat the food and it's still going to be you know basically you know the same food that's being cooked over and over each year so it really doesn't matter anyway but yeah so what do you do if you're fighting with your spouse or boyfriend around the holidays and you don't get introduced to the family and y'all don't go out together he spends it separately then most likely you're a side chicken he or he's found someone new that he wants to replace you with and he's not bringing you around the family for a reason because he's trying to distance himself and you and his family from each other okay so fyi if you have been sidelined for the holidays um because you feel like something is going on and he's trying to keep you separated then you're probably either the side chick or you're probably getting replaced yeah or his baby mama if he has one is going to be there so whatever the reason is that's you know that's something to deal with all together now i know a lot of people are trying to find a man or a woman this time of year so they can have um you know somebody for the holidays and like i said in my other videos it's a really good time but when you when you are out there like desperate it shows so act like you already have a man act like you already have a woman act like you're already happy and that's what attracts more people you know if you're just looking lonely and oh it's the holidays i'm gonna kill myself nobody loves me they're not gonna want to be around somebody like that that's gonna depress them so be happy you know um cheerful that's what they're attracted to especially around the holidays they want someone to make them happy they want someone to fulfill um their time and uh holiday vacation and stuff like that with and share certain things with they don't want somebody on moby anyway i know this is just a bunch of stuff put together in one video but i really didn't want to spend a whole video on one topic so i kind of broke it up to a few topics okay so if y'all have in-laws coming for the holidays if you have not met your boyfriend's uh family for for some reason or another if you won't introduce them to you um let me know if y'all want me to make a separate video on that meeting the parents meeting the family how do you get to the point where he will introduce you to his family if y'all want that video thumbs up and please let me know it in the comments and i can i can kind of help you um but when i got introduced you to his parents it's very very very special so you gotta play the role okay okay i will see y'all later and um if i don't make another video before thanksgiving y'all happy thanksgiving but i have a feeling i might so if i don't happy thanksgiving and uh see y'all later bye