 if a man acts like he just wants to hook up he's more likely to get a relationship with you and so this is something that is I keep seeing it on like social media channels where these women will say things like oh if if you just want to hook up with um you know go fast and if you want a real relationship go slow and it's one of those things where like a lot of men are kind of onto this mentality and it's not a fake mentality most women that I know about kind of have this mentality and it's a mentality that gets them into a lot of trouble because most women if they look at a guy and they're like okay well I'm not there he's not he's not like relationship material but I'm you know kind of I'm horny and I want to you know meet a guy and I need to get these needs fulfilled you know and then they end up just going really fast with him and then later on they end up catching feelings and they're like oh yeah but I love them and all you know and it's just like ah you know and a lot of guys know that this is how it works and so there are a lot of guys out there are like well I'm more likely to have anything with this woman anything at all if I pretend like I'm just looking for something casual and that I'm not this provider relationship material kind of guy and so a lot of guys will like just make it seem like they're not relationship material so that you know if you are attracted to him and you do and he you know you have kind of this physical attraction form you feel a lot of chemistry for him that you will kind of let down your guard because what a lot of women do is they that when they see a guy and they're like oh he's relationship material they put up this guard and they start qualifying him and trying to figure out if he's the right kind of person for her or not and that slows things down she slows it down to you know being a a month or a or three months before she ends up getting physically intimate with him and what ends up happening is for most guys it ruins things because she finds little things she doesn't like and she's like oh well you know we're not going to be in a relationship at all then and so you know it's it's usually easier for him to focus on being a really good date instead of trying to prove that he's a really good mate and that usually makes it so that he's more likely to get any kind of relationship with a woman and so my suggestion is that you stop sleeping around all together because it just gets so it's we have a community filled with women just absolutely filled with women who are just looking for something casual friend with benefits with a guy and now tons and tons and tons of them are all like i'm trying to get into a real relationship with this dude and it's just like you know you don't even know if he's really a good guy now because you're you've got all this oxytocin and all these love drugs going on in your mind and you're just like uh you know and it's like okay yeah one you set everything up the wrong way two you don't know if there's a great guy or not three you know he's got a whole bunch of power in the relationship now and you're kind of in this spot where you're kind of doing things and trying to convince him and all that kind of stuff and it's just a bad way to go so my suggestion is that you stop just hooking up with guys and and find other ways to take care of your needs