 is autism an excuse for bad behaviour? Hmm interesting. Sometimes some people can use autism as an excuse for being perhaps a little bit dissatisfactory in the way that they approach things and what they say about people. So I think it would be a good video for us to take a look at, sort of dispel this myth of autistic, autistic benevolence as you might call it. Let's have a look. There's a little bit of an Easter egg at the start that you'll probably like as well. I can see some of you reaching for the comment section early. Could I ask you instead to hold fire until the end? I feel like this is such an important nuanced topic that it deserves at least watching the video first. The whole thing, please, thank you. And it is not clickbait, autistic people can be out of s**t too. Sorry, one second. Wait, did you say asshole? I did, Thomas, I certainly did. Let me explain. There's a common trope of happy disabled people that's overused in stories and in media. It portrays individuals with disabilities as being perpetually positive and dare I say inspirational. It's often used in media to evoke certain emotions in their audience. This is problematic as it tends to simplify and overlook the complex experiences of disabled people and the challenges that they face daily. A disability rights advocate, Stella Young, coined the phrase inspiration porn, which really does sum it up. It reminds me of- Is anyone else experiencing some kind of audio disturbance? Thank you, Leon- Leonotius for joining the Auti Legion, my friend. Thank you. Thank you very much. Well, that's a very small icon. It's a bit bigger. Thank you, my friends. Did you know you were in this video? Yes, I did. I didn't watch this video on this video yet. Now it's right. Inspiration porn is definitely a difficult thing to tackle, especially in the mainstream media. It's kind of phrased as- I remember there was this one time that I did an interview for a local newspaper and I was talking about my experiences as an autistic adult. Basically, I was talking about my experiences as an athlete because it was like following- So I think it was following the Commonwealth and the title of that article, I didn't have any say in the title, but the title was something like Harrogate Boy Battles Autism, something like that. I don't know, but I mean, inspiration porn is definitely a very complex nuanced thing. There's a lot of factors that go into that, but generally it can be sort of summed up for basically using autistic people to inspire other people for doing like normal things that most people do to make themselves feel better. I don't know if that's the best way of explaining it, but there's a lot of different ways that it can sort of pan out in the mainstream media. Thomas, you're grooming honey bunny full? Yeah. But yeah, no, it is an issue because you're not really highlighting autistic people or sort of including them in the actual talk. You're just using them as kind of like an experiential thing to sort of have people on this kind of all factor that people want. So people can go, oh, it's like similar to what Meg was talking in the video that we watched about Love on the Spectrum. It's that kind of all factor that people use autistic people as. Whereas when it comes to actually speaking about the intricacies and the actual facts and the science and the experiences of autism, they tend to get on professionals to do that, which is not the best way to go about it. But it does happen a fair bit of how villains are often played by men with deep British accents. This trope is harmful for a number of reasons. But the one that we're going to explore today is how autistic people are often seen by neurotypicals to be using autism as an excuse for poor behavior. Something a little like this. There is a seemingly never-ending stream of discussion online about how autistic people use autism as an excuse for their behavior. Like some sort of a-card which can be displayed to excuse all manner of things from being on tidy and neglecting chores to relationship drama and emotional and sometimes physical violence too. I think this is a very complex one because like to some degree, depending on the individual, depending on their traits, depending on the circumstances, like some things could be better understood through the lens of autism, explaining certain things. I think the problem comes in when you try to apply it to like things that the autistic person knows and understands. Like if you're like being mean to someone, if you're like bullying someone, it's not like because you're autistic that you're doing that. It doesn't work like that. But there are some circumstances where it can be perhaps a little bit more complex to understand like, you know, perhaps when I was teaching there might be a student who hits another student but doesn't realize that they've actually hurt them and that's not an okay thing to do. You know, particularly these individuals, sort of ASD 2-3, sometimes ASD 1 to be honest. But they didn't really understand, they didn't really realize and so it can kind of be better understood through the lens of autism. But I think it's a very circumstantial thing and you've got to be very careful when you use autism excuse for stuff. You know, particularly even when you're talking about romantic confrontations, you know, maybe someone might be upset at you because you didn't realize that they were feeling a certain emotion and you didn't do anything about it. But that's not really your fault because most autistic people can find those situations quite difficult to navigate. So it's kind of an explanation in a sense for that and so it might be a bit apt in that circumstance. But if you had to kind of, you know, think about a situation where you are like verbally attacking somebody and then, you know, it kind of gets a bit hazy or you do something which is against the law, if you're aggressive, you know, it's a difficult one. Because some people, some people can use being autistic as an excuse for bad behavior. It's true. I've seen it. However, I used to be a Havoc worker who's also autistic, thought he shouldn't have to modify his thoughts before he spoke because he was autistic. Hopefully that's not controversial, he said so himself. I think that's a pretty nuanced situation, Brie. It's good to bring that up for sure. Let's see what Mike has to say. Autistic rage, yeah. I don't know, man. I think sometimes it can be somewhat hard to deal with emotions as an autistic person. But do I think that that justifies your actions towards other people which are aggressive in nature? I don't know. I don't think so. I think it could explain parts of it, you know. But it definitely doesn't give you a free pass to do so, you know. That's true. I might seem uncaring. Maybe people, if people don't know that I literally can't pick up on emotions. True. No matter your neurotype, you can't excuse abusive behavior by your struggles. It may help you to understand yourself better and work on behaviors like this. Yeah, I think if someone is willing, like if it is something related to autism and the person is willing to take accountability for it and try and find ways to rectify it for future times, I think that's a good way to go about it. But it should never just be used as like sort of a free pass to say, well, actually, you know, it's not my fault. I didn't do anything wrong because I'm autistic. You know, it's not, there's not how you go about it. You know, there's some greater degrees of nuance that is required in that situation. We've spoken at length on the issues around the double empathy problem on this channel, a well cited issue explaining the disconnect between... I think there's some issues with my headphones. I'm going to switch over to my other ones. Exactly Thomas nuance. Yeah. We in the communication styles of autistic and holistic or non-autistic people, it's well understood in the scientific literature that autistic people contend to be seen as anti-social and avoidant of social contact. But I thought we were the ones who is opposed to suffer from black and white thinking. I think the truth is more complex and nuanced than this. Neurotypical people can be bullies and autistic people can be kind and thoughtful, but also neurotypical people can be respectful and autistic people can be nasty and hateful sometimes too. Also, just because someone is autistic does not mean that they are a happy disabled person who never puts a foot wrong and, I don't know, farts rainbows. I think that's a really good point because it's almost in line with this idea of infantilisation that we just don't have the capabilities to not do these bad things. It's just not true. We're just somehow these benevolent sort of angelic creatures who can't do anything wrong. This is not true. I mean, you look at some of the news and stories that are out there, there's some autistic people who do some pretty horrific things. It's not related to your neurotype to whether you're a good or bad person. Perhaps a situation where it might be a good sort of example would be sort of being sort of blunt and direct about things. Some people might see that as bad, like socially bad, you being sort of direct, but if you're wanting to advocate for yourself being more direct and using a communication style that works best for you, it's not really not really a problem, you know, and it is kind of related to the way that you communicate as an autistic person. But likewise, if you are to you know, think of something pretty horrible and just say it and just bluntly spur it out and just not try and take some time to think about what you're saying first and just saying it and then just sticking by it. And then if people get upset at you, you say that you is because you're autistic, it doesn't work like that. That's not how it works. I think it's the reason why this stuff has come about, I believe. It's kind of like a counter movement to this old idea of, you know, you might see in particular sort of religious practices or you might you might hear it, you might even hear it through signs where, you know, people thought the autistic people liked empathy. Some religious practices sort of saw autistic people as being like devil children, you know, not not not the most favorable human beings. So in some sense, it's kind of like a counter. It's counter to that stigma, but it kind of goes the other way. It doesn't really sort of paint autistic people as just, you know, being human. And, you know, humans have the capabilities for doing both good and bad. That's true. I have trouble with my emotions processing things. My parents think it's rage or anger. It's not though. I don't mean to get worked up sometimes. I got really mad. I don't know why it happens. I think maybe that's, might be something related to Alexa Fimea, you know. It's not too bad, but thanks, signing off now. We'll pick up this interesting video when I'm awake. No worries, Mariam. Thank you for joining us. Odette sends the devil emoji. Yes, mine has developed a lot of survival traits. His ego can be a bit inflated at times, but still feels remorse and guilt. Interesting. Jackie says, and his temper has never scared me. Interesting. I fart rainbows all the time. Very good. I can come across as cold some people, but I try not to be nasty with people. Yeah. I think there's a large amount of new ones that's needed, but generally if you do something bad and it's like not something that you can control, I think you could say that it's possibly like someone else's interpretation of you. It really depends on the situation. It's so hard to think of situations where it's so clear cut, you know, because it's such a nuanced thing. But generally, if you are using autism to sort of pass up on taking accountability for things that you've done, which are negative and bad towards people, I think that's an issue. But it's very nuanced and I suppose it could be situations where, particularly when people are having meltdowns, which that might be a little bit different. It's very hard to know. It's hard to give like a straight up answer. It's very, very, very complex. They are, we are all just human. This still isn't the full picture and it also comes with serious problem. Neurotypical people can be assholes to the Reddit case study. Am I the asshole for telling my sister that she can't blame everything on her autism? My sister 24f is currently going through the process in our country to get diagnosed with autism, the original poster writes, she believes she has it. And until she gets diagnosed with autism, I will continue to remind her that she doesn't have a diagnosis yet, and therefore isn't autistic. I'm sorry, what now? You don't receive autism from a clinician. That isn't how it spreads. I, I, I under presently go and that's something. Let him, let him speak facts. By the way, this is such a common belief, one that has that you have to be formally diagnosed to be accepted as autistic. On this channel, we support those who choose to self identify. I think identify is a much better word than diagnosis, which has some disease connotations. Autism isn't like cancer. It isn't something that needs to be cured. But like diseases, you don't obtain them from a diagnosis. Any diagnosis is based on results of tests and symptoms from something that was already there in the first place. Anyway, let's carry on. Yes, it's like being aware of it, you know, psychologists don't give you autism. There's no how it works. They illuminate the autism that is as existed within your soul since the start. This is biffle chips says, Doctor, I would like a prescription of one autism, please. Oh, my God, you are not gay. The gay police have not arrested you yet. Oh, my God, that's great. KBS says people see it as bad when you tell them that they say something incorrect, so it's not entirely correct. Yes, yeah. That would be one of the nuanced things. 100%. Diagnosis is discovering those there. 100%. She has been diagnosed with some mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. Recently, at a family dinner, my sister was talking about how hard it is to have autism and how she's struggling to cope even though she doesn't have a job and never worked a day in her life. She then kept talking about how her autism explained some things, about how when she was a kid, the fact that she refused to go to school and she was very physical and volatile, trying to get her to get to school. She was often late to places if she had to go somewhere and so on. Autism sadly raises one's risk of co-occurring mental health conditions. Thank you, Dave. Well done on getting over the social anxiety of doing the Zoom chat. My God, $20, thank you so much, dude. I think, dude, feel free to correct me on the pronouns. It's just, I think, from your profile picture. I'm not sure. Sorry. Thank you. That's lovely. Such as depression and anxiety, autism itself is not a mental health issue. No, I don't know any of the people in the story, so we can only go on these words, but I can relate to how the sister is responding to a late autism identification. It's very likely that she'll be looking back over her life as an undiagnosed autistic person. And those things that they were talking about are like autistic experiences. It's just true. I think there are a lot of people out there who get very, very upset when people self-diagnose and people think that they're autistic because they kind of apply it to this kind of like woke sort of Gen Z type agenda. I mean, we've talked about it so many times on the channel when we've looked at sort of reactionary content from outside of the community, but yeah, yeah, 100%. Can I order free autisms, please? Oh my God. It's a lot of bells and whistles, yet Marvin likes you and might leave you alone, Andy. It's slash he censors and hates me the most, eh? Very good. The stream pauses me, I hate YouTube, Android app. It seems like other people experience that as well. I wonder why. Interesting. Child as an autistic teenager, as a young adult and pondering the familiar questions, what if I'd known? Could I have advocated better for myself when I was younger? As for never having worked, I did make a video about the employment issues affecting autistic people. That is, autistic people are a very underemployed disability demographic. Second, most underemployed only to learning disabilities. That's intellectual disabilities in the US. Let's carry on. I decided to say something and firstly, I reminded her that she doesn't have autism yet. And I said to her, even if she did get diagnosed with autism, that she can't blame everything on her autism and mental health, like being physical or volatile as a child and needs to accept responsibility and not lay it off like, oh, I got autism and I was physical and volatile as a child because of that. But she doesn't have autism yet. They're also a child. They're a child. I think that's also a pretty good pass for a lot of behavior like that. I mean, maybe not a pass, but an explanation, really. Has anyone else thought of an experience quite like realizing you're autistic later in life? I've been trying to explain to some people close to me in life, but I can't think of anything to compare. A relatable experience like realizing that you're autistic. I think it's quite a difficult one, you know, it's really hard to be to like find some relatable things, particularly for neurotypicals, to help understand autism. Like a lot of neurotypicals can perhaps comprehend what like having anxiety will be like, particularly, maybe maybe ADHD, like related to like the focus things. But autism, it's hard. Fun you've seen, I wouldn't have felt like such an alien. Jeremy Andrew Davis video on self diagnosis was crazy good to really do a review of it, Thomas. Do they create, I think I've seen their Instagram, do they create log form content? I do, I do do suggestions. I'm just not the best with answering my emails. But if you do want to suggest a video, probably the best place is my email. I'm always the best. Sorry. But I will try. You can't post like links to videos either in chat, which is quite annoying. Think you're a dog your whole life and then realizing you've always been a cat. Interesting. Maybe, maybe trying to be like an extroverted person all your life and then realizing that you're actually introverted and you're a lot more happier on your own. Maybe that could be a good one. It was a short video on YouTube, it was mind boggling. Again, that's not how autism works. Look, quick pause. I'm going to need a proper brew for this. Remember to hydrate everyone available in the autistic AF shop. It's also possible that she can look through her life through an autistic lens. Why would looking through your life through an autistic lens be a problem? It's possible that this person is feeling threatened by the fact that she now has a reason for her underlying behaviors that might have previously earned her a label of lazy or stupid without an autism identification on diagnosis. Being volatile sounds like she's describing meltdowns or emotional differences. It's quite possible that understanding her reality as an autistic person will actually help her to avoid outbursts. It'll give her a reason to change her environment. Now at high school in the UK, we wear school uniform and school uniform usually has to be purchased from the school directly or from a single supplier who has a monopoly on the uniform. Don't ask, it's just the way things are in the UK and has been for quite a long while. Now our school uniform and supplier sold trousers for boys that were horribly scratchy and jumpers that had really uncomfortable stitching, really itchy colors, very uncomfortable. Many students tried to get more comfortable trousers from Marks and Spencer and there was a company making more comfortable jumpers too, but these were treated as contra-brand. The school would confiscate them off you if they, well, take your trousers off you, but the school would tell you that you had to go and get the correct uniform. At the moment I got home from school, I would run straight to the bathroom and scrub my hands and arms up to my elbow every single day, a sort of ritual to get rid of the school smell and germs. Now I don't have to deal with any of these issues anymore. I have a much better emotional response as a result, meaning I can accommodate my so-called deficits and play to my strengths. It's like being able to change the cards that I've been dealt. Not entirely, but swapping out some of the lower cards from a random one from a deck is a deal I will take every time, back to the thread. She also mentioned that's why she's always late because of her autism. I get that some people will always be late, but I do personally find it rude if someone's late regardless if they're always late. Again, I told her she can't be completely blamed that on the autism that she isn't yet diagnosed with and needs to accept some responsibility and understands her fault half the time. That's a difficult one. I think a lot of people have a lot of different opinions. This is like a hotly debated one when I talked about this timeline, this video. I don't know if you guys remember it, but man, it's a power of executive functioning. Can people make adjustments to better make it on time to things? Sure. Is it always going to be on top of things, especially when it's co-occurring with a mental health condition? I don't think so. I think some people, it's good to try and be late, and if I'm late, I will apologize. I think that's the difference. It's not like I'm blaming it on autism and saying it's your fault. But I will apologize. I'll just say to be like, oh, I always sort of mess around the time. I'm always at least five minutes late. It's awful. I'm really sorry. It's nothing personal. It just happens to me a lot. But I'll apologize for it because it's my fault because I could adjust to help myself in that situation. I could have planned a bit better, but sometimes I can't. It's a difficult one, isn't it? It's really nuanced to gain in this situation. But yeah, I mean, in spite of autism, executive dysfunction, it's pretty solid trait for a lot of people. 100%. Timed blindness is real. 100%. GA can relate so much. The uniform shirts are working so scratchy and as soon as I get home, I get undressed as soon as I pass the door. Well, that's why you see me with my lovely dressing gown on quite often. It's just really great. I tried to be early. Yeah, it's like you try, but it's going to be hard sometimes. Especially if you have depression like myself. If my depression is really, really intense at a certain time, I struggle even to, I struggle to do anything really. I struggle to go downstairs and make myself a cup of water at least. It can get really, really bad, but it's not always like that. Usually, I just have to take time off work during times that I couldn't make places on time because that was better in the eyes of the company than me turning up late for things. Because I do do it. It's something that I've always really, really struggled with, but it's nothing related to my willpower or my dedication or anything like that. It's just sometimes it's really difficult for me. Timed blindness is often talked about with both autism and ADHD, and it seems to be a common experience. I feel this way too. When I have to be somewhere and need to be on time, it causes me a great deal of stress. I calculate my leaving time from my arrival time, minus my journey time, minus time when I arrive to just sit down in my car, if I'm driving after arriving at my destination. It can be a problem, but it can also be managed. It shouldn't be an excuse for being late, but it sounds like the original poster here is saying that maybe if her sister gets a formal diagnosis that she'll believe her, but until that moment, she won't. This is a genuine factor, by the way. The original poster is not alone in feeling like this. A formal diagnosis can go a really long way with family members and friends who might not otherwise support your autism identity otherwise. And of course, employers and governments will often at times only accept formal diagnosis from auditions or support or even just some understanding. What a time to be alive. After I said what I said to my sister, she ran off crying and my family started shouting at me, calling me an asshole for getting my sister upset when I know she's autistic. Again, I said she hasn't been diagnosed with autism, so she isn't autistic yet. What is wrong with this person? They've got a right stick up their arse about this situation. People are just so wound up from people thinking that they're autistic and wanting to get a diagnosis. Why? Just chill out. Relatable contentness come 100% you know. So excited if you can't get paid for the days you miss. Yeah, it's happened to me quite a few times, you know. Sleep, have to go, go to bed now. My plan is nice. This was an evening. Thomas chat. Thank you. Good night. It's good to have you on and Ian. Always a pleasure to have you here. Thomas, my sister, did this to me. This sucks. Sucks. Oh my goodness. Sorry. No, that's not how it works. And until she gets a formal diagnosis, I won't say she's autistic. And I said she still needs to accept some responsibility for things that happened, like her being physical and volatile as a kid by blaming it on her autism. And they are teaching her to be okay to be physical and volatile because she has autism. My family think I've gone too far and now I'm not speaking terms with them. Am I the asshole? Yes. It does sound to me like the family have generally accepted the sister here. But the posting sibling has not. And yes, the poster has been an asshole by being inconsiderate, rude and invalidating. Those are asshole traits. It can be quite upsetting. Imagine being referred to by the wrong gender. If someone were referring to me as she, I'd find it funny for a while. But if it were my family and I were living with them 24 seven, a one way joke like this, it would get tiresome and stressful. Now the other side to that coin is that autistic people can be assholes, too. And autism is not a shield. It's a common misconception that autistic individuals are immune to certain traits that are perceived negatively, like being deliberately inconsiderate or rude, you know, the asshole traits. However, autism does not prevent someone from exhibiting these behaviours. It's important to recognise that being autistic does not exempt us from the responsibilities and considerations that come with interacting with others and relationships. 100%. Can't say it better. I mean, autism is an aspect of somebody. It's not all of it, you know. Autistic people are very different person to person. And that is sometimes due to different autistic traits. Quite often it's to do with a lot of other stuff, too. Personality, sociopolitical factors, gender identity, you know, a lot of different things which sort of encapsulate a human being, you know, to disregard the fact that autistic people can do bad is to infantilise autistic people, you know. It's good to see you. Hey, Claire, would you like to come do a live podcast with me sometime? I've got Mike coming on this Friday and Neurydivergent possibly next week and then I've got Megan Neff coming on to do a live stream podcast sometime. We could have you as well if you would be happy to do so. Be about like an hour, an hour, an hour and a half. That's where the incantability comes in. Well, I've been intentionally rude, but to be fair, they were rude to me. Yeah, I mean, there's new ones to this, isn't it? Like, you've always seen those, it's okay. I love it. I don't know. I'm a woman. Oh, you're a woman. I'm sorry, Dave. I misgendered you before. Totally okay. I've been afraid to imagine it's like a compliment, actually. Interesting. Oh, wow. Okay, that sounds like good. Thanks for asking. No worries. Yeah, it'd be lovely. What time zone is Thomas? It's 6 p.m. where you are, Brie. I am, it's currently 2 a.m. in the UK. I'm staying up, I'll be on my bed time. I usually go to sleep at 3 a.m. Wake up during the midday. It's kind of earwax for me. It allows me to do my streams and stuff like that. So it gives me a bit of a buffer, either side of my gym schedule. All of you, YouTube's and podcasts are so helpful. Thank you all. Oh, lovely. Yeah, I'll get in touch with Jed on Instagram, maybe. We'll try and set something up. 2 a.m. Yes, I know, Brianna. I'm okay though. I am rested. Other people matter, too. Sometimes, whether due to misunderstanding social cues or a different way of interacting, autistic people might come across as blunt or uncaring. But being on the spectrum isn't a free pass to disregard others' feelings, either. I tend to find people calling me an asshole when I'm stressed as a consequence of being interrupted when I'm working. Say I'm working on a complicated technical project or writing an email that is taking my entire focus and attention. When I'm pulled out of this by somebody walking behind me and fiddling with things, it can be really disturbing. It stops my flow and completely derails my thought processes. One of the ways I can manage this is to schedule where I have time to work uninterrupted, usually in the evenings or at night. And if there's nobody around when I need to be left alone, I can't be interrupted, and so I can't be considered rude. I also won't be rude. The first video on my channel, which currently is the most popular video on my channel on monotropism, was about this for a reason, things to avoid. To get this out of the way, it goes without saying that physical space is vital and vitally important, sacred even to many people. There's a degree of nuance there, and I think he's touching on it really well, and that is that just because we're self-advocating for ourselves and being somewhat confrontational in our communication because of something that someone's done to us, sometimes people will call us an asshole for doing that because they don't understand. They don't understand why we have those boundaries, and that's the situation that's happened to be many, many, many times. There is a lot of nuance to that, and you know, although that might not be considered something which is bad for some people, it is for us, and actually self-advocating and saying like, no, this is not okay, you're not doing something good and being direct and advocating for yourself is a good thing. But people may interpret that as being an asshole. It's in the interpretation though. They don't fully understand this situation, and there's not even something that you need to apologize for either because it's not an issue for you. It's not your issue. It's their issue. They're encroaching on your boundaries that you've set. That's the them thing. What am I wearing? I'm wearing my strong, powerful autistic hoodie. It's from a born anxious. You want to go check it out. I feel like I'm plugging a lot of things. By the way, if you are enjoying, please make sure to like if you would be so kind. Be lovely. Possibly subscribe if you enjoy my content. Shouldn't be intruded on. Keep a respectful distance and don't touch people without consent. Saying, it's just a joke to excuse hurtful comments. Humour that hurts or offends isn't humour to the person on the end of the receiving end. I know that sometimes comedians will use this defence for saying something utterly appalling. For instance, Jimmy Carr or Ricky Gervais have both used this defence on stage. But to their credit, if you enjoy their humour, you will watch or go to one of their shows. And if you don't enjoy their humour, you can change the TV channel or go for a walk. They're not knocking at your door saying these things. However, in real life, people can and often do say and act in the most appalling ways to bully or intimidate others and then pull out the it's just a joke defence. That is, to me, evidence that it really isn't. Phrases like my autism made me do it are so dismissive of personal responsibility. It's essential to own your actions and not hide behind a diagnosis or identification. My autism made me do it. You are autism. Autism is you, you know. Oh my god. Is that in your shop? No, it isn't. I think I have a link to it in my link tree in the description if you want to go check it out. I do like it. It's a good sort of seamless kind of sensory friendly material clothing stuff. Oh, it sounds, oh, you're talking about the podcast. It will be around 6pm BST. So eight hours in the past. My autism acted on its own. Yeah, we are autism. I guess it's okay not knowing if I'm on the spectrum. I like this community. Oh, it's lovely to have you on Leon Tios. Oh my god. Sounds like a form of gaslighting, which does. What, autism maybe? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Autism speaks much. What do you mean? I don't think I understand. Aiming inevitability too, with I can't help it. While certain traits might be harder to manage, it's important to strive for self-improvement and control of our actions, making emotionally abusive remarks, words have power and emotionally charged or abusive statements like insults, gaslighting or manipulation can cause long lasting harm or trauma. It's important to communicate with kindness and consideration. What to do when things go wrong? If you find you've crossed a line, it's important to quickly acknowledge the error. No, it is CLA to ask and to have you on as usual. Hope you're doing all right. Hope you feel better as well. I'll try and get you on Instagram when I finish. Apologies I've not been the most communicative at the moment. It's all good among your friends and misdivers are caffeinated to appear. Yeah. And sincerely apologize. Learning from these experiences and adapting your behavior for future interactions shows personal growth. Yes. And respect for others. When possible, make amends through your actions as these can reinforce your commitment to doing better and healing any rifts that you might have caused from past mistakes. Sure, autistic individuals can be challenging at times, but then again, who isn't? Autism doesn't automatically excuse bad behavior and it doesn't mean someone's in the wrong either. We all have a duty to own up to our actions and try and do better regardless of our neurological makeup. Mother over and let's catch up on it in the comment section below. So catch you next time and hey, let's all be a bit nicer to one another. This video has been brought to you by Maisie. Maisie. Hopefully she's more understanding than the sister in that thread. You've got to give this video a watch for reasons why an autistic person might be underemployed and what can be done about it. The link is right here and on screen. Bye. Hi. Oh, look at the pooch. Look at the pooch. Oh, you're such a good girl. Oh my god. 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