 Hey gems, welcome back to my channel. So as you can see by the title of this video I'm finally going to give you all my birth story Well, the very condensed version of my birth story if you want to see more Detailed behind-the-scenes footage you can check that out over on my patreon that video is posted right now as well as Probably seven other videos. I have a good bit of videos up on my patreon That kind of has show footage of My labor and delivery days after I gave birth just adjusting to Motherhood with my new normal, but yeah, check out my patreon Most of the videos are available to second and third tier patroams So if you trying to rock with your girl go sign up and be a part of my patreon family anyways, I still wanted to share My birth story on my youtube page because I had a very you can say unique birth With my third baby. I did go into labor early and I was still able to Have a home birth a healthy home birth at that So if you're interested in hearing more about that, this is a video about how I gave birth at home naturally at 35 weeks and one day First If you follow me on social media, you know that I was doing a lot this pregnancy a little back story Move back home in February. I was about four months pregnant at the time. I Restarted my business gem stylistic from scratch So I was doing a lot and preparing for the agriculture fair that would have been held May of 2022 it was actually the weekend after my solar return. So the weekend of the May 28th was the agfare so from March up until May I was making product every day like I was on my feet, you know I had to order everything from scratch. So I was doing a lot. I was up and down I was not keeping still if you watched my previous video about my third trimester pregnancy update I explained that my belly began to drop. I explained why if you didn't watch that video go watch it Long story short. I had my honoring our mother's ceremony on my solar return Which was May 21st, even that day you could see that my belly was really low Like everybody that saw me was like, yo, you look like you're ready to get going to labor right now After that weekend, I was like, I'm gonna take it easy because I wanted to be good for the agriculture fair Because I did all that work for that event and I didn't want to have to miss it So the day after my event, my solar return, that was a Saturday So the Sunday I went to the beach, I relaxed. That week I really was taking it easy I was mostly in bed on my laptop just doing finishing touches for my products I had already done make all my products. All I had to do at that point was update my labels, print them, and label my product But I'll say the Tuesday I started to feel a little under the weather And Wednesday I was completely out of it My body was aching from my waist down was aching Like, you know how like you get body aches when you have the flu? That's how it felt. I could not get out of bed. I had a little fever I didn't really have much of an appetite and I kept getting Contractions which at the time I was like, it's probably just Braxton Hicks So I stayed in bed all day and I was drinking a bunch of water I was drinking a lot of coconut water because I was like, maybe I'm dehydrated And I just need to drink some water to get these Braxton Hicks under control Because I was like, lack fear is this weekend. I cannot be sick right now I cannot go into labor right now. I have things to do Yeah, I stayed in bed all day and my two-year-old literally was stuck to my side that day He stayed in bed with me all day because we were both in bed just sleeping We slept all day and I still had so much to do Like my body didn't allow me to do anything else Like I said, I still had to update my labels and get them printed I think I had finished update most of them But I hadn't printed any yet and I haven't labeled anything yet The Thursday morning the Braxton Hicks just kept coming Well, which I thought at the time I was saying is Braxton Hicks And I remember that morning my mother had something to do that that day that morning That Thursday morning my mother had somewhere to go She came in my room before she left and she saw me still out of it And she was like, you sure you're not in labor? And I was like, I can't be in labor. It's still too early And I don't want to go to the hospital. This is what I'm telling her And she was just like, okay. Well, I'm going to She had an event she was a part of that she had to help set up for or whatever So she was like, I'm going to the event and call me if anything So that day I was pretty much home alone with my two boys So I spent I literally put my four year old in front of TV that day Because I was like, I can't there's not much I could do right now Okay, so you're just gonna gotta sit in front of this TV and watch TV today Like I'm sorry And my two year old who was like I said, he wasn't really feeling good along with me He was just on me all day that day as well That day I tried. I really tried. I tried my best to um finish update my labor I was so determined. I was like, there's no way I'm in labor I have agriculture fear to be at to be at. There's no way I'm in labor. I was in denial. Okay I would say around 12 30 ish No around 12 or minutes to 12 my mother came back home I was in the bathroom on the toilet with my two year old on my lap I was taking a shit. Sorry if that's TMI My mother came home. She came in the bathroom and she was like, are you okay? I was like, yeah, just still having um Braxton Hicks This is what I'm still calling them Braxton Hicks She walked out and I called her back and I say come for him because like suddenly her to come for my son Because I was getting another contraction in that moment So she took him and as soon as she came out the bathroom My water broke on the toilet. Well, I think it partially broke at that point But the water broke. I was like, oh shit. Yep. This is it at that point Everything that was going through my head that had me staying in denial Didn't matter anymore. I was like, yep The baby is coming today whether you like it or not So I come and what up back into the bathroom and I was like my water just broke call the midwife And I was like, I don't want to go to the hospital I don't want to go to the hospital. This is what I'm saying because I'm like I'm 35 weeks on one day And they call that they would consider that premature anything before 37 weeks They will consider three premature and even a midwife would send you to the hospital um If you're premature or whatever I said call the midwife I don't want to go to the hospital at that point I went into the shower because the contractions were kicking up at this point And I did most of my laboring in the shower because I was supposed to have a water bird. I was so unprepared I didn't have anything. I was supposed to have a This sister in was supposed to lend me her birth in pool I was supposed to have a water bird I didn't even have anything like none of the supplies I needed for a home bird. I didn't have nothing Okay, nothing I spent most of my time in the shower laboring running the hot water on my back reading through those contractions I had some music playing laundry was playing in the background Just to kind of keep my mind a little calm And um, yeah, my mother called the midwife and she was just like I'm on my way The midwife got there probably about around 130 ish Okay, this is what happened. My mom came home around 12 30 minutes to one And the midwife got there around between 130 minutes to two around two o'clock give or take And everything just sped up Like them contractions got more and more intense It got quick very close together It was I was just there breathing through them when I got out of the shower I was in my room and I just continued breathing through the contractions I recorded as much as I could like I said that footage is over on my patreon as she was going to say oh lay down And um, let me listen to the heartbeat. I was like, no, I can't lay down. I can't move I was standing up I was literally Wait I was I was at the end of my bed and I was literally standing up See the bed is like behind me right here and I was standing up like this with my With my legs open like that And that baby just came right down. I was standing up just like this. This is how I gave birth just like this um My baby was born May 26 at 340 p.m Healthy weighing six pounds flat 19 inches. I was healthy. He was healthy. We were good. I'm Sharing this because I want women to know that a healthy pregnancy A healthy birth all determines on the state of your health prior to even getting pregnant a healthy pregnancy and birth starts before conception and Like I said most midwives or Any doctor would say go to the hospital. Some might even call 911. I don't know But I knew the state of my health during my pregnancy and I knew I had a very healthy pregnancy I was not high risk. I didn't have any issues And I knew that I could give birth at home so I say this Because I I need women to understand that You have to take care of your body before you even conceive Okay, so a lot of these issues that arise while pregnant preclamps Yeah, gestational diabetes And all of that it's because of the state of your health prior to you even getting pregnant And it's unfortunate because a lot of it comes from miseducation where Women just really don't know and some know and don't care Do you sis? But A lot of women just don't know You have to be very mindful Of what you're eating and how you're living Before you get pregnant while you're pregnant and while you're breastfeeding A lot of time is hard for women because because we're already so stuck in our habits We're stuck in what we're used to we want instant gratification when it comes to our food When it comes to the things we do on a daily basis The things we listen to the things we watch Everything but it all affects you and then it affects the baby I am not telling women To go have a home birth if they go into labor early just like that. No, I'm not saying that that's not my message here I'm saying that I was able to do that because I was in a state to be able to do that But to be honest my baby was born the size of any full term baby Like full term babies are born at six pounds every day if he has stayed in there any longer There's no telling how big he would have gotten And I gave birth five weeks early. I just say that to say this we are given due dates But it is never accurate. It's never accurate. Okay. That's why we prefer to even just call it a due time You know anytime around this month. I am due although my due date was in june. I gave birth the end of May It is what it is. That's when my baby was ready to come the babies know what they're doing Like our body is so intelligent and our babies are super intelligent a lot of times they do things for Your and their own survival. So say he didn't come when he did I probably would have pushed my body even more beyond its limits because in my mind I had to get everything I needed to get done and in actuality. I actually needed to just rest So he came early and that's what I had to do after that. I had to rest I couldn't go to the agriculture fair. I had to sit it out And although I was very emotional about that in the moment everything happened the way it was supposed to happen And once again the baby saved my life I don't mean that in terms of a life and death thing for this situation I just mean in terms of me taking care of myself because I was really pushing my body beyond its limits I would never do that again not while pregnant Like I knew I wasn't supposed to be doing it But it's different when it's just you when you have so much to do and it's just you You know being a new single mom and all of that like I just felt like I needed to get it done And I didn't have the concrete support that I needed to say that I can delegate to other people to help me So it was pretty much all on me, but we were both healthy We were both happy and we are still doing well. No issues arise afterwards. There was nothing like we We're good, you know, and I am proud to say that I've had all three of my beautiful babies at home naturally No intervention. Yeah, that's how I gave birth at 35 weeks on one day at home And had a healthy baby With no with no issues no health issues and we're both healthy and safe So Like I said, if you want to see the in the moment footage of that find out more information all of the details regarding the birth and delivery and What I did afterwards With, you know lotus bird placenta here all of that all of that stuff is over on my patreon Already uploaded not bio. Sorry. Click the link in my description box below And go over to my patreon and check out my videos over there So that's about it for this video. 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