 Hi, and welcome to How to Manifest the Man of Your Dreams. I'm Matthew Coest and today with me is Marcy Newman from marcynewman.com and Newman spelled N-E-U-M-A-N-N. Marcy is not only a mentor of mine but she's also a law of attraction expert as well as a manifestation coach and I've actually known Marcy for a number of years now and we've gone through a lot of different things together. She's helped me with a whole bunch of different projects of mine and she's a great friend, a great mentor and an amazing person who's always helped me out with just about anything that I've asked her to and I'm really, I feel blessed and honored to have her here to get here today. So thanks a lot for joining us Marcy. Oh Matt, it's such a pleasure to be here and I'm as honored to be here as you. It's fantastic. Awesome, so there's a, you have a number of different products available that help women, that can help women manifest and find and attract Mr. Wright, the man of their dreams and love. So how did you get started in helping women and helping people in general do this? Why is it important to you? Hmm, great question. First of all, I've been in this people helping business for over 40 years and in that 40 some years, you can only imagine the progression of my work as well as the focus. Life is a journey and I think that that's something that's really expressed in everything that I do and it's an important aspect of life for people to both accept and to embrace. Life is a journey and so in my journey, I've experienced many different things and throughout all of those personal experiences, I of course became sort of hyper aware of what was happening within me as well as the things that helped me to get through those times in my life where I needed something more than just an everyday support system and so one of the first things that I did and I really credit the, I credit my whole evolution seriously on this one thing and that was when I needed the help, when I needed the mentoring, I reached out and I got it. What that did was it catapulted me forwards. There's something amazing that happens when we reach out for the help that we need. It's like the universe just suddenly pays attention says, whoa, we have a live one here who's asking for some help and it's as if the universe just laid itself at my feet and when that happened, Matt, incredible things started to happen. I started to get these processes, these programs that were more or less downloading through me and each one of them, I recognized as being connected to something that I also needed in my life at these particular times that I was referring to and so in combination with the information that was coming through me, I also had the benefit of that 2020 hindsight where I could take the wisdom and the experience that I had and really connect the dots and when I did that, I was able to create these programs, these products that I speak of and thousands of people have benefited from them but it's all about creating the awareness about what's happening within us, getting exactly what we need at the time that we need it and letting the universe do the rest and it's always there for us. That's how it happened for me and I've now been blessed to bear witness to it happening to like I said, thousands of other people and I think it's how we're meant to live. Yeah, I agree and I definitely, one of the things I just wanted to kind of touch on that you said was this whole idea of reaching out and having mentors and finding people and one of the things that has been just monumental in my life is going out there and really connecting and getting people who are in the place that I want to go to. That's right. Yeah and it's just been such, it's literally more valuable than anything else that I've ever done in my entire life. All the attempting to figure it out, all that kind of stuff is always secondary if not tertiary to really finding people who have already gone on that journey and figured some things out. So can you tell us a little bit about what this process is? How do you begin manifesting and attracting the things that you want in your life and specifically we're talking about men here and if a woman is, she's single and she wants to get started, what should she do? Oh, it's a great question also. So I'm going to say something that may be considered blasphemous to others, but I just have to share this. There is a school of thought that our manifestation happens from a place of thought and it's untrue. It's absolutely untrue. That's only part of the picture and in fact it's a small part. What actually happens is that those thoughts are never random. They come from someplace and where they come from is a sequence actually that is created originally from a feeling, a sensation that we have about a certain circumstance or a situation. What happens is this sensation creates a response within us and based upon our past experience we either have a positive response or a negative response. From that response is a whole perspective of the world that instantaneously comes forward in our mind. The moment that that perspective starts to roll itself out, our emotions keep feeding it and then thoughts follow it and from those thoughts come our choices, the actions that we take and of course then the life that we live. So what I think is the most important thing for people to understand that part of their frustration and not being able to manifest what it is that they want in their lives and particularly a relationship or a soulmate, really exceptional, deep, intimate relationship is because they're relying on misinformation to get them there. The information that they need is already within them and it starts as I said this feeling. Now here's the issue. So many of us have been taught to ignore those feelings and rather than following what our heart is essentially saying to us we start to logically try to maneuver and contort and make things happen based on what we want and ignoring the message really that's coming from inside that's saying this might not be right for you. This is maybe not for your highest good. So part of what I'd like people to understand and particularly I think women is that we have this programming inside of us. This programming that started when we were little girls that told us that our job was to make ourselves into someone that somebody's going to love, is going to save, and is going to marry. And what this has done is that it has created this huge gap between who we really are and who we think we need to be in order to be that person. And as you can imagine it creates a lot of confusion. But in that confusion and chaos we can't manifest what it is that we really want. When a woman in particular is looking for a very deep and intimate relationship there's only one way to get there and that is to create that deep and intimate relationship within herself. To know herself and most importantly to start from this place of self-acceptance. Because if you're already in this place believing that you're not enough that you have to be someone else or something else or meet someone else's standards and by the way the media has done a great job at really distorting what that's all about. Then the path of energy that is being sent out cannot bring anything back but chaos and confusion. So this intimate relationship that a woman develops with herself is one really based on creating clarity, creating that self-acceptance, creating this connection so that she can once again sort of reclaim all of those lost parts that she's left in these other relationships where she was left feeling incomplete, feeling like there's something wrong with her, feeling like she just wasn't enough to get to that finish line. And unfortunately it creates this whole domino effect. So in wanting to create these relationships of deep abiding intimate love it really requires this place of coming back to self, really knowing yourself and being bold enough, courageous enough to put aside those programs and to say here I am ready to be loved. Great, so that makes a lot of sense to me and I know that a lot of the women that are listening to this right now have at least some of the feedback that I've gotten from them is that they've experienced that before, they've experienced those kind of knowing or those feelings that maybe they're in a relationship where something's wrong or maybe they're doing something that they know they should be going in another direction except they have maybe all these different expectations and standards for what they should be doing and how their life should look and they need to be in a relationship because there's a lot of shaming on people that aren't in a relationship. So one of the issues and this might have be kind of connected in a way is a lot of the women in our community tend to attract, they complain about attracting the wrong types of guys, guys that are emotionally or just completely unavailable or guys who come to them and they promise them the world and then they disappear one day. So how could a woman stop attracting those types of guys and start attracting the types of guys that she wants to attract? Awesome, it's really very simple. Not so simple an application if you're not willing to do the do, but if you are, what needs to take place is number one, a commitment to do so. So what that means is that you need to be aware when you're going off track, when you're ignoring those inner messages and when you start to take in the not enoughness, the feeling that you need to contort yourself or change yourself to meet somebody else's expectations. The moment that those start to come forward, you need to know that you're in the wrong direction and you need to come back to center. The issue really is in attracting someone who's emotionally unavailable is that that is the energy that's being projected. A lot of people may be sort of reeling from that statement, but that is the energy that's being projected. There's only one law about energy, whatever you put out is coming back to you. Energy works in a boomerang effect. So if that's what you're experiencing, it requires your commitment to yourself and to what you want to really experience and examine where is that coming from in me. If I'm not willing to look at myself and accept myself on a very intimate level, including all those parts of me that I deem unacceptable or a part of me that I think is unlovable or just can never be allowed to come to the surface, all of that are parts of me that are unavailable. And those are the parts that I need to embrace. Those are the parts that I need to create a path so they can come to the surface. And I can see that all of my parts are what makes me so unique, so wonderful, so beautiful and ready for all of me to be loved. I can't tell you how many times I've heard someone say, I just want to be loved for who I am. And yet there's this whole pile of things that they don't love about themselves. How can they be loved for who they are when this pile is already seen to be unlovable? So it's constantly being squished down, constantly being shoved down, hidden and loaded on top of all of the distortions, like I said, that are created in the media, that are created from other people's expectations that have nothing to do with you. So you want to attract someone who is emotionally available. You need to be emotionally available for yourself. You want to attract someone who is capable of taking you to that finish line and creating a relationship that is sustainable and that is filled with all of the wonderful things that you want to experience in love and in relationship. There's only one place that that can start, but it creates confusion, like I said, when the programming is allowed to be in control rather than the heart. Our hearts tell us everything that we need to know and it's in listening to those hearts and listening from a very keen point of awareness where we begin to understand how all of this works. Unavailability is unavailability. So yeah, and you're right. And I just want to make sure that there's a little bit of clarity here. What we're talking about right now, what Marcy's talking about is this process of healing. It's a process of creating wholeness within yourself. And really when I first heard stuff like this, it kind of seemed like this kind of like hokey, almost like weird, silly, like Stuart Smalley type thing where I'm looking in a mirror telling myself I love myself. And after I started going through this process of finding out what it really meant and exposing these parts of myself that I was hiding because I thought that's what I was supposed to be doing. I thought that it comes from this, I started from this place and if you're at all familiar with my background, you know that I used to be a men's dating coach. And when I first got involved in that, it was like, it was all about how to get. How do I make or how do I get? And it's like, how do I make this happen or how do I get her to do this or how do I make her do that? And really the shift became, how do I work on myself so that when I meet this woman, these quality people in my life, it's not me attempting to force them into this little box or making them push these different buttons and outcomes this result that I want. Instead it's, they meet me and when you kind of develop that wholeness and you go through that healing process and you start meeting people who have done the same thing. When you start meeting emotionally mature men, when you start a meeting other emotionally and spiritually mature people who have gone through these different types of processes, you'll find that they're attracted to you. And they want to do those things. Those people are relationship oriented. You think that a lot, I get a lot of complaints that all men are commitment phobic and it's simply not true. It's just this space where a man becomes, when he becomes emotionally mature, he sees things in a different way. So can you talk a little bit about your manifestation process? I can. Do you mind if I just touch on something for a moment? In terms of that commitment, again, commitment can only be brought in if it's being projected out. And I used that word before in this process. It requires commitment. It requires that you are committed to, as you described, self love. But there's a lot of confusion there. People have this idea that self love is either selfish or that they are narcissistic or that it is consuming yourself with self care. It's none of those things. Self love is the taking of action that is in alignment with your goal. That's what self love is. And it requires a commitment to do that. It requires, as you described, a willingness to be vulnerable, a willingness to let those cats out of the bag and say, I'm lovable just the way I am. But it's also requiring a willingness to let go of this whole misperception that we need to go out there and find someone who'll finally love us. Uh-uh, it's all about attracting the person that you're going to love being with. And that's what you were describing. It's when you become that person, that emotionally mature and available person, that committed person, that person who intimately knows themselves and is living authentically and saying, here I am. That is the only thing that you can attract is someone else who's in that same space, that same vibrational frequency. So here's my manifestation process. Number one, you must begin to create this awareness about how you're feeling at any given moment. That is essential to everything because from there, as I described earlier, there's a whole domino effect of what's going on. If I can feel myself ill at ease, I need to stop right there and say, wait a second, where's it coming from? Is this something from that programming? Is it something because I'm stretching myself out of my comfort zone, which is essential? Or is it something that is calling to me to pay attention to? The moment you ask yourself those questions, you'll get the answer. The committed you will take the action that that answer requires. Even if that guy is gorgeous, even if that guy on paper seems to be everything that you could ever want and you think it's going to be your night on a white board, it's going to take you away. Any of those things you need to be admitted and say, I have to pay attention to what's happening inside of me. All of that information that you need is right there. So you need to believe, number one, that this is happening for you right now. You're already in your process. And the more that you are attuned to yourself, you can accelerate that process. So what we know about manifestation is that it requires that every step along the way, that there is something that we are going to need to let go of. What is that? It's the past programming. It's the immature idealism. It is the lack of commitment that we've had to ourselves in the past. But here's what I have found, more than anything else. It requires that we begin to let go of the false beliefs about ourselves that we have accumulated from all of these past experiences and past relationships. There is nothing that is more diminishing to our authentic being than those false beliefs of being not enough, unlovable, unworthy, undeserving, or in some way, just not good enough. And it's those false beliefs and the energy connected to them that this acute awareness begins to point out to us. We need to pay attention to when it's sort of rearing its ugly little head and saying, ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. You know, and really preventing us from having everything that not only that we want but we deserve to have. We're meant to be in these wonderful, joyful relationships that are freeing to our spirits. That's how we get to deliver what we are meant to deliver in this world. You cannot deliver who you are and the special and unique gifts that you have come to deliver if you are constantly making yourself smaller and separate from your true self cannot happen. And so part of this whole relationship thing is to understand that its purpose is to also bring your purpose forward. There is something incredible that happens when the energy of that truly abiding love comes together and the joy and the freedom that it's created unleashes you into the world. And it's incredible, not just to witness but to experience takes you to a whole nother round of existence and that's, I believe, the birthright of every person here. Cool, so real quick, so let's take a second out real quick, Marci. I'm getting some feedback from your side. Do you have any idea what that might become? It's like that echo of me talking and it keeps- Okay, because I wasn't hearing it on my side. Here, try this again. Okay. Why don't you try this again? Okay. Why don't you speak and see if you hear anything or if you hear anything from me? Yeah, I can still hear it a little bit. It keeps switching our screen because it'll go on to your side but it sounds a lot better now. It does, okay. It did before. Let me just unplug something over here, let me see that. Okay, try this. Okay, let's- I'm literally in a room with nothing else in it. Never really. So, there was a little heating, you know, space heater. I unplugged it. I don't know if that was creating interference or not. It could have been. You never know with technology these days. I still hear it a very little bit but it's not kind of in your face and switching the screens as much as it was before. Let me see if I can move the computer or- It may just be with the computer itself. You never know with technology these days. So, did you want to- Was there something else that you were about to say? No, I think that was a good spot for you to interrupt. Fine. Okay, okay. Okay, so we'll just start now. So, one of the things that I found to be really, really useful in my life is I have this practice, right? And it's kind of this practice of creating the things that I want and kind of focusing myself and focusing my energy and kind of reprogramming my mind for what it is that I want is do you have any specific things that a woman could do that she could practice on a daily basis that would help her start attracting the guy that she wants in her life? Yeah, and I think that this is one of those great accelerators that I was talking about that changes everything. It'll change your whole game. And that is ultimately what you are doing here is that you're changing your energy vibrational frequency, right? You want to keep erasing that frequency so that you are attracting from a higher frequency as well. So here's the accelerator. With all of my clients, one of the first things that I do is that I suggest to them that they become a love detective. And in becoming a love detective, their assignment is to start a love journal. And their job is to go out throughout their whole day and to start paying attention to all the things that make them feel good. It can be hearing a bird sing. It can be hearing a little conversation between two people that just sort of make a smile. It can be a smile that you exchange with stranger. It can be a song that you heard that takes you to a time where you were footloose and fancy free and just feeling right. It can be anything. Anything that makes you feel good. And you start to keep a log of these things. At the end of the day, you read through that log and just for a quick second to recapture those moments. As you're going to sleep at night, it's important to know that the energy that we go to sleep in is the energy that will sort of be condensed during our sleep. And it actually feeds all of the dimensions of our being. The next day, you accumulate more information and more information and more information. And then in this new awareness that you begin to create as you are that love detective and looking for only the things that feel good you begin to notice very quickly then when you're not feeling good. And rather than just ignoring it, pushing it down, it actually speaks to you in a different way. And the more that you're focusing on the love aspect, the things that feel really good, the louder that the discomfort is that the discomfort is when you're not feeling good. The beauty is the moment that you have that discomfort, you have a whole log of things that you can now refer to that you read through, you recapture for just that moment. And it immediately brings your vibrational frequency back to that place of feeling good because that's the place that you want to attract someone from. When you're feeling at your best, when you're feeling happy and joyful and free and when you know all of these things about yourself that are so valuable because you know what's gonna make you feel happy. It's incredible how quickly this happens, but I suggest that someone does it for a minimum of seven days, 21 days, and it becomes a habit and your whole life will change. It changes because your entire vibrational frequency has been elevated. So not only are you seeing things through a different lens, you are attracting other things into your life that are only going to support this happiness because energy has a boomerang effect. Whatever you put your focus on will come back to you. It is miraculous and I would love to hear the results of just that of every single one of our listeners. Yeah, you know, and it's kind of cool that you said that because I think that's the first time I've heard you talk about that specific exercise before. It sounds very similar to some of the things that I've done previously and some of the things that have really impacted my life and if, I don't know if you can believe it or not, but at one time I was one of the most stubborn, kind of angry, like, just, you know, like always down in the dumps. Yeah. What I ended up doing was an exercise of gratitude and just creating a log of what I was grateful for every single day. And it did an amazing thing because I actually still do it, but after a couple months of doing it, it was like my entire reality had changed because I went from this guy who was so full, it was like I was so caught up in what I was mad about and what was wrong and who's to blame and all the things that are negative in my life and around the world and just in society in general that I never really stopped to appreciate and experience the great things that I had in my life. And what I started to find from it was that I just naturally started and, you know, part of it was probably me attracting it, part of it was just me seeing it more often in my life and kind of feeling those emotions and moving towards the things that I was grateful for. You know, and so the more I started doing that, I started finding very specific things to be grateful for and what that ended up doing was it kind of narrowed my focus down. So when I started saying, okay, I'm going to be grateful for the relationships, which is actually one of the things that I did that I have in my life, I started noticing that it directly impacted my relationships. And one of the things that you know, you can speak more on this too Marcy is just this, an idea about looking at men and you know, I know there's a lot of anger out there about men and about how men act and it's not just on, you know, that kind of viewpoint isn't just kind of set up around women. You know, when I was a men's dating coach, it was the exact same way. You know, the men that were there were, it was, you know, how can I blame women? How can I make women better? How can I improve women? You know, and it really destroyed their ability because if you think about it, you know, you meet a guy, you meet a great guy who's put together and he's looking for a great woman to share his life with and you walk up and you've got all these thoughts and beliefs and all these and you're just stuck in this kind of thought process about how bad your life is, about who's to blame, about how men are to blame. You know, a guy's not going to want to be around that and so if you want to start pulling these guys in, you know, good thing to do would just to be, to start finding things that you appreciate in men, find things that you're grateful for about men. Do you have anything specific you'd like to add to that, Maxie? Yeah, I would like to just take it back just a step further and say that before you can have that level of appreciation for others, it has to start within you. You have to start that same appreciation process about you and again, I have to come back to the commitment. This is, you know, not for the, it's not for the weak of heart. This is about strengthening the heart and so this commitment that I'm talking about has to include the willingness to look at yourself. You know, if you're in that place of, you know, men bashing and it's perpetuated by all those friends that are around you and that's all you talk about when you get together with your friends, it's the only thing you can experience. You know what, Matt, it may require that you lead that circle of friends. If they can't get out of the circle and of, you know, chasing their tails, you have to extricate yourself. You may have to leave that circle. It requires commitment. It requires taking everything that you're learning and putting it into action and it goes the same thing for a man. You know, all of the women bashing, how can they possibly expect to find a woman who, you know, is going to be what they want to have a relationship with from that energy? It's impossible, whether you're male or female. So it's about the awareness of what you're feeling at any given moment and it gives you all the information that you need. You know, another thing that I think is really important is for us to begin to be willing to see how so often we are betraying ourselves. The entire time that someone is in that circle of men bashing, they're betraying themselves. They're saying they want one thing but all their actions are pointing to another. They're talking the talk that they think that everybody wants to hear and in their hearts, they're crying because they don't want to be alone anymore. They want to be with that man who is going to create that relationship that they so yearn for. That is such a great form of self-betrayal and it has to be transformed. It has to be 100% commitment to what it is that you want and you will have it. You will have it, you'll have it all. So going back to the idea that you were talking about earlier with the whole clarity thing and we're talking a lot about what a woman wants. What should she start out doing? Should she put together a list of the characteristics of the type of man that she wants? Should she, like how should she get this process started? Yeah, a list is a wonderful place to start and the list does two things. First of all, it's putting your focus on what you want rather than what you don't want and in the law of attraction, in manifestation, we only want to stay focused on what we want. So that's something that's really good that comes out of that list-making. But those characteristics need to go someplace. They need to begin to explore how these characteristics play out in the relationship. So if they can describe first the relationship, how they want to feel, sometimes it's easier then to think about the characteristics that a person might need to have that will help you to actually create that relationship or be able to partner with you to create that relationship. As an example, let's say for instance, in this vision that you have of this perfect relationship, it's one where trust is really important, that you want to be in that place where you can trust not only that person but trust in the viability of the relationship. Trust that each of you is going to show up and be emotionally available to continue to feed the relationship what it needs to be fed. That trust needs to be an essential part of who you are. So that characteristic cannot just be something that you're writing on a piece of paper. It needs to be something that you then look at yourself and say, how can I become more trustworthy? How can I create more of a trusting relationship with my heart? How can I create more trust in how I relate to the whole world? I can tell you this, if fear plays a huge part in your life, trust is absent. So it's not just what we write on paper, it's understanding how this plays out in life. What do we need to look for? And the other thing is, go on a trust quest. Ask the universe that it shows you trust in every aspect that it can because it might be something that you haven't experienced before or haven't trusted enough to see, to allow it in. And so sometimes we need a little remedial help in experiencing what it is that we want more of. And that's when you start to really put yourself in the position of trusting then after you've made that request, what the universe brings back to you and says, okay, this is what it looks like here, this is what it looks like there, this is what it feels like, this is what it sounds like, this is what it tastes like, this is what it sounds like. So it's not just writing it on a piece of paper, it's starting to understand, as I said, how it plays out in life and knowing what to look for. Okay, so one of the things that a lot of the women in our community- We're going much deeper here than we have in the past. But this is really important information because you can go through steps, one, two, three, four, five, six, and say, okay, I'm done, and go out and then be shocked when you're right back in the same situation. Well, you were in three months ago, and you say, none of this works, this is all bull crap, this doesn't work at all. It's because writing it down is not enough. It's time, like I said earlier, to start gathering all this information and taking the actions that it demands of us. We want to raise this to a whole nother notch. We want something more, right? It's why we're here, it's why our audience is watching and listening so intently to what we're speaking about. So it's all about now applying. It's experiential time to take everything that you've taught that your other experts have shared that I'm sharing and put it to work. Go ahead, I'm sorry, I cut you off. No, that was actually really, really great, and I think you brought up a very, very important point. And it's just in this, you know, one of the things that a lot of people talk about and they talk about in the law of attraction is this idea of affirmations. And we talk about visualizing what you want and writing down what you want and all these different things. And one of the things that I think a lot of people kind of miss all together and it was what you're kind of talking about at the beginning of this call was this idea of, it's more than just the words. You know, it's more than just writing down. It's more than thought. You know, it's more than just having these thoughts because the thought is only one, it's only one small part of the whole equation. And there's all these other aspects of it. And one of the big ones for me that's really kind of transformed the way that I've experienced my, not only attracting and bringing in the things that I want in my life, but also just the way that I experience my life in general. And it's this idea of emotionalizing all the things that I want and that I think. You know, and you can sit there and think the same thing, you know, the thing that you want over and over and over again. You can write it down a whole bunch of times, but it's when you start associating those positive feelings with it and start putting yourself into these states of feeling it that the process really starts actually happening. And until you do that, it doesn't happen. And then there's another aspect to it that's really, really important. And it's one of the things that I know that you've, Marcy, have emphasized a lot in the past. And it's this idea of taking action, you know, and moving towards, you know, and searching out what it is that you want, you know, because without that action, it's, you know, it's like you're sitting in your, yeah, you're like sitting in your apartment, you know, waiting for something to show up, you know, and then you wonder why it's not coming. You know, like you said, it's all up in the door. It's all up in the door. You're three or four months down the line and, you know, it's still not there, nothing's there, you know, because you haven't gone through the whole process. You're just doing one aspect of it and one aspect that's important. It's an important part. It's just not, it's not the whole picture, you know, and there's no way to expect or even really, you know, plan on having anything come into your life unless you fulfill all of these different aspects of it. And there's another one that I'd like you to talk a little bit more about, Marcy, and it's this idea of receiving, right, and being open to receiving, you know, how can a, you know, one of the things that I kind of differentiate in some of my materials is the idea of, a lot of times, people and women will get into a situation with a guy and she'll, you know, try to force things to happen, you know, I wanna make a, you know, have this commitment or, you know, like, he'll try to give her something and she'll be like, oh, no, no, no, no, I don't want that. You know, can you talk a little bit about receiving and how important it is and kind of what that looks like? Sure. And it's such an important focus when we're talking about manifestation and it's the difference between having, it's the difference between having the superficial relationship that you were describing just a moment ago with yourself and the deeper relationship with yourself that, of course, will then create a deeper relationship with another and here's how it works. As I said earlier, the most important information that you can gather is this ability to tune in and to see how you're feeling at any given moment and I said it contains all this information that you need for manifestation and here's how it plays out. So, in basic manifestation work, and we're gonna talk about the differences now, basic manifestation work, there's six steps. First, you have to believe that whatever it is that you want is there waiting for you. Second, you have to ask for what it is that you want. Third, you have to be able to visualize it, right? You have to be able to get ready, right? You have to be able then to be willing to receive it in every single step along the way. If you're not paying attention to how you're feeling, it is creating nothing but inaction. It cannot go anywhere and this is why. If when you're, let's say, saying your affirmations and you go through that whole list every single day and at the end, you walk away and there's this tiny little voice that says, right, okay? That tiny little bit of disbelief. In that moment, you need to stop right there in your tracks and say, where did that come from? You need to go back to the first step and say, what do I have to do to believe? I have to let go of the disbelief in some way. What's it connected to? My unworthiness, connected to past experiences, connected to this, connected to that. You're trying to visualize, right? And you have this great vision of your love, the relationship, all of that. And you come out of this wonderful visualization, you feel it, it feels great, but the moment you open your eyes, something pops up and it says, wonder how long I have to wait for that? That's for other people, it will never happen for me. And then you go about and you expect it to happen to you. It can't happen. Because every step along the way of that manifestation process, you haven't paid attention to what has really come forward. You've only been trying to control your mind when in fact your heart is trying to speak to you and saying, there's something here that needs to be fixed. There's something here that needs to be healed. The energy needs to be shifted in order for you to be in alignment with us. And so it's that alignment process that is so essential. It's a very important aspect of the manifestation and most people don't really understand what that means. It's not just showing up at the bar at seven o'clock. That's not it at all. It is every step along the way, what do I need to do to be in alignment with my own success here? So it is always about creating self-awareness. And as I said earlier, coming back to that self-acceptance and loving yourself wherever you find yourself. Remembering, we're all on a journey. It's all a process. But your awareness is what will catapult you forward. Absolutely, and that was well said, Marcy, well said. So just to take it even more into the specific things, I've gotten a lot of feedback that a lot of people have really enjoyed and liked all the how-to stuff that I've given them and are looking for some more. And I was wondering if you have any specific affirmations that could help a woman on this journey or any visualizations or what are some other specific things that you could give a woman that's on this journey looking to attract the man of her dreams? Again, in terms of affirmation, it has to be something that touches their heart, that speaks to their heart, that speaks to their authentic self. This is not a cookie-cutter program. It cannot be because each and every one of us has a different need. We have our own past history, our own past experience, and this is why very often we need to connect with someone who can help to lead us on this journey, who can mentor us, who can be our eyes and our ears in a way that we don't necessarily hear or see ourselves. So affirmations need to be constructed to speak to that, to that part of ourselves that is in the gap between where we are and where we want to be, okay? So they need to be personalized. Secondly, it is in making certain that each person gets what they need in terms of the programs, the structures, the processes that also speak to them, but give them the path to their authentic selves. Authenticity is the key to being loved for who you are. So that's the search. And don't be afraid to try out many different things, okay? Find what speaks to your heart. Don't try to follow the crowd. Follow your heart and get what you need and you'll have many others who wish that they followed you. Yeah, absolutely. And that's definitely echoing a lot of the things that I talk about in my programs and the message that I'm sending. So I really appreciate that and that was really beautiful. And so if somebody wants to find out more about you, Marcy, they wanna find out what you're up to, what kind of programs you offer. I know you do coaching and different things like that. What, where should they go? What should they do? How can they connect with you? Two places. One is marcynuman.com, M-A-R-C-Y-N-E-U M-A-N-N, and the other is heart shift coach. H-E-A-R-T-S-H-I-F-T coach.com. The processes that I use are all about heart shifting to really create those frequency shifts that will start bringing new life in. Yeah. Awesome. Well, it's always a pleasure to have you on any of the projects that I'm doing and you're such a great inspiration. You're so wise and you have so many great things to share and it's just an honor to have you here. So thank you so much for being with us, Marcy. And so everybody else that's out there that's listening, thanks for tuning in and I hope you got a lot out of this and I will speak with you again soon. Great. Thank you so much, Matt. It's been such a pleasure, really, as always.