 Bila jo, mwa ya ni kuh info ni yung kwa ni moja kag aka uwa wa ni yung ni mtkoo natu wanishi hwk וו Nida, liya wafa ni tini mpige ma-guti ju? Nida liya wafa ni tini mpige ma-guti ju? Nida wafa ni nupige ma-guti ju? Edu, kuna sesi wa wik, but for the case of watoi, akifkiria, akifkiria, bondi ya kenamtoi, akifkiria, kunuzi omtoi, anam watu kusualo ego, anafanya witu kamaizo. Oh, there's no way my husband can come fast when I have a 2-year-old man's baby. Shuwa ni, pao now! What's up guys and welcome to yet another episode of Friends Vibes. Hey, my earrings are falling down you guys, but anyways. Guys, um naskevenu wato ono gapi baya hapa. But anyways, I am joined by two gentlemen. I am joined by Edu Boutitta. I am joined by Edu in Sunday. Wato ane itwa Edu? That's right. And right here is Miss Kithingi. And today we have a very interesting conversation. Na juwa me pangapunu piga mawe, but my ladies, I am going to hold you down. Shuwa ni, mwono pigo mawe. Na juwa too! Anyway, this is the conversation. Now, this is a topic I saw on social media. Baya ilikuwa. As a man, no, rather as a wife, who comes first? Your husband? Or your kids? Sijuwe ni muna se maje, lakini ni mwe want to hear these two men right here. I hope by the end of this conversation, badum takuwa men. It will determine. As a wife, who comes first. Na juwa mwono pigo as a man. As a man, who comes first to me, either if it is wife or kids. Yes, who comes first. Wendo tatwambia as a wife. As a man, between wife and kids, who comes first. Apana, tu kisema ifu ita huwara, isi uta changu wa tu wa towa. Apana ni mimi. Ni mimi. Ni wewe. How can you be this selfish? Yata wa towa kwa ujali? Sinajipenda. Between your kids and your wife. Who comes first? First of all, Betty. Wende kwanzaa. Uraja beti na javizuri. Yata bifu oge. Beti na javizuri tuta se ma kids. Uraja tum surprise. Uraja minim surprise. My wife comes first. Your wife comes first. Yes. Ha ha ha, good. Who comes first. Between your wife and your kids. Between my wife and my kids. Who comes first. Who comes first is my kid. It's your kids. Yes. Why not your wife? Because when I was 10, I ended. Now I have to get a bagi. Blood is always thicker than water. Wait, what? Blood is always thicker than water. The kids have my blood. Uu mungini ni maji. I never tell them kwa. No, but you have a connection. We do, yes. But that connection fades. So, according to your wife, bia kwa ni stranger. Uu ni stranger. Uu ni mutu mungini na fakum treat parallel. What do you want? I don't understand ma. But that's the truth, bro. Uluju wa tuta pia wa na kwa. Even I always left. But our kids got a bagi apu. Wata kwa wako. And that's why your wife should come first. She should not. Because if she doesn't come first, aneza henda. Bro, aneza henda. Wata kwa wata onewa wata owa. Yes, but they will still remain to be my kids. Uuman, her mind, auman aneza change. Na kisha change. Una bakina ni. Bana tuto change, bana onewa. Udata na change, na kini ni babaya kakuna jina ya kwa. No, but you see it. Bipi ni mutu aneza chikula ja na mga na henda kwa na. They do. But what is the essence of marriage? Kama sayo companionship. Exactly. Kwa ni, ligu wa tu wa kuzali ya basi sungeta after basi. Wani tango aje wale wa tu wa na kuzali, alafu aneza. I think I do ni wale wana kwa gana made mumela zimishwa na hoso. Apa na bro, lemi tell you one thing. Okay, assuming you love the wife. Lemi ask you. Ni senari ya kwa ni ya. Waja ni kulise. Ni kwa ni demkwa mekwa kelea mimba. Aja tuwa henda, ata kwa wasani, tuwa na dadeo nipa ni. Aneza bakina ni. Echeki. Ule ni muse kuna satiflaksiona kuna ayo. Bi bia li henda. Wata tuwa na baki. Ki ariji de dun. Bi bia li henda. Wata tuwa na baki. Because women, however much you atuwa ni ni ni bro, they'll always leave. Akuna ilesi ku, manamuke atawa ikuwa satisfied na wewe, a thousand percent. Moso awasa ai. No, but lemi give an example of my parents. Sisi tulitokatu kwa henda. My parents wame baki wote wa willi. True. So you are looking at the negative aspects of marriage. Namama ya ako? Namama ya ako? Ya, che henda. Webun ni ni ni wama bia atakwe. Exactly. Aya, aya. Ele tuwa baku aya. Ele tuwa ni ni kwenyu. Ni ni kwenyu mewa chadi muse. Muko, tesa, squeeze y muko inje muna tesa. Ni omuna moa na muna tumaki tu. But rakuna ile. No, but ni mi olewa. Kweni na fasa sa ni ishi apoka manisha olewa. Ni ishi tena na waza ni apo. Ie, ne pointe na ilewa. Na sila wikuwa wyu. Kweni ni fuyu, na sema, wata tuwa fast, na wata tuwa tafika 18. Wata ok, henda kampu. Wata henda? Sidi yo. But ito limite ilo one thing. The best investment wana zafanya sa ari, katia bibi ya kwa nga totu. Miskiya, the best investment wana zafanya, niku watu ui. Na kifari. Miskiya, wana depale ukuna suona jitegemiya. Sidi yo. In return, they'll help you. But my point is, na get. Hao, totu mama yao. Uyo dem. Sini mama yao. Nima mama yao? Mama niza achatotu wanga ike. Mama isi achatotu wanga ike. So if you invest in the wife, are you sure your kids are safe? Bro, the thing is, if you invest in this woman, wama ni mutu mungi na kili ya ke bro. Uta wa ii. So that's how it works? That's very true. Na get. So you're not going to invest in the wrong person? Na sema, relationship wise, mimi na watu yuwangu na mimi, na bibi ya ngu. Miskiya, bibi ya ngu si mutu mungi wana zani ambiya, I should choose them over my kids. No, let me ask you, what is the essence of marriage according to you? That's insanity. What is the essence of marriage according to you? The essence of marriage. It's in the companionship. So kaito apunani kaito. But what is companionship? Kamat, you're investing in your kids and not your wife. And by the way, the kids will give me more comfort than even you. Because there's a kujakuanyu in back, there's a kujakuanyu in back. Because that's a beti. Because that's a beti niki ke uke uke. Yeah. Well, wuki ya na boan na watu otu? Who comes first? The kids will come first when they are young. So where do I do? So where do I do? No, kia, kia, ya ken ni entayali. Ya ken ni entayali. Mine is not entayali. So the kids will come first? When me and my husband are together, first of all ni bo na yangu, so takaam first, niki patya tu mimba hivi. First of all na fakuwa, mi mi, yei yei niko first namba priority kuake, wasaba bo I should be taken care of. Then when the kids come, the kids need us both. So bo na mutumzima kona 36 yas, the older mother 38 Afo hi kuwana ngo da attention na 2 months old. We take it to take it. Tukwa kuwacha na boana. So where we na wubi troto, so unasa wu ma boi boana, kids comes first, baka fiki 18. I want to get you clear. Sindi yo? Bro, That was your point. So for 18 years, wu jama ni boi zitu flani. Apana. Mama pati full attention. No, full na ezi patata pata aje, kuwani mimimi ni kwa, mimimi ni machine. Oh, sa sa. Aezi patata full? Patata na pata full. Alafu, 18 ni kifika wahende. Divide them. Wait, 18 ni kifika wahende. No. Don't put words into my mouth but ita. No. But you can't beat the line. But you can't beat the line. It comes first between your husband and the kids. Of course the kids will come first and then the husband will come second. But I manage entirely to pay attention. Lakin ni piya ya na fun. This is not a question. This is not a question that is answered with a paragraph. It's very simple. We are not answered. We are taught to first hand Now we are between husband and kids. Divided. Where? We are not answered yet. Then we will be in Kenya. We will be in Kenya. We are not in Kenya. We will be in Kenya. We will be in Kenya. But it's where that's where the mistake comes in now. Edu is going to give the kids attention 100% as how baby ya ke. Edu as how baby ya? Edu as how baby ya? Edu as how baby ya? Edu as how baby ya? Edu as how baby ya? Edu as how baby ya? Edu as how baby ya? See, I told you. Let me tell you. Yes, the kids come first. The kids come first. Inap attention to the kids with heko aja? Ha konadabo, hako anale wa hiku ka Ktamu na kwa nazeh, ngizimapu anazaki Giv everyone attention, sumoja apatya umugini Analea vizuri, asida, hako na nida mu, na wukuna wa toto Besides, kids come first and say, do you ignore her now and say my priority was her? Kwenia kiki taku wu kwende. Mama pia una kwa umtumsuri na divide kama beti? Do you divide? Kama nimi manamukimene? Wana atia kuna beti nana eka manamukimene to be somebody manye, kwazimi nimi mibili nila ewa, how man, can multitask and it's a picka and I nneziam dotu. Eni, even u nula kwa kwa ya? Namu ko Instagram. But sisi tu na k reactors una ni ni, ahsini uka tu do two things a tagon. Kusuna ni ta u man, anezha fanyaswa sa miya? Kizuna ta biha nbya mezoeshwa. Ta biha nwasin kuzoeshwa na… Kizuna ta biha nbya mezoeshwa ati manu meze fanya wetu? Biku wanu mea na weza, ati wana, uke na malaya? Nikile niki nukche na pika? Shida ni konaya la beti. Beti ya kona point same na ya ko? Bats. Bats, but taki kuaksep. Kwa ni tube kwa tani aerafa mese maa uta kini onyesha na nipike Wototo wana kuwa nita Nani onyesha wana pika wey mo naume Okay baswecha nini onyesha Uta kini onyesha aje, uta nita changeable roles Interchangeable roles This one interchangeable roles to be honest But if anyone... But you agree how did you grow up seeing your dad and you as a family I've told you time and again I've told you a good time and again Our parents time and our parents time And we do not live in their time That's why you're not living up in your dad That's why the rate of divorce is very high in Kenya That's why there are so many single women Not because women are woke now Even men are woke now Even as we are woke, when it's here Ano, we stuck a ban Kids come first And the betias are great kids come first Atre kwa kili ake Ano treat mo naume kama stranger Mone hawezi dedicate time ake fulli kwa ke But our father dedicate kwa atoto Kwa sababu hawa ndiwa damu ake Alafi bia mina puja kwa kopiwa na semawa atoto ndiwa damu Damu yamu Na hantu to understand me well So kama bibi ako ano think kama beti Mono si investu kwa ke Ali naia atoto I cannot That's called insanity We can't be in a interview Where in the water are you? Where in the water are you? So you don't care about your kids No, I care about the kids but they said My wife comes first because Uda pigo karata development Uda pigo karata development She is the mother of my kids She can't let her kids Mama wa kwa wasawa Mama wa kwa wasawa So where in the water is financial provision? Alafi uwa atoto na wacha wuko You don't care You don't help in chores in the house The moment u na take care of mama wa atoto Automatically you are taking care of the family So where we Ako na mi sema naia Anaza kuja kwa kia seme Suti me shinda haji, shika chukresh na mawa Uwa hem trotrenda kwa chia ze wuko Butitas kia Are you taking time with the kids One on one not with the mother I'm taking I'm taking care of the kids That's a family responsibility So you aren't But it doesn't mean So sa ni me sema Watoi first bibi wuko So pa ni wuna divide attention To me sema Who comes first Uwe me sema bibi Me sema bibi na kuja first Uwe me wu kishuguliki ya bibi Ako atoto ako saawa Uwe wu kishuguliki ya atoto ako bibi Uwe ni nisha sema na divide Ako na kwa ku divide Wachara na Wachara na Unaja responsibility Me responsibility Ya ok ambiwa, familia ako Watoi atoto lazimua kulewa Yende shulewa benizuri Uwa angaliwe sidi yo When you talk about who comes first Tuna ongeleya When you are in a tight situation Ya sasa, for example Nangori ko enyumba Nangori sasa Nifaku choose Nifaku choose Ok watoi wangu Mamaya wana sumbuwa Lakin ni wana penda mamaya wana Lakin ni kwa sababua Watoi wangu wana come first Nave kustoma kujinga mamaya Tabiya mamaya wana Because my kids come Nisaawa zin Uwe ni umizetu sababu ya Wana kukuma zetuju Watoi Uwana yo da situation na takamane Juni maganda kukwama Isu da situation, sufanja mimi siyama Whou come first Is it my kids or my My wife Sa akama isu situation ya Divosi am sa nakia Riji Na utrutuakia Kwa mimi nakawa siya mimi ki kids come kumia sobie Na uin e elewei ka Jubi jilia kenya bibiya kwa labda ali fanya When there is a crisis, it is when you will be in that position and you will not divide. But now... If you say ¨Kunawa le watou zema, ¨no¨on kamsi skutu ¨mimi ble muna lewa kichiwangumu mtumastu¨ Kuenda nawa totu waku u... Nopota totu wati intafuta mi mini mbaba yahu... Nako nawa lewa, In gori yata iku yaji... mimi mimi na takat, mimi mimi na mimi na penda u mama ya niya na come first, nita pigeta ma goti mimi mombi ya niya je tuliya, tukuna familiar ya kuleya it all narrows down to the family ata ni kama wife comes first narrows down to the family niya niwa selfish niwa niya mma say ma kids come first muna treat spouse when you come and do it apana, it's not the community cause let me tell you one thing kudita beti najiwa kwa ii mamba ya ma pins na ii mamba ya kukuna muna muke mimi ya kuna wa toto ii na dependu muna muke because you as a woman wukisha kuna wa toi mimi na jua jazuli na kuna wambia dem aneza divide na get attention ya ken eza kupatia those as ni ni mimi ni muna kuna wa toi kwa na umgele ya kwa basic basic basic thing but at the end of the day na get ni ni ni mimi when we wa tani kuleze when we tumzi moneza kwao adjuna lili attention ati bibi ya kuna kupatia let me tell you one thing let me tell you one thing let me tell you one thing let me tell you one thing kama kuna kituatupendi kama kuna kituatupendi ni attention of your people I have seen so many men complain that kudema li patanga boll akapa tamtoi ni kumbukangis kuizi there are so many men who claim that but they are going to tell you one wumze but you say sawe wun elewa sawe wun elewa sawe wun elewa judem anepe amtoto wangu attention imagine there are men who get mad for that bro wun elewa kwa keja wun elewa kwa keja watu wun elewa pikiwa kwaunza ni watu towa kwaunza ni watu towa kwaunza ni sawe wun elewa kwaunza ni sawe wun elewa kwaunza nisha na na na kwaunbi ya wun elewa kwaunza imagine edu kumpiting with the two men is not competing but adjuna li bibi those kids that have been saying ati wun eza pata wun elewa attention kumishi ni watu towa ke ati ewa kilengwa ati ewa tuto kilengwa ati wudem anepe amtoto wun elewa been didwa daka kanemimi na tiaatu iuw gata hashugumi sasa wun ona aukuna uzuri suji watu anate kanga ni ni bina da muna taka kanga ni ni what do you want the thing is let's just bring the old bag wile labia kitamba ya ke yi ona ea afana let's be nice lakin ii ii ii ii wun ona na tuwa unafana inyunye shepa penda bibi waka wa tapenda wa tooto wun no jiwa buti to lakin yuki sauma evu na manisha Kusugulika mambu ya watu otoka? Kusugulika If their mother is well she will make sure they are also okay Atakwa naku So it will have responsibility Do you know taking care of my wife If my kids being happy means my wife will be happy and I want her to be happy It will happen automatically If my kids being happy means my wife will be happy She should be happy but the point is she will be in the centre of the family I'm the head of the family but it narrows down to mama yao Mama yao will be representative but you are very wrong you should know when your family is unwell when you are in the hospital and you have to go for a mission you have to do your work That never works That never works When you are in the hospital kama kantika ngeda nyu haven freely strikes Super We'll sit up Atum, preks, kaitin, anezatukana, udem tibasa. Kia, butita. An unhappy marriage brings down to kids not being happy. So when happy marriage brings down to kids not being? Not being happy. That's why your husband should also come fast. No, no, there's no way my husband can come fast when I have a two-year-old man's baby. How now? Kwa kwa takiki kuhuni niya? A-a-a, iwa attention niya. Nataka kupewa origina li. Befo mtotoa kuwa. Beti na kifu kama nema domone, atisa jyoko na mtoto mdoko. Eh? Fuli. Chikyote na fafanya, atia fai kufanya sasa. Uzi oke about, una jywa childbirth, after childbirth, kwanza, you should be taken care of even more than nukiwa na bol. You deserve more attention. But after childbirth you should be taken care of forever. Yes. You know how much energy it takes from a woman? Four months. Why? Four months. Four months, you know how long it takes to make or rather to heal. It's just four months. Four months. Why? Let me finish this. I have not. But you guys are pretending not to know this information. I have. I have. That's why na kwanbiya, iu ki tu siu wu gaonjuwa. Umaginu li skumawa na wake wa fafanya V2. To nukume. You should have taken care of them and told them. Just sit down. Let me take care of you. Uya na kugilt tribu. But it's your job to take care of her. So two years bro. So you have to take care of her. How? Two years. For the next three months, four months. But if you are a human, you are a human. Otherwise you take care of her. Otherwise you take care of her. Of course her is going to take care of her. Wait please. Wait please. We are not sick. But we are not sick. But we are not sick. But we have to take care of her. moved three years kwa mwo mwenzi Sozi, kwa mwenzi, kwa mwenzi, kwa mwenzi, kwa mwenzi, kwa mwenzi, kwa mwenzi, ntito nene Nakawazia Between Kwa bangange Kwa mwenzi, kwa mwenzi, lana Nihini, tata kwa hila jituili. Ta mahimad, bomi, mubutu, naizun Feelig naizun, nituu linda Naajini, naizun Kushiputu Naajini, naijini. Tata kwa kwa kwa nita Mόza kutufu Tata kwa tata kuki Mokazi, mwa naa Tata kuki Mwa niko kakutufu Tata kuki But you guys should help your women. You should help your women. That was not the point. Wait, wait, wait. There's some seeker. Me as your husband. Who should come first? You should take care of me. It's a wrap, it's a wrap guys. Dan, Dan, Dan. Don't forget to subscribe. Banyu kila ki tu palukiyo na video. Inginia mpia, ring the bell. SPM Buzz. Peace out.