 Welcome back and thank you for staying with us on Y254 if you're just joining us tonight we're talking about goal setting and we've discussed quite a lot of things we've talked about the impact of goal setting we've also tried to look at how do we get to balance Lea has mentioned how she's been able to balance goals like through all the aspects that she has to set goals in her life talk to us across social media platforms at Y254 channel you can also reach me at Patricia Murioki so John let me bring you on on the part where balancing every goal that you set because as Lea said sorry sometimes you notice that your educational goals are going so well your business goals are going so well but these are part these are disconnect when it comes to everything that you wanted to achieve holistically so how do you create that balance well I think one it's important to always have a point where you get to review whatever you do because I always believe that enough times you know we are quick to set goals and at times you get too busy trying to actually achieve these goals to a next time to where we don't have even time to review so I always believe that it's very important for you to set time to have a review of these goals that you've set as a matter of fact I think to a great extent also most people fear failure and we fail to want to embrace whatever it is that we have been able to encounter to an extent where we shy away from having to deal with the reality at hand I think I'm inspired by this guy by me in the late Nelson Mandela who by the time he was you know about that he had written a book and in this book he was talking about the courage to face oneself you know because most of the times you find people are not quick enough to even create time to face themselves to be able to have a review of who they are or whatever they are doing and I think for me it's also important because life has a way of you know bringing about different results so their times you'll be successful in what you do their times you'll be failing in what you do so I think you need to have a review of the same and most still also I just so get to set this code that you're setting it's also very important for you to also be a bit practical you know in terms of the thing that you're trying to achieve because I always say that I remember at one point some time back you know we were fairly young and we were being asked so what do you want to do in another like five years you know and back then we were still early in our 20s and one guy said that he wanted to have a child in class 4 you know other particular time and he got me thinking that this guy was not married he didn't have a kid so you'd imagine within five years having a kid in class 4 not unless it's adoption or whatever if it's through the due process you know so it's good to be realistic in whatever you do we can talk about goals without talking about being specific with your goals it's supposed to be measurable goals they're supposed to be actionable they're supposed to look at time so I'd like to bring you in on these one layer how are we able to make sure that we're set in realistic goals because I believe people out here set goals but the moment you try to listen to the goals that someone has said you even wonder is a timeline that you've given to them is it enough for you to be able to get to that point so how do we set realistic goals and you can set realistic goals is by picking on like one big goal in your area in the in your area of focus like for example if I want to lose is it say 10 kilograms in the year 2020 2021 2021 sorry I beg your pardon in the year 2021 so if I want to lose 10 kgs is that realistic how what you need to have to make it realistic is have what we call a god a god roadmap a roadmap will give you step-by-step for me to achieve myself losing 10 kgs within a short time say even if it's within six months what are the things that I need to do I need to eat healthy you need to know for them to for your goal to be realistic you need to know the steps you need to take so you to get from point A to B am I going to eat healthy am I going to exercise am I going to be more careful with my mind I'm going to be my mindful of what is it that I allow to get into my brain yes so for it to be a realistic also you have to check your timeline you also have to check in terms of what is it that I need to do to get there but also in the process of being realistic we can at times limit ourselves okay sometimes I like it when especially young people take big audacious goals because you know like they say you know you could land in that in the stars don't be afraid to dream big yeah it's just that give it a time you might say I want to earn a million a month give yourself time even if you it's going to be a long-term goal okay and then you begin having realistic steps to get there do I need to go back to school to get most killed when what is what are the steps that I need to take for me to get to my big audacious you know dream all right yeah so we can't talk about goal-setting without talking about what attitude do you bring when you sit down and say at the end of this year want to buy a car what attitude as you go out there to look for the money as you go out there to look for whatever it is resource that you need to achieve a certain goal you can't do that without embracing a positive attitude so how do we do that John how do I how do people now adopt maintaining a very positive attitude throughout this process yes so now I want to put something there so answer or get to respond to that I say that where we're looking at also setting goals one of the end games you want to seek is to be successful and one thing I've learned about success success has deals that you have to pay yeah you know and if people have that at the bottom of their heart it means that you know that is actually in itself a driving force because in whichever line you are seeking to become successful there are those requirements that are that are you know set for you to get to achieve that are set for you to get to conquer so it means that in your mind you have to have this mindset you know when you talk about attitude I also think so much about the mindset that you have that whatever you seek to do for you you're not trying you know you are you're actually seeking to get to see the end of it in a bigger way so one thing I always say and I'll also actually echo what has actually been mentioned is that even in your setting of goals make these goals to actually also be bold because as a matter of fact it takes the same amount of energy rather it takes the same amount of energy to make or to have small goals as well as big goals so why do you have to actually lose your energy on small goals you know yeah so that kind of thinking is very important actually when you talk about boldness you're also talking about big you know and big does not mean that you're also not realistic yeah as a matter of fact I think in this dreaming that we have even the people who dream at night and those who dream during daytime both of them they end up dreaming you know so at I know by and large if you actually trying to think in this in this particular line you'll find that the driving force in regards to what you want to seek to achieve will be what will actually be pushing you I always try to relate goal-setting to this aspect that number one the best time to plant a tree was 25 years ago and that simply means there's some of us who in our life right now we say I wish I did whatever I was supposed to have done 25 years ago or a long time ago because I would have been in this particular place but also say where this attitude is concerned the second best time to plant a tree it is now okay as you come to as you wind up on this discussion tonight layer accountability do I need an accountability partner or how can I also be accountable by myself in the goals that I have set for myself it's very important for you to have an accountability partner actually this one from my personal experience is that I've been able to achieve more of my goals when I have an accountability partner you know these days you're not limited by boundaries my accountability partner is all the way in Malawi and we leave each other voice notes this week this is my goal and we keep each other accountable we started shows my business accountability partner and as we kept growing we have developed a friendship that now we are even keeping each other accountable when it comes to our health so we call each other what is what you know what milestones you want to hit this week and we keep each other accountable we are each other cheerleaders so it's very important for you to look for an accountability partner it doesn't have to be your family member but it has to be somebody you can trust with you because this goals are what I'm going to make you become whoever you want to become it has to be somebody you can trust with these goals somebody who can cheer you on somebody who can look in the air and tell you you know now you're really messing up yeah and somebody who is going to work with you celebrate with you the wins once you have achieved this goal so it's very key don't be afraid to try reach out to somebody who you feel you're aligned in terms of goals it can be even people who are trying to achieve other things but this is somebody you know who's going to be consistent it's going to be in your corner when you're doing this then your corner and they are going to support you and you should also offer the same to them because a relationship is more beneficial when it's mutual yeah yeah so that you're not becoming a situation and it has worked so well in fact like when you're doing something you can actually cross-tech with them and then they give you ideas critique it you know like we all I tell each other you know me I'm looking at it with a critical eye it's good but just know that I'm looking at it with a critical eye and we don't take offense because you know it is for a better man so get partner if the relationship does not work move on to the next one until you find the right one you know like in Kenya I know we have these groups sister you know when you see something those people when they see an opportunity for you they'll tell you come here come and come here this is where the opportunity is and accountability works very well because sometimes you can feel you're alone in this journey of trying especially when you're going for big dreams it's a lonely journey so you need someone to work with you the journey okay yes John for young people watching us tonight when it comes to focus like literally being able to focus on every goal and every dream and everything that you said for yourself it doesn't matter in what area or what aspect of your life how do they maintain their focus 30 seconds yes so I think where we're looking at focus it's important to actually narrow down in whatever you seek to achieve and that means there could be so many things that probably may have said to do but if you can actually get to narrow down to whatever you want to achieve I can see when that one big thing that you want to seek to do because that one big thing could also have other things that could also be attached to it so narrow down to that one big thing that you want to do then from there you cannot be able to build because if you're able to achieve one major you know thing and you have that is a big win of course you're so able to come and build from that and then of course with this with the other wins you'll be able now to get to conquer and conquer more you know so get to narrow down from there with that win get to build on that like that like that and of course you'll be able to have that focus because otherwise if you're distracted if you're chasing a lot of things I always say a person going after an elephant does not go throwing stones to bats you know so get to focus on the elephant stop wasting your energy and time throwing stones to the bats that are along the way in your journey of life yes one thing that if I'm sitting someone watching us tonight and they are now like I think I need to set goals and the salmon of land what should they consider before they set those goals you just have to know your purpose because once you know what your purpose is then you start aligning your goals towards your purpose yes so as you said you set your goals you know what your purpose is how can you know your purpose is it's a process you cannot know it in one day and remember you are an evolving being okay and sometimes you might think this is my purpose then you achieve it and God shows you yeah something new to try yeah just keep grinding keep on your grind that's what I can see okay when you fall get up fall down 10 times okay wake up 11 times okay yes thank you very much for finding the time to be here with us tonight I hope that if you if you were watching us tonight this has been a very informative discussion I also have taken one or two points home and I hope that as we said goes year 2021 we're going to be setting realistic goals and goals that we know that we are able to attain so thank you very much for being with us next week same time we're going to be diving onto career goals because today we didn't touch anything on career goals so next week you talk about career goals thank you very much my name is Patricia Morioki have a very good night