 All right, so we're showing you guys what a battery is almost dead We're showing you guys behind the scenes of how we film it starts off with a brief argument from Jared and I and then Get to work. Jay's doing audio. I did the light setup, but she doubted me on Has yet to compliment me. Well, we don't know if it was yet to compliment me We don't know if it's gonna be the same. We didn't have to do all this properly And it's right as hell out here check check check check check Hey there lovers and friends We are in Costa Rica right now getting lovely and friendly because we're here on our honeymoon We want to invite you guys into the pool for a second to chillax with us and just have a casual chat Yeah, we did a video like maybe a few months ago and We got blasted about our age difference. Hi. I'm Shan Boudram But now Shan Brady as of three weeks ago. I am 33 years old and I'm a sex and relationship educator I'm Jared Brady and I am 27 and I record music blasted an extreme word, but essentially it was like a thing Yes, it was a thing. I think a lot of men Were against it so that being said though I have a pretty big question for you and you have to be honest, okay? Okay, yeah, are you at all embarrassed by our age difference? 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I'm not I think it's not it's not strange to me because every person that I know that's in a good relationship The woman is older my my dad's in a relationship where the woman is older My grandma's in a relationship where the woman is older And it's just something that I saw growing up all the time. So I don't know it's not strange to me Are you telling me honestly that none of your friends? Nobody was like had a big reaction to it. No one no one had a noticeably big reaction I do remember when like your mom found out about our age difference is like she was over at our place It's okay. It's a dragonfly. They don't bite your mom was over at our place for Thanksgiving And it somehow came up and they were like a little shocked by it just taking back Yeah, a little taken aback by it So I wouldn't say embarrass is the right word for me, but I will say it's one of those things that I know People are gonna cut you off right there because I think most people's reaction is because you don't look That much older than I do so I think people's reaction is more so like oh, I had no idea Well as backtrack When we first started getting yeah when you first found out about our age difference Did you have a problem with it at all? I knew off the top that because you were older than me that there was going to be a Maturity gap that I was gonna have to close So not only am I going to have to keep up the love keep up the the spark But now I have to to accelerate my maturity level. Mm-hmm. So I knew that that I was working uphill So from that vantage point, I was like oh, I Wish you was kind of going through the same things as I was but you were already past the the the early 20th stage Okay, come back Come back It's okay What's wrong stop looking around my head So I got a hair makeover Dad wants me to know that he killed it No, I did though. I didn't kill it Okay, so anyhow, we were talking about the beginning of our relationship and the age difference You were saying that you felt that you would have like an uphill battle Personally when we first started we were buddies like that was the criteria of our relationship That's what I was looking for more or less at the time And so you didn't have to be my age or older to qualify for that job. Oh, look at you right now It's so hot damn. I will say that what made you a great sexual partner I don't think it's something that comes with age. It is that authenticity like that truly being in the moment not being Influenced at all by videos you've seen in the past or experiences you've had or what you used to do with your x Like you genuinely listened so well you paid attention and you reacted according to what we were doing And I've definitely had experiences in the past where I felt like oh like this is five six seven eight It's a little routine So I think that like yeah your age didn't matter in in what I wanted you for and by the time that I wanted more from you I had we were already in love. We were already in love. Yeah, it's too late So what is the greatest con? Do you think or difference the acceleration of having to Mature and having to do things in life that maybe you know I would have waited until like 30 or 30 something, you know But but at the end of the day like there's sacrifices that need to be made and I'm more than willing and happy And I'm grateful that I got to you know mature in that a you're talking specifically about marriage Marriage maybe moving into a house maybe moving into you know certain situations that I feel like on my own I probably wouldn't have made those jumps But at the same time like I think that's more of a man pride thing right and so And there's a certain look feel yeah bank account number that ready would have meant for you Yeah, and so even though I think a lot of the the leaps and bounds that you've made we done together Um, it just would have felt a little bit better. Yeah, if it was all on me But that's my man pride. No, I mean, I think it's 100 valid and that's one of those things that I mean I talk about this pretty frequently because I think it's important that women do discuss this Like there is a massive difference in the way that men view marriage with women view marriage There is different pressures. There's different incentives And so we had to have that discussion and the time that we actually got engaged We had been having the proposal conversation for a year prior to that, you know I think the funny thing is is that jared was the first person to say that like yeah, we're life partners This is it like we did that video with stuff in when you're like, you know, this she's it for me Yeah, and then maybe six months after that. I brought up marriage jared and he was like, whoa Marriage what and I was like, how does that shock you? Like we just already had this discussion But I think I was like 24 at the time 25 at the time. Yeah, you know at the time it was like I looked at it like, you know, shouldn't me Wanting to be in this should be all that is is needed and and I get it that in my mind This is where I was thinking I get it that you want it and I get it that it's going to feel good for you But for me, it would feel so much better If if it was moving at the place that I felt comfortable. Yeah, and it would have felt, you know, like all right I have the money for the house. I have the money for this and so it was just kind of like Instead I had to go lease it a thing, you know, and so it just didn't feel Like it would have felt do you regret it at all or do you wish no no That's not this is more of a conversation of just talking about the cons first, right? So there's a whole list of pros that outweigh the cons so much more But I mean in realistics if we're being true street street straight honest about it. That is a con that The the way that I proposed and everything was a least ring the way, you know, it just didn't feel like You you did that I bring this up all the time to you how we were watching the alley wong special and she was like I was so surprised when my husband proposed to me because I'd only been pressuring him for like six months And it's funny because people just rarely tell that side of the story that what happens when The couple has really different timelines where I do think not to jump into the pros But I am super grateful that on kids were on a very similar timeline And I'm grateful for that reason. I think that's the jubilee video which I think to explain of like I'm grateful that you're younger because as weird as this is as a woman in her 30s to say like I'm truly not ready for kids yet. Yeah And Jared Is not ready for kids yet at this time. And so I feel like that time that you're good I'll probably be a lot more ready to make that sacrifice in my life The fact that you're older and you went through life a little bit when I go through despair You're kind of able to help me and guide me to be like, yo Everybody at 27 feels this This is not like new and you're not different and you're not weird and you're not going through something unique I have complete empathy and space for you to be 27 to be going through a fraction of that Yes, because to me like you're ahead of where I was at at your age, but I also recognize that with time and Sticking to one thing I was able to benefit and I believe that for you You've never given yourself the chance to fully see something through. Yeah And that's I'm grateful to give you that space and to also give you that assurance to be like It's gonna work out. I mean, I can't promise it But I can say from experience and from knowing you statistically But I also think that we have discipline in common That's the one thing I will say what the age difference not mattering that much is that Jared's insanely compassionate, which I think is a trait of time and then also I think that you're so disciplined. You're so Vibrant and daring and fearless. Um, and I just think it's such a turn on to me And jenny won't even get in the water. I mean, I still enjoy myself. I'm very risk-averse She was like, oh, no, I'm having a good time just watching. I am what is that? If that's not if that's not the oldest thing she's ever said in real life With all that being said, is there any advice out there that you would give someone that has an age gap in their relationship? The biggest piece of advice I'd probably say is if it matters to you, let it matter I think any gap if there is a financial gap if there is an age gap If there is a maturity gap and that you feel that's a really big deal Then it probably is a really big deal. I talked to a lot of women who are dating someone older and that person constantly brings up Well, you're young. Well, you're immature. You won't get there yet. Um, and that's just very demeaning. I don't think I do that to you No, I try my best not to do that because ultimately like I'm selecting this person. I am choosing you So by choosing you I'm saying yes. This is not a big deal to me Like you have to give them a little bit more space to figure out things and maybe you already know Perhaps you have to give them a bit more space to go through a phase in life That maybe you're perhaps past and so even though yes, you have to assess somebody on their emotional intelligence You know physical age society wise plays a large part in the Path that someone does something in I think my my my advice would be I think you should assess somebody off of their emotional as social intelligence rather than Their physical age because if you find someone your age that doesn't know themselves doesn't know what they stand for doesn't know what they believe in then There's gonna be a gap in there Naturally that doesn't matter how old they are doesn't matter how young they are. So it's it's a difficult Thing to do to try to please someone that can't please themselves sexually and just in life So like I think I think everybody should learn themselves first before they try to give themselves to someone else I'm building the website of my book Is that a good segue to the square space? I am actually searching right now for an advanced Web designer who is very well versed with working on square space, which is my favorite platform. I love reaching out to my Supporters because you guys have such incredible wealth of talent of knowledge Which is why also in the comment section is my favorite place So while you watch the square space ad go down there We want to hear from you and tell us would you date someone younger? Why or why not if you have in the past spilled a tea on me Get you a younger dude It's good times. 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