 تشرف بالاشتغال بالعلم ولا تبغي به ما عشت يا دادا دادا وياله من شراف عظيمي وجمل بنصح الخلق قلبك إنه لعلا جمال للقلوب وأجود تشرف بالعلم وياله من شرافه مع أجل مجمال للقلوب يقول أنه وجمل بنصح قلبك ويجربك لبنه مجمال للقلوب إن شخص يحتاج منه أن يكون دائماً ناصحاً للمسلمين غير غاشي لهم أنه يكون مجردًاً مجردًاً لأشخاص الذين لا يدخلونه عندما ترى أصدقائك المسلمين والأصدقائيين يذهبون بشكل كبير أن يدخلونهم مجردًاً أنه لا يدخلون أن تشاهدونهم أن تفعلونهم مجردًا ومجردهم ناصحة is the opposite of what غشو ولي داليكة the word نصحي لنوستيكي originally means when you clean the honey from all of that which are in it it's when you make the milk pure clean and that's why the messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام he said الدين والنصحة that the religion is based on it is sincerity it's sincere advice the religion is sincere advice قال the prophet then said لله so the companions asked قلنا لمن who is it sincere advice for then the messenger said لله ولي كتابه ولي رسوله ولي آئمة المسلمين وعامته and if you look at all of those the advice is done in it's way the advice to the Quran is in one way the advice to الله is in another way the advice to the messenger is in another way the one for the believing leader the Muslim leader is in a way the advice to the people is in a way you don't mix one with the other the reason why I say this is because some people they understand advice and they conflate advice with and contradict advice with what is known as shaming a person and when Ibn Rajab saw this consistently occurring at his time people not being able to tell the difference between one another he wrote a book called الفرق بين النصحة والتعيير the difference between advising somebody and shaming somebody and Imam Shafi'u said in the lines of poetry which I don't remember now he said anyone who advises me privately I take it and anyone who advises me out in the open I become rebellious Imam Shafi'u to go and expose a person's mistakes in public by talking to him in front of his friends in the Netherlands or in front of a crowd of people and then once you walk away you say I gave him the advice that I should have given him he's just stubborn he doesn't want to listen we'll say this is not advice just like drugs is not food and alcohol I'm a riba is not interest the name can be nice you can give it a fancy name by calling it advice but what you truly did is you shamed him they'll say to you sometimes I've been advising this person for the last 10 years now what you've been doing is you've been shaming this person the prophets were the ones who were sincere advisors to their people they would sit with their people they would advise their people they would give them alternatives they would give them solutions and they wouldn't give up on them and when their nations wouldn't listen they would say to them they would turn away from their nations their people and say to them I have conveyed a message that was upon me regarding this affair I have advised you but you guys are a people who don't like advice you don't like a person who has sincere advice for you a person who is a sincere advisor shows consideration and concern he's merciful to the young one when he speaks to him he's merciful to the young one when he speaks to him he's merciful to the young one when he speaks to him he's merciful to the young one when he speaks to him he respects and he honours the elder one when he speaks to him he finds sorrow and concern in his heart towards those people who he's concerned for he's happy with their happiness he really loves their betterment them becoming better and their good that's what he wants يحب صلاحه وأول فتح he likes when they are united and they're together he likes when their when their نعمة and their blessings is there he likes when they're victorious over their enemies he likes harm to be taken away from them and not to be brought to them all of that that's a person who's a sincere advisor وذلك I advise you to go to this حديث الدين النصيحة قلنا لمن قال لله ولي كتابه ولي رسوله ولي أئمة المسلمين وعامته ويأتي لك to look at the book written by Ibn Rajab Al-Hambali جامع العلوب والحكم when he explains it there and also his other book which I mentioned the difference between advise and shame and exposing them what's the difference between the two that's a book that deserves to be read not only just read but also taught to the youngsters because a lot of the time it's them that come around saying I had been advising this person I advise this person but they haven't understood the reality and the true meaning of advice sometimes a person does not take the advice not because they are hard headed and they are stubborn and in a state of denial it's because the way you convey the message to them and the way you have told them this was a way which they had they did not want to take and I said if Shafiq said that then the author goes on to say before I move on what is important as well is that try to read what it means when advising the Muslim leader that itself has been explained by the messenger read the narrations that explain it don't just read this hadith and then say I'm going to apply it the way I want to so I'm going to criticize the Muslim leader on Twitter and Instagram and Facebook like the Muslim leader is not like the Muslim leader is not a Muslim who's blood and he's honour and he's dignity is sacred just like any Muslim cannot be backbited the Muslim leader can't be backbited he has the rights that the Muslims have and the way you advise him he's told to us by the messenger so you have to read and go into how to deal with the Muslim leader how to speak to how to advise him then the author goes on to saying إنه لأعلى إنه لأعلى جمال للقلوب وأجود so say advice to the creation and being far from one who is deceptive is considered as a beauty of the heart and it's an adornment of the heart rather it is from the greatest things rather it is from the greatest things that a person can endure himself with and he can beautify himself with is to be sincere in advice and to be far from the opposite which is deception because one of the greatest illnesses one of the greatest illnesses for somebody to have in their heart is deception and it is from the greatest things that place darkness and filth into the hearts of the people and he goes against the ayah يوم لا ينفع مال و لا بنون إلا من أت الله بقلب سليم the day when the person comes to Allah with a clean heart heart from what? the illnesses the illnesses of the heart and it's funny because before that يوم لا ينفع مال و لا بنون how about if you are deceiving the people because you want to gain wealth you are doing it because of your children for example or even your person you are coming with deception and you are forgetting the other part which is الله بقلب سليم و لذلك the people of Jannah don't enter Jannah and let their heart clean what is Allah saying in the Qur'an the Qantarah is a place where they come that's where the people stay once they reach the Qantarah it means they are going to go to Jannah that's why we say جاء وزالقانطر they pass the Qantarah it means Jannah is old and awaits them when they are stopped here when they are stopped here what is done is that their hearts are cleaned everyone is like what do you have for your brother what do you have against him nothing left for each other are you happy now نعم so the hearts are made clean because that heart who cleans can only enter Jannah this place is a pure place and it's a clean place cleanliness and purity is what's needed then the author goes on to say it when accompanying others choose every guided individual who would lead you to all good things to all things good سنسيلي when there are people who are hand-picked right? meaning they are not rotten they are made for apples that were checked looked at and they might have said that's what they say it depends on what I was looking at but that's how it is when it comes to your friends you hand-pick them you look at this person and you say the reason you hand-pick them is because your friend is a reflection of you when did I go and did the poet said don't ask about him don't ask about his friend because everyone follows the other one he's there and the messenger said this way before what did he say that the person is of the religion of his friend so look at who you take as a a friend a close friend and just walk with every single body but it's important and it's obligatory and it's necessary for him to choose a righteous, obedient slave of Allah as a friend and to hang around with that person for example the person has his prayer he's consistent upon it and he works hard on his prayer we leave his private affairs with Allah that's not something we can judge him by that doesn't mean when you're choosing your friend you're hand-picking him places CCTV in his house record his conversations go into his life break into his emails and his phone because you want to hang around with this person no you leave his private affairs with Allah but what we look at is the apparent signs that a person has which is he makes sure that he looks after his prayers we make sure that he's a person who does as Allah commands him to do stays away from that which Allah prohibits him from if you find a person like that then you should defend them but if you take any individual as a friend then remember a صاحب صاحب a friend is one who's going to drag you that's what they say is a صاحب he's going to drag you drag you to what he is what do you think a believing male righteous believing man should not marry a woman who's a fadir and a a righteous woman fearful of Allah should not marry a man who is fast even if her parents are telling her to marry him she doesn't obey her parents in this and there's nothing upon her that if her parents are forcing her to get married to a guy who's does not pray the صلاح you see but because he's a family member or is a close family she marries then she doesn't obey her parents in this she goes against her command the reason is because the friend that you hang around with if he hasn't got the decency of becoming conscious of Allah سبحانه وتعالى fearing Allah doing as Allah commanded him staying away from that which Allah prohibited him from and he's forsaking all of that he's dismissing all of that he is exceeding his limits he's transgressing on Allah's boundaries then why do you not believe that he could do the same to you that he's going to deceive you that he's going to oppress you that he's going to transgress he's done it to Allah he did it to his own creator he's sustainer he's still providing for him he's done that to him you miskeen who haven't done anything for him yeah the same is with the wife or the husband if your wife has exceeded her limits and her boundaries in Allah's religion and she's going against the deen of Allah and she needs these her norms then why do you sit around and wait for her to remember you فمن ضيع حق الله anyone who is forsaken the rights of Allah he's going to forsake everything else and he's going to transgress and oppress everything else so that's why you always need to look at a person you want to become friends with a wife that you want to take as a wife a sister wants to take a man as a husband and a relationship between this person and Allah you know why? because the person who has a relationship with Allah is by default إن شاء الله going to have a good relationship with you is not going to give you a hard time and stress you out and is also not going to want is also not going to push you to that which is wrong and that's what the Prophet told us the Prophet told us عليه الصلاة والسلام that effect companionship can have on a person he told us the famous hadith which we all know مثل الجليس الصالح والجليس السوء كحام المسك ونافخ الخير the messenger said the likes of the gathering the righteous gathering the good gathering is like a good gathering good companionship is like one who owns a pure perfume shop and a blacksmith that's the difference you go to a perfume shop if you go to the perfume shop just by sitting there what's going to happen don't get anything he might not give you anything you may not leave with anything but as long as you're sitting there and you're in that gathering the smell that your nose takes in is enjoyable right different smells nice you're not in an uncomfortable place it smells bad what's the chances of a perfume rubbing off on you all him putting perfume on for you saying look this is a gift from me to you take this when you leave that gathering you're going to leave with good whatever the case may be one way or another even if he doesn't give you anything you walk out you've left with a nice moment of time where it smelled nice that's like the gathering of the righteous people you sit in their lessons and their حلقة their circles you learn things one way or another and say look I've got an extra copy of a book I'm going to give it to you keep it or he might say I know somebody that can benefit you in this issue you want to learn the Quran I know somebody who can teach you yet so-and-so is going to come to you brother take him on can you teach him he's going to tell you what وسيلة right so he's connected you to a person he's gone and received teachings from somebody who's recommendation you can get down with a lot of things open up for you خير have you seen righteous people always tend to go to a country look at two people one person says I want that country another one says knowledge is there طبيعة is like that each one was looking for something and everyone found what they were looking for this one this one who's he only sees he only looks for the خير he only approaches the خير and that's what he always finds he'll say yeah I live there so-and-so is there and and that mark is there and he'll tell you that another one will tell you this club is there this pub is there places there he knows all those places but they all landed the same day on the same flight together the duration that they were there together is because each person's nature and what they are is what they find and the righteous person always pushes you to that which his nature is now if you go to a blacksmith which is like the gathering of a bad gathering bad companionship who's blowing it to fire if he doesn't do anything to your garment it doesn't take your garment or whatever there's a fact that you're there how bad is it for your lungs the smoke that you're taking in and you're inhaling the smell of the place the heat, the sweat that you unnecessarily you just had a shower unnecessarily now you're becoming you're sweating because of the heat okay that's like the gathering that's evil if worst case scenario you could burn off your clothes ashes could fall into your clothes you can take your clothes that is like the prophet told us the gathering which is good و لذلك the prophet said اما انتجد منه ريحا طيبا و نافخ الكيري اما يحرق ثيابا و اما انتجد ريحا خبيثا اما انتجد ريحا خبيثا فالصديق سيفعله اما انتجد ريحا خبيثا فالصديق سيكون صديق من المعرفة يجب ان يستخدمه يعمي كومن يعمي اذا كان يكون كامل في المرسل عندما يذهب إلى صديقه و يسأل اذا كان يسأل من المدينة هل يستخدمه 5 كتاب هل يستخدمه يعمي و يعمي تصمب يعمي حيث أنك تريد أن ترى أفضل وانت now start to see it what لا شيء أفضل مع ذلك إذا كان هناك فتاة إذا كان هناك فتاة كل شخص الذي سانسيته الذي أصدقه هو أن ترى who you hang around with ومن who you befriend ومن who stopped Abu Talib from entering into Islam and becoming a believer كان أتبط من الربيع أبو جهل and the likes of them friends they prevented him from it they stopped him and because of that Abu Talib died as a disbeliever they stopped him from it and prevented him from it so look at who you take as a friend and who you hang around with if your friend can't do anything for you in this world that you're living today he can't even help you you get killed he run away gangs come rifle like two rival groups and fighting and he's going to leave you there to get shanked to get stabbed and he's going to watch that happen to you and leave you for dead and maybe even not talk to the police about it because he's scared that he might have to have to snitch on some people or even if something happens and a crime is done they all gang up on you and they all snitch on you and say you were the one behind it if they're like that to you in this world what are they going to be for you they're going to really help you they couldn't even do that for you in this world they couldn't take a part of the sentence with you have you not seen sometimes they take one person put him in a room and they take another one and they say oh your friend snitched on you he snitched on you so he thinks his friend snitched so he starts snitching on his friend but this one didn't maybe at the beginning the reason why they believe that can happen is because evil free people are like that towards each other evil person knows that the other person is like that subhan Allah is like people on the streets he takes his girlfriend away from him he's his best friend he's very close to him he takes his girlfriend away from him that was your best friend he just took your girlfriend but then you still say he's my best friend you still find a place for him those complications no problem this is the حمقة the way she has fooled so the sheikh statement here right now if you befriend someone befriend a righteous person يقودك he will direct you and he will take you towards للخيارات نصحا he will advise you and will change the way you look at things and how you see things that's what a good friend is about we'll stop there anything which I have said that was wrong or incorrect is from me سبحانك اللهم بحمدك أشهد أن لا إله إلا الله أستغفروك واتوب إليه