 Hey Tony Gaskins here. Y'all got to forgive me. I'm in my gym Still under the weather so I've been in my office in my gym trying to keep the kiddos from catching whatever I got cuz My 15 year old he has bad asthma So if he catch a little cold it get ugly then my wife she she gets like Some type of bronchitis if she catch a cold So I kind of been away from them as much as possible and win a little mask on Just in case But I feel fine just my voice a little bit My body feel fine though, but I'm up in my gym Doing this here live and being that I'm Getting ready to put the game on well I think the game on but I just want to pop on here just cuz I haven't been on here in some time and Somebody one of y'all sent me a video today and It was the young lady. It was the young lady who wrote the book a long time ago from sleeping with all the celebrities and The title of the video was marry a slut. I don't like that word but SLU I Was shocked to read that And it just said that stuff like that being pushed and I said man The devil always got something up its sleeve devil always working always busy Every last one of us and boy, we got to stay prayed up and I've been in corporate prayer just like Lord, please Do a work make a move make a moving in this here World y'all see what's going on out here and just how much crazy this happening It's like when you wake up and you literally don't even got to look at the news You got to send a condolences you got to send out condolences Without even making a before you make a post you got to be able to say a My heart goes out to this or that before you could say anything. It's where we living at right now And so I'm looking at the craziness in the world with what's happening with the shoes and then in the relationships and then and And the thing about it is it's not even Welcome to the new member It's not even Just the people that we already know about like It's tough happening with the people you know love and respect And I'm just like man Nobody off limits Nobody is off limits And that's why y'all here my my tone has been a little different on just Life in general not just love or relationships, but life in general Because it's a lot going on out here some in here without a picture Post a question niece Why does a guy have? He deals with That mean he had no it know that don't mean that summer God bless your soul. God bless your soul that that mean that just mean he nasty Man on love itself I Used to be that guy. So it's a lot of a lot of us man used to be that guy just nasty That's all and the thing about it is you what you got to ask yourself is he not having unprotected with you You haven't unprotected with him So regardless of what he want to do with his body you got to you in control of your body So you need to be asking yourself why am I? Having unprotected with this man that is not your man That's what you got to ask yourself Not why he doing it because you'll never know none of us will ever know the answer to that really on him And God know that he could be doing it because he got a vendetta Against women and he get he passing around HIV You see it on me Could be giving you a disease. That's gonna show up in a little while and And that right there is the result of those decisions So as adults and this why that's why I've been saying as adults. We got to start acting like adults We got to start being more responsible for our choices our decisions, especially Especially when we are pages like this right here We got to be better Now I've been noticing that listen. This is a thing. This is just a lesson right here now Whatever you at Wherever you at whatever you working on that's where you're gonna be tested at the most I Said that in a video the other day Which I'll probably miss it cuz you too don't be you know posting stuff I'm putting it up there like they post to But um, I said that in the video the other day whatever you supposed to be working on That's what you're gonna be tested at the most I'm tested more in my relationship in any other area of life in the sense of my attitude my energy my mind set My communication why because I talk about relationships every day So the devil gonna test me There because that's what I'm talking about. So I have to be mindful of that and With you being here, whatever we talking about on these videos. That's what you're gonna be tested at if You go on a financial page You're gonna listen to financial advice and then you're gonna go and be tempted this go shopping They go spin bad because you just heard all this hill good and the reason why I work like that is because We feel like just listening is the work, but the work is actually doing Can a new book hug material have an audio book to go along. I doubt it cuz it probably just be a private release So I'm not sure I'm gonna make that book public. It just be for the people who pre-ordered And it's still an editing right now the editor is a human So and she's a mother and a wife and so editing taking longer than I expected Do you think marrying someone a family member so they can come to America is a sin. I'm conflicted It's only on paper, but I still feel like I shouldn't do it. What do you think? Says if you feel like you shouldn't do it, then don't do it You always got to listen to yourself That's that's a little too deep for me. I don't know what what country y'all from but I remember the man in the Bible told the people that his wife was his sister so that they wouldn't kill him to have her and Then they were about to sleep with her they found out and Then he got some cover and so that's between you and God right there sister and just getting that interpretation, but Me personally, I really don't know if nobody were for all that it's like the same way you got over here Let them get over here, you know what paperwork you did let them feel like the same paperwork, you know and then for a man too Just me being a man, I know that a lot of time we just we ain't deserving a whole lot of stuff You know just cuz how we live our life and just how we be at times. So it's like God might not want him over here And that's why the door ain't open if you got to marry a cousin to get over here He might ain't meant to be over here If he can't get a regular visa or get some or find a woman off of one of these Online website If you really want to be over here, it's a woman on one of these online dating sites that are marrying you ain't got to be an incest to get them over here I tell you why I am so all kind of questions. I just Y'all really keep them coming. Don't you? How to be more confident working on my three bees feel great But still feel down like driving my old beat-up car I want to be confident with and without a new car. I'm working hard, but want self-love It's just all in what you're telling yourself It's all in what you're telling yourself. So if you looking outside and you looking at other people and you comparing your life then You're gonna feel like you feel it, but if you say, you know what I know I'm doing the right thing I know I'm putting up my money. I know I'm saving. I know I'm getting out this whole getting out of this debt And I know when everybody else is struggling and going through. I'm gonna be blessed and highly favorite stuff Gonna be going good for me So if you know you doing the right thing, then that's all that Really matters. You got to be able to assure yourself for that Why do grown men give the silent treatment instead of communicating? Well, if you let the online people tell you they'll say oh, that's narcissism and stuff like that But sometimes it's just so that we don't say the wrong thing. Sometimes it's so that we Don't say sometimes cuz we tired of communicating. Sometimes it's because we communicate to no avail Sometimes it's because we don't want to say something that we can't take back. And so Silence is not always bad and silence is not always a treatment Sometimes silence is wisdom The Bible say even a fool is seen as wise with his mouth shut so You got to understand that sometimes people don't want to communicate sometimes we want to communicate But the person we dealing with don't want to communicate. They'd rather just let stuff Cool off and ease over and we talk about it You know like that all you could worry about is what you can control So if you don't know what you did wrong, you might then do nothing wrong It could have something to do with him what to do if you want to model But you don't have money to travel to a city where they model Sis Every city how well not every city now depending on where you live in that but Just search modeling agency near me You probably within 30 minutes of a modeling agency It's a lot of see it's just a lot of times a little agency Just a little hole in the wall and it's a lady who used to be a model and she got all the contacts of the casting But I'm in central Florida My wife friend she was at a little old agency here and Kept getting booked kept getting booked they end up moving to Atlanta after the money started coming in so Keep the dream alive. I Didn't even give me a TV show cuz y'all be asking me question about everything my goodness. I ain't got no specialty Jack all trades master of service Guy man interested in church. I Say hi in person and react slash reply to his stories, but he hasn't made a move I don't want to come off too pushy. This is the first guy in a while that I can see myself with Sis you need this you need to sit down and you need to pray You need to sit down and you need to pray Because you got to ask yourself how can I see myself with a guy that I don't know How can I see myself with a guy? How can you see yourself with a guy you never been on a date with? So the problem is as you fantasizing in your mind and you making this man to be something that He might not be this man might like me He might got a whole girlfriend, but she just live in a different city. So you don't see her at church so, you know You got that you got the calm down sister just put some put some cold water on your face There's a cold water on your face and just calm down take your few deep breaths Broke up with my ex and exposed him for cheating on Facebook Saw him for the first time in one month this weekend. He told me he misses me. I miss and love him Too but hate that he emotionally cheated multiple times Well You say you expose him for cheating on Facebook now If you mean expose him by posting about what he did on Facebook for everybody Then going back to him is a no-go because he would only want you back just to prove that he got the last laugh Now if you mean expose him for cheating by call him out on it and it just was emotional cheating Not physical cheating which not just emotional cheating, but physical is another level Even though emotional is bad too physical is another level Just because a baby could come from that a STD could come from that physicals, you know, so I could come from that Emotional is not acceptable understand what I'm saying, but physical is a that's a whole nother level Then you miss them and you love them If y'all could do some coaching get some knowledge Might want to give it a small chance, but it sounds like it's not the one I struggle with a Sis that's a therapy question That's a therapy question. I'm just a my life coach mentor so clinical diagnosis That's for therapists and things that are that nature I'm elevating in life right now. I know my family don't want to do better for themselves Though I depend on them to watch my kids. How do I transition without cutting them out fully? well, you don't have to look at a transition as Getting away from your family or anything like that. The work is with you So if you working on you and they watching your kids They have nothing to do with them They could they gonna stay the same or they may be motivated by your growth and your changes You know, a lot of times we feel like changing mean that we better than other people or that we can't be around those people or see those people but if they're not holding you down Physically and you know making you do stuff. You shouldn't be doing which they can't do because you're an adult then You just got to use the life that they're living as Motivation to change and let them see you change and then as you change and you grow And you shift your mindset You're gonna start now making some money and then you gonna have a money for you Nanny or babysitter that you can vet for a few times with you and your kids with them with y'all and Then once you've invented them then, you know, you could trust them or it might be another friend or family member You could pay a little something It's husband material advice for married people husbands or women looking for a guy that's husband material It's kind of like a diary that I wrote. It's like a journal. So it's a mix of everything It's me exposing myself as a man to struggles of being a husband It's also talking about what I know a husband needs to be or should be So it's like Aspirational as well So it's kind of it's for men and women It's gonna be something in it for everybody not every chapter not the whole book But it's gonna be something in it for everybody, but it's not for the public. It's only for the blessed tribe Which it looked like you and the blessed tribe. Yeah, cuz you're in chat son, you're welcome Adrian welcome God bless you When I when I come through this here, I'll be on here a lot more, but I've been traveling and Shooting the study Make sure y'all subscribe to the study if you haven't subscribed to the study right now Just some bonus episodes just I put some episodes up there We got audio issues and lighting issues But the other episodes they shot differently, you know Little better lighting better audio You know how that stuff go when you're doing this stuff. I'm listening to some podcast as Million-dollar deals multi-million-dollar deals and they sound bad. So I Was like, you know what? It's all part of the process Got to get out there and make it happen. I'm a widow 15 years had a great marriage met a man two years ago Seem the decent guy four months in he was lying and cheated. I cut it off. I'd never cheated in relationship You say like attracts like thoughts Well, you attracted them, but you left them so that mean it's not a reflection of you had you stayed in that would said everything Had you stayed? You know for no for no good reasons Thank you, joy I'll be wondering why y'all be asking me all kind of questions. I'm just my goodness. I appreciate though Why would a baby father go out his way to say to you? He don't like you? You don't see him and hardly even speak to him and also say he has a girlfriend. I'm the one who broke it off a year ago Well, you answered your question right there at the end That's why Well, you have another sale soon, and I would like to purchase your YouTube course. Blessings to you and yours If you you mean other than the one right now and guessing for those of y'all who need a course 50% off Tony gasman's academy.com cuz Memorial Day weekend coupon code is blessed So make sure you put that in For you buy your course But I typically just I do sales on like holidays and stuff. So yeah, probably on father's day if you miss this one In your opinion, do you think it's necessary to get an LLC for your small business? Yes? I do think it's necessary because for one You're gonna get different tax, you know tax advantages things you could write off with the LLC And then it's just good to have it because you're gonna grow your business in LLCs just for big businesses, too And the business gonna grow and it LLCs are cheap to start in the grand scheme of things So I remember my first year in business with a LLC. I got a I got $1,500 back after claiming my income and CPA putting in more the my expenses and writing off what I was what I could legally write off I got a $1,500 refund check and I was like, okay. Wow Whereas if it just was Tony Gaskins That I was claiming that additional income to I could have read off wrote off some stuff But probably not everything that I could write off, you know with that LLC But it's a reason that they dare so I'm not a CPA. So you have talked to your CPA to get all the logistics But it's a reason that they have LLCs And for me, I found it very beneficial I have several for different industries different businesses in different industries I was with a guy for almost a year start listening all your message applying to my relationship I'm sorry. I confronted him. He blocked me and I did the same thought Well, hey Sometimes that what happened when you come into the knowledge of new things That's what happens but If you blocked you instead of trying to change and grow Didn't that show you it's not meant to be Because he could have tried to change and grow Y'all got to forgive me some people put them questions up there like that dating two months took a trip to Vegas talk every day And dates every week says he feels like we're together But also said he has no timeline and don't want to rush. He's 33 on 28 Sound like to me you doing You're doing too much you doing too much sound like me doing too much too soon And so you probably and he don't got a timeline So but it's only been two months, but typically around that three-month mark is when stuff start to Pick up if it's gonna go somewhere I don't mean now they seem more feminine than masculine. It's the fashion it's the fashion and a Lot of times people don't realize how clothes make you feel Like right now I got on some shorts from Lulu lemon and they short shorts. So they they weigh up here on my thigh and You know, you get to get these here a little short. So It just don't even feel right, but that's how they make them It's like it really can't get to no decent pair of shorts. No decent limp shorts So to me, I just feel like it's the clothes like Men are they making our clothes tighter and I feel like cuz a lot of the designers are They dress like women or I and a lot of the male designers Identify as women and dress like women. So they making clothes for them so they could feel sexy and Then but we the audience is buying them and then when you see men with money Wearing those kind of clothes like a Russell Westbrook, you know, that make it in style and so then me and go to wear them and then The man bags that look close to a woman bag It's all that little stuff that people don't pay attention to That it kind of goes into that Ain't really the you know, Timberland boots in the big old baggy pants no more Nice these pants you can't fit a quarter in them. I don't know. I keep clicking on the same question, but I Guess put it in there More than one time why is dating so hard this day and age? I'm almost 30 and have it run into a good man with good attention Well, look at that. I can't tell you die. I so hate to hear that So hate to hear that So hate to hear that But it's it's it's what we being fed out here, you know, it's what we being fed And it's never over for us men, you know, we always trying to grow because we all because men and women we always hear the narrative and And what I was telling y'all the other day we live in a world We live in a world where we have a narrative of woe is me So what we have going on right now and let me just talk to y'all for a second What we got going on right now in our society and I'm telling it and happening across the board and all kind of in every relationship it's two things happening and It's a trick or the enemy to divide It's a trick of the enemy to divide the male from the female And so you got the man we getting the message that We are the prize and that because we make money because we pay bills That we have all to say so and that a woman is to shut up and be quiet and Do what we say do and That because we got a thing between our legs that we are God's gift to the woman And so the man hearing that and then the woman is hearing She don't need a man She independent she have her own She don't need a man don't need to respect the man don't need to listen to no man don't need no man a man is an accessory and That's how and my wife she didn't say that in the past You know, but that was before this was even a thing But it was just like a catchy phrase she was saying but it really was the reality and That's why we was kind of like a match that kind of butt heads and was Conquering because I was the woman I was and she was used to taming a guy and so That's how it happened a lot of times. But what we have going on is These both genders getting these narratives to separate us And so the man saying hey Kiss my behind. I'm paying e bills shut up and be quiet the woman saying hey, I don't need you I'm finna do me and Then when the couples come together, it's like, hey, let's just be together to use each other For financial reasons. You got a bag. I got a bag. Let's get a bag together And then let's raise kids and it's just like a business deal. And so that's why it's so hard For people to find the single people to find a good relationship Sister he'll say something now sister. They'll say something Y'all know why that is Nobody won't that strength out there The black man, that's a strong that's a strong being if we could just realize it and when walking and it operated And then confidence and not insecurity That's what I'm working on. You know, that's a that's a lifelong thing for us as black men to be more confident Naturally and genuinely confident not not false confidence She jumped in the VIP line Get her question answer Knew him since college. He's everything I want but not physically. So we tried it out He was very childish very short with me and lustful. He wants a second chance I'm turned off and he's trying to regain my attention. Should I know don't do it? No, don't do it go on about your business go on about your business If you see you don't want the man He what you want physically and then he was not a good person either. It should not even be a second thought They'll God bless you. I'm gonna put that up there just cuz I'm so self-conscious about my accent Sometimes I need to see that affirmation. God bless you Dear God bless you now dear as you're holding your shirt over you chest Trying not trying to close the the gap of the cleavage in the blest tribe Which is suggestive picture? I'm just trying to see if that's what I'm looking at now. I look like it look like in lunch Negla J. I heard my dad is called it. Negla J I thought I thought those photos were called lingerie. Well, I guess negative a J is another word for How to act around me and that aren't your man for example co-workers and acquaintances Boyfriend says I'm too friendly. I see myself as extrovert. Is this just common in the play Well, this is it you say I like my wife and that's how I am too. That's what I be saying too But I guess we all wrong. I Guess we all wrong. Okay, dear. I see what you saying. I guess we all wrong, but My wife and told me the same thing too. I'll be the same way like listen Hey, hold on you doing too much talking you doing to my talk to that man That you don't know what that man thinking about you know what that man and the reason why we say you reason why we say that as men is Because we know men it's no different than if a man talking to a woman Women say the same thing. Oh you too friendly. Oh you being mighty friendly You was be a mighty friendly and it's because a woman know a woman. So I think a lot of times We want to look at it as our partner is jealous or controlling or Insecure, but really is they know their gender and so Is so it's kind of like You got to talk to people of the opposite sex the way you would talk to a professional the way you would talk to your boss if you're not trying to Do some strain for a piece of change to get a promotion But the way you would talk to your pastor if you're not trying to sleep with the pastor You have to look at it like that like a lot of times you got to look at it like now If you would talk to Barack Obama the same way Then that's just your personality but if you being a little extra and Sometimes we'll be extra trying to make our partner a little jealous Paul of me's God bless you And y'all acting like I'm a CPA now if you already have an LLC should you get another LLC? Or under one if you start in a totally different type of company then you should get another LLC You know so a real estate company is different than a tech company because if you own the rental properties Your write-offs gonna be different than if you got a tech company where you receiving venture capital funds. So again Every see almost every CPA or do a initial consult with y'all So, you know, don't y'all be asking me question about stuff Specialized is not because y'all to get me in trouble there people be on the YouTube doing their reviews on me Tony Gaskins is over there giving CPA advice But he is not a license I'm like listen, I'll still trying to help people asking me questions Come on now y'all just Google CPA near me Let that come on up now Hey when somebody when somebody jumping the VIP line, I got a little more in the club Now so y'all forgive me. I'm trying to answer the questions in the chat when somebody jumping over the one new colorful Blessings, I got to tell the Lord. Thank you. So thank you. I am the Vio Nivea little Wayne baby mom bless you now Visit guy What would go a day without talking to me? Lack of communication equals deal breaker. However, during the day, he'll be on social media Before getting back to me confronted him one time. Did it change? I'm wrong You ain't wrong now. You ain't wrong now You ain't wrong. He on social media. He ought to be reaching out to you I see somebody ordered a course taking advantage of the 50% off. God bless you People will be waiting in 50% off be off be over with tools then it's on can I get that cup? No now I told you when it was You ain't wrong. It doesn't mean he's not interested in you. I don't know what word that is I don't know I have to say it the spelling. Oh Lord Listen sister that that's not the goal to get tax money now you you write your income you write your expenses Sometime based on your expenses, you get your little refund check now Had IRS calling me Are you still moving the bless business trial to patreon? Oh Oh Eventually, but I have not been active on it. I have not been active on it. Right Right, I need to take me a class now and start doing taxes. I'm about to take me a certification Start doing y'all taxes. Hey, give me a call Y'all asking all these questions the Lord must be trying to show me my 67 stream of income Going a tax preparer Met a man started to date But while dating realize I'm not ready for a relationship He still wants to be friends. We communicate less but still go out and do Bible study Should I stop talking to him now? Listen, you keep talking to you gonna talk yourself into a relationship So if you don't want no relationship Then you got to be very careful You got to be very careful and definitely not y'all gonna hang out and do Bob study Make sure you don't fall in no bed. Make sure you don't fall in no bed now Make sure you don't fall in no bed Heard my dad said his wife is not his equal. What does that mean thoughts? It probably means something different to each person But if I had to take a guess he probably mean like When the Bible say that the woman is the weaker vessel he probably alluding to something like that Basically saying that she can't do everything he can do It's probably what he's trying to get at but Right along me with that Hey, I ain't well now. I'm working though. I ain't well, but I'm working You got to come on on him not cuz Be gone too long somebody beat him got in your position Playing your position sit out too long God bless you. Thank you for that blessing Listen, they'll look at April April. She say Remember that tone of our prayers every day doing a great work. So experience spiritual warfare. Amen. I So do I'll be going through it. Do you give me is it possible to date and cohabitate with someone? who has OCD Who gets mad if I drop a strand of hair on his floor and watches his hands multiple times a day Even during Tell you what No I don't really recommend that one. I don't recommend that I get on my wife nerves without having OCD I Could imagine That right there And washing the hands all that many times God bless you now. God bless you See sister Brenda Hill. Hey Tony Brenda William Grace. Let's get a whole name sister Hope nobody want to find you on Facebook now. I was in your first mentor group I really need to chat with you if at all possible. We spoke it on the what's out before and can chat there Sister, I don't know if you talked to me on what's out now Because you got to be careful because in the e-commerce they be giving out some what's out But I really if you American I don't talk to Americans on what's out I only talk to foreign clients on what's out So you probably was talking to somebody else on their what's out the other sister. I'm gonna tell you that nine Because if you talk to me on what's out that mean you got my cell phone number So that mean that same number you talked about what's out that come to my cell phone Which was to be an American number, but what you got to do sister is email in to support Go through the website email in to support and I eventually see you in support If you try to reach me through social media, you got to See how many people on social media? So I'm never gonna be able to see you like in the DMs or the messages or done like that, but the email is much less people Going to the email Okay for you No, not all of these we really don't get it in the two-part questions on here now Can't fit that question in one part. I don't know if I'm gonna be able to help you sister cuz I Got to find part one I feel like I'm awkward around me and especially when it comes to conversation. Does that matter how to fix? Yeah, it matters But that don't mean it's a bad thing It's better to be is better to honestly be awkward than well. No, not too awkward. Not too awkward. What? I met some awkward women and not just not in the dating scene, but even as a married man Be meeting awkward women that is the most interesting thing I don't know. We might need to start a class on just socialization and just I'm not that social. I'm introvert, but If a person make me kind of cringe that's dead let you know they really Is the introvert cuz I'm introvert and I make people feel awkward. I Make somebody else feel awkward cuz I'm awkward, but When somebody make me feel awkward, I'll be like whoa So you don't want to be that awkward not sister, but I'm gonna tell you the trick to it You can tell you the trick to it and this coming from an introvert is we really just in our head So this what I tell myself that make me kill my personality It I tell myself Tony you country Tony you sound so country you sound so dumb So anything you say Tony you talk too slow Tony you talk slow your country and you sound dumb So when I'm out and about I don't say a word Because of what I'm telling myself What if I get out of my way and I shift it and I change it and I say Tony People people like your accent just talk how you talk just talk how you talk just be yourself like your southern draw Your timing it might be comedic. It might make some people laugh And so when I change what I'm saying to myself I'll open up and relax and I'll say something and people be laughing and I'm like whoa Okay, so I'm just as funny as the white man over there. I'm just as funny as this other guy black guy I'm just as funny as my wife friend husband That she think got all this personality. I don't open my mouth and I got the room laughing You so I have to realize this a lot of times you feel awkward Because of what you saying to yourself So if you telling yourself, I don't know men. I don't understand men men intimidate me I'm worried about this. He probably judging me. He doing this he doing that and Then That's gonna trip you up That was on speed dating It's just for fun. You might get lucky, but it's just really just some get out the house some to do That's all it is You can't really take it serious cuz you know a relationship built made in the oven not the microwave So speed dating really ain't gonna help you too much We talk only we only talk on Facebook message. I mess it Mentioned it two time. Nothing's changed red black. Yeah, you got a girlfriend or a wife. He in a whole relationship Man in a whole relationship Whenever somebody go talking on Facebook message, they're in a relationship Anytime somebody talking to you on a social media messenger They are in a relationship and the person that they with is around them and they don't want them text messages coming up on their phone and They're not supposed to be talking to you And that's when it go to that messenger Now I'm talking to after a week says he just wants to be friends I said no, we can't be friends now. He won't stop texting me thoughts. That's how it work. That's how it work When you say okay, that's when they sit down and wanna listen That is how it work when you stop caring That's when they start caring. I call it human physics so Go on about your business go on about your business But maybe because you turned them down he like oh whoa It wasn't whoa. They want me got standards. I don't miss Justin I have four marriage dreams about a situation ship man. I met in 2019 He shows minimum interest, but he's 10 years older than me to the date But he doesn't reach out as much. We're both introverts sister, I don't think it mean a whole lot what you what you got going on right there and You know, it's some people that they get dreams and it means something But most of the time it's just your your brain just replaying what you What's been on your conscious? Your subconscious mind That's what it is most of the time. So I honestly would not think too much of it. I wouldn't think too much of it Y'all putting the game on y'all forgive me. Just keep up with the hill skull I got a couple mentees playing in this hip game seven Y'all forgive me how long I've been on here ain't gonna be on here too much long and I really don't even know if my If I got enough Wi-Fi to stream the game and talk on here streaming Wi-Fi feeling start looking at me with the side eye Put the hashtag Q Sister and you know what I need to Take that advice too. I'll be creating a narrow tail I'll be having a whole audio book in my head. So know what you mean. I think I got a video on that one right there No, it's not because most of us kind of short So you're actually doing us a favor without them heels on average man is five nine the one put on heels you got just you got your elbow on our shoulder so we typically rather you without them heels and he was okay, but We got to become we got to grow into our confidence. We got to get confident first now then when you get them heels on confident When I start seeing men with money have women that's taller than them That's when I started thinking it was cool before that I Made me feel insecure woman taller than me Because I you know in it because women say that all the time we want a tall man to make them feel secure And then did you see Javonsa tank Davis? That man five five it ain't half Well, that man will wear your six-foot boyfriend But women think tall mean security So that has then in turn made us men insecure about our height and just the narrative of the world. I Got myself into a situation ship a while ago Bless you down with a guy who didn't want to communicate or talk on the phone. I ended things He said okay now he is sending friend request that I run for the hills. Yeah, you should Yeah, you ought to run for the hills He probably in relationship and now he might be broke up because You not talking to him back then he's talking somebody else and then eventually got caught for cheating and then woman to Left from the night trying to circle the block Nicole God bless a day and a guy for marriage both in fifties never married our kids are grown My kids are out the house his two girls still at home. He said that they were His wife until they move out should I move on? I Don't know if I move on fuck, you know his slip of the tongue He could very well mean that but I don't think he mean it in a literal sense He just mean like They his world he treat them nice. He take care of them. You know this they castle So to speak and daughters I've heard hold a special place in a man heart. So It's just really him talking Unless you see otherwise now he used to you around me treating them like a wife Then look different Well, see the only thing about online dating is just you got to make sure you understand it You got to make sure you have some rules and some guidelines from regulations going in because if you 55 that mean you You know, you live the good part of your life without the internet and so You want to make sure? Okay, Boston up by six. Okay? Let me see what this you want to make sure you know what you're doing on that on that online dating cuz it's a wild wild west Now I'm talking to as a friend says he's interested in me beyond friendship But it's not consistent in the communication phase as just friends So I'll take him seriously says he's working on himself and know you can't take him seriously Because if he working on itself, but he not being consistent with you Then that's mixed messages You can't take him serious going by the business on by the business Okay, I answer that To how to give advice to friends slash people without sending high and mighty Sounding high and mighty feel like I'm always the advice friend. Well, you can't look at it like that dear I see you change your picture now You had that cleavage on the last picture you try to hide Doing that shirt like this. I see the change of picture. Yeah, I'll change the picture now We double trying to Understand what the picture was you have a change of picture now? But uh, if somebody asking you for advice then You're not high and mighty high and mighty is given unsolicited advice When ain't nobody asked you You know, that's a little different. So and then even if you ask you just got to make sure you're not talking down to the person We've been to get into y'all taros But I just wanted to post that cuz He'll affirm in me God bless you His network and really the key to success not introverted just socially selective only talk about topics that are important to me Rather listen and talk to people. I don't know It's kind of it is it is a key It's not the only key, but it is a key When I was on and sometimes they don't have to be literal talking it could be a message on social media But a lot of the the biggest doors that have been opened in my life a lot of them came from a Twitter deal Me paying attention to who is following me and retweeted me and then sending the message saying hey You know and I've been doing that here recently on Instagram Just going and looking at I never click on see and see who watching my stories but just clicking on there and then Seeing verified accounts seeing people with the little ring around their page which mean they active they post in their story and People who got a professional photo which mean they using social media as a business I click on a page and I see their bio and then I see like oh wow this person follow me and They're hedge fund manager They are investor there are artists that I could be or athlete that I could be working with mentor and helping you know Building with And so I pay attention to that and send DMs. Hey, how you doing great to meet you a lot of time people don't expect To even connect if they follow you they don't expect to meet you How can I help my husband aside from prayer fasting if he is spiritually weak seeks God But doesn't receive conviction or correction. Well often knowingly defeated by his flesh That's a real tough one. So, you know, because if you pray Now I don't know if I'll be fasted from God bless you I don't know how to miss no meal for somebody, but that's your husband So if anybody you gonna fast for it ought to be him But I think you ought to see if he'll be willing to talk to another man like My father is on my mentor dot life. I'm on there as well. I put my dad's thing on there cuz mine kind of booked out but And it's all the man on there. But our links on here And and just sponsor him like that get him a session with somebody Let him talk and maybe talk to another man that'll help him open up help him heal Do men care if you are not really popular and only have a few friends. Will he think you are boring? No, unfortunately a man almost prefer you that way didn't have too many friends More friends you got more influences you have and the more influence you have the more chances of them influences being negative influences so Well, it's nothing is nothing never been wrong with a small circle. I don't think a man will care about that. I Dated a guy two years ago who said he didn't want anything serious and wanted to be friends so I ended it He Contacts me every three months since wanting to talk always ignore keep on moving things Keep moving keep moving don't ever let a man spend a block on you Because when a man see it just like When a man see a woman that could be his wife that woman to him is like his favorite car It's like when you know something that you love and you like it. You're not gonna pass up on it It's like Be off of your dream car and saying I'm not really don't want it. I'm cool You're not gonna do that. So when a man pass up on a woman is because he doesn't see her as the one and He shouldn't get the opportunity to come back and circle back Unless it was some Extinguishing circumstances like listen, I was going through some real bad and such such had just passed away I was in a relationship where I was depressed like unless it's like a real legitimate reason then Just just keep it moving Although I noticed a lot of women lack confidence in their decision-making for example am I wrong did I do that right? How can we trust our decisions to move forward with confidence? You know, I think that's a human issue. I think that's men and women. We kind of all like that But it's just knowing, you know, we got to remind ourselves that We have that built-in intuition and that intuition is like God's voice talking to us so You know, we just really come down to that self-talk and Then also to sometimes people just be asking questions on here just to ask questions just to be active on here They might not even really mean the questions. So kind of got to take it with a grain of salt Since you're in the right place Paula means I missed part one on here now. He wanted to kiss me, but I said I don't know He do He it's me was mad I spent whole day not speaking to him because he got me in the parking lot I'm not over at it because he drove off a parking lot fast Sis God bless you God bless you God bless you Sister join the bless try the day God bless you hitting with old doozy That's a lot No, since you ain't overreact. I can't make out everything the message say but he drove He drove off and left you in that parking lot after you want to kiss him that You ain't overreacting Hey, we hit our and look like I went through majority of the questions couple on pop then Why do some older Christians believe that it's a crime to want someone that is physically attractive as well as spiritually attractive It's like we can't have both Well probably cuz they settle so if they settle they like who you think you is why you thank God love you more than he Love me God and gave me this ugly man who love to pray or God to gave me this This this good looking man who don't know God so who you think you is that God? So it probably just look jealousy, but then it's also sometimes how they look at you So if they look at you Like you not cute then it's them trying to say listen you're not that cute yourself You heard the the older ladies say that let's you ain't too cute yourself And I used to hear women say that the other women you ain't too cute yourself And so if they look at you like that Then they trying to say something else they trying to say like like my grandma used to tell her daughters and her granddaughters like who like you Not who you like so sometimes that's what they saying they saying listen you weigh known a man that Jesus ain't made and so You know People will project on you and I'm gonna tell you it ain't it ain't nothing perfect out there It ain't nothing really it's really not much of a such a thing as a physically attractive and spiritually attractive meaning If we won we not gonna be a whole lot of the other Like we gonna have like everybody gonna be flawed And you've got to pick your poison and what I say that I mean That's literal. It's it's just like Because you could be spiritually attractive But looks are subjective So one man might think you are for another man might think you attend and The man who is whatever spiritually attractive to you he really might be a five or six but see if he Marry you in five six years seven years in he's still treating you right He gonna go from a five or six to an eight or nine When you see your friends getting treated bad So 15 years in the marriage, I'm still learning as a man how to communicate you know how to assimilate into this hill world how to see past my upbringing and past How to be better than the men who helped raise me? 15 years into marriage But I may be spiritually inclined. I may know the word of God But I still got a lot of work to do. So I say that to say you really ain't going He gonna be lacking in one or the other and you'll rather him be lacking physically then spiritually Because if he got it spiritually he could eventually have it physically You know because I see some good brothers out here, but they five foot six So at five foot six a lot of women overlooking them But yet they're a good guy But the woman mad that he five five five six Until he get money Like Javanta tank Davis the boss who five five in a half But I bet if he was single he could have a woman he won't but It's a lot of and so that's where you got to be You got to choose that character and a lot of times women choose the looks You know you choose the looks and then our that his character is lacking and that character May or may not come it ain't no guarantee Now the looks he could grow it's a lot of men getting is a lot of men getting the beer and Getting the muscle and now all of a sudden they missed the it Now you shade that beer and you take that muscle off of him He looked like who shot John and forgot to kill him, but you give him that beer He hit he women on how to act It's a lot of guys that was In the back of the classroom In the front of the classroom with a glasses on with a full page of notes Was getting thumped in the ear and not a on Instagram modeling With they shirt off got a 12 pack of alps and got women line up around the corner So a man could grow into his looks not But that character that's gonna be a little tougher When a man think you are a quiet person is that a good thing not thank you are or know you are But yes a good thing unfortunately it's a lot of you know a lot of History go into that a man like an acquired woman or something like that, which is not always a good thing So you got to be careful about that My ex still communicates with my mama after we agreed to not be together He doing that a key tabs on you because he know you're gonna hear about it So you need to tell your mama she need to chill when the breasts with a guy who I can sit as a friend But interested in didn't have enough money to cover us. So I foot the bill turned off. Is that me being petty? That's what you need it then that's what you need it because you shouldn't be liking your friend anyways So that's what you need it right now Hey, God bless y'all. Thank you so much. Thank you for those y'all who sent old blessing in Really appreciate it Hoping I didn't miss any of those that came in I really appreciate you and welcome to the new members Today is today Sunday today and tomorrow. I made the course is 50% off with the coupon code blessed and Thank you to the moderators If we had any I see glam rocks Then Ross just put my cash up on there. God bless you That rock says you're trying to get a brother blessed but um put the coupon code on there just Anytime of holiday, I try to be a blessing if I can and I'm gonna tell you Things changing right now. They say the market getting ready to crash. 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