 I haven't heard anyone say this before, but I've been on YouTube a lot and there's a lot of things going around. You had this whole alpha male space idea concept that came up and then more recently you've had this idea of a sigma male that's come up. I'm pretty convinced that sigma males or the way that people characterize it, I think it's just autistic people. Can you explain more what a sigma male is for me? Because I'm not too kind of. I'm just curious and I need to know. Well, alpha male is tingling man. It's information I don't know. The alpha male is kind of this idea of this larger than life person that goes and dominates and controls everybody in a social setting. That I get. Like someone who wants to have full control over their life but doesn't impose it on other people. It's similar, but the slight difference is power. It's kind of what I hear. You're not wanting to enforce your way of being on other people, but you won't let people have that on you. I was just thinking, oh, that sounds very PDA. Don't want to enforce things on other people. I'm so PDA. I totally am. I have to cope with it all the time. Even work. I have a great employer. I love my job. I choose my job, all that stuff, but it's a demand. I'd rather just not. As silly as that is, and I can do all the CBT. I love work. It provides me money, which lets me do XYZ. It makes me happy. I make other people happy. It gives me something good to do during the day, but just deep down in my autism bones and the way that it works, it's a demand. I'm forced to work because like I said, this world is designed really dumb. We should not be forced to be tied to a building for eight hours a day just to have a roof over our heads and be able to provide food and eat and drink. All that is just so silly to me. It's basic human needs that we're talking about. We have to literally forfeit eight hours of our lives every day, regardless of whether or not it's something you enjoy doing. You still have to do that in order to have money to pay for things that you need to live. That's just useful. Yeah, yeah, it's just so silly to me. I don't know. No, I completely get that. So PDA is for anybody kind of the idea of PDA pathological demand avoidance. It's not necessarily a aggressive sort of defensive kind of mindset. It's very much based on expectations that people have on you and expectations that people put on you cause people with PDA a lot of anxiety. So they tend to naturally just have an aversion to that. So a lot of the ways that you get through it with kids who have PDA is that you suggest things or is that you have a conversation and you decide things together or like. So usually even suggesting things to me is doesn't work. Like you have to be very, you know, I'm like, you see, you know, my PDA is so bad. Like, if I'm unregulated and like my girl is like, Hey, you know, why don't you know, have you thought about me be doing this? I'll be like, I don't want to hear where you just said like you just you're trying to influence what I'm going through right now. Like my brain just immediately is like, I don't care. You see, it's a complex PDA. Yeah, like, and I have to get to a certain point in like my regulation stages to be able to hear something like that. But what does work for me as silly as it is, especially if it's, you know, my wife, who I love and trust is if she just does whatever it is she's trying to ask me to do. Then like because I love her and she's the person for me, my body is just like, okay. So, you know, the PDA you can't ask or suggest me something. But if you just do it, then it's okay. It tends tends to be with a lot of like adults that I know with PDA. I don't know many to be honest with you. But like, for me, it's it's a lot easier when people ask me for help. If they're like, can you help me with this? I'm like, Oh, yeah, I'd love to help you that that'd be great. It has to be a question that has to be like a genuine like, like, I can I can tell like yourself when people are trying to get around you PDA. But if someone's like, can you help me with this? It's like, it's pretty cool. Yeah, I struggle with that at work, dude, like all the time, my boss is, you know, and he's I love my boss. And I told him today, like, I'm so grateful. And I'll talk amazing about him and and the place that I work on this podcast. And I hope he listens because he's a large reason why I'm here today. You know, he pays for my healthcare for me. He's accommodating. I wear I literally wear sunglasses and earbuds in a hat all day at work, interacting with clients and patients. And he just he lets me be me and I do a great job, you know, and that's kind of the give and take with autism and ADHD, right? It's like, if you just kind of let us do our thing and be who we need to be and do what we need to do, we'll be some of the best people you'll ever have in your life. But, you know, we do have a certain set of requirements that we need to live by in a certain way of operating that needs to be respected. And even though I say all of that, and I love my boss, still to this day, he comes up to me and he asks me to do something. And he asks me nice. And my insides are like, fuck you, dude. That's the demand. Even though this is my job, even though I love you, my insides are like, I don't want to hear that shit. And then I take a deep breath. I use a little bit of coping skills and I go ahead and I do what I need to do. But then that's sometimes where, you know, my autism will kind of get in the way because it kind of builds up over time all of these demands, you know, and then like all meltdown not because I've had a bad day, but because it's just like I've had so many demands on me and I've coped for so long that it just my body has to get rid of it somehow. Yeah. Yeah, deep breathing is helpful in their situations. I guess somewhat along the lines of that, would you be happy with moving to the next question? Oh, just that. Yeah, okay. Yeah, whatever you want. I'm sorry. We're just having a good time, I feel. Yeah, right. No, actually, I'm not okay with that. Very to say, Thomas, just ask me the question. If you just asked it, it'd be fine.