 Odd socks. You'd be royal blue. Back to life lessons in the film. And today we're going to be making sense of life through Maudi. Yeah, 2016 movie, I think, based on Maudi. A woman who lived in rural Nova Scotia and went through a rough life, but never let go of her burning need to paint. Follows her life as her brother sells the home that she was entitled to half of their parents' home. And so she's living with her aunt, who's not a pleasant woman. No, there's the brother. No, there's the brother, not a fun family. She doesn't have much in the way of help. But she, as she's in the corner store, she hears of a guy that needs a housemaid. And she takes him up on it, eventually convinces him to take her on. He didn't want to because she has physical challenges. Yeah. Like, one of her legs seems to be shorter than the other and she struggles to walk. Yeah. Also, she seems to have, like, something with her back. Yeah. Yeah, she kind of walks in a hunched kind of way. Yeah. And so he sees her and thinks, I don't know if you're going to be able to take on housework. Yeah. But she persists, she's stubborn, and eventually he takes her on. And they end up forming a relationship, eventually they get married. And she first just paints the inside of the house and a woman that comes by for fish. She likes her drawings. She asks for her to commission some. And eventually word spreads, gets to the point where she's an international phenomenon. President Nixon or vice president at the time of ordering a painting from her. So she makes the rounds and then carries on to the rest of her life until she passes away. And they stay in the same place the entire time, a small little, basically one room house with the upstairs. Gosh, yeah, we just, we just watched it. And it, of course, broke my heart and I was just in tears. And I'm still tender, right? I knew it was going to be sad. So that's why I seem kind of, if I seemed a little dazed, that's why. It was sad, but it was also really heartwarming, too. Which is interesting, too, because at the beginning, the rough and tumble stone, cold, horny-handed Everett, you know, he seems like. It's her. Yeah, he, at one point in the beginning, he hits her because she basically was talking to his friend. Well, the friend was kind of, the friend was making fun of the situation. Yeah. Why is Everett having a lady who's literally living in there? Where do you sleep? Yeah. This place is kind of small. Yeah. She was just kind of like, oh, there's plenty of enough space for us. Because she's really a very intelligent, funny lady. And so she gets, he gets upset with her for doing that and answering all the questions that his friend is asking. And then asks her to keep, he keeps asking her to go back into the house. And she's, she doesn't. And then he hits her and then she goes in. She then goes back into the house. And that's the thing is that your first impression is, wow, this guy would do that in front of this. And then the other guy, I mean, it's an issue that he doesn't speak up or do anything. Everett probably learned it, I'm sure, from, you know, passes down from his parents or. Well, I mean, he wasn't actually an orphan. That's right. Mom put her from the orphanage. So, yeah. That doesn't make it right. But from what they show in the movie, that was the only time. And eventually it goes through the movie, throughout the movie. He starts to, they warm up to each other. And eventually they actually form a really, a really supportive. Loving relationship. Yeah. I love that it's actually a true story because I love it. It's a true story, but it also makes it even more sad because Marty comes from this family because of her physical challenges and also her mind. It's not something that they really understand and they just kind of write her off as incapable of taking care of herself and just basically of being taken seriously. We find out later that she had a baby and they pretended that they took her away immediately after she was born pretending that. The aunt and the brother just decided. To sell the baby. Decided to lie to her and say that she died and Marty goes through her life thinking that the baby died. The part of the movie that I thought was very powerful and just interesting. And at one point when she starts getting successful and the aunt and brother can't help but take notice. The aunt, when she tells her that her daughter, Marty's daughter didn't actually die. And she said, you know, you're the only one in the family that's actually happy. You're the only one in our family who ended up happy. Yeah, I suppose it did. Wanna die. Full of regrets. It's, I think it's not an uncommon thing. I think it happens in a lot of families and a lot of people all around the world where there are a lot of bitter, resentful, sad people and then they see the few people in the family that seem to find a way to keep going in life and then have that internal spirit keep going and they want to crush it. But really just because they don't understand it and they wish they had it and they don't know why the other person has it. And the aunt says, I think something to the degree of like, was it like I don't want to- Have regrets. Because at this point, she was getting sick. And so she said that like, I'm dying. I don't want to have regret. This is what happened. Then she tells her about the daughter. But yeah, before she says that, she practices it with that, with the, you're the only person in the family who ended up happy. At this point, you know, Maudi and Everett are just in a solid marriage. She's had, she's been on TV. People of our- Writing newspaper. Yeah, they're getting the news. She's in the news and the brother at that point actually even goes to visit Maudi and says, you know, I can actually make you more money. If you come with me, I can make you more money. She's like, you can buy something and then Everett is just kind of like, are you going to buy it or not? People don't need a lot of money, but you need a little bit to survive. And people don't need a lot of socialization and a lot of human interaction connection, but you need a little bit to survive. And if you don't have any of either, it's very easy to get exploited. You know, a lot of people will be thrown into very desperate situations, even just to make a little bit of money in horrible work conditions. The same thing with relationships. People will find themselves clinging on to the worst kind of relationships with people just because they have nothing else. But once Maudi was able to get, you know, at the beginning, not a great relationship with Everett, but it was still better than the family. And she still had some autonomy and she started to be able to be more confident herself. So then when, you know, they get to the point where the brother who probably is expecting, he'd be able to still have Maudi wrapped around his finger like he used to. And all of a sudden she's like, okay, what, you know, are you going to buy a painting or get out? Like I don't need you anymore. You know, I'm actually able to take care of myself. Yeah, she just tells him, yeah, you should believe. Whereas before the last interaction, she was crying that he was leaving her at the answer place. And he's just very shocked at her independence. And you're right, it's really true. It just shows you how important it is to have that connection in life, you know, that really meaningful connection with people, like people that really care about you and that you are certain of their love for you. Once you have that, everything else, and you've seen truly how love looks like, I think Everett and Maudi give that to each other, they finally find actual empirical evidence of the reality and truth of love. And once you have that, especially having had, not had it before, once you have that, why would you even want to go back to the bleak existence that you had before you guys met? Also, the thing about having that kind of love that Maudi and Everett find within each other is that it gives you that strength to say no, and gives you the confidence to never settle again for less. Before Everett, Maudi only had the aunt and only had the brother, and she really didn't see the extent of their unkindness to her. They both are able to grow, which is having that support, because Everett too was stuck in a rut, didn't trust anybody, didn't want people around. And then you could see over the time together, their time together, he does start to warm up and starts to proactively want to notice when she needs help or take care of her. Before he was just like, well, you're on your own basically. Yeah, you're living here, but I'm not going to think at all about what you need. And then they get to the point where, like I really like the scene where the woman who first notices Maud's paintings and wants to pay a lot of money for them, Everett's of course like, hey, sure, five bucks. All right, yeah, so this one's up. And then Maudi really starts getting upset. She's like, no, they're not finished yet. Yeah. And there's two things I really like about it. So first, it's that feeling that anyone who basically creates anything goes through that not only, first of all, it's really tough to ever get to the point where you feel like something that you created is finished. It's usually just taken away from you. It's very rarely do you ever feel like, yeah, I'm ready to actually be done with that one. But when it isn't, it's definitely feels like it's not finished and it is being sold to someone or being taken away and it's not yours anymore, that really can hurt because it feels so personal to you. When she's painting, these things are for her. She's not doing this thinking, I'm going to monetize this. She does it, for example, when she's sad, right? Like after Everett hits her, you see then she starts painting, right? This is the thing that calms her down. She does this for the fulfillment of it, what it gives her. She's looking out of the window as she says that. One of my favorite things to do is to look out of the window, the whole world framed. What a beautiful phrase. I hope you can capture it and put it in here. So for her, art is number one, an extension of herself. And primarily her art is, it's a part of her. It's the thing that makes her connect to the beauty of life, which a lot of everything else in her life wasn't that. But then art allows her to connect to that. The things that she sees nature that are natural and that people cannot tarnish, she's able to capture that and no one can take that away from her, not someone like a brother or her aunt, no matter how unkindly they treat her. And this is a gift that she's been given and she honors it, you know? Well, that's why I think she reacted so, she was so upset because it feels like she part of her was being sold and getting owned by someone else, right? Just sold like that. Yeah, the other part of when they first decided to sell some of her paintings and she was getting upset and then Everett noticed. At first he was like, this is more money than probably I've ever made in a month or something. But he saw just how upset she was getting and he's like, God, I'm getting it up for sale. And so he could already see. That's when the relationship is starting to form. We've talked about finding love then allows you to basically not be desperate for other relationships that may not be as fulfilling. Everett, for example, this is what he also gets from, from Marty because he grew up as an orphan. We later find that out. And he lives alone, very isolated and he doesn't really seem to have that kind of respectable place in the world. You can see that he has that sense of himself too. I think it's also based on how people interact with him. And so he has that grumpiness and just that feeling of inferiority. And he's not happy about it. And I remember even when Marty then is now getting famous with all these news networks coming over to interview him, newspapers, et cetera. He's kind of starts to get a little bit intimidated and concerned that, oh no, I remember even the aunt says, oh, you struck gold, something like that. And he just starts getting in his head. Oh my gosh, she's probably going to leave me. She can do better. Now, she can do much better. Yeah, I think he's mentioned, says that, like you can do better. And she's like, I couldn't do better. And I'm like, just beautiful, these two people. She enjoys painting. She knows what painting gives her. And it's just when someone recognizes it, especially considering her background, when someone recognizes this thing, especially coming from a place where every single time she's knocked down all the time, it's that thing that someone kind of digs you out of that darkness and says, here, this light that you see in yourself, it's true. It's real. Hold on to that light. Everett also does get that from her. She sees him in a way that she's never been seen before. And when someone loves you like that and sees you in this beautiful, magnificent way, you can start to see it yourself. You start to see it yourself. And that's the greatest gift that you get from love. Because sometimes as people, we are so insecure about ourselves and we beat ourselves down. We don't want to see the good in us. But then you meet that person that really makes you whole in that beautiful, fulfilling, giving way, supportive way. And that person, you start to see them yourself through their eyes. And in the end, you start to believe in yourself just as much as they do. And that was the thing that unfolds in this movie. I used to have this thing growing up, worrying about what mark will I leave in the world? When I pass, will people remember me? Or I'll look at other people that I cared about. I saw them for who they are, how magnificent they were. They didn't have any kind of talent like Maudi, for example. But they were such beautiful souls and they had their own gifts. So I used to worry about how so many people in the world, especially people that I, of course, worrying about people that I loved, I was thinking when they were not here anymore, people won't know how magnificent they are. You know what I mean? Always imagining something like what happened with Maudi, where finally the world is aware of this magnificent person. But then I was just thinking about looking at Everett. The world doesn't really know how incredible Everett is. Only Maudi knows. And I was thinking about this at the end of the movie when she's gone. I was reflecting back at how I used to have, how I would look at life in that way, where I was constantly worried about it. It's not just, it's not fair that the people that I know are amazing, the world won't know, because they don't have the specific skill. But I think in that time, I was always kind of looking at things from an external worldview, I suppose. I was kind of externalizing my validity, or these people's validity, in a sense of it only really matters if other people attest to it. But with this movie, I think it, for me, really helped me ground myself again, because obviously I think I've been working on that, and I think I've gone to that point. But this movie is just one of those things that life gives you, I think, to ground you in those convictions that are really positive. And for me, it did that in the sense that, of reminding me how little what other people think of you matters, and how just one person can make all the difference in what they think can make all the difference. And that's it, you know what I mean? People that don't know you, you know, with Marty and Everett, the people that don't know them, doesn't matter to them at all what they think. I think she even says that at one point, she's like, what do you care what they all think, because he's getting upset with all the people coming around all the time. She's like, it doesn't matter. What matters is what you and I think of each other. And we know, we know what we're like. Even when they started to get more successful, they just, they didn't even change anything. They didn't need to and they were happy. For me, I would say lastly thing. Last thing I'll add for myself is, it's again, it's another inspiring story for really anyone that wants to make any mark exactly, or you don't have, you know, but not even making a mark, but just following what you, what gets you up in the morning with just what says, makes your spirit say yes, what is your passion, right? Because it shows that someone that just decides to do something that they love, someone even kind of points out that it's mean, but they're like, she's not even that good. Like my kid could do better. Yeah. I mean, it's rude and it's not necessarily true because like people, why they're drawn to it is it's a very distinct style. And people can tell that honesty in that she does it that way. And that's why she, and she likes to do it that way. The fact that small, rural, you know, out of the middle of nowhere spot, this person that just has a passion for painting gets to be commissioned by the president of the United States. And it just, It can show you that, yeah, if you just follow a passion, again, doing it just because you love it, don't expect to get the president to want to talk to you or anything. But that kind of level of honesty and passion and just true decent spirit and the soul of a person can really inspire and can really spread, you know, to reach, far reaches, you know, very far reaches of a world. I was just thinking about how Maudi does have so much of an impact, but these are not the things that matter to her. It's just the main lesson for me. It's just that realizing how the only thing that truly matters is your own self-satisfaction. And everything you do in your life. Yeah, basically, whatever it is that you're doing in your life has to be rooted in your own individuality, your own innate needs. And it has to be rooted in you servicing that, servicing your specific needs that only you know and independent of what anybody else thinks about it. There's always going to be something that you do that people don't like, right? There'll be someone that criticizes you, et cetera. And if you are not doing whatever it is that you're doing that they're criticizing, if you were doing it primarily to get accolades and to get validation externally, then it's going to knock that down. It's never going to be, it stops becoming fulfilling because the reason you're doing it isn't for you, but it's for other people. However, if you are doing it for yourself and your own personal fulfillment, as Maudi does, then no matter what anybody says, even if the president didn't buy it, it wouldn't matter. She'd still do it. She'd still do it, and it's just enough for her. You know, this lady who's getting commissioned by the president or vice president of the U.S. still is living in her one-room house with her husband who sells fish and wood, you know, and she's perfect. And that is enough for her. Yeah, bottom line, start with doing things for you and nothing else should matter. The lastly, lastly thing I'll add that I liked is when the storekeeper, I think it was said, you know, well, people pay for this, these paintings like my kid could do better. And then everybody's like, but he doesn't. And that's the key difference, right? Is there probably are a lot of people that could do certain things better than people that end up getting a claim or noticed. Yeah, but they don't. Right? And there is a lot of, I like the, what is it, 90% of life is showing up, or like it actually takes a lot to also just do the thing. Exactly. Even if you could be absolutely amazing, you could be the most intelligent person, but that person who isn't far from as close to your capacity is succeeding because they are actually taking action and you aren't. Actually engaging and then doing stuff and putting themselves out there. That's a whole other thing on top of whatever the actual skill set. Yeah. So when Maudi passes away, that really made me, it just broke my heart because I was like, man, these two people, what they gave each other, what is Everett gonna do us? God, I'm getting emotional, I'm like, I was just, because I was thinking both of them, they really just had each other because both of them were abandoned realistically, even though Maudi wasn't necessarily an orphan like Everett was, the family just completely wrote her off. And so they were their first experience of real, true love and being cared for in that meaningful way that I think everybody, all of us wants to be cared for. And so when she passes away, I'm like, God, I just broke my heart and I remember even before she, she's sick and she knows that it's coming and she's like, you should have gotten more dots, you should get more dots. And of course she's saying that, we know that she's saying that because she recognizes that my days are numbered. And I don't want you to be alone. And I was just like, oh my God, to have that kind of love with someone in life is incredible. But then when it's, when the person passes away, I know that people die and that's the way of life. And it's also that thing that you kind of have to remember to value the time you have with the people you care about. But it just made me, it just broke my heart knowing that now he's alone. And gosh, not at me. When she passes away, she just says I was loved. She doesn't talk about the paintings and all these things but how the people loved her. How the only thing that really enriched her life was being loved by Everett and loving him. That's it. And so that's why it broke me. Oh my God, it'd be very sad though. So yeah, that's what we took from Monty. A lot of stuff. Yeah. Great movie, recommend. Yeah, absolutely stunning. Incredible. You guys have seen it though? What do you think about Monty? If there's anything we missed or, you know, if you agree with the stuff on this one, oh yeah. Comment down below. Comment down below. Share your thoughts on our thoughts. Yeah, until next time, that's a wrap.