 And not only that, it's like what do you look like? Do you have choices in life? Oh, we can't see. Yeah, exactly. Are you can't say that? They are that's okay. It gets edited Don't you edit my shit? Hello friends and lovers your turn lovers and friends Okay, it goes with the accent though So the accent's correct and the words are correct, but together it sounds like hello there lovers and friends. Hello there lovers and friends So today we're going to be reading negative comments. Um, and you guys are going to be responding to them Yes, can I tell you something crazy though in my mind? I get a lot of negative comments But I was actually searching and there really weren't that many so perhaps I'm just dramatic You just focus on them But then I went to a website called lipstick alley, which every creator knows never go to lipstick alley And to be honest, I was quite flattered that you guys even find the time to talk so much terrible things about me Let me just pop in real quick to say mom and dad. You're doing a great job I love you very much and also to tell you about my private podcast Episode four is all about 13 different reasons why you might be getting ghosted in your relationship While like in this video, it can be satisfying to do this to point the finger at other people We have to do this as well too We have to identify where we might be blocking our own blessings and our intimate connections with bad habits That we aren't even aware of so on this podcast I detail them. I give you examples of how to fix them at the end of this video I'll give you a free little snippet, but if you want the full thing You gotta pre-order my book. Okay back to the video. So I was I was pleasantly surprised over there I've got a couple threads. So I found some comments from there Do I have a thread? You might have a thread dad So this is the wedding dress gate. Yes So this comment comes from Kaya Newsom and she said you probably should have done more research about your dad's family Becoming from this side of this research perspective. You played yourself It's your life, but it didn't look you you looked like a wolf in sheep's clothing Even your hair looked to conform to an iDream a genie mishap You need to reevaluate who you are and what you thought you should wear Wow Someone hasn't been late in a while Yeah, you're all get some I assume No, that is the epitome of ignorance. Definitely. That's somebody who doesn't has not taken the time to get to know you Look into you. You've done so many videos on your background before they haven't taken the time It's an ignorant statement. Well, definitely. Here's the thing There was this guy who made wine and sandwiches and people killed him So Again, you know, it's like people will just Choose random shit to hate to make their life better. So you just have to take it from an entertainment And you were entertained. Well, I was entertained. Um, so I kept my dress a surprise from you guys Did you see me and think that's peculiar. She's not really that Indian No Well, here's here's the thing But mom you wear saris and langas and you are very fascinated by the indian culture Right. Is that because you're married to dad or it's I I think so There's an element of the fact that I you know that I've got that kind of background His background in my culture. I've sort of assimilated that But I also have indian in my background as well So my great great grandmother is an indentured service servant an indentured servant from india. So therefore I am literally never heard this before. Yeah. Yeah, and over and over time She's had enough indian in her piece by piece to make her more indian This one is from Giovanni and they say men, how can you marry a girl who was looking for a fuck buddy? You can't turn a hoe into a housewife. So I would be the hoe Wow, well Giovanni you can people change and I'm sure Someone can come on and change you into a nice nicer human being It is possible for starters. We're not turning a hoe into a housewife. So you need to stop and back up right because I'm no housewife But but hang on saying are we all hoes? Relationships start on many different foots, right? You can just be friends. You can be co-workers You could be bonus friends, right? And how many of you out there are married to your cousins? Okay, so let's go there and I'm from I'm from a male point of view But the definition of a hoe is someone who's not banging you Basically, that's it I use the definition of slut as someone you perceive to have a more exciting sex life than you Or more active sex life than you and so when you call someone a slut You're actually reflecting on your own experiences. You're revealing more about you and making an assumption on somebody else. I want to be a slut Except we're condom, right? Yes, be a responsible Exactly tiffani main says she married a cheater. How dumb is that? When steve says when you see him hung up in a corner of another woman, you'll be hurt She didn't say a word that spoke volumes after reading this comment I'm sure she'll remember to defend that same face When she's 55 and he is still waiting today 25 year old She'll be crying because she would no longer be in business sagging and wrinkly Actually, if you look at Her mom she won't be sagging and wrinkly. No. No. Hey, thank you. Thank you. She's gonna keep standing up. So so tiffani You are wrong Mr. Red Dragon says she might be attractive and have a great personality. Thank you very much. That's very um, but in my book She's not a great catch. She's been around Oh, so he doesn't like you know, when you're doing this when you're doing the sandwich insult You're supposed to end with something that's nice as well. You kind of came in nice. You threw in something nasty Finish it up with something nice. But you know what? Again, he's welcome to his preference and you have to remember These comments are basically a bum lying on the street corner yelling an insult as you walk by Are you gonna go? Oh my god. I'm crushed because you made great life decisions I don't know you you don't know me. This is just shit in the wind So you know what? I will send out what's that is a great point is that YouTube comments should be an opportunity for you to reflect your experience And so any comment will be saved with for me. Yeah if I said she's a great catch But she's been around in my book. That's not somebody who I'd be interested in for me Yes So once you say for me, we can't debate it and not only that it's like what do you look like? Do you have choices in life? Oh, we can't see. Yeah, exactly. Are you can't say that? They are that's okay. It gets edited Don't you edit my shit It's coming out this one gets kind of redundant. All right Disuka disika, but she actually put her picture up. So props to you. She says don't call this check anymore Nuts as hell Love don't have logic and this this is just some perverted thing of modern people That is why people are more lonely and more detached. She's saying that you can't have self discipline and love And so it's just like no you can't have logic and love It just is what it is it comes from the stars and you do what you feel You're best for you as opposed to you do what you know is right for you But my thing if you want a good life there the one thing you should have self discipline is is love and if you just keep want to make one mistake after another and Go according to what your body wants then you will be making mistakes Is you should have logic in a relationship and it will make your life better because like I said Just just going with the flow is Was a recipe for disaster one of the things that Shannon has talked about in her books in her media on her youtube channel Everything that she's talked about is some of the experiences that she has had over the years But she has learned from that and she has grown from that She's definitely learned from any experiences that she's had in the past. Maybe you need to as well Okay. Yeah, you got to learn. Yeah, you won't learn a day Oh, this is a funny one. Okay. Now we move on to lipstick alley where things get a little bit more personal for no reason So lady Athena says shan isn't the most hygienic person out there Probably true All right, this is another lipstick alley one I didn't know the name because the comment was so long Shan really comes across so disingenuous and calculated. It's not even funny I get that she is promoting her brand But nothing about her seems sincere. She'd be the type of friend You know for years only discover that you really don't know her at all because she only shows you what she wants you to see Well, isn't that what we all do? Yeah I'm a different person to everyone. Yeah, we have different. We're multifaceted. We have multi personalities All of us will do that on these and where we are While I will say that I think that I go out of my way to share a lot more personal information That isn't always flattering. I don't actually enjoy the fact that a lot of people's negative comments about me are things that I've said It's not things that you found out like I am the one who told you that Well, it's like if you laugh at yourself first, you win. Yeah Do you wish that I actually was less genuine on the internet? Maybe kept a little bit more. Yes. You do. Yes. Yes. You you think you don't wish it. Do I? Yes, you think she doesn't know who she is? For her audience. No, but for us for me personally as a parent Yes, I do. I don't think that I you know that you need to put it all out there But I understand that you need to be that genuine person for your audience They need to know that you're going through the same things that you're preaching to them You know that they are going through this experience. I've been through that experience myself This is how I dealt with it. And this is how I grow from it. You can learn and grow and improve your life Okay, this one comes from your girl joe. Hey joe. Hey joe Jo says, yeah, I don't see them lasting more than five years. Sadly. That's a long time for millennials Wait Congratulations. We had family give us six months. Yeah. Yeah So there you go. It's like, you know what and she's entitled to her opinion based on Her limited perception of who you are. She's come to a judgment and go like, yeah, okay Yeah, yeah, so but five years. That's pretty awesome. At what point actually I've read in the book unconscious Conscious uncoupling which I heard you're reading too, right? And in that book it talks about we look at the only way that a marriage can end and be successful Is if someone dies, but I know divorce is that that doesn't mean that they didn't have a successful marriage They've actually just learned to they've just realized that they've grown apart But they've grown apart in a healthy way and they've sort of embraced The fact that they have chosen a different path to their partner and the partner is sort of Respects that and they respect each other. You can do that. You can actually have a healthy divorce And yes, because now you're making more money. You can get someone better. Right. That's what that's the whole point of economy It's just like changing a job, right? Exactly. Yeah. I'm trading on my car So I would say if I lasted I've had four years with Jared and they've been awesome And I've improved exponentially through these four years if I get five more great years That'd be pretty cool. Exactly. Nothing lasts forever. Nothing in life. Yeah, especially not in the universe You're all gonna die. Five billion years. You're all dead. Cool. Okay. Those are the end of my negative comments Thank you guys so much for responding to them. Yes, you did a great job. Very insightful. I hope If those are your worst comments, you're doing well. Thanks dad. Yes You are if those are what things that you can pick and they're like, oh, you're doing very well Well, you know what? I didn't actually include any of the unoriginal ones like slut, bitch, whore Like it's boring at some time in our lives. We're all in a slut. We're all a bitch. We're all a whore But it doesn't define that's not my all day personality might be like for five minutes for the right occasion kind of thing. So, yeah Well, thank you, mom and dad for owning your slut, bitch and whore. Exactly For being here. And you know what? Whenever you read a negative comment, just look at Jared's innocent face Just go okay Okay, mom has a youtube channel. Please go and check it out in the info box below and also be in the cards that are tagged We also have a little poll in the cards as well. Um, dad has uh lazy and i'm now i'm i don't want to do one here I play video games. He plays video games. Video games is like sex. It's best to join alone That's not a quote from me Are we done? Yeah, we're done. I brought you all back here because I forgot to promote my book So, silly me Okay, popping back in to tell you about my private podcast episode 4 13 reasons why you might be getting ghosted Here is an excerpt of it. But again, if you want to listen to the full thing Please please please support your girl by pre-ordering my book. Okay. Bye If you are somebody who feels a slight bit of anxiety with the idea of being called out I want you to transition that into joy because if today's podcast Reveals something that has been blocking you from making better intimate connections and has been stopping you From being a better friend and a better lover. You're going to be better for it after hearing it This is a section in the game of desire called how to get ghosted. There is 11 different anti seducers