 And I remember one time we had a guest at home he was a friend of my dad and he came and as I was serving him with some food he asked me oh so how is school and I was like that's fine then he's like you know if I had a girl child I would never pay for his for her school fees because what is she gonna do get pregnant and then I lose all the money my parents had separated by then and my mom was working for this woman who was working for action against hunger and I used to see her as big boss I had a role model I remember once my teacher wrote on my school report that a violet likes hanging out with boys it was as bad as it can get because my dad was like oh okay so now you just go to school for boys now okay so now you're gonna get pregnant and then what these the the other issue is just about poverty so it's not just girls it's both girls and boys so when I hear equality I think the first question that should go in everyone's mind is the quality of what okay you know is it opportunities is it privileges it's status is it you know as you say there are really people in different contexts different situations and you cannot generalize it and people are not homogeneous I I I learned it from Amatya sense basic capability approach where you look at are they able to provide themselves food shelter and clothing in a decent manner I guess that's where we should all really just start from like do they have basic needs equality of access equality of opportunities don't discriminate and maybe it might be hard to achieve it but there's a lot we can do to help out someone else we are all not free until everyone is free international women's day 2020 individual collectivism that we are all parts of one and if what if one of us is broken then we cannot make it to be