 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder at commitment connection comm and today We're going to talk about how to deal with loneliness So loneliness can be a horrible horrible problem that makes you have all kinds of negative thoughts that can Completely destroy your life. And so, you know, I've actually suffered from loneliness in my past and and let me tell you some Of the ways that I got over it and some of the things that you can do to get over it yourself And so the first one is allowing yourself to feel lonely So a lot of times what we do is we'll feel these emotions and then we will like push them away You know, because we don't we've been trained in our society that there are certain emotions that are negative that we shouldn't be feeling and When you push that emotion away, it ends up becoming a part of your shadow It becomes this part of you that you're afraid of that you hide that you try to Suppress but it always ends up coming back and blowing up in your face. And so the first Way to deal with loneliness is just to embrace it and just feel the loneliness, you know, just experience it you know, go through it and and allow yourself to really feel it and That that in itself can can do a lot to get rid of it The second one is expressing your feelings in whatever way you need to and you know Maybe you'll get the loneliness will turn into anger or maybe it'll turn into You know sadness or you know, whatever it turns into just allow yourself to feel it and allow yourself to express yourself From that place because it's that expression that allows us to to kind of move through it There's this saying that goes the only way out is through, right? And it's like one of those Chinese finger traps where you put the the the trap on your finger and the more you pull out You know, the more you try to pull away from it the more your finger gets stuck But it's when you push your finger in that It it releases your finger and then you can just pull your finger out and it's it's kind of the same way with a Lot of emotions, you know if you're feeling these emotions you need to go into the emotion and experience it fully and express yourself from that place and usually Doing that can really be a powerful way to release that emotion into the Away from you and into the world And the last one is getting support a lot of times people feel like they need to take things on by themselves But you don't need to you can get support from friends and family if you don't have friends and family that you feel Could really support you there are plenty of Groups out there that you can get involved in you know a great groups are like personal growth Communities personal growth communities a lot of times have great support systems in place where you can you know go and talk to people You know if it's really really bad you can go and see a therapist or something But go go and get some support and go get around people that you know care about you and want to see you well because they're probably people like that in your life and You know if you open up to them, I think you might be surprised that at what kind of a Positive experience you can have from it So that's it for today if you want some information on how to attract a quality man into a committed Lasting relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take the quiz there I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon