 All right, so talking to girls during the day or as some people like to call it day game Again, not a huge fan of these pickup terms But how do you do it? So there's a lot of guys that I've students that I have that go out and they still complain to be about approach anxiety And look man I've been doing this for years and I still get approach anxiety if I'm just going out to talk to girls or hit on girls during the Daytime I will probably get a little nervous before my first one Most the videos out there. I see I see giving advice are telling guys. Oh, just psych yourself up There's no reason to be nervous. You're just having a normal conversation with somebody, right? And now that these videos are wrong or anything, but that type of stuff can psych you up for a little bit It can get convinced. Yeah. Yeah, I'm pumped like there's nothing wrong with it And then it got lasted through your first couple You know the first couple times first couple girls that you talked to but long term It's not the best solution in my opinion I think a better solution is to have something better to do than picking up girls Okay, so when I say better, I don't even mean better I just mean have something else that you're going out to do what I like to do is if I'm going out And I want to talk to some girls. I think of first about giving myself an assignment Okay, what am I going out to do like let's say I want to get some tea Okay, I could make tea at my house or I could order some tea or I could walk down to an area of My neighborhood where I know that there are a lot of different shops I know there's a lot of cute girls walking nearby and I might meet one on the way that would be really cute Okay, that is a lot better than me just kind of walking around aimlessly like trying to talk to women If you give yourself an assignment, it's gonna feel a lot more normal It's gonna feel a lot more natural Especially when you first start talking to someone because a lot of times they'll ask you what you're doing Especially if it's going well, they'll ask you what you're doing and rather than you just saying Oh, like I'm just hanging out. Are you lying now? You have you have something to say you say I'm going to get some tea And then on top of that a lot of times with these with these interactions that guys have even Let's say they're going out just trying to hit on girls. It let's say it goes well like the girls actually talking to you She's interested in you now a lot of times a lot of guys panic and they don't know what to do And rather than trying to escape an awkward situation. They'll just get the phone number and then run away Okay, the more time you spend with a girl the more comfortable she's gonna get with you the more attracted she's gonna be to you Having something else to do after that is Awesome. Okay having an instant date that you can just go on is gonna help the interaction a lot more So if the interaction is going well, you're talking to this girl and she's like, hey, well, what are you? What are you doing? Oh, I'm actually gonna get some tea. Do you want to come with me? Cool. I'm not doing anything for a little bit and then she comes with you now You just she just walked with you now you have something to do for like maybe 20 30 minutes She can talk to you for a little bit decide if she likes you and it's gonna make it that much more likely That she's gonna message you back a lot of times I see guys going out and they get like I don't know 10 numbers or something like that If it's in a really good spot and most of the girls don't message them back And the only ones that do are ones. They weren't really interested in to begin with I See this happen all the time if you spend more time with your if you spend more time talking to the girl If you spend more time with her she can get comfortable with you She can get to know you a little bit more You can display those attractive qualities that we talk about in this channel It's gonna be much more likely that she's gonna message you back So having that extra step to push things forward in the direction that you're looking for if she's interested in you and you're interested in her Pushing that in the right direction is always going to help. I think tea is a good option I think if you're gonna go out and gets maybe get a bite to eat a coffee or something like that Or let's say you're going to a shopping mall or you're gonna you're shopping for something It's really popular to go shopping for Christmas gifts now. It's a round Christmas time So that's a really good option for you to do to do as well. I actually have a story about this I was at the mall a couple years ago I was looking for a present from my grandmother and I was I was walking around trying to find a figure out What my grandma's into And so I'm like I just ended up talking to this girl kind of next to me because I was like looking at some stuff Trying to figure out I had no idea what to get my grandmother So I just started talking to the girl next to me I said hey, what's up? What are you up to and you know? She said she was shopping for some clothes or something like that and I said, oh cool I'm you know, I'm shopping for you know a gift for my grandmother and then she's like, oh really? What are you gonna get and I was like that's what I'm talking to you about I don't know and so I tried to make it into like this fun game But I was like let's say let's say it's 50 years from now or you're like a nice cute little grandmother And you got some grandkids What would be a perfect present from one of those grandkids and so she's trying to put herself into those in those shoes Anyway, we kept talking I made it silly and fun and it was going really well So she had I ended up getting her to come with me and shop for a present with my for my grandmother So we're walking around this mall trying to find a present for my grandmother And I don't know we walked around for about an hour And of course like we were looking at different stuff talking getting to know each other and it was it went really well Obviously and the hour that we spent hanging out together was so much more powerful than me just kind of getting the number and leaving or something like that Obviously, I got her phone number and it ended up ending really successfully with this girl Okay, we had we ended up seeing each other for a little bit It was a built up a good foundation and it wasn't something that was it felt weird It felt can it felt totally natural so what I invite you guys to do from now on is to rather than just just going out To to hit on girls or to pick up girls or something like that When if you're if you're going to an area have something to do there and you don't always have to be spending money You know, I mentioned that you know, I'm getting a tea a coffee or I'm shopping for something Even if you're shopping for something dude If you're just like, oh, I'm trying to buy a new shirt or something like that Can you help me find something like that's a really good method to I've used that one before If you're really poor and you really don't want to buy a shirt You can just return the shirt later and get all your money back like there's nothing to worry about And if you're just going out at tea costs almost nothing, you know to summarize I would say if you're gonna go out the way to cut down on the mind of nervousness to make you feel like less of a creep to make You feel like less of a weirdo have something else to do that is not associated with picking up women It's something that is in an area that you know, there's gonna be women there You know, there's gonna be women around me with their shopping or they're doing whatever have something to do there I don't know what your area is like. I don't know what's available in your neighborhood You're gonna have to figure it out for yourself I gave you some ideas in this video already, but that's gonna cut down on your approach anxiety That's gonna cut down on the amount of nerves that you get how creepy you feel Where'd you feel and it's gonna be able to take it to the next step into a direction that you're looking for Where you can make progress with this girl all of those things are really helpful So thanks a lot you guys if you made it to the end consider subscribing I come up with videos like this every single week if you're interested in my one-on-one mentorship program This is where I take guys that are struggling or not necessarily guys that are struggling guys that are you know Maybe still that are pretty good, but still want something better for them Still want better options and better girls in their life Message me the single guy 2017 at gmo.com. Thanks a lot. Good luck out there you guys