 so how long have you two been having trouble yeah you would say that but you don't have to shut me out I would like to try some trust exercises you know to get the communication channel reopened Ashley you will fall backwards James you will catch her understood Ashley I want you to tell James what is bothering you and James I want you to repeat back to Ashley which he said actually you start okay James honey I know that you love me but I feel like I haven't heard enough of it lately no James please listen to me I mean you don't even answer your phone anymore the other day I caught you holding the hand of some front and chase subject to sex that's what I'm talking about see I can't deal with this anymore they caught you with my mom