 The irony of caring about an issue is that care generally means we have already decided on a solution we think adequate. The challenge then is that over time a blurring occurs between our emotional attachment to the issue and our emotional attachment to our solution. And so like the smothering boyfriend who in order to show his beloved how much he loves her must love her less affectionately because it is what is best for her, sometimes we must find a way to become less attached to an issue precisely out of our care for it.