 Do you think that you suffer from low self esteem? well Sorry, but it's bullshit. There's no such thing as low self esteem in case you were wondering this term was invented about 60 70 years ago and It's funny how anything that you label Your starts you start seeing more of so whenever in life we we Start thinking about something because it was brought to our awareness That awareness then creates the reality of that thing. I Very much like a quote by Elrond Hubbard and it the quote is it doesn't have to be real It has to be real to you So you don't have need to have low self esteem To have low self esteem You just need to believe that you have low self esteem You don't need to be in pain to believe you're in pain. You just need to think you're in pain. You'll be in pain So What is it really? It's a few words low self esteem three words that you've somehow Associated because somebody labeled you labeled you it you didn't label yourself that never happens and and They took some characteristics of you and they told you Hey, you have low self esteem and you believe them. So you for example, you take somebody who doesn't work out and Doesn't have any muscle density because of it He says oh, I have a muscle shrinking problem or I Have a muscle growth and non muscle growth problem Well, does he know of course not he's simply not Working out or many people are like, you know, I have I suffer from depression. It's not you have a shit life And you're unhappy, you know to be blunt now. I'm not saying, you know, there aren't any cases of There's many cases of people not eating properly It could be caused by workout. There are some rare cases of Hormonal imbalances in the brain chemical imbalances, but mostly people that are Depressed it's like yeah, okay when You know, do you have the money you want? No, you have the the spouse you want. No, you have the job You want no, you have the life you want. No, are you working towards that? No Well, of course you're depressed your life is shit So yeah back to self-esteem I hear a lot from people and I just had a call Very very recently with a friend and he told me that he has this problem Which I had in the past by the way of Anytime he gets Into a good financial situation where he makes a lot of money. He somehow manages to To waste it and it's not like You know like an undercover thing like okay, how did this happen? He just has the habit that he waits whoa Sorry shit, I almost died I'm saving that shit. I'm not editing it Authentic, but let me know if you saw this in the comments that way. I'll know you watch the video So so he says that He has a problem with money and again, he's wasting all the money he's he's made and also that he Fails to maintain it But that's of course, that's because he you know wasted the money So then he says oh, yeah, it happens because I have a low self-esteem. That's the reason I have low self-esteem So when I make money, I feel the need to waste it because I have low self-esteem It's because I don't really believe I deserve the success and I told him like look man, you're wack Like what the fuck? No Now that you believe that that might be the case now that you believe you have low self-esteem You might actually have Symptoms you basically just turned it into reality So when you when you label something you just you make it a reality like you get a person This pisses me off so much you get a person who maybe he sits all day and plays computer games or something and People like oh, he's lazy and that that poor guy believes them and He's like oh I'm lazy. I'm lazy. That's my problem. I'm lazy and now basically his life is structured around this false Knowing That he's lazy and that's the problem And he's everything he does is like, okay. I'm lazy. So how do I do this? How do I do this? Oh, I'm not gonna do this because I'm lazy lazy lazy lazy lazy lazy. Of course, he's gonna believe it You know, I know a woman I'm not gonna tell you who that told me that her son is lazy and I told because of the very same facts. So he always played video games and I got really really really pissed on at her because I Told her look It has nothing to do with him Being lazy. He's just misguided. That's all. He just doesn't know what his purpose is She's like no, he's lazy and I told him no he's Wasting a lot of energy. He's playing video games 10 hours a day That's not lazy, that's super focused. He's just not focused on the right thing He doesn't know what to focus on. So that's what he focuses on and I told her furthermore, there's no such thing as Laziness There's no lazy people. There's just people that are not focused on the right things They're not lazy. They're just taking action in Stuff that are not productive That's it. That's literally all That it is and or somebody's like, oh, he's a ADHD. He has ADHD. He can't he can't focus No, he just realizes that school is dumb and ADHD I call it a high tolerance of attention for bullshit Sorry low tolerance of attention for bullshit because people with ADHD Supposedly, you know, I'm like look I asked them or their parents. Did you ever Read a book Like did you have ever have something you're really interested in? Yeah Did you read a book about it or see like a you know a long long long movie about it? Yes Most of them actually tell me yeah, I finished it in like five hours straight. Oh Can you concentrate on doing things you love? Can you concentrate while you do things you love? Yes Okay, and that begs the question Isn't somebody with ADHD Like okay, let's say it exists. Let's say you have ADHD you have attention deficit disorder Isn't that supposed to be like a global thing where you can't focus on? anything Why is it that you can focus on the things that interest you? So again, it's just the lower tolerance for focusing on things that don't interest you that's that's that's literally it and then you get rid of it and Sorry And then you get rid of and that fucks you up Yeah, it's it's sad. It's really really sad So yeah, just finishing low self-esteem I told the guy that there's no such thing as low self-esteem there there's the characteristics that he told me about you know having the habit of wasting money and It's really easy to take care of it you just write down another habit for example the habit of not wasting money and you Do that every day and the only reason you might not be able to do that is again If you don't understand why you see no purpose, but as long as you do You're not gonna have any problem This is a very interesting video you're not gonna have any any problem doing that and is that high self-esteem now No, it's just you don't have high self-esteem. You just have The behavior of saving money like is somebody that was raised to save money Does that person have high self-esteem? No, it just has good habits. That's all and one last example that I want to give you is The example of my computer, so I have a MacBook for a couple of years now a MacBook Air like a really tiny early tiny MacBook Air 11 inch that I love dearly. It's it's the Most amazing laptop that I've ever had in my life and I love it so much and I talked to one of my good friends and he Asked me to help him kind of find a good a new computer for him and he told me he wants a 13 inch Computer so he asked me Isn't 11 inch too small for you like don't you have trouble with it and the moment he asked it. I'm like first for the first time in Ever in my whole life. I was like do I Wait like I was sitting alone. I was like, do I have a problem with it? Like is it okay? Is it big enough? Really? Yeah Just and I found myself getting like dissatisfied. I was like, no, it's too small. No, it's not big enough Could it be bigger? Yeah, I want bigger. Yeah, right, right, right and I literally It's like psychosomatic like I literally created in my head suddenly the dissatisfaction and the moment I realized it I was like, what the fuck and just said, okay, fuck it. I'm not gonna think about it anymore just get out of my mind and And realize how easily you can actually create realities just by putting a small thought in somebody's head so From this day on and this that's cute cat obviously agrees No more labels. There's not a fat person You know, there's the description of somebody who's fat, but there's not a Slaw, you know, like a guy who just is a bad fucker There's no lazy guy. There's no attention deficit disorder. There's no You know mean person there's no Low self-esteem person. There's just people with bad habits and that can change them at the moment you label it You turn it into a character trait and then It's more important for you to to maintain your identity than to actually Than to actually change the the habit So it's more important for you to be oh, no, I have low self-esteem. Yeah, but you know, you can just stop wasting money Just get the good habit. It's not that hard You just slowly introduce it No, but I have low self-esteem. It's like, okay, dude, obviously you don't want to solve the problem You prefer to have your identity maintained. So, yeah That's the problem. I have the identity of like I'm a guy who's consistent and I'm the guy with big goals and that's you know, that's a good identity. That's something that You know, I don't want to change that like I want to I want to be like No I don't want to change my identity because the because I have good habits attached to it that are always going to be Good, you know, there's never a time in my life where you're like, hey, should you take action and improve your life? Oh, no, of course not. Should you have big goals and that excites you? Oh, no, no, of course not. There's always It's always the right time for that So so if you're going to accept identities then accept good identities that are attached to good good good habits Not bad habits But also realize that they're fake too. Just it's just habits That's all Cool, so I hope this helped you I do coaching on Skype and I offer a free complimentary session Cat approves That you contact me and I'd love to help you Bye-bye