 Hey what's up you guys, welcome back to my channel. If you're new here, hi, hello, I'm Lydia and today I thought we could talk about relationship, I'm sorry. I'm mental health. So if you didn't see my last video me and Kyle did break up and I'm still very emotional about it but I'm not trying on camera so that's a good thing. When you have mental illness it's hard to reach out to have a relationship. When you have a mental illness it's hard to find someone who you connect with and understands your mental illness and when you do have a mental illness you have to be with someone who can understand that things don't always go smoothly. Which was one of the good things about mine and Kyle's relationship. We knew each other well and there are certain aspects that came into our mental health so we both take medication and friends are half so it was constantly reminding each other to get a bit of meds. Here are some tips if you want to get into a relationship and your mental illness. Be honest about everything with your mental health. If you've got scars, explain where it all came, where it all started for you and make it clear that your mental health is not their mental health. Everyone I've dated has a mental illness so it's hard for me to say to people who don't have a mental illness what to do because I've never been in that situation where I've been with someone who doesn't have a mental illness. For me having a relationship meant that I had someone that I had a connection with and that I fell in love with. Relationship can meant to help her heart. When you're in your mental illness you sometimes just want to be alone and that can be hard when you're in a relationship but it's also not hard to put it into conversation. You can be like hey I need some time alone and you can go into a different room or go out for a walk. Personally I see no issues with having your own place and them having their own place rather than living together. Moving in together is a really, really serious sign of getting real with a relationship because you're giving the world your safe space. So I'm not a very sexual person. The idea of having sex to me is I don't want it. I don't want it. I'm not gonna lie and pretend I am getting fucked every day because that's not what I'm like. I don't want sex. I just want to be mean. I think there are ways you can show love without having sex and I want kids in the future. So obviously I will love sex but I don't want it right now but in the future I will because me want baby and babies come from one place. I guess I could adopt that word. I need to be like discharged from mental health services before that but I will see in the future. I can't have kids want to live here can I? Anyway enough about kids. What am I doing? I've got a lot of attention. When you're in a relationship and your mental health is serious it's very easy to be like I don't want to be in a relationship because my mental health is more important but at the same time you get, when being in a relationship you get the support of the other person and in a way you can work together to build something that's arranged at a bit of a... I can't fucking door. What was I even talking about? I've been at uni. I gotta put 7.40 this morning. 40 minutes, 20 minutes is long enough for me to get ready in the morning because I don't want makeup even though I've got a lot of it. I might wear makeup in December well I'll see. I'm doing vlogmas this year again so that's the thing. Oh I'm starting fizzier in difference and better on the 8th at 1pm so I've both been going to a lecture that day. Anyway back on the topic of relationships. It's hard. Okay it is hard because you have to make sure that you're stable enough to be getting a relationship because you don't want to have constant triggers for each other. You have to be ready to be in a relationship and that's what I guess is the most important thing. If you're not emotionally ready to be in a relationship don't put you into a house in pain because you're not ready. A lot of you guys have trauma and disorders and so do I. I can't remember what I was saying. I just had to delete stuff off my camera because my memory was full so I really can't remember where my little tangent was going but being ready to be in a relationship is so important. If you're not ready you end up breaking off that relationship and it hurts the other person which isn't good. I think one of the hardest things in a relationship is being ready for and knowing your intentions and what you want out of the relationship. For me I want to settle down with someone. I don't want to be dating different people constantly. That's not who I am. My issue with that is I'm a uni student so I put university above everything. My issue also is I haven't ever done trauma therapy and that's something I want to do but I all in all I want to get to know someone. I don't want to push the relationship forward like it's nothing and go through all the emotions. I want to build a healthy relationship with someone. I thought I was doing a pile but apparently not. But yeah thank you for listening to me ramble about some different things on relationships and mental health. I don't know who's been useful or not. I really learned something about me but yeah I think make sure you're ready for the relationship. That's the most important thing. Peace.