 well just as important to know what you like is to know what you don't like and it doesn't matter if you're talking about trying to find a career or trying to find a spouse like you need to know what you like and what you don't like right sometimes that's just trial and error you know that's why I encourage my own children to try as many different sports and activities as possible and I say look if you sign up for baseball if if we sign you up you're making the commitment to play the full season like because if you're going to start something you're going to finish it if at the end of baseball season if you don't like baseball you don't ever have to play again for the rest of your life if you don't want to but now you can check something off the list that hey I don't like this right and when I look back on my own childhood I was very focused just on sport I was not very well-rounded I never tried anything in the arts you know I didn't sing I didn't play an instrument I didn't dance I mean it's funny thinking about if I had but I didn't even try any of that stuff because all I wanted to do was play sports and anytime you can cross something off the list of this isn't my thing that's a good thing because now you don't have to try it again and you're actually you're narrowing the field down of what what you will find