 Because you know it's one thing I've noticed about these dating coaches, they all pretty good looking guys, they all got great hair, you know that's why I'm the only reason I'm not a dating coach by the way, but yes it's true you know if you're a good looking guy you got great hair and abs and all that yeah you can slide up to women and you can be all kinds of confident and it's like wow it just works you know it's like all the women who are like the secret you know the universe just provides you with things you just have to ask for what you want and put it out there in the universe it's like they're all hot chicks yeah oh wow men give you resources if you're attractive and you're going to call it some philosophy oh it's the universe no it's not it's gonads it's not the universe it's giving you stuff it's male hormone is giving you stuff so yeah just assume that that nothing is true until proven otherwise and but then allow yourself to build up trust with people it's a very logical approach to life in fact I think it would be the pinnacle approach to life right people making positive claims you have to assume that they need to prove those before you accept them but in our age it's not how people think last question on epistemology I promise what is the relationship if any between epistemology how we know things right and abusive relationships with BPD woman and men if you're a girl so a personality disorders basically is there an attack there from those kind of people or is there what's the connection yeah that's a very great insight Anthony it's very very well phrased and very very fertile ground so to speak so abusive relationships are fundamentally attacks upon epistemology because that's what gaslighting is right so gaslighting is it comes from an old movie where a guy tried to make a woman crazy by constantly interfering with her perception of reality telling her things weren't true that were and were true that weren't so in relationships that I've had in the past that were dysfunctional the woman would say something it'd be kind of shocking something negative or whatever and then you'd bring it up at some later point and she but I never said that I never said that now I mean I don't know back in the day there were no cell phones you couldn't record anyone but let's say you record it and then you play it back then she'll say well I said it but it was you who made me said it made me say you're responsible for my bad behavior and so it's an attack upon your your capacity to process reality and if the woman like when if you yell at the woman then you're an abuser but if the woman yells at you she's passionate and you made her do it right that that's an attack on universality that's obviously a straight up appeal to hypocrisy it's also Darva right deny attack reverse victim order yeah yeah absolutely yeah so so when when people attack your capacity to process reality they are attacking the most fundamental aspect of who you are as a human being because if you can't process reality correctly you can't ever trust yourself you can't ever trust other people you can't ever be confident you can't ever feel you're deserving of good things and it is an it is an attempt like people who genuinely can't process reality correctly are insane and being insane is worse than being dead and I I won't get into many details but I've known a few crazy people over the course of my life and it's a fate worse than death so people who attack your epistemology they attack your capacity to process reality accurately are trying to push you into kind of living hell where you're so turned upside down you trust yourself so little that you're easy to control manipulate and exploit you can lie people into giving you resources and it is a brutal brutal experience to go through the only thing that I can say is that if you've ever gone through something like that nobody comes between you and reality ever again like if you learn from it you you get this you know it's like the illness that almost kills you and then you're bulletproof to that illness and so if you've had people really try and shred your epistemology and my focus on metaphysics and epistemology comes out of dysfunctional I grew up with an insane mom who was actually institutionalized who was consistently attacking my sense of reality this all scar tissue like it's not all he's such a great philosopher is like okay I think I'm pretty good but this all just hard one scar tissue this is battle scars you know this is like don't step in a bear trap because I don't have a foot you know that that's a how that's how vivid it is to me so fighting for a truth and reality and against insane gas lighting well that was that characterized my youth I only survived as a mentally healthy adult because I fought like holy hell against that kind of disassembly of the human mind that characterizes abusers and gaslighter so you know don't don't ever doubt like if you remember something clearly and if you you want to write it down don't ever let people talk you out of your relationship to reality it is a brutal thing to experience and it's also bad for them because it gives them too much power over you which corrupts them further yeah yeah when I had a BPD experience many years ago not too many years ago about five years ago ended but I analyzed it in a speech I gave called marrying Medusa I don't know if you've seen it's on YouTube still believe it or not it's got like half a million views on viral I analyze the relationship from a philosophical perspective which is the main point of view I had then and just I could feel immediately a studying objective is the most like this is a long-term attack on my epistemology she wanted to manipulate my view of reality I think a lot of guys in the manuscript come out of those relationships feel much the same way but they can't articulate it like you did well you'll also get it from you also get it from your single mom like you'll get it from a mom who's divorced in that she will attempt to layer her own resentments against your father onto both him and you and your relationship to him and she will attempt to insert yourself so that she blinds you and tells you what you see and you know that's a seeing eye dog that's gonna lead you right off a cliff to mix metaphors perhaps a bit too much in the manuscript we call them son husbands when they develop these toxic relationships single moms their sons and stuff oh yeah can can can confirm can confirm you're the greatest you're a monster so great we got one last question from the audience here and then we'll wrap up Stefan do you feel that universal truth can be fully realized apart from Christianity well yeah