 We know schools are closed and it's a long holiday. Seven weeks holiday wanted to know how you are spending your holidays. You as a parent, how you are helping your child to spend this seven weeks holiday. And we have one parent. One parent has a message from my big sister actually. And she's watching us from Kakama Genera Hospital. So hi everyone at Kakama Genera Hospital and I want to say my big shout out to you Na pelikam tu toa ketushon. And the other parents also were sharing their experience and what they are helping their children do during this time. Our Facebook pages are trying to find for Instagram and Twitter at 2254channel. So keep the comments coming because today we are to have an amazing guest to be also talking to the parents and sharing and advising us. Him as a chaplain, he's so many things. Frederick Belch is here with us in studio. You're so many things, you're a chaplain, you're a reverent. Actually, let me just introduce you the right way. Reverend Frederick Belch, right? Of St. Peter's Methodist Church and also you're an epilepsy awareness activist. And you're a chaplain. There's so many things. Did I introduce everything or you introduce yourself again? I mean, I think that's all. But I think it's good to also for people to know I'm the national secretary for the National Epilepsy Board. Wow. Yeah, I'm serving my second term and I think it has been a good journey so far. But today we are here for a different thing altogether. I know it's a different thing altogether but these things that you're doing, epilepsy, sigiri o kuna battle the new drug and the sigi chaplain, you're a reverent. You're so many things. I want to know what pushed you to do all these things. Pashon, you don't talk up because you're epilepsy. Well, epilepsy comes from a point of me being a caregiver for a sister with epilepsy. Yeah, she was that good nice when she was two years old. She's now about 15 years and it has been a journey of seeing her through the treatment and medication and things like that. That can weigh someone down, especially emotionally, financially. Where do you throw your support? Where do you throw your courage and you know resilience never to give up on your sister? I think it narrows down to being a first born. I don't know who else is a first born match. Me, me. We are all first borns here. So you guys can do it. I mean, automatically you know when you are a first born if it's like you are the second parent. You know, the parents are there but when you are in the environment, then you automatically assume the responsibility. So that's why for me, I felt like for a situation like this atakama parents wa kupale, I should be in the forefront. Now the moment I started to take the bold step ahead of seeing how I could get help for my sister, by the way even your usaidizi li kujadu ata was as well kwa me jaribu what they could have done then but I kwa wana pata the light of day. So I drew inspiration from there. All right, good work you're doing. Mind you for that. And battle the new drag, you ni nini? Oh, so wow. So battle the new drag, that's my, actually it was my research paper in Kampas and I was addressing the whole issue of pornography addiction. Yeah, so battling the new drag, it's a whole, like you know what I came to discover when I was doing my research paper around that. Actually my research paper had been titled pornography disintegrates family lives in churches. So just trying to just trying to look at the link, you know you have so many people going to church, young people and they are hooked into this thing. But just because it's not like bang, o kisha buta macho zinata and red, you know somebody could have been on it yesterday night but they come here on church alafu badawana to relays kwa praise and worship because it's not written anywhere. It's not written anywhere so that's why it's easy for even the people that go to church who are struggling with it to hide it. Even parents cannot tell that they are children are going through that. And it's good they remember me mention kwa sababu even as we talk about how students can utilize their time during the holiday. In this era of you cannot really control a child to tell them don't use a phone. Nyu mba kwanzo kablau shift in unangali akama it's connected with wifi. Nju mba kwanzo kablau shift in unangali akama it's connected with wifi. Ukiingia kwa restaurant unai tisha password kablau menu. Unai tisha password kablau menu. Unai tisha password kablau menu. So in that kind of an environment at wazi to kwa skip that conversation. Kwa it's everything that we access through the phone and internet and all other things. So that is where the whole thing came about. Research paper kind of threw visuri. Nika sema apart from it ni pati e tu max maxza as a campus. Achanyone kama it can become a program. So I've been going places just talking to people giving them a platform to come out and say this is what I'm struggling with. It's a very secretive thing. So when you get somebody to talk about it that's just one way of getting out of it. And this masturbation has consequences. Deep consequences. But before we get to that, you are a chaplain, right? And I know you being a chaplain you've interacted with so many young people, so many students. How has it been for you? Right now we know students are at home. Parents are wondering what to do. We are chakulaimenda juu. It's an interesting thing altogether. I think I joined into full ministry with the Methodist Church this year. And my first assignment was to be assigned as a chaplain for the Methodist institutions and these include colleges, high school, primary school. So I get to interact with a lot of students in my daily work, like every day, all the week. If I'm not meeting them during devotions in the morning, I'm meeting them during guidance and counseling, I'm meeting them in the classes because other institutions have been given classes to teach life skills. So it's conversations of how they can run their life and also building them spiritually. And from that point even the rest of the teachers also have it easy when they go to and now teach other lessons because unapata student ambe kwa inspired to see life in a different way. So ata kama i-subject ningumu. Kuna iyo aprocha na kwa, na iyo kwa sababusha mambe a the reality of how life is out there. Kama ni matla zi mawufanya. Maisha wupu injepeba do ni mahesa abu. So, yeah, and it has been an interesting journey. You see, when you get an opportunity to inspire young people and give them a reason to build upon their ambitions and dreams enye wa konazo, kisha bade wuku japa injeu wone, ah, they have made it. You know, you can count yourself in being part of that success. So I'm really enjoying like the whole thing as it's happening. The time of your life. I want to say thank you for looking at me. I want to give you a high which is plenary. I want to say thank you. I want to say number one, ok, being in this kind of a look and feel bad o wukomi ham. I go to school, wone injiya kwa daras, I want to say thank you. Ata ni nua revu kukuliko. Unapata. And then I'm still in that bracket also of you know being youthful. So what you're trying to tell them me wa jua assumption ni wakiyona amewa this way, wana jua wuyu ni mbaba, wuyu ni mtu wa shakula maisha. But you're trying to interact with them at a level where wana unabona ata lugia na tumia tu ni. They are sitting at a tumia. So wana say ma, wana say ma, somebody can attain this kind of you know, level when they are still young. Wana kwa wepesi sana kuku skiza. Kosa babu mwingini kisha ingia apo na wile ni ninze, Kwanzoa na wanzi nama ombi, then the next thing na wambi ya habdambi muache wuna wana. Yeah, yeah, it's it's kama gotiyaka po. Nyoma's m lumberzisha kabla wato a jo koka wuna wana. So, you stop from making it that way and you make it a conversation on a relate now to nongia tu lugainye wana elewa. So say you kongia lugainye wana elewa, talking the language and going down to their level and interacting with them. I'm sure she's put a case in, a case scenario of a student miyaka kwa ambiaka kitu, adio kwa shtuka. Do they confide in you or right? They do. Kwa kwa wana kwa wepesi sana waku jeleza. Teachers weni wana pata cases na wana say ma, hey, chaplain, I want you to see these students, these students in this class or mutumonye ako klas flani. Because they feel wana is ako open a price sana. Kwa wana kwa umu alimumonye na muwana daily, daily, daily. Na yana mfundisha chemistry asana shindwa hishi wini konayo na chemistry. We only have to build trust for them. Ya. These students are so open, open with somebody who is more of a stranger to them than mutumonye ame oazuea. Kesa zni mingi. Ay, kesa zni mingi. Kesa zni mingi. Wale wa skuna primary. Now guys are limited to only two shuns. You in the library, do your assignment, do your homework, stay in the house. What other things can these students interact with that is very constructive? Ataparens wakion na nafraya. Ya, these students are doing good things. Kwanza mini zataka niyanze from a point of... kwaile re, everything that you do, now that you have this long holiday, ikuena an attachment of it is honoring God, it is giving respect to God. Nandi wa fikeyo level kwanza kwa kama mzazi unona. Mzazi ndo akuna juku mu kubwa sana yaku ake kisha kwa mba umtoto, zilebitwa na fanya zina ndana. Na in probably 22, 9, ina sema train your child in the way they should grow. Exactly. And then wakikuawa kubwa, they will not leave those ways. So teachers wame play rolea for those two months. It's interesting kwa sababu calendar ya education payment nda iki change. So at this point in time wame maliza an academic year. So waki nda kuruudi wana nda to the next class umtono ona. So fomfuzu anafanya exam sayi wale wako fomfiri waki rudi piyano wana pripia fanya exam by December. So namba one, as a student kwanza niwukuena yoku ake li. Ya kwa mba, this holiday by the time it's over nda I'm back to school. I'm getting into another level. So already when it comes to your studies nda jua isiki tu amchezo. If you are fomfiri nda jua next time nda fomfo. Na fomfo atutai sabumi ezi kumidi ofanya exam. They only have seven months. That is a short period. That is a very short period. Very short period. So kabla ufungwe macho umekwa holiday nda umelala yotai miyote yogi fungwa. Tricky. Tricks are not. Very tricky. Unapata. Alafu sasa cbc nayo umeku jana story ngine. Unona kuna atoto enye sasa waki rudi ku transition to the next class. Wana nda junior seconda. There's a lot of concussion. There's a lot. So when you talk about utilizing your holiday well. Yes. Number one, we are trying to tell the parents first. If there are things that you have helped or trained your child to grow in. Is on the witu unafa, you put a lot of emphasis in. If we are saying about utilizing time well first is honoring God and respecting God and making sure all the activities that are happening are geared towards honoring God. Then, kwen dachach yani usi option. Alafu kuprey usi option. These are the basics. And then reading the word of God yani, that's not an option. These three things yani should be the basis of anything else that follows after that. We can talk about Tushan and giving them an opportunity to continue with their studies while they are at home. Again, Iopiasiki to yaku ongelia, yaku sema we should do or not do. I've come from schools where wakati wa kifunga, nimi wana omepati wa bitabu, waka mwa this is what you are supposed to go and cover even by the time you come back. So kuna yu time kwanzo, yaku suma. A child kama mzazi amesha report nyumbani, ametulia yu weekend. Kesho, mande, muambia pati etem tabu liya vilia mejipanga na lesson zile nafa. Tricky. Tricky for teenager. Nasi kwa mdi, it's because next term nanda kwa anza a new class. Every school mi na jua wami pati wa either assignments, ame pati wa tabi tabu zia yu next class they are supposed to go and they have been told what to do. Nata kama uja ambiwa and you have those books. Please make sure mech kwa time. Yaku suma some topics. Summarize, wuki enda wu kwa we are ahead of time. You should be ahead of the teachers. I know I have not touched anything on leisure and stuff like that at this point. But you summarized it, that everything you do, you want to go. And then there are so many other things that are happening. Kuna camps na jua. Like I know the Kenya Student Christian Fellowship wana kwa nga na camps. By the time from Fozwa Memaliza exams, e April kuna camps zita anza students who are in the foundation in Olamungu. It's just for a week but a very interactive program. Bad opea, not because you are at home, but because you are at home, you can build spiritually nga pata. So nga enda wu kwa nga pata na na a lot of lessons that you can learn. Apart from camps zeneziko, organize that way. From your local church, I know there are programs that have been said.