 The narcissist hates this more than anything. There is one thing the narcissist hates more than anything else. There is one thing they cannot stand. The narcissist hates it when you go no contact. When you avoid them in person. When you stop answering their calls. When you stop responding to their texts. It drives the narcissist insane. They hate it more than anything. They might pretend that they have moved on and forgotten about you. But that's just the illusion. It's designed to make you think that they don't care. When really, it's eating away at them. But they might just pretend like everything is okay. Because they're trying to portray that something is wrong with you. So now they need to find someone who is better. They will target a new source of supply. They will triangulate you with them. They will try to float them in front of you. Because they want you to think that their life is so much better without you. But there's always some reason or situation. Why they always have to return to you. They always find a way to pop up in your life again. Because they hate no contact. They hate not being able to communicate with you. It really gets to them. If you are no longer susceptible to their manipulation. They may not want to be in a relationship with you. As that would threaten their false self. And the illusion that they are trying to portray. But they will continue to check in on you to see what you're doing. There's this obsessive nature about them. Where they always feel like they're missing out on something. But when they return to you. They don't want to see you doing well. They want to see you struggling without them. The narcissist hates this more than anything. They hate no contact. They hate not being able to communicate with you. They will stalk and harass you. They will monitor your social media. They will talk to your family and friends. They will do anything to extract information about you. And any information they find will be used against you. They will create something out of nothing to stir up trouble. They make up a reason for them to remain in contact with you. Because they hate no contact. They can't just leave you alone to move on with your life. Because they already know that it puts them in an unfavorable position. They need you more than you ever needed them. They were only ever a liability to you. But they play this game. Where they try to make you feel like you need them. When really they are the very thing that is holding you back. But if all else fails. They will really go all out to destroy you. They will smear your name. They will say horrible things about you to anyone who will listen. They will do anything to damage your reputation. Because they just can't deal with no contact. They see it as an insult. They see it as an attack. And in their minds. That justifies what they do to you. In their minds. Trying to destroy your life. Is just them defending themselves. Because when they see you live in your life. It reflects badly on them. It makes them feel like there's something wrong with them. They experience it as an attack on their character. So now they have to destroy the thing that they believe is attacking them. The thing that they believe is make them look bad. They do this to save their image of reputation. To maintain the illusion. And most importantly. To sustain the way in which they see themselves. Because although they may seem angry when you go into contact. It really has nothing to do with you. It revolves around how they feel about themselves. Everything a narcissist says and does. Is based on their own feelings about themselves. Which can be influenced by situations and events. In the external environment. The narcissist hates no contact more than anything. Because then they're left with no distractions from what's inside of them. Their false image may also be at risk. Which may then trigger them to reflect on their feelings of self-hatred and insecurity. Because it's the communication. And people validate in the illusion. That provides them with a sense of stability and security. So when you take that away. And you stop supporting the illusion. It leaves them feeling vulnerable. It leaves them feeling at risk of danger or harm. As though they might be exposed for what they really are. The narcissist does not hate no contact because they love or care for you. It's all about them. People commonly think that narcissists are so concerned with how people think of them. And that is why they're so focused on their image of reputation. But this is only because it influences how they see themselves. All they care about is their own reflection. No one holds any significance to the narcissist. We are just mirrors that reflect something back to them. When you go no contact. It may seem like they're angry at you. But really. They just don't like the reflection they see of themselves in the mirror. It has nothing to do with you. You don't even exist in the narcissist world. No one does. You will only ever be a reflection of the narcissist. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate. My PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching queries. You can email me at coachedatnarksviver.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.