 super quick video today guys on procrastination and this comes from a very short question and it's about the person calls about talks about their laziness problem now if you've ever if you've read my book or if you've uh if you've ever really seen any other videos uh laziness is nothing to do with it but i'm going to answer this question super quick it says hi david i've read so many books and watched so many videos in procrastination and motivation and that's a tendency you know i see a lot of people spending more time watching videos on it than than anything else but if anything i feel more confused now than ever so what would you say is the most important thing about overcoming this issue and i'd appreciate a simple short answer if possible i'm going to give you here to answer this question the mantra of the procrastinator okay what is the story of a procrastinator in a simple sentence a new furious work in procrastination is very good he talks about a lot of this as well but here's the sentence that that sums up procrastination i have to complete it all perfectly and i have no time for phone because this work defines me okay that's the sentence pretty much everything in procrastination is defined in that sentence the all the problems five problems are summed up in that sentence i have to complete it all perfectly i have no time for phone because this work defines me first of all have to i have to do it start to challenge every time you use that term have to there's always a choice and actually it's removing choice from you that term and it's taking away all credit for every positive choice you make you need to challenge this idea of have to i have to complete it all in other words finishing when the nervous system hears that it has to finish something all it's going to shut down it's not going to play ball so we need to just focus on not on finishing anything but starting small easy consistent steps finishing takes care of itself that's number two number three i have to complete it all perfectly again when the nervous system hears this term perfect perfect is so it's so ill defined it's you can't define it really so the nervous system has nothing it feels very threatened by that idea and rightly so so again rid of this idea that anything has to be done perfectly things should be done imperfectly things to be should be done especially at the beginning on a very poor level you know if you have to write an essay for instance the first draft should be a bad draft you know just write the bad draft aim for a terrible essay that's what i always help you aim for a terrible essay editing improves the essay i have to complete it all perfectly there's no time for fun okay no time for fun we one of the biggest things in in my book i talk about is you have to have fun in your life if you are a procrastinator and it has to be a priority huge boundary issue there if there's no time for fun you're really telling your subconscious work is way more important than i am so there's a huge problem that again the nervous system does not respond to that well it sees oh my god there's only time for difficult obligations in my life this is a problem and it's going to shut down right it's going to quit that fight flight or freeze response i have to complete it all perfectly there's no time for fun because this work defines me this work defines me that's number five when we think that our work defines us is it any wonder that the nervous system is going to react against it so we have to start to do some inner work challenge in this idea that my work defines me you know my youtube video is to find me not really you know or whatever work you do personally defines your value as a human being that's what we're talking about so it doesn't it's just something i'm doing now it's an experiment i'm trying out this one time this one moment in my life this one project does not define my self worth in my life so we have to again start challenging some of those beliefs right so when you start to look at that sentence i have to complete it all perfectly there's no time for fun because this defines me we almost want to start speaking to the nervous system in the exact opposite terms to that okay and this is changing our story this is going to be a much more beneficial way to talk to the nervous system really the whole approach in overcoming procrastination is learning the new language of well the language of your nervous system how do you respond to this part of you that is resistant and reluctant to engage with work because it feels overwhelmed and afraid it's not rational so that's not going to be how you speak to it we have to speak to it on an emotional level and it's about changing our story okay changing our story and magical things happen you know amazing things happen when we reconcile with that part of ourselves i said i keep this short i'm going to keep it short so i hope that was useful and i'll talk to you guys again soon 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