 Welkom back guys, my name is Aivin Chugona, of course you can find me on all social media platforms is Aivin Maguaya, so our topic for today is online dating, on to what that question is, what is your ideal first date with a stranger? An open place where nothing can happen, like that person won't hunt you because you are in a public place to cook a restaurant, obviously you can do something on a restaurant. The stranger for me I think come, come and see your online platform, come and see physical then I think it's better to queue in our private way, private way to queue like a park, we had 62ndo to kuapo, we discussed, the thing about love, the thing about relationships is about to queue. So for me, I think privacy is the main thing, so mimi hara staia, standa kwa, daily kwa nda kut after, see it, good place, many place. I don't think it will happen, but we have our privacy, I can talk you out, we can understand each other, maybe to end up kukwa in relationship. Kulingana na mimi as a person, the first meeting kwa online date, ina fwa kuku kwa, kama ni senpo yu ina fwa tu, ni kama tu, okay online is just a platform, ni kabilitu enza kutana reitu katiyane, de ya first ina fwa kuwa ni ni, getting to know one another, kumingol ku elewana kubland, ni jiyo kwenu tabiaza watua, kwenu nu mebi tabiaza kwa sindio, wujia kaminim tu ina gani, alabsa tu kisha elewana tu onetuna soket, then we come, yeah, move ahead. Nothing, we'll just get to know one another right here, maybe exchange numbers, chat, talk, after then you won't be estranged anymore. We'll just talk and the more that we talk, the more we know one another. I feel like the first date should not be so, for example kama ni mimi na kutana na mewe, let me use an example of you with me, and it's the first date, for you you are not supposed, I mean you should ensure that you're not beaten down ina public space, ina public place too, because it's the first date and then you know nothing about me and then na kumiyoku, na kumiyoku de kwanguama tu metu kwa maybe kwa lodge, maybe alafu na agree, maybe ni usikuwa ma, you see you cannot trust anyone to umemona tu sayu and you know nothing about him, so the first date I suggest that you guys meet ina public space, I mean you get to know each other and maybe after that things can, I mean you can take things to another step. Samua open, as in place, plus kuna atruengia again. When people meet one-on-one, it will be better, but now if people meet on a date, they can get a lot of fakeness that they're presenting to you, so you have to be careful, so because they're not being real about them. Muna pata na lady, parawewe muna pata na boy, nga nga nga nga, see ni umetafu tiawa, nga nga niwa niwa, kama minkana pita apani wana na lady muna na manu fresha, I can just try to shoot my shot, nga nga. To me, I don't, it's not good, definitely. I've never been on a date with a stranger. I don't believe in dating. Si kwa hote litu, e nga niwa nga nga nga each other. For me, fasnitangu ita kwa yaku pimawamse, I guess labda umpeleke place kakarura, umtembezea choke fiti, alafu, okay, I don't know, people term it boring, but I guess you literally on such a date, ume fika, you maybe carried your tennis rackets or something, you're doing something sporty. Kwa litu, ume pika make up, yos ku yo, yo batimba, make up ita toka, apu wata pika jasho, wutezakumu wana few tisa sa, so I guess na pia kama ni mitua taku aneyo vibe fan, kwa kwa sumutu ibo eka nae. So that would be a nice first date. Yes first, somewhere open, pinye ya, obvious nothing can happen, wuna na like a restaurant, a place kama beach, a bitka ezo like an open place pinye, anything can happen, naeza pata help from the kongriini wata wana tembezea, pedestrians or people out there. Ki pata na na stranger, assuming when they date, kila mtu anata kanga kubring the best version of themselves, that's not the truth. Dojwa na foderilyo, nae kuna na tukwe shule, maybe naeza kakumu wana vinyula reaction matwingine, bila mimiku apu, pata kuna a real sense of you, the good side, the bad side, medu me kasi rika na mtu. So I get to know you for you, lakin sisa wiki na dating, on the part of the man wana taku impress, maybe atas your time wuna, on the part of the lady wana taku bring the best version of yourself na open way, and that's not the real you. So dating is the, alafu pina kwa gara machida mingine, expensive for nothing. Like wiki taka quality time na mtu, mende kukula, mneza na ataswiming, vitu mingi tu zitu, mneza fae vitu mingi, as well as mum date. Being an open place, not anywhere hidden, because you do, I would do your intations. So I prefer like you guys meet Mali open, so in case of anything, maybe I will come to harmful, it will be easy to identify, maybe I will come in a way. And take me on, like we just went to the movies, we just go to hang out together, get to know each other, that's it. Vila na bie actions, like actions, kuna bine uwi tu tu tewezi fae na kutia kwanza, alafu kuna bine tewezi niya mbe kila kitu ma rea kwanza, kuna ayu woga tu nafaku kwa naayo, like tewezi kwa open to each other, first point zi, nafaku kwa long time kias. My opinion on the first ideal date with a stranger, of course it should be in a public place. You should go hiking, go for swimming, go for movies, in a place where there are people, just so in case if anything happens, you have backup. But I don't know, that's just my opinion, I don't know what you guys think, so let me know in the comment sections. Onto a last question for a topic today, what precautions should you take when meeting a stranger for the first time? See, first of all, nafaku kuna public space, usi, usi enekumitum tu kwa hotel, rumaman yene, ujikitwa mi pango on the other side. Number two, always have a backup plan, like kuna mituna fawan bine ni mera date. If you don't hear from me, number three kwa na pisa ako, anything can go sideways. Ne zachu na bill. Alafu, number four, take time to enjoy the other party. Kamamili pata na online. Kuna makatfisha wengi. I guess for a date with a stranger, onyesha na sweet nothings. I guess so, just, kwa na uchukozi, ya talk nicely siya ti umbo, but don't dare say what your work is. Don't dare say how much you earning. Don't dare say how much you show any social or status quo or something. Atu kuna do flani, lifestyle ya koni flani, because you may not know, onyesha fukira, ni mituna kupenda yet, kias kias yushatendo. Amdwa ajanini na takuibia, ni wapia takuibia, whether it's that place, because some jobs really need a lot of security here. You might not know how important that data is, especially the hacking that's happening in the country. So I guess, ikwa two sweet nothings, mob mob, mchochane, bambane, alafu maybe later on, you'll be serious with the person. Onyesha ambia, maybe your parents, your close friends, lafu, enda place, open pier, I guess. Kusaburojuwa wanoliwa place, kua nyuumba, nuna A&B&B, ukuniko wanoliwa, wanakua victim sana. So I should guess, open places. Kuna stangia zazuri, kuna higina wabaya. So for me, pre-questions nzatikni, kuku tenlaiku, kua agrian to every single thing ni ambia, kini ambia tiwa kusingo, I'll doubt because I don't know you. So, so I want to agree with every single one ni ambia, but those ngine, nzakua, nzakua agreeable because what I wanna, and then another pre-question ni is kuful into the trap of inetua quick sex or what. Ya, quick sex. Nmemi na stranger, then all of a sudden, tumi ungeat, kuku intimi, then aw kuja. Twende du kamalizia ukuna, this kinds of pre-questions. So, it's better. Nisi, nisi kutunia, learn to other time, kuku una certain disagreements, ni kuhambia about this ni kuhambia about me, I'm studying degree, upper. At least, su shuku, ni kuhambia na study engineer ni namaibi na study, na study education na maina study arts. So, not all things ni ambia, I'll agree with. That is my first pre-question. And then, second, I'm not falling into quick sex. Avoid hidden process? Maybe first it should be working with friends. They should be, kuku ite boku restaurant kuku ite boku ingine. So, we should have friends around, share location. First, talk to advices from people that have me piteo process. Yeah. First of all, you avoid these strange people you avoid are meeting them in private places. When you meet a strange person, either a fancy or a person that you don't know him or her, you must at least meet him or her with some friends or a very public place where something cannot happen. Because of late, of reason yesterday, the other day you see that some lady was killed with someone whom he didn't knew him about. So I feel like when you are meeting a strange person, kindly make sure that you don't go to private places because you don't know that person. So definitely avoid those places. Yeah. One, before you go on that date you have to have those what is it called? Can I speak in Swahili? We need to know whether we are using video call we need to know whether we are using video call and we can make sure that we are using it. Yeah. Like, we can make sure that we are making sure we are making sure that we are making sure k Fortunately. research about that person. As much as we need days it's natural that those who want to hold specials dates, if the date return mean to. Akwenza Okay. If it mean to What's the 1st date when we say The wan ishihet disabilities get paid for it. But After, slope like Dew up two points two points Lazima kuonzo kuyanit, kuya smart. Namba 2, lazima kuyanado. Do you anything might happen? We need to have some cash. Namba 3, piya lazima kwa nga liye de liye di. Lazima kuyanama observe. Not just going to a date like that. Lazima piyama observe. Kama ni mitimgaldiga. I make sure that I don't reveal much of my information and just be myself and take care of myself. First of all, I say 7. 7 environment where everybody can watch what you're doing and people can tell if this person was here at this time or this person. Just like this, doing this. So for me first is the environment. Precussion number 1 on an online dating. At least let someone you trust or know well get informed about it. Nanda paliflani na nikoram tuflani for the sake of incase cases. We should meet in public. Don't agree to meet at his place for the first time. I personally went to... I agreed to meet someone in Rangai and we were meeting for the first time and we never even go to video call or anything. I just knew his voice. And then when I got there, I met a completely different person. And it was very disappointing. And I was cut-fished. So I felt really bad. Number 1, make sure you meet him in public spaces as I had mentioned. Number 2, make sure you're over in affair because it was the end of two. Hau na do. And then maybe I'll come to you when I'll be sitting next to you. You'll be stranded. And then make sure you're in a place kama your girl, place unadua kama wizi toka apa for example utoke ruiru when the date Rangai na nyusiku. I'll have to make sure it's maybe muchana kama in your first date. And then you can... maybe bestiakon miyanda kumitu if in case anything happens then. Maybe you have that one friend of yours who you so trust. So just tell her I'm supposed to meet with this person but can you back me up in case of anything because I've never met this person. So your friend will be there. She won't be on a date or rather he won't be on a date. It's just going to be you and the person. But your friend will be far away watching what's happening. In case of this person maybe try to hunter me my friend will be like yeah, I have a backup here. That's why I'm here. The very first precaution is probably inform your close friend about where you were about and who you're meeting. Nambatu I feel like you should always meet strangers on a public place. Go for hiking, go for swimming, go for a movie, go for a concert. Somewhere where there are a lot of people so that in case something goes wrong you can always have backup. That is all for today. I am your host Ayvintyugona. Till next time, bye.