 Sorry about that, I just got cut off. As I was saying, it just isn't right, it just isn't fair for them to come into your life and then start rearranging things in the way that they prefer, it just turns your life upside down because you're used to doing things a certain way, you're comfortable and while you may not mind making some adjustments, no one wants to completely change everything about themselves, everything about their lives to please someone, it's like if you're that different you probably don't belong in the same space, if you can't coexist together without everything having to change then maybe there's a reason for that but these narcissists don't think this way, they targeted you because they liked certain things about you, they had this fantasy and this head in their heads about what they thought you were and it was a very idealistic fantasy, this image of perfection, something that no human could ever live up to and when they began to realize that just like anyone else you weren't perfect they then felt compelled to make all these adjustments rather than just to accept that maybe you can't live up to this image of perfection in their minds, maybe you can't be everything that they want you to be, it's like they expect more from you than they expect from themselves, it's just so unrealistic, I think it's much healthier for us to expect more from ourselves than we expect from anyone else and if you really know that you're a capable person with a lot of potential then you will expect more from yourself more than anyone else but these narcissists deep down they know they're no good and that is why they expect so much from you but then when they come into your life and they try and make all of these rearrangements all of these adjustments and you're not having it they just see it as though you're rebelling against them, you're being stubborn or lazy, they just can't see it from your point of view because they're self-absorbed and they like it, they lack empathy and also they just don't care about what you want, they don't care about if you're used to doing things a certain way, they don't care about what your life was like before they came around, they're here now so things have to be different, you have to accommodate them, things have to suit their needs, so yeah they come into your world not to coexist with you, not to build something with you, it's more just to take everything that you have built and to see how it's going to work for them and they don't want you to just make minor adjustments to accommodate them, they want you to change everything about yourself, everything about your life and if you can't do that, if you're not willing to do that then they're just gonna see it as though there's something wrong with you and they will go around making sure that everyone sees you in the same way and nothing you do is ever going to get them to see you in the way that you would like, they're never going to see it as though you're trying to accommodate them as though you're trying to help them, if you can't adjust every single thing about yourself and your life to be the way that they would like then they're never going to accept you, they're never going to appreciate you and that is just the impossible expectation that the narcissist expects from you, that's all for this live, I've got two premieres starting the later today so I hope you can join me there, thank you for watching and hopefully I'll see you in the live