 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder of commitment connection calm and today We're gonna talk about how to get over someone so if you Broke up with someone or you got dumped by someone or you know something happened where you're not with someone anymore And you want to get over them You need to figure out how to do it as quickly as possible so that you can move on with your life And so here are three steps to getting over someone the first one is to get that person out of your mind So remove anything that reminds you of that person You know disconnect from them on social media do whatever you need to do to get that person out of your mind Because the more you have that person in your mind the more you see stuff around That reminds you of that person the more The the harder it will be to get over that person So the first one is get them out of your mind The second one is focus on Rebuilding your life in your sense of self when you're together with someone and you're seeing somebody you Psychologists have found that you actually start to feel like your identities meld together like you almost become the same person you know and When so when you break up with someone it's almost like you're losing a part of yourself and so if you lose a part of yourself You kind of feel this withdrawal thing that that you get when you break up with someone and and so what you need to do is Regain your sense of who you are regain your sense of self go out and build a life That's really interesting for you get involved in a passion or a hobby Go make some friends or go hang out with some friends and in a support group of people that That that love you and care for you and the third and last thing that you need to do is forgive yourself and Forgive the other person for any misdeeds that happen in the relationship now if some bad things emotionally you know abusive things or physically abusive things happen in the relationship obviously you don't forget about those things but Holding on to resentments like that only hurts you it doesn't hurt the other person You know regardless of whether they deserve forgiveness or not you deserve forgiveness and so forgiving another person Sets you free whereas holding on to a resentment and cages you and Puts the other person in control of you even if they don't want to be in control of you so my suggestion is to forgive them forgive yourself and Do what you can to let go Because that's the only way that you can get over someone So that's it for this video if you want information on how to attract a quality man into a committed Lasting relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take the quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon