 The alpha listen gonna learn see for is the man you some of you guys know him is really good, dude I basically met him last year at last year's convention. He went to my workshop. I hosted the first one. Is that a lot enough for you guys? Yeah, I'm trying him, but I'm him and six other guys take an original original workshop at project Orlando with myself And I'll remain slick and we came on like I didn't instantly notice like this guy was pretty much up to par with me It's like we're doing like like pretty easily like he's cool dude throughout the bat It's fucking sweet like he flew in yesterday from Sweden with Swedish crowns and Swedish hair and whatever the fuck ever else he has so but he's a really good dude a good friend of mine He won't even have one hung out them a little bit Of course my life is really good dude. I feel like I know him like like a brother almost, you know But I found out his speech with him last night went over it He went over mine helped each other out a lot and if you guys would be really impressed with what he has to say and Frankly, I'm excited to hear what he's saying myself Again, so got further do zebra you guys his names Day on I can't even say it man. It's like a good friend. I can say his name. They on down. Thanks, man. Thanks a lot, man All right guys You all excited? Yeah, we're about to go out take care of this stuff in the field, right? You know when uh when dream asked me to do this convention or make a speech I was kind of like man. There's gonna be a lot of good people talking here and You know How can I? How can I give value to these guys something they can use you know? I don't want to be like hey man You got to attract the girl and then after you attract the girl. Yeah, then you got a you got to comfort her or something like that You know It's my new zebra my zebra m4 model right No, no, I remember when I was first starting out The biggest thing for me was like the complete disconnect between the really good guy and Then me who wasn't very good I just couldn't see like these guys would come up here and speak and I'm like damn man That guy that guy has it in his game is tight But like me I can't I can't see myself doing that like he tells these crazy stories, right? And I'm like I can't do that caveman man. No You know it's scary right scary going out And so You know I figured I Wanted to talk about how you can get a set of like mental habits a set of You know have taking action stuff like that every day that you can apply that will help you just you know Take the stuff that you learn from speakers today From forums from books stuff like that and then how you can apply it so you actually see results because a little background on myself I Found the community. I'm 21 now. I found the community when I was 14 That's this a long time, right? It's like six seven years When I was 14 my parents kicked me out of my house and they sent me to live in France to to Yeah, I'm dreaming doesn't like French people To you know to learn French or whatever. I don't know they wanted me to To become a better person or to grow and this is I was 14 at the time they They sent me out and this is the first time that I went out. I was like whoa women like alcohol awesome parties and I was like Like lights everywhere. It's going crazy, right? And I meet this girl. She's 16 But I fall in love right the summer flame and she's being nice to me, right? And I feel like the pimp of the world because you know chicks is into me, right? She's saying hi to me. Obviously she likes me and I end up going for it, right and Making the move starting making out with her and she's like, oh, yeah. Yeah, cool. Listen. I just I gotta go But I'll see you tomorrow, right? Okay. I'm like, yeah. Yeah, awesome. Yeah, I got this girl cool like in my head I was like, yeah, this is down and I end up telling everybody that we hooked up and we made out Yeah, let me tell you she wasn't all that into me. She was being friendly to me We were friends and I ended up looking like a douchebag in front of everyone It's pretty painful because I built myself up like yeah, I'm just like player Awesome, I can get where I want and then all of a sudden all these people are just like giggling about me behind my back And I was like damn it hurt like it hurt a lot and that's when I decided, you know what like having No control over your emotions like this like somebody else being able to completely crush you on this sort of emotional level That's complete crap, and I will have none of it. So I go home Like so many of you guys I am guessing I Google, you know, whatever pick up good with women seduction And I find all this amazing material I start reading it and reading it and eventually everything just took care of itself and I Got good with women Do you guys think that's how it actually happened that I found this stuff and then all of a sudden poof I got good with women. No. Hell. No. Hell. No, that's not how I went down. Oh God no, I started reading I started reading a lot And it did make all the negative feelings go away because I felt like oh, I'm in control of this now Like I got this. I know, you know, how women think I know how it works. That's cool. Yeah, I got this But yet I didn't have a girl and I didn't do any approaches and yet sprinkle in some like cocky funny lines every now and then school and stuff like that but that was as bad as far as I would push it and And Yeah, you know, I was 14 all the way through high school Every now and then I would get lucky. I got a girlfriend The girl I lost my virginity to she was like 23 and I was like 17 completely the right place at the right time like let me tell you But that even like that fueled my like raging ego even more. I was like I can get anybody I know this stuff like look at the girl I'm with right now So finally senior year of high school, right same thing again fall in love with the girl and this time this time I know what's up and To be honest this time this girl really did like me She was into me and That's what made it so much more painful when I completely like blew this whole opportunity with her All the senior year basically I kept going back and forth back and forth with her You know, I would push you out and I would go for it in like a real weird way and it just never worked out And Then I realized you know what I hadn't learned anything all these years Zip had nothing to show for it so finally I flew back to Europe, you know Sweden and For the first time, you know me and my friend We would bounce these like ideas off each other, but like yeah, man. Did you read this stuff? Yeah, I read that that's this cool man. We can use that and then we like go play World of Warcraft You got you guys know what I'm talking about, right? And now everybody here on the field all the time So I've never actually met somebody that knew this stuff and What ended up happening, you know my most like important Purpose in the community was like what's a cool name I can have on forum like dark thunderbolt man or something like that You know, and that's actually people ask me how why like zebra with the hell is At some point I was like who gives a shit about a name like let's just pick something I look at it like at an advertising sign was like a zebra there and I was like zebra That's I'll post on that I Went to Sweden. I went to pick up someone kind of like this and for the first time I saw a guy that had this handled like it like the picture in my head I was like that's who I want to be no more bullshit none of this. I'm gonna take care of this for real this time You know like you say this a lot to yourself, right? But this time actually for whatever reason, you know, it clicked for me. I was like damn there it is run front of me I can obtain it now. I know what it looks like And I went home and I sat down and I just realized Damn I have no idea But what to do next like that cool that guy the really cool guy. I knew what he looked like I knew I wanted to be him But I just had no idea what to do And so, you know after a lot of trial and error obviously like anybody that's been through this I Found at least the like three most important areas for me And I'm gonna share this stuff with you and then hopefully you guys won't have to like rack your brains Really finding out about this stuff and a lot of this stuff I think you probably heard before But it's like the basic stuff that you really have to get done until you fix this like nothing else is gonna work so basically the first thing that I Feel it is really important to take care of and I don't want to call this inner game I Don't really think it's in a game. I think I was never a guy that like I didn't really have discipline or anything like that So if I can't take care of other stuff my life How can I ever like fix this area my life So I had to like get my shit straight with habits and stuff like that and the three things that you really like have to get down is Leverage Leverage on yourself and I'll explain that a little in a little bit the second one is goals Which I'm sure you guys are all excited to hear about right and then I just getting conscious of all this stuff So leverage what is that? You got to know exactly why you want to do this why are you here? Like why are you out in the field when you get blown out or when you see a really scary set Why are you gonna go into it? Like what's what do you want to like? Do you want to be alone for the rest of your life? Like do you want other people having control over your feelings like that? Like your emotions being a roller coaster you got to make it clear why you're in this game or You know this field of practice. Why do you want to get good with women until you have like a crystal clear? Image in your head what you're moving away from I think if you're just ambiguous about it like oh I just I don't like not having like a girl, you know, I don't know I don't know why I'm doing this until you have a crystal clear image in your head why you want to do this It's gonna be so much harder for you to you know Achieve your goals or whatever get the girl go out into the field do whatever you have to do to push yourself outside your comfort zone Because when push comes to pull Or whatever, you know Your brain is gonna be like why are you doing this? Just go home go home sit down taking that and if you don't have any like really good answer to come back with Then you just gonna go home. You're gonna give up right so get leverage This is something I found like the guys that really went from shit to like the best they all had leverage on themselves remember last year Dream told us about like one of his nights when he's like got blown out left to right And he just it was like like a mental wreck and he went to the gym and he pumped himself like really hard And he was just like Destroyed well, that's his leverage you remember that like he had those negative emotions and he knew like fuck that I don't want to feel this anymore. I got to get this handled So you really got it like have a clear picture of why you're doing it second one is goals which I'm you know Heart just took that up with you and you know, you can see it's a really important thing if you Ambiguity is your enemy if you don't know what you're moving towards then how can you ever achieve it? I remember when I was starting out like my goals would be Ask ask people, you know for the time obviously like really really simple stuff say hi to people and then I would move up to Do you like chicken or fish like randomly? I would approach people with that There's something like that, you know, and I remember this like one time in a subway The whole subway is like jam-packed and in Sweden. You don't talk to people on the subway It's taboo if you see somebody doing that they're either crazy drunk or you can bet your money They're in like the community because That's That's how it works out and it's like all quiet people are like in their own little world and I'm like oh fuck I got to do this like I got to do this except my goals. All right. All right I have my iPod on and like I slowly like really creepily like take my iPods out and I'm like And I start staring at this one. I'm like do you like chicken or fish? She's like excuse me and the people around me just like when I said like when I started talking to her Because it was so quiet everybody thought I was talking to them. Everybody looks to me Fuck and like these chicks were like laughing at me and like this woman's like Chicken I was like oh And I just like put my shit back in my ears. I was like and in my head. I was like go complete it. Yes, I Had to get off at the next check of that. I couldn't take that shit people were like the fuck is this douchebag Plus I went even in Sweden I'll speak English to people like on social settings because I just I prefer English It's a lot more fun than Swedish I think and I can hear people like in Swedish like what the fuck who is this guy like talking about me? Then later on like my goals would progressively advance, you know Like the heart like took up with you you got to have that long-term goal I knew exactly what I wanted to be but then like if I just like woke up one day and I was like All right, I'm gonna achieve this goal I would fail very quickly and then you know, oh, it's too hard. I don't want to do this anymore We got I'm no forget it You know you set the main long-term goal And then you have little goals in between that kind of gets you up to speed another one That was like really horrible at some point I got really tired of it just like asking people this stuff and like oh cool And then like walking away because I would get mad at myself like dude You got to push yourself you got to you got to stay in the set and I made up my mind like all right This one this one I'm gonna push it I'm gonna be in it for like at least five minutes no matter what happens And I walk up to these like two girls and I'm like hey chicken or fish and she's like fuck off Fuck off and I was like in my head I was like, you know, I was pre-pre-programmed that I was gonna stay in the set no matter what So I was like you must not like chicken then Some shit like that, you know And after a while they kind of warmed up. It is like what the fuck this dude's crazy Goals really important like that was me then now I'm working like I want to hook up with two new girls every week And like I think a couple of weeks ago. I hit that and You know, that's what I'm doing now. Those are the goals that I'm taking care of now At some point you got to you got to realize that like everybody says it's like the negative side of the community you got to really understand why you like achieving these goals and You know if you're like I just want to hook up with all these girls in like the long run Dude, man, you're gonna be losing a lot of like sleep a lot of time You got to meet up with these chicks like go approach new chicks You're gonna have like flu symptoms at all the time, you know, it's just You really got to evaluate if it's you know why you're doing these goals Third thing Third thing when I starting out, I didn't realize this at the time. I just kind of like looking back I figured out that this is a this is a really important step for me Getting conscious of like how you see women how you see yourself and how you see yourself together with women I didn't know at the time But I would see like a hot chick and I wouldn't think like damn hot chick cool Like it's gonna happen and she's like she'd probably be a cool person. No, I'd be like damn hot chick like I'm gonna get rejected. It's gonna be pain. It's gonna suck like I can't do that Man, I'm gonna go like talk to these girls because I know they like me or whatever, you know, that'll be cool and You know, obviously If you're aware of this, it's not gonna fix it for you But if you don't know that like this is how you're thinking then how can you ever like hope to like get rid of that kind of garbage? Because that's what it is. It's just garbage So you just got to get like clear on how do you see women like do you think they're like do you hate them for Rejecting you do put them on a pedestal, you know all the all the classic stuff that you know The community will teach you like don't put them on a pedestal They're just they're scurlls, right? They're other people. They're not gonna bite your head off sometimes So I kind of I set my goals and I got my leverage And I was like all right cool. That was the easy part. I did that at home, you know, I still wasn't talking to women. That's awesome So I looked around in my life I was like damn this is not the life of somebody that like meets women because You know, I was I was going to school college and it was like really hard work and I Really like boxing and I really got into that But at some point I realized that like the working out that I did it was just like a substitute because I knew I should be out There like taking care of this, but I was like no no I need to do boxing. I need to train This is this is what I got to do like at some point It was just I was distracting myself because I was I didn't want to deal with this area So the next thing I had to do was that to set my life up, you know Sort of create a habitat for myself where approaching women and like it just it was natural I didn't have to end up to think about it. It's just like oh Friday night time to you know, go out and The most important thing that I found here that you can like you can do a lot of things I guess you can take, you know yoga classes or aerobics where there are a lot of women That'll help you out and that's great. I mean you can probably figure it out yourself But for me like one of the tipping points was meeting people that were into this And I'm not saying You know, I would talk to my friends and be like hey Do you guys like girls you want to do want to go meet some girls? You know cuz like yeah, I love girls like yeah Yeah, we'll go to the bar you and me man We'll go pick up some chicks because you know what happens like when your friend Joe and you you go to the bar with Your regular friends. This what happens you go to the bar You get a beer and then you stand in the bar with your beer all night long talking to your friend Joe You know, this is I'm generalizing obviously you might have some really cool friends I'm like pimp ass dude that like owns the club and he's awesome, but for me I would start going out the bars and clubs and I would just end up Doing nothing and when I got a little better when I knew how to like have fun at a club I would it sounds I love my friends all right, but I would almost end up having to babysit them because they Don't know how to have fun in a bar. So they just be like Hey, hey, man. Yeah, cool. And then I'd be like come on guys like let's tear it up And then you know, you know, I would pump like their states and I feel like responsible like if somebody has a good time I'm like hey man. What's going on blah blah blah, and you know, that's that's not a really good frame You want to be in? Makes you start like kind of resenting your friends like what's dude like man up, right? You don't want to get into that And having fun at a bar or club is a learned skill You know TV Advertises and people like say all the time you like the close place to be right 50 cent the song in the club dude The first time I went to a club with my friends. So, you know in high school We walk in there like yeah, we arrived 18 finally and Then all of a sudden you can see like everybody's face kind of shifts when they just realize I have no idea What the hell I'm doing here Like there's lights there's people You know, we can't get drinks. We're 18 Well, you know get this huge X thing on your hands like the scarlet letter and I remember we were all like Clustering together like moving together and like a little blob, right? And I'm like damn. This is weird It's just fucked up. Let's let's split up guys We'll split up and we'll all like do a little tour and then we'll come back and hang out and everybody's like Yeah, yeah, cool. I turn around I start walking and I take a few steps And I'm like I look back and all of them are like little ducks following me like mother duck they just like Single-fine they lined up and they're like, you know trailing me and as soon as I turn around they like scatter like ninjas into the crowd It's funny because you can see them like standing there. They're just like, oh, yeah Oh It's a good song. Yeah, like try to dance Turn around all them like line up And there's a lot of people that you know they go to they go to these clubs because that's that's where the fun is but Knowing how to have a good time in a club. You that's something you learn at least that's how it was for me Like now if I don't go out on the weekend like at least three nights a week I can't I can't do my schoolwork because you know, I'm like, oh, I can't focus because I don't have like an outlet for this shit Yeah, go ahead So you're You're saying that your friends was like we're like lowering your value or something That's why you're trying to get away from them You know what I wouldn't I wouldn't say that they were lowering my value because I think I was lowering my own value at that point I wasn't trying to get away from them. It's just like let's let's see what's going on I wasn't like, all right, fuck you guys. I'm doing my own thing because I didn't know what the hell I was doing either so At this point if I'm going out with my friends that night then I'm gonna stick with my friends and we're gonna have a Good time. I'm not gonna give a shit about my value But if it's you know if I'm going out and this is what I'm doing then I might actually break off for my Wing for if he's having a bad night. I'd be like, hey, dude, you know, you're a little off I'll see you tomorrow. It depends. You know, I don't want to like fuck you. Fuck you, man so, yeah a Real quick, um, if you have a friend who's not really familiar with the community and isn't really naturally a Partygoing guy, but you want to bring him out because you know someone it's a good buddy of yours You love going out with them and talking with them Since you say it's a skill that's learned it How can you teach someone or inspire someone to go out and learn this? Yeah, awesome question First of all, I think if you have any friends like Like that you should never be ashamed to like tell them a man Let's go get good at picking up women. You don't have to be like, hey, man This is like this website and this forum and I have a name But I'm all just like nerd stuff that I'm really into like I love that but you don't have to like overwhelm them But I think the best way to do that Is actually to go out with them and then have a good time and show them how to have a good time at a club Because like I said, I had no idea right and so back to kind of sidetrack now back to the topic setting up the habitat Getting people that are good at this a little better than you Would be preferable because then you can quickly reach their level and you can kind of bounce off each other If you get somebody or like if you meet somebody that's as good as you hey That's cool. You guys can like work it out together lower than you. Hey, you can help them out That's awesome to like your friend, but preferably for your growth. The best thing you can do is go on a forum Meet somebody go out with them and then see what they're doing and then learn from them and then you know, you don't want to be Kind of the slug like dragging them down like try to you know, give some value back And if you have a friend do the same with them Just take him out and show him like show him how to have a good time that it's allowed to talk to other people You know, it's allowed to touch people dance with girls, but you don't have to like be scared. That's the best way if you ask me I've had a lot of luck With meeting people on forums, you know, like when you think about it I'm gonna meet some stranger off the internet. It's you know, it's kind of how's this gonna turn out might be some You know like that dateline shit. They did when they like try to catch a rape rapist or whatever but the first swing I met up with off the internet he turned out to be a really cool guy and We actually became friends and this guy he knew how to go out. He knew he wasn't like Ampua or something like that, but he knew how to go out and how to talk to chicks like how to make him hook And after watching him for a while all of a sudden I was doing it too Like I went from that guy that didn't even know what to do in a club just by watching him. I Learned how to do it. It wasn't like I didn't have to pay him, you know, like, oh, you know It's like my private boot camps whatever didn't have to pay him didn't have to do shit I just went out had a good time with him, you know, that was my value to him like You know, we make jokes whatever I would be cool. He'd be cool. And that's how I learned to actually start, you know Talking to women in clubs Then go very well at first and go very well at all actually if If you guys are familiar with at all with the forum for this convention You'll see like one of my first posts is How do I talk to people in the club? The music is so loud How does that work and stuff like that? Because obviously back then I was trying to run like Logical routines like hey, I have this girlfriend. She's jealous. And what do you think about it? Like shit like that, you know, and I had no idea what to do So this is what I was trying it wasn't working for me Plus that I was giving up drinking in clubs because I would try to like drown myself with alcohol when I like when I was going out like Without approaching and the first time I like walked into a club and I wasn't drunk I was like, what the hell is this? This is so weird like it's completely different from what I've like seen every time After I learned to like completely go out have a good time with that I'll call now I'll have like a beer or two whatever there'll be nights that I'll just go out with my friends And I'll just drink until like I have to like get rolled out of the ditch. Whatever. It's my choice You know, it's my choice. Whatever if I want to go out and meet girls. I won't do that That's you know, like set your priorities drink. I hate tonic water. It's disgusting I'll drink that shit because like I'll take a sip and it's like Then I found out about this convention, right and I went here and I met these guys here and again It was like I met my first wing my game is like I come here and like I was on a little plateau It was like I was going out and I'm doing so well and all of a sudden I come here I meet these guys my game again skyrockets. I met dream and slick and all these guys And they taught me like the greatest thing that I took away From meeting these dudes was having fun when I'm out Really important you hear a lot of these guys going it's a skill set, right? It's something you learn. It's a hobby You know what like tennis is a hobby when you go play tennis You don't feel like oh shit if I fuck up like this is my life. I'm such a loser if I like miss the serve When you go out with like meeting women if you feel like oh You know like you're sweating and you feel like you have to push yourself Guess what your learning is going to be kind of stifled Once you pass that threshold of like this is this is the shit like I want to do this this fun That's when you start seeing it as like this is a skill Hobby whatever I want to go out like It doesn't matter if the girl comes home with me tonight or not like as long as I'm out Getting The information that I need to grow that's what you want to do and that's really important Like until you get that you just keep pushing yourself Keep going out with new guys Until eventually like you hit that golden harmonious clang or whatever when it turns fun I think There was another guy on the forum here that wrote it's a beautiful thing when You finally start going out to enjoy yourself and not to serge Sumo one of the old students. He's not here today sucks, but it was a really cool post um I have one The guy i'm starting with now. He's like a really dedicated guy Awesome, um, he left and I realized that I I was completely dependent on going out with wings So now now i'm kind of waning myself off going out solo And it's like I feel like i'm back on stage one But uh, but you know what sometimes you got to take two steps back to take one step forward So you got to be willing to let go of like your pride and be like You know whatever I got to start over I got to start over So yeah, and um, that's the most important thing in like creating a habitat really if you ask me if you do nothing Else do that you'll like these people will motivate you when you don't motivate yourself make some new friends Reach out touch somebody in an appropriate way and it'll it'll solve itself if you're Like I said, I was boxing a lot if you're playing video games or you're playing golf or whatever And you know you're just doing it because like You don't want to like have to face the music stop it cut it down You like playing video games cool me too. I do it like for an hour a day maybe or when I have time, but I don't like Do world of warcraft marathons where I'm like I have to level up or whatever Anymore I'm european i'm allowed to you um okay, so at this point I've gotten I got in my shit straight. I got in my habits in I got You know, I got the goals whatever the first step I was talking about I got my little habitat where I was going out at least three nights a week That's what I didn't go out every night. I've never done that actually, but I've always been going for like the past year I've been out three nights a week So I got my friends that was cool So what was like what was the next? leap for me Now when you're in the club I think a really important thing is to know how to be social in a good way Bear with me. All right A lot of guys will start And they'll kind of have the frame of mind that You know, I know how to have a conversation. I have conversations all the time You know, I'll just take my model of conversations in regular life and I'll apply it to um The bar or the club or whatever meeting women so obviously a very logical thing to do is You know ask a question get a response And then answer that response and build off of that stuff and then move into a direction very logical, right? um Like the jealous girl from NOPA and you ask her something. She gives you a response and you you work off of that for me That's a fucking tightrope Like first of all delivering the question like all that body language stuff like getting a good whatever Making sure she hears you because you know when you say something and she's like what what and you're like Oh, I said blah blah blah. No, no, dude. You're out of there. Forget it. Just walk away I don't know that's not That's not appropriate. You can still like come back from that but that's not the way you want to start out And then like hearing what she said Like I guess women lie more and then you're like, oh Okay, what do I say next you're walking the tightrope. All right, that's that's what I want to get at You have to think like what do I say next to this response? uh My golden ticket for this is complete nonsense. That's That's how I do it. I speak complete nonsense and um Obviously within some range of context, but like if anybody that's seen me like rabbit. You've seen me Uh dream a little test of this like I'll come in. I remember one of the speakers last year was manhore And he said like he made a joke about how he's like when he wants to get sexual he like bring up mayonnaise You know like he'd want to smother her in mayonnaise and stuff like that He was joking. He wasn't like anything that he wanted people to do I took that shit out I was like man mayonnaise blah blah blah and I pulled the girl with this shit like She was like what he was like, yeah, yeah, what do you live? What do you live? Tell me where you live? I'll bring a jar Be awesome. She's like you know like Don't push it like if she's cool with it and she's like like what's your name? I'm like no no no not my name the mayonnaise like, you know cut it You don't want to be that dude that like has nothing else but complete nonsense in your repertoire. That's just like you're just being Needy and Gay stop it but yeah complete nonsense now I don't You know it seems kind of vague. Let me explain myself I like to I used to want to go in with questions Questions, hey, and I'll do it sometime now. Hey, how are you guys whatever? Hey, what do you guys think of the opinion openers, right? Everybody likes opinion openers because they're safe Now I actually prefer to go in with statements I'll state stuff right off the bat and like this worked out Really well one time like this girl was coming by me and she had a polka dot dress and I'm like, oh shit polka dots. I love polka dots And she she opened up and I was like damn that worked really well and at that point I was That's like when I was starting out and like if something worked for me I'm like I clinked to it for dear life And I was like damn polka dot dress it's a new routine I made up And I would walk up like chicks and like jeans and like sure they had nothing to do with polka dots And I'm like damn. I love girls and polka dots. I can't even talk to you anymore Because like I'd be so attracted to you and this shit would open up. They'd be like ha ha ha. I don't wear polka dots I'm like, yeah, you look like a polka dot girl And I I can't take that And that's where I kind of realized you know what? I think a lot of like people say this it It doesn't matter What you're saying because if you do get into that frame of mind where like oh I have to say something and like it has to make sense like I said the tightrope The gibberish compared to the logic is like a football field You can go left you can go right and you have a really wide margin when you can talk about if you come in talking about harry potter I don't think she'll be very upset if you just automatically switch the conversation to like I don't know Apple picking whatever you want See because it's not weird if you come in with like Weird shit off the bat that's that's like if you come in like hey, what's your name blah blah blah cool You guys having a good time by the way. I love apple picking strange Not not very cool to do So when you have this really wide margin you have this football field So to speak and you're moving around on and going backwards forwards You don't want to have a general direction where you're taking this, you know making it sexual obviously You know you don't want to be Plotonic fun high value social man Uh that's like talking to everybody in the club everybody loves you and you feel like the shit Let me tell you That man does not get laid I know For a fact you could be like the guy that everybody loves in the club But if if you're not capitalizing on it, you're going home alone That's and the story I had to it was like a long long sticking point that I had or I want sticking point on this problem Is I was working towards a goal of not not doing that um So you you've heard all this like a really kick-ass attraction material. This stuff is gold Cold reading. I love cold reading. It is the shit Uh cocky funny push pull You know anything off of form it's just like It's just magic and when you have this football field Where you're just talking nonsense you sprinkle that stuff in whenever you feel appropriate and You know you don't feel any pressure like Like I said she said something and you're like, oh, what's the cocky funny line of this? Like how do I Neg her but then not neg her enough So she'll like me but then you know like it's all this complicated junk If you're just like in nonsense land whatever then you can push pull her whenever Like oh, you don't like apple picking. We'll never get along whatever. I love you anyway get away from me you know See it doesn't even make sense, but they like the sub communication is there She can feel the awesome vibe coming off of you because Let me tell you when I started doing this This is when I started having fun Me and my wing will bounce stuff off each other and I like literally sometimes choke on my beer And like I'll like tears will come out of my eyes because something is said is so ridiculous and funny Like did he say that? Like well something I know I keep ripping on world of warcraft Everybody does it but in sweden like girls hate world of warcraft because all the guys like they lose boyfriends to it So we'll like sometimes we'll come in and be like my grand level master sword level 55 Like I finally leveled it up. I haven't talked to people like 10 days I need some human contact guys and like we'll just like grab these girls and you know, they'll like burst out laughing Or some shit like that, you know, we'll punt it off that And that's Yeah All right, so I'm really passionate about the gibberish I think you guys can tell like this is the really fun stuff that I love doing So to sum it up, I guess Don't put so much effort on what you're saying. It's it's fine She can feel the sub communications of you having fun and that's really all all you need That's how you get that out there like people say man, just be yourself. Have a good time. All right, but like You know sometimes you want to have a good time and you're like I'm having a good time I just don't want to smile like I don't want to open up my body language Like this is how I have a good time No, but when you're saying like all this like ridiculous nonsense It gets your brain into like happy funland and like squirrels and should are running around and it's really yeah squirrels and shit And it just brings up the mood for everyone including yourself. I got a question here somebody just wanted a little bit more examples on How to how to use this like gibberish stuff and I can understand that because you don't want to come in and like Sprout or spout like random words like candy wrapper Chairs hair and then like look at her like an idiot and like expect her to be like, yeah, awesome. Like take your pants off There's got to be some sort of context like at least A context inside your nonsense If that makes any sense one of the like real-life examples that I have um I got a number from some girl and me and my friends were like sitting and I'm like, all right I'm gonna call her up and I dialed the number and I'm like, hey, what's up? Yeah, blah blah blah and then and then we're gonna like start robbing banks. Can you drive a car? No, all right. Well, you can cook the food then we're gonna go to Mexico. You cook tacos for us. It's gonna be awesome All right, I tell her I said hi. I'll talk to you later and like my friends like, oh, was that the girl? I was like, no, that was her mom, but I told her like Call me back later because you know everybody enjoys everybody enjoys the fun stuff How do you how do you want to come about this? The main premise I think is Being your own world I don't want to put labels on it Think of something that's funny for you that you would find funny And this go with it if you see a bunch of girls And you know, they're in their little group or whatever Come up and think of something that you thought was really funny as a kid like Zorro for example And tell them like who you love Zorro and then like Honestly, you don't even have to wait for an answer because you can just be like you look like a girl that loves Zorro I can tell because you got this you got this look in your eye the way you're holding your drink Like like I guess they're gonna be a cold read but it's like it's nonsense She sometimes she's not even holding a drink I was like the way you're holding that thing like I can just tell you trouble your bad girl. It's like People will just be laughing, you know I was trying to teach my friend this This guy was a complete like novice awesome guy and I was like dude. All you got to do is have fun Watch this Hey, and I think this is a classic routine. I was like, I'm gonna put you in a box I'll put you inside a box. We're gonna go to disney world and it's gonna be awesome like Yeah, I'm gonna you know eat cotton can you yeah, whatever And I'm like and then I turn to him and this girl's right here in front of us and I'm like Tell her you're gonna put her in a box. Tell her that now and this This dude saw me he saw me do it and he did not want to believe me He saw with his own eyes the girl loving me But he was like no this makes no sense and then like I forcefully it was like tell her you're gonna put her in a box and he goes I'm gonna put you in a box and she like she flips out. She's loving this stuff. She's going crazy And this guy's like holy shit like you can see his brain melting or something like that, right? and um the thing is this guy Like I said awesome guy. I love the depth, but he just you know He has this like really firm set of like I mean he kind of gets into it He's like yeah, we're gonna go to disney world and like And then you're like you're gonna meet my stepmom like she's really mean you're not gonna like my stepmom And then all of a sudden His brain snaps and he's like holy shit. What am I talking about and he goes, you know what? I'm sorry. I'm sorry I'm not gonna put you in a box. I'm not gonna do that Am I cool? Am I cool? Am I cool? He he literally says am I cool? I'm not gonna put you in the box. You can I've never seen a woman walk so like away so fast as this chick And she was like, oh, yeah, so he goes like Sprouts off. Um, it's kind of funny because Um, she went back to her little group of friends or like her friends came in and they're like Susie, what's up? Yeah, and you know, they got into that little like hyper mode when they're all like talking to each other And then I turn to him. I'm like, all right, man Her friends are here. What do we do now? And he's like Wait until they're done talking. I was like, fuck no, we go in speak louder and I just like bust I was like, what's up guys? And they're like they really started like they were loving it And this guy's like the hell's going on. He just he didn't know how to have fun at a club Right? That's just that's what the problem was and um You know seeing this stuff again the best way to actually learn it this guy's getting better now Like I've seen talking to women and he's having a good time. So There's hope for everyone um How I learned this I went to kind of like a Pick up summit like this and they made an exercise for us Where they paired up three guys like in the room everybody would get up like into groups of three And then they they gave you a random topic and you had to talk about this topic for like five minutes and you had to Make it seem like the most interesting thing in the world And like a like a douchebag I like volunteered to do this on stage So I come up there and we have our little like group of three three people And they're like sailboats Talk about sailboats Yeah, if somebody pointed a gun to my head at that moment and said talk about sailboats I could not do it for the life of me. I was like Well, it's a boat It has sails and this dude like this is what blew me away. He comes in and he's like dude You're thinking way too much. You're applying logic to a problem that cannot be solved by logic. Give me something and uh Blew me away. I was like t-shirts and he goes t-shirts We're gonna sell t-shirts in japan and it's gonna be so awesome Let me see your palm and he does like a palm reading thing like see this line That's your selling t-shirts in japan line awesome We're gonna get married and we're gonna have kids. I'm gonna divorce you and I was like holy shit This guy could talk about anything for hours and um I wrote I actually had like the t-shirt routine after that because it was like It was like magic but very quickly I dropped that because I just realized I saw the style that he was using And that's really like the foundation them actually like the way I open And the way like I start the interaction out I think somebody had a question here like Why do you want to be positive? Why do you why don't you want to be negative? If you come in Like nobody wants to hang out with a negative dude if you're not if you're bringing a like a bad vibe like a serious vibe You're living the club and you're like remington steel with no, you know the look on your face you know You're gonna be bringing people down like I don't know some girls might be into that if you're really hot I have a friend like he gets opened by girls all the time. I fucking hate that dude it's good um That's the gym. That's that's like how I Converse with people in bars and clubs. I walk up and you'll never you'll never see me run out of things to say It'll get to a certain point where you'll have moved along into the interaction And if you start going back towards it, you'll seem kind of like All right, he obviously doesn't know like he You know lost it and now he's trying to like backpedal and try to do again He'll seem like your button pushing You don't want that Once you started like some sort of logical progression In like you come off like First for example, you tell her she loves rob banks and you're having a really cool time with that And then like you can do the little mini cold read like heart told you like oh You're blah blah blah You know when I came here to talk to you I realized this about you and that about you and then she's like yes No, and then you can start going into like regular conversation Where you find out about her she finds out about you Whatever you want to do For a long time I actually had a sticking point where like I would talk to chicks and as soon as the conversation got like Really like it started getting for real. I'd be like this is boring Like I don't want I don't want to do this like that I'd go for the makeout and if she wasn't down I'd be like bye So then screw it Go talk to some like other girl and like have fun. That's that's really bad. You don't want to do that You don't want to get hung up on it um so like I said Doing this can very quickly make you the really like social fun guy at the club You can walk around to everybody Like guys girls just have a good time Whatever and um you can get really high value really fast um It's not in my experience It didn't get me laid I wasn't pulling at the end of it sometimes. Yes, because the girl Will have like I guess pre-selected me or whatever She's like in her mind when I came up and I showed that I was like You know I didn't give a shit and confident and fun in her mind. That was enough for her And she was like, yeah, okay. I'm gonna go home with this guy. Cool. It's happened a few times Not very persistent though or consistent um You got as a as a guy you got a lead. I think we all and deep down inside. We all know this Uh, well, we got a man up to it and When I was looking at myself Again the magic number three. I found three things that really Were like stopping me And that I had to work on before You know, I don't want to say it before like I started getting like girls on like on a band but like Before I got this stuff handled I would have really good sets I would you know Doing awesome, but I wouldn't like there would be a window opportunity and I would not take it I just wouldn't I'd walk away I didn't know you know or the girl would get bored eventually. She does get bored. She'll walk away um So the first thing is you And you have a mental barrier like I don't know not all I I had a mental barrier I would walk into a set of girls Open them up have them laughing whatever. I'd be super valued girls would be coming up to me Everything would be peachy keen And then I'd be like This is it You know, I remember those times and I I would like wouldn't talk to anybody This is it. I've reached the top of the mountain and I would like have a little diagram myself Standing on top of a little mountain like going like that And you know when it came time, you know, I can tell the comment like the the interaction is going towards like either you go for it Or she walks away because you're getting bored. She's getting bored. It's time for something to happen I'd be like no no man. I don't you know like I don't want to lose this on top of the mountain Like if I go for it she might walk away. She might be like, oh, you're weird Like I don't I don't want to make out with you and like there would there would be this feeling of loss, right? I could lose something That's your mental barrier. You don't want to lose the girl so you're not you're not going for you're not manning up All right, like a reality check. Let me tell you something If you can get a stranger To talk to you and giggle and have fun with you. What the fucking do man It means nothing. All right, you've achieved nothing. You are not on top of the mountain You are on like the base of the slope and once you realize you like you have nothing to lose because You can walk up to 20 girls and like probably just be a cool guy and they're like, yeah, they'll talk to you be into you Whatever you have absolutely nothing to lose. You need to realize that there's a lot more Hilt the climb not only like I don't want to set it up. It was like, yeah, it's like a tough struggle to like get the girl no, but like You haven't reached it like if you think Chicks are gonna fall into your bed just because you can make them laugh and stuff like that because you're confident now You got to go for it. You got to you got to start escalating in You know, whatever start talking about make make a sexual frame whatever you want to like I know you guys know how to escalate you You there's so much stuff out there in the community like, you know Like I said framing the conversation like making her your girlfriend and telling her you would never get along because Your sex would be too rough and like it's an emotional roller coaster or Or you know, just go for the make out Anything like that let her know That you're into her You know just that you want it So you're not that platonic like really cool fun guy That she's like, yeah, I like talking to him, but like obviously He's you know, not into me for whatever reason you got to start going for it. I got to be more aggressive with it The next one is her She's also a barrier She's also a barrier to escalating because you try to go in for the make out, right and she pulls back Then you know, you're not getting anywhere. She's blocking you and I found that usually Any sort of like resistance she gives you let's just call it a shit test. You all know what a shit test I assume you all know what a shit test is when she like try to try to like affect you in some way and see see what how you react and um If you're getting if you're not getting shit tests that means you're platonic friend, man That means you're not moving in the right direction. You want the shit test like shit tests are good If you're getting shit tests, you know like all right this girl like wants it from me And uh, there are some guys that are like kung fu masters of this And you know, I try to like I want to be a kung fu master But I'd rather go for consistency than you know that one awesome time Right, like I nailed the shit test like she said something and then I said the perfect thing back and like I was like nailing her in the bathroom Like five seconds later and this happened two years ago Like I haven't gotten laid since then but like two years ago it happened And you'll get these guys sometimes You know that they'll keep talking about this one amazing lay that was like truly amazing But like all right, it's time to move on Time to move on to greater things the way uh The way that I like to or that I approach shit test is unreactiveness like Sometimes I won't even say anything as long as you're unreactive. I know it's like I'm just throwing out there Just be unreactive, right? It comes with practice. That's all I got to say but the way I handle it is she'll be One really rough one was um, I was talking to this girl. She was like we were loving it. We were like Having a great time and she she's like Trying to make out with her She goes no, you're ugly I don't I'm not into you. You're an ugly guy and I was like Damn what the fuck like on the outside. I was like, you know be unreactive And I was just standing there. I was like, okay, and I felt so weird Like, you know, you know when you trip and then you get up and you're just like standing normally and you feel really weird Like oh my arms are like You know you're self-conscious and you feel like weird just standing normally as opposed to like if you didn't trip And you should be standing the same way you wouldn't feel weird for me It was weird being unreactive because when somebody throws some shit like that at me My natural response is to react whatever way like get pissed Like throw some jab back at her whatever to react. That is my natural response You have to go through a lot of like crap Before you reach that like place Where you truly do not give a shit like I still like somebody throws a shit test Like that's really good like some girls throw shit tests out there for like the hell of it That are really bad And you know those whatever those don't phase you but someone someone's gonna take like a dagger and it's like twisted and um You learn that shit by going out and uh practicing Funny note that I've noticed is like When you're with A girl that isn't as high value socially her shit tests will be a lot harder than like the super like super model of girls with like um average girl She'd be like she'll say something like I don't really like that, but i'm sort of into this Like that can be her form of shit that she doesn't agree with you But like she'll say something else that she likes right and in your mind you'd be like wait What was this that she want me to like agree with her or not agree with her like you're like oh god What does she want? Yes, it's a bad headspace, but with the hot girls they'll be like do you want to fuck me? Is that what you want to do? That's that's easy Yes Yes, I do Shit this past Or like are you trying to pick me up? Yes Shit this past uh man I lost like Some hot ass girls Like they just be like are you trying to pick me up and I'll be like No, why would you think that I'm just trying to have a good time. I'm just Dude, I wouldn't even finish my sentence gone Just out of there You know usually when you do get in with the really really hotties You'll find that your margin of error if you fuck up like it's a lot smaller Just like they'll leave you hanging mid sentence, but on some level it's also like almost more textbook Because all the stuff you read about like girls like Looking into your eyes to see if you can grew like like who does that? But with the hotties you'll actually like see like oh shit. It's like the stuff I read about cool Like I'm actually seeing it in real life It's been my experience um The shit does with the girls unreactive You know sometimes if Sometimes I'll try to be reacted like I'll try to throw in the kung fu line and You know sometimes it'll just be like I'll just look like a douchebag like real try hard and sometimes I'll look like They'll be really impressed and it'll be cool. It'll be like The attraction or like the sexual chemistry the tension will be amplified like 100 million times as opposed to amplified just a little bit by being unreactive But yeah, just don't give a shit don't care go out there and do your thing um The third thing I want to talk about and like escalation or whatever is a kino Because a lot of guys have problems with this I this is like when I was making like my notes and stuff I was like talk about kino and then I realized I don't know what the hell to say about kino because I've never had like I've never had to learn anything about kino You go up when you talk to somebody touching them Dude, it's weird if you don't touch them That's how I so I've never had any problem with kino Like you're like when are you supposed to kino and then like oh as soon as you walk in you like give Tap on the behind the elbow. It's socially accepted and say like yeah, it's cool But if you like want to walk in if you have the right vibe you like grab them whatever That works out too if you want to come in and not touch them for a little while and then like It's appropriate later to like give them a little punch on the shoulder Just like I think the best way to learn It's like I said get conscious of the fact that you think like touching is weird And then in the beginning push yourself Just like do weird stuff like do the whole like haha. It's a funny joke Like hand on shoulder One second two second three second hand off shoulder and then like you know You know it'll start like You'll get like the really bad reactions And then you'll see like when you get the good reactions and you'll start getting intuitive feel for this If you want to have sex you're obviously going to have to start touching the girl so You know and there's a like I said there's also a lot of like really cool techniques on how to kino Which I like awesome stuff. I'm not going to tell you any of them because you guys can go out and find them yourselves But to escalate you've got to start touching the girl Really important And also sometimes when you run out of things to say and stuff starts getting boring just by like touching her and stuff like that It can really like make it on again and it can save the set for you The story actually that I have about the shit test passing Uh, I kind of forgot about it. I wanted to bring this one up is um When I came back from sweden one summer to my friends and like I'd been working on this stuff for a long time I was like damn it's time to it's time to show off all these skills to my friends. It's going to be awesome and you know My friend she had a girlfriend at the time and she had a friend I was like watch this man and like I started talking to her and she's like Give me the cold shoulder. She's not having it whatever We go back into my car, you know to have a little conference or whatever And he's like, yeah, dude, whatever forget it forget her. You don't need her. Let's just let's just go away I'm like, what are you talking about, dude? She's just like shit testing me It's all all good in the hood and like watch this and we went back out and You know, we started hooking up me and this girl We we went down to her basement and my friend and her his girlfriend came along and Things like started heating up and my friend and his girlfriend leave and you know clothes start coming off whatever and I pick her up and I take her to like Her oh She had a office She had an office in the room and like she's straddling me like in a thong and I like my shirt is off My shirt is off. I wasn't thinking and the lights are off and we're like, you know Getting it on and all of a sudden the lights come on and I like I I thought it was my friend I was like, dude, what are you doing? Like turn that shit off. We're about to hook and it's her mom It's her mom and I'm like we're about to And then in my mind I was like still in that like shit test mode Like I don't want to call them like something to switch off and on just like part of you But I was like still in shit test mode. So my brain was like this is just a shit test It's a shit test man. It's like Be unreactive say something Say something funny to diffuse the situation And like in my head I was like just like ask her if she wants to join. That's cool. Like everybody laughed at that I didn't do it. I didn't do it. I don't I don't get props on that. I didn't I didn't bust it out I think I like I was like, who are you and I was like, you're out of my girlfriend. Like, oh my god. What am I doing here? Like Where's my shirt? um She runs out, you know, her mom's screaming at her in some like other language and and I'm like Walking around right and I walk into my friend's Friends room when he's sitting with his girlfriend and my friend was literally going like this he's like And I like I walk in and I think I made some like I think I started like Stuck talking nonsense with his girlfriend. I was like, you're you're a bad girl Like with his girlfriend and my friend's like, dude, do you know what the fuck is going on? Like do you ever turn this shit off and like Apparently her dad was like in this midlife crisis where he was like buying a motorcycle and he had like rifles on the wall and shit and Uh, you know, we didn't stick to find we didn't stick around to find out Like what that was all about. We just like out the window literally out the window like Got out of there um So, yeah I mean, I guess that story was relevant because I did pass her shit test But I think the whole situation was just uh completely, you know Ridiculous and it was a lot of fun. I ultimately as um Doing this I'm not really in it for the girlfriend. I mean, I do love girls and like It's really important not to become one of those guys That enjoys chasing women You have to learn how to enjoy women like as a person because like Something that I realized when I when I didn't have the skills I couldn't stay with one girl because I would always feel like I can probably do better than her I could never be satisfied because I never chose my girlfriend and I would always be like Now I can do better and it would like ruin my relationships And then when I got a little better, I'd be like, no like I can get a better skill set Fuck it. Fuck it. Like I need to chase women. That's what I need to do I need to like get more women and I lose a lot of relationships that way too. You got to learn how to enjoy women And that's a learned skill set as well um and uh You know I'm like wrapping it up. I guess The friends that are really important something that I actually thought about today Braddock's speech when he was like in those frat guys that are like my brothers and you can just like smell or see the like Uh insecurity like in their in their eyes Sometimes you'll come across some dudes from the community and they're like the community, man That's what it's all about right And then like hardcore in the lingo and like they'll use all the like latest terms and they'll like they'll be so hardcore into this shit and you know You don't want to be one of those guys either Like I love all this stuff. I love the lingo. I love doing it. Like I said, I can't concentrate if I'm not going out but um Yeah, just It's the women man You're not doing it to Like learn lingo or you know learn techniques. You're doing it because you want you want the girl You want to be able to enjoy it and like human beings, right? And that's ultimately what you all should be strapped like that's what I strive for And I think that's a really healthy goal to strive for for you guys as well. I don't know, you know, it's up to you that's basically What I want to talk about all the things that I want to wrap up. How are we doing on time? 10 15 minutes no, no, I Had some more stuff that I wanted to cover. Um Yeah At this point you guys have any questions about anything Go ahead man Could you tell us about storytelling and uh enhancing stories Oh, oh, yeah Storytelling obviously an awesome an awesome way to you know, like Give a fun vibe you know give value to an interaction and um You can dhv. I don't know like I I can't make dhv stories because I feel like I'll always I'll be showing off I can't do it like when I try to make dhv stories I'll be like just to do my Rolex and then blah blah blah like in the french Riviera And like the best stories that I found are the stories that I just think are funny It's just like funny. Shit like I'll tell I'll tell this story like that I just told you to like girls and shit like that because it's just a funny story uh Something that I learned also when you're when you're like when you want to have a kick ass story Dude stretching the truth. It's not lying Like if you want to make it a little more interesting like oh and then like after we jumped out the window, man These cops like they were after us, but then like Yeah, we got away, you know It was okay. I was about to get deported back to europe, but but I didn't and you know like That's just funny and once in a while you'll get like this one person like in the group And they're like that's not true. That's not true. There were no cops like robocops Like you'll see something ridiculous that everybody knows it's a joke, right? Like it's so far out there that it couldn't possibly be true and you'll like try to call you out for it and you'd be like Because they want it they want to like get you in that position where like oh, yeah, you're lying You're lying about what happened like yeah, you're right You can like the way I do it. I was like you're right. There weren't any cops chasing us Like there weren't any robot robot cops coming after us. I'm sorry. I deceived you all I'm a horrible person, you know just um If the story is not all that great Dude, just sprinkle it up That's it's like cooking if it doesn't taste like if it's a little if the food's a little off just put a little salt on it It's cool. Like whatever. It's all good times um Anybody else saw another hand here. Yeah, go ahead man You said you're really into milfs and older women. Yeah How do you how do you go about that? Big question. Oh first of all, I think um Since I was a kid like I like the first girl I told you about she was 16. I was 14 Like uh, the girl I first slept with she was like 23. I was 17. So there's there's a trend definitely Uh, I gotta let you know though. I hit puberty like in third grade It's like just they put something in that water I like I've always been pretty tall. So everybody even when I was like 17 people thought I was 20 I don't know if that's ever like Help me out. But I think um You can either like go about it like two ways the two ways that I've done it Is you're either going to be that like from buff stallion guy the like, you know, she knows you're younger You know you're younger and You know what's up or This has worked for me a couple of times when you you're in a position when you'll be You'll be so much high value than her and I'm not talking about like in a club high value. I'm talking like, um One girl I was like her kickboxing instructor and I was just like I was I was like the shit of kickboxing and like I had Like all the guys were under me. I was training all these guys and like these girls and like She obviously respected me because I was good at what I did and um Like that's what really got her into me That's a little more like you're gonna have to Find that or like try to set that up become good at something become a yoga instructor Which you know, that takes a lot of time. I think what you really want to go for is that like Young playful guy just know that older women they'd like they want to fuck probably more like then younger girls do I don't know that's I've had that impression as of late, but you just go for it and um If she wants it, I'm pretty sure she'll let you know real quick if she doesn't then It's gonna be really awkward But I mean whatever you walk away breeze through it Talk to the older chicks. That's what I would have to recommend Rock on What was this randomness exercise that that you did before? Oh the the drill the regular drill. Yeah. Yeah, it's really awesome Yeah, do you guys you guys want to see the demonstration? All right, can I get three guys up here? Yeah, man, come on. Oh, wait. No, you've already been up for All right, that's true. That's true. That's a good point Oh, we only need three but let's do it four. Anyway I just do it Actually, I guess we only need one but we're gonna do it anyway. This is how we did the exercise in in the the last summit We split up the groups of three and it was supposed to like simulate the pressure of talking to other people So I guess you could have been talking to me, but you're gonna be talking to these two guys Um, I'm gonna give you a topic and you have to make it sound like the most incredible topic like in the world And you just love it and it's you have to make it fun like that That's the most important part and not give a shit Like He's talking to them and they're listening. They're the chicks and I could sense the vibe coming off They're gonna throw some curveballs your way Uh, all right, can we get it? Can we get a topic? Can we get a topic for somebody? We got a magical lubricant over here. That's gonna be hard to beat but let's can we get Foptire, let's get something more edgy brass Screwdrivers screwdrivers. I like that. It's edgy. I can I can feel it coming off. Just screwdrivers, man Talk about screwdrivers. Oh man screwdrivers. They are so edgy right here, dude Guys, let me tell you screwdrivers. Holy shit. They come in all sorts of you can fix all sorts of crazy What about hammers hammers not interesting the screwdriver. Why not phillips head or flat head hammer? All you do is you pound nails in only nails with screws. You can Look at all the different heads that you can handle with like a with a screwdriver You got the ones that go like that and like that and like that And then like, you know, they shaped all sorts of different ways and I think what color what color? Fuck, I don't know. I mean, uh, let's see usually silver aren't they like the metal You like green ones. I like blue ones. I think that's copper and that has cobalt I'm talking about the handle the handle. Yeah, the handle is made of plastic. Usually that doesn't matter What does it? What are you talking to what are you talking to these guys about screwdrivers? Oh my god, I can tell these chicks They're the kind of girls that like green screwdrivers. Oh my god. Are you do you like the screwdrivers? I like the blue ones. You're wrong. This girl's trouble. She likes them. So you too. How can how can we ever get along? I don't know. I don't even know at all. You probably would like to get into the back of a Let's go. Let's go That's like you handle like that see What he was doing like this is the exercise and he was just rambling on about screwdrivers This is really like dude. That was good. Like when I when I did it the first time I was like Like I gurgled. That's what I did. I started gurgling Like ultimately when they did throw like remarks your way like just Dude, tell them like I love saying you're a bad girl. She'll be like, are you talking about screwdrivers? You'd be like, yeah, yeah, you're a bad girl. You know what I'm talking about. Look, it's fine because of shit Um, let's get let's one of you guys you guys want to try it out? Let's get a topic Platypus Come on guys. You guys got the easy part just yell out words Wallpaper. Yeah. Hell yeah. I did that wallpaper I like paints Can you talk about paints? Let's say I'm thinking about what about this the top wallpapering? What do they call that? You know what I mean? What I just have to do is like Wood paneling that's kind of stylish. You know like the inside of a boat you just kind of do it up and it's like It gives a little that's a nice boat. Yeah, not the fake wood panels though. It's gotta be like a real wood panel I don't like that picture. I agree with that. Yeah, you're not gonna go with it. What about like suck a wood? You See when you guys when you guys come on with this sort of shit like Now we're doing it in a room, right? But when you go out in like the real world and you do this It's so absurd that like you'll be cracking like they'll be cracking up Like, you know, if you got a good vibe, they'll crack it up But then you'll be like laughing at your own shit because you'll be like You look like a mexican wallpaper repairman or something that you'd like But then I was like, I'm like, what the fuck did I just say? Oh my god like Oh, dude, you know and it's just for me. That's like the fun shit that I love to do This exercise you guys can like For me, it's a state pumper You know, I'll do this like before I go out If I'm feeling like shit or if I want to get into a talkative mood Like I'll just make up random shit about stuff Did a similar thing with some of my wings We did a any opener challenges where they'd give me any opener and they had me open two fat shakes with Do you like slim fast? I had to hook the set for I believe three minutes and I got it. I got I got a hook. It doesn't matter though. Sometimes like what you're opening with. Yeah Damn, that's edgy though No, they looked at me, but then I did a follow-up there like see I'm trying out for this commercial. I need to lose some weight It worked out I Really keep point here is being loud Like coming. Hey. Hey guys guys What's up? Like water. I love water. Oh, it tastes so good. You know, like because obviously they're gonna like they're gonna want to like Comment on that shit how weird it is. It's fucking like Like talk over them Until until like, you know, it gets into a good time calibrate Obviously, you don't want to be just like that dudes plowing nonsense and nobody's liking it, you know Give them a chance to respond But you want to have a really like powerful presence with this stuff you come in strong And you know, you throw it out there make it happen somehow I guess I like relating to the girl like um, like The wallpapers, right would be like I don't know you and me You know, we can get like wallpaper and then put the glue on it And then we'll roll around together in the wallpaper and like it'll stick to us. That'd be awesome Especially like that like some you guys are doing it together And that's like instead of doing the whole like you're my girlfriend We're gonna get married like that's that's a new mix on like we'll start a company that makes wallpapers And they're like, well, we'll never get along and we'll divorce and you know, you guys can take it from there Awesome exercise really helped me out with spontaneity creativity really important That's really like made me start being able to talk to women Yeah, give him a hand guys come on You guys can take a seat Thanks a lot for coming up. Um Do any questions of that? Yeah All right, this isn't as silly as you know the earlier antics were I like something you highlighted about you know saying that you are men and that when you see a window You got to take it. Yeah I'm sometimes having like an issue, you know now that I'm getting better at you know Just discussing and opening topics and I feel so comfortable there And I could relate what you were saying about, you know, you're on the top of the mountain Really when you go home and she's not with you you realize I was like I'm the bottom of a hill like Yeah, exactly What's the best way of analyzing the situation? Like and not Blinding yourself to it like with your own words like trying to like make sure the conversation is going the right way Like just shut up Look at her and you're like kids, you know Yeah, how do you like really pull yourself out of that thing sort of There's this thing that's been going around forums right now. It's called like Shock and all I guess you guys familiar with that shock and all right It's when you just like the way I interpreted it is like you start blaming the girl for she looks so good Like you can't you can't take it like your brain's about to explode. She's so hot or like you don't even like I don't know you just You can't control yourself because she's so beautiful If you feel like the conversation is kind of staling out and If you don't get that like chemistry going just You know, you can do that or just give her like A compliment. I don't know like don't don't like suck up to her But like give her a compliment. It's like kind of sexual in nature or like some sort of Yeah, something or like damn like just like um Step back and take a look at her and just be like Man when I like when I saw you at the club, I was dude. I'm I'm so scared right now You make me so scared like obviously in the play for like look at my hands Like that Oh, like the way you look right now Shit, but I could tell like I wasn't even like am I even allowed to talk to you? Like because you look at one of those girls. I'm like what kind of girls? I'm like, you know what kind of girl The mexican salesman. I don't like you know The sushi kind of girl. I don't know that's You know if you really feel it's stailing out and I've had girls like that have been really into me and like this one belgian girl Uh, it was all like awesome Like I met her we're really connecting and she told me like oh man conversations I had the bars with guys are so boring because like they talk about like logical shit and me and her We're talking about like midget porn or something like that And then um, you know, we're having this really fun time And like she kept coming back to me like night after night after night and I just couldn't get my like I escalated once I tried to go in for whatever she she was like no No, and I was like, okay, I'll just guess I'll come in under like I'll be so cool I'll overwhelm her with my value and coolness and then she'll come to me Um, you know, so I kind of I kind of like lean the way Which I I guess was appropriate at the time because my girlfriend was like right behind us in the bar So, you know, you're gonna have to count like she was cool with me like gaming other girls She knew what I was doing But um, but yeah going back to this I tried it She like like rejected me and then I try to come in like under the radar or whatever The second night like first night. Okay, cool. Second night like she came up to me again You know like yeah, we're having a conversation major porn or whatever third night like I came up with her I knew it. She knew it like there was no tension there She she wanted me to go for it like in retrospect. It's like if she put up a sign Like zebra take me now Like I want the zebra, you know, it couldn't have been more obvious But just because like she had that initial like, you know, no I completely gave up and I lost I lost like a really hot chick because of that Uh Push yourself just go for it. If you feel like you're stailing out. Remember you have nothing to lose Just do it. Let's go do it If the window is like, um When the window opens that's like the money time to do it and like your rates of success are highest But I like if the window passes and she's still dude as long as she's talking to you If you ask me the window's open As long as she's like staying there and not like excusing herself Obviously like to some point the like there'll be politeness But if she's talking to you dude, according to me, she's in here the window's there She'll uh, you know, she's a big girl if you're freaking her out or creeping her out Whatever with your like approaches she'll leave. Don't worry about it Like let her think about that. You just That's like somebody grabbing your nuts right and like squeezing because you hate that When a girl blows you off it's fine you can deal with that But when you when a girl wants you and you don't like it's your fault Something else that I want to bring up. I've been I've been going out for about a year now and There'll be times when like I'll be going out And nothing will happen like it'll seem like I'm not improving at all Like it's just I'll be going out doing the same cool funny little quirky things You know awesome, but for whatever reason nothing will be happening Dude, if you if you want to get good at this and like get money at this Those are the times you're gonna have to push it out I have a lot of guys that I know I call them fallen soldiers For whatever reason they're like, no man. No the community corrupts you you have to get out of it before for like destroys you Dude, if you come into something corrupted and like jaded then obviously, you know, you're gonna think that like Oh, this is gonna help me, but then it doesn't and then like oh, this this is the source of my corruption um And having fun with this this is what really helps you stick it out Like when you hit those like really long desolate periods when you're like, what the fuck am I doing like I don't Like am I just deceiving myself or What's what's what's the deal here? That's when you're really like You got to want it You got to have that leverage that I talked about and you just got to keep pushing going out Uh, really important How much time we got? All right, I'll just wrap it up with this done the way I Learned the game was in clubs in europe you have to be 18 16 to get into clubs 18 to drink 21 means nothing I think you can drive when you're 20, you know, it's like complete opposite I have like gone back to college and um With my friends visiting here And uh the way that I like do my club game and like all that like the way I approach women there and like I kept telling my friends Dude just man up like just talk about the fun like jibber stuff Whatever And they're like dude we're trying but it's not working. I was like shut up. Shut up. You're not trying like just being The wimp and then I went there and dude it's completely Like at least the college like town that I went to that stuff Braddock was talking about man That stuff is money for you guys that are going to college because uh The get in the club game and the college game. It's not super different like if you have tight game in a club You're going to have tight game wherever you go. That's that's just the fact but like It is different and um when I was talking about here today I want you guys to take away from it like the mentalities of like setting those goals Like going out and then um You know the fun conversation you can do that anywhere. I do that at bus stops now I do it in the subway station and I'll do that You like chicken or fish, you know, like I did the fun conversation that aren't weird Uh, you can do that in your can like while you're using the stuff that Braddock was talking about, you know, just adapt adopt these like Principles like upsetting the goals getting the leverage Having the fun comment like while you were massing your navy seal army Like he was saying, you know, I have a fun conversation about like the whatever thing you want to talk about You know when when you're all going for the girl when you have like your social proof or whatever You know when you want to escalate do it, you know, remember remember the barriers you have yourself like the little mountaintop and the kino whatever I um I think that's that's what I wanted to get out to you guys. Um I really hope that you know, you get what you want out of this convention and that it really helps you uh Reach what you want to reach Best of luck to all you guys. I'll see you out tonight and during the weekend